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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

Im thinking of making a private evening once a month in my cafe for ladies and men that feel uncomfortable on their first meets, there would be rules and boundries put into place, and no fucking untill you have agreed and left. I would like to here what people think of this and what they would like and dislike about the idea?

Its just i have fab cafe that would be perfect as its licensed as well.

Please tell me what you think peeps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you would be better doing it as a mini social as for first meets it wouldn't work as the 2 people would need to be available on the day you set the meet night. Your not far from me so I would be interested in a mini social event

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

Thank you this is very interesting and totaly why i put it on here. I will now call it a mini meet.

Have you been to anything like this before?

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

Mini social not meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im thinking of making a private evening once a month in my cafe for ladies and men that feel uncomfortable on their first meets, "

I don't think you can go far wrong with egg, chips and a blowjob.

It's got "winner" written all over it.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Im thinking of making a private evening once a month in my cafe for ladies and men that feel uncomfortable on their first meets,

I don't think you can go far wrong with egg, chips and a blowjob.

It's got "winner" written all over it."

Although that sounds like an amazing idea pmsl there would be no blowjobs given in the cafe but arrainged to be done where appropriate this is just a munch type meet but on a swingers level.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think it's a pretty good idea. People won't be worrying about others overhearing their convos and with it being in a public place it will be safe.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I think it's a pretty good idea. People won't be worrying about others overhearing their convos and with it being in a public place it will be safe.

"

Fab thank you we can all be as naughty as we want with our words and it wont matter because we are all like minded.

Tganks for your input x

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not far from you and would be interested in this...it's always nice to meet new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a cracking idea (bad egg joke I apologise)

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

Brilliant thank you so much for the input i just need to get more people interested, max 30ppl i think and on a saturday evening so that more people can make it.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

Shame I am not closer. Would like to join y I ur mini social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like your idea a lot but my only concern is that some of the people expressing an interest in attending are people who obviously don't have meeting "issues" themselves. So, will your proposal immediately become just another social get together meet for people who don't struggle thus putting off the people you're hoping to help?

I really hope not but in a smaller way that's what used to happen to the Weds 0 meet club thread, serial Forumites using it as just another chit-chat thread rather than leaving it for people struggling to get meets.

Not being negative, as I'm interested myself, but wouldn't be keen if it was populated by the "usual faces" instead of being for "newbies".

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

That is a shame maybe this will take off and you can make it some time?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You'd need to think of a way to stop those "vanilla"/"normal people" from thinking it's a cafe that's open late and popping in for a bacon buttie then overhearing about how Marjorie is hoping to meet twin brothers for DP anal with her cuckold husband watching through the peephole in the bedroom wardrobe.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Like your idea a lot but my only concern is that some of the people expressing an interest in attending are people who obviously don't have meeting "issues" themselves. So, will your proposal immediately become just another social get together meet for people who don't struggle thus putting off the people you're hoping to help?

I really hope not but in a smaller way that's what used to happen to the Weds 0 meet club thread, serial Forumites using it as just another chit-chat thread rather than leaving it for people struggling to get meets.

Not being negative, as I'm interested myself, but wouldn't be keen if it was populated by the "usual faces" instead of being for "newbies". "

I really like what you have put here as this is what i wanted to cover, there is a difference between people strugeling to meet and people that are just playing games and i dont want people to say they are turning up and dont bother! But on a different note i dont want it to be for people tgat have had loads of meets as i really woukd like to help those that find it hard excuse the pun it would be nice to have a mix and for people to talk about their experiances to as i know it can be a little frustraiting on both sides for different reasons.

Im in two minds here munch/social

Or new meets/safe first meets?

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"You'd need to think of a way to stop those "vanilla"/"normal people" from thinking it's a cafe that's open late and popping in for a bacon buttie then overhearing about how Marjorie is hoping to meet twin brothers for DP anal with her cuckold husband watching through the peephole in the bedroom wardrobe."

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"You'd need to think of a way to stop those "vanilla"/"normal people" from thinking it's a cafe that's open late and popping in for a bacon buttie then overhearing about how Marjorie is hoping to meet twin brothers for DP anal with her cuckold husband watching through the peephole in the bedroom wardrobe."

