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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "

Spending it on my own this year. Not doing anything. By choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "

There's a really fantastic thing to do. Well done you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen posts in the meet section on here on Xmas day and a part of me feels really sorry them

Must be hard for them

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife

Out working all over Christmas but in return I get the new years eve and day of which is going to be fun

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "

Fair play to you for doing that.

A mate of mine has done voluntary work with the homeless on Christmas Day morning in the past, I’m considering similar.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them. "

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. "

Oi. Whitey. Where my £100 worth of lottery tickets?

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

Oi. Whitey. Where my £100 worth of lottery tickets? "

Check under your pillow. I’m like a beardy tooth fairy.

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

To me it's just like any other time of year.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. "

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I had a painful break up one Christmas and did not want to see anyone I booked myself into a Hotel in Liverpool and spent Xmas day on my own. Not a situation I would repeat in hindsight. I was miserable as fuck.

This year I have a friend who will be on his own coming to my Step Families dinner. I kind of wish I had take taken some advice at the time and not gone away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've volunteered on Christmas day before and found it moving but also uplifting. I don't anymore simply because I tend to work on boxing day so I enjoy the peace and sanctuary of a day on my own

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

We've had friends to ours before who would otherwise have been on their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xmas 85 was the worst I’d ever experienced and the first one I spent away from home. I spent the entire evening on my own watching tv. Hated it...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I've done Christmas on my own and really enjoyed it!! In fact the who's going where arguments among my extended family in the run up to Christmas is pretty much the only thing I don't like about Christmas. This year they're all coming to mine... God help me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last few years we have invited an elderly person into our home from the village nursing home for xmas lunch , games and then tea before taking them back in the evening. We got the idea from Bisto spare chair Sundays, We have met some lovely people and they really enjoy being part of a family for at least a few hours

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities? "

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "

Well spend some time over xmas doing voluntary work - a lot of people really need help at Christmas

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've got my mum and sisters and a lot of friends to see, bit it's the