You do have a vivid imagination and I love it.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"You'd need to think of a way to stop those "vanilla"/"normal people" from thinking it's a cafe that's open late and popping in for a bacon buttie then overhearing about how Marjorie is hoping to meet twin brothers for DP anal with her cuckold husband watching through the peephole in the bedroom wardrobe."

I would have it as a private function as i always have bookings for them. I coukd have a list of names user names and you have to givve yoyr name as you come in? Just a sugestion but i can make it totaly private as it would be at night. X

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

All day breakfast, a pint and a social. Winner winner chicken dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus it be a good why of making money x

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I seem to recall someone else saying they wanted to do the same, some time ago. I wonder how that went.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like your idea a lot but my only concern is that some of the people expressing an interest in attending are people who obviously don't have meeting "issues" themselves. So, will your proposal immediately become just another social get together meet for people who don't struggle thus putting off the people you're hoping to help?

I really hope not but in a smaller way that's what used to happen to the Weds 0 meet club thread, serial Forumites using it as just another chit-chat thread rather than leaving it for people struggling to get meets.

Not being negative, as I'm interested myself, but wouldn't be keen if it was populated by the "usual faces" instead of being for "newbies".

I really like what you have put here as this is what i wanted to cover, there is a difference between people strugeling to meet and people that are just playing games and i dont want people to say they are turning up and dont bother! But on a different note i dont want it to be for people tgat have had loads of meets as i really woukd like to help those that find it hard excuse the pun it would be nice to have a mix and for people to talk about their experiances to as i know it can be a little frustraiting on both sides for different reasons.

Im in two minds here munch/social

Or new meets/safe first meets?

"

I'm really interested and I think it's a great idea you've got but I'd be more comfortable among people such as myself because then you don't feel "alone" like the new kid at school.

Good luck, wouldn't know what to do but I'd help as best as I can.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

Well i would like to host this for new people first and see how it goes, but i think the newbies would benifit from others that have had experiance on here. Its good to talk to like minded people and explore your likes and dislikes before trying it out, i think its the best way to get what you want. X

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I seem to recall someone else saying they wanted to do the same, some time ago. I wonder how that went.

"

It would be interesting to see how they got on hope someone gets intouch who has done this before. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds perfect, a lot of people are too nervous to attend big socials and smaller ones tend to be in pubs etc where you can't really talk freely.

Hope it goes well for you, I'm a bit disappointed I'm so far away!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I like hosting small socials where newbies get the chance to swap ideas with regular Fabbers and see what develops.

Your idea of using your cafe OP is a brilliant one

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Sounds perfect, a lot of people are too nervous to attend big socials and smaller ones tend to be in pubs etc where you can't really talk freely.

Hope it goes well for you, I'm a bit disappointed I'm so far away! "

Wow thank you and i think a lot of men would be very dissapointed you couldnt make it but thank you for your input xxx

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I like hosting small socials where newbies get the chance to swap ideas with regular Fabbers and see what develops.

Your idea of using your cafe OP is a brilliant one"

Wow you do this kind of thing already?

Im thinking named people only so a list of the people that are coming and the partner or partners they have chosen?

My place is very intimate and everyone can mingle and chat tgen if tgey dont want to leave with the person they came with they could message them while there and it not be so awkward as someone sugested. Are there any flaws in that or do you have any sugestions? Please x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's got great potential, for many reasons and for several needs too.

If it's just for a first meet, the social meet that many have, it could be a bit limited and pressured for some. People often have them in costa etc now, where they merge in amongst others.

An alternative is something like small groups assembled for a snack and coffee etc, to see if some of them would like to progress further.

I'd throw in some board games, to give some a focus.

A lot of us take security and safety as a priority - meeting in your place helps that - it may also discourage some undesirables who wouldn't want to be viewed by groups of us.

As others point out there's a general need for social meets too, where it's only about social action, not about checking people out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im thinking of making a private evening once a month in my cafe for ladies and men that feel uncomfortable on their first meets, there would be rules and boundries put into place, and no fucking untill you have agreed and left. I would like to here what people think of this and what they would like and dislike about the idea?

Its just i have fab cafe that would be perfect as its licensed as well.

Please tell me what you think peeps?"

That is a great idea. They do a similar thing local to me for sunday lunch. It's where people can meet in a social setting and no veris are required to attend. It's a good way to get likeminded people meeting in a social setting and can help a lot with first timers. I don't think it's just for newbies though. It would be great if you could help some with their social anxiety, in regards to their first time meeting

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I think it's got great potential, for many reasons and for several needs too.

If it's just for a first meet, the social meet that many have, it could be a bit limited and pressured for some. People often have them in costa etc now, where they merge in amongst others.

An alternative is something like small groups assembled for a snack and coffee etc, to see if some of them would like to progress further.

I'd throw in some board games, to give some a focus.

A lot of us take security and safety as a priority - meeting in your place helps that - it may also discourage some undesirables who wouldn't want to be viewed by groups of us.

As others point out there's a general need for social meets too, where it's only about social action, not about checking people out.

"

Love this thank you that is a great input and just what i think will work. Only way i will find out is if i try it.

What games shoukd we play any sugesdtions? X

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Im thinking of making a private evening once a month in my cafe for ladies and men that feel uncomfortable on their first meets, there would be rules and boundries put into place, and no fucking untill you have agreed and left. I would like to here what people think of this and what they would like and dislike about the idea?

Its just i have fab cafe that would be perfect as its licensed as well.

Please tell me what you think peeps?

That is a great idea. They do a similar thing local to me for sunday lunch. It's where people can meet in a social setting and no veris are required to attend. It's a good way to get likeminded people meeting in a social setting and can help a lot with first timers. I don't think it's just for newbies though. It would be great if you could help some with their social anxiety, in regards to their first time meeting "

I know so many with social anxiety so i would definantly be able to make tgem feel safe and comfortable. Im a great host and people always feel welcome when they are in my place. I want it to feel safe because thats how it should be. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a great idea if you can avoid it becoming cliquey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social munch for newbies with like minded fabbers.

Great idea! Whoop whoop

If you need any volunteers to assist with the munchies please let me know. I will make sure everyone gets there fair share.

You can count on me.

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I went to a social many years ago and it was set in a pub as a closed private function. Run by singers.

But we all had to stick to the rules. it went down well, which is very tricky to get a function room best of times .

As yourself said it would be no sexual contact.

But I would advise you to blackout windows one due to it being a actual bissnuess and your imcome and for the discretion of those attending.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tips.. Don't post details of the location in the forum. The papers read the forums and often do stories. They might even print pics as it's a public place.

If you have mail filters take them off so newbies can mail you. If they have no veris they can't post in the forum. I found this really difficult when I came back with a new profile. I couldn't mail the organiser due to her filters, or post on her social thread.

Hope it goes well, sounds like a great idea OP.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield


"My tips.. Don't post details of the location in the forum. The papers read the forums and often do stories. They might even print pics as it's a public place.

If you have mail filters take them off so newbies can mail you. If they have no veris they can't post in the forum. I found this really difficult when I came back with a new profile. I couldn't mail the organiser due to her filters, or post on her social thread.

Hope it goes well, sounds like a great idea OP. "

So how does tgat work if someone is working for a paper how can they get a verification in order to get on to the forum for information.

These are the things i do not want to happen and are a risk to my business. I will figure out a way to do it but i dont know how to contact femails that coukd potetialy be unterested?

Shoukd i get the men to invite some one each?

Lots to think about

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My tips.. Don't post details of the location in the forum. The papers read the forums and often do stories. They might even print pics as it's a public place.

If you have mail filters take them off so newbies can mail you. If they have no veris they can't post in the forum. I found this really difficult when I came back with a new profile. I couldn't mail the organiser due to her filters, or post on her social thread.

Hope it goes well, sounds like a great idea OP.

So how does tgat work if someone is working for a paper how can they get a verification in order to get on to the forum for information.

These are the things i do not want to happen and are a risk to my business. I will figure out a way to do it but i dont know how to contact femails that coukd potetialy be unterested?

Shoukd i get the men to invite some one each?

Lots to think about "

Anyone can read the forum, you don't need to be a member or even sign in. Thats why one of the forum rules is to not name specific locations for dogging etc.

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By *ovetolook234 OP   Woman
over a year ago

chesterfield

Thank you for clearing that up x its goid to know so no posting on forum will have to be done all in private. Tgats where i shall start.. x

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

You can remove your profile from coming up in the search engine so you have to be logged on here it's in the filter settings. If you plan on doing it others have social meet profiles and all filters off plus I would think easier to have it separate from your own personal one.

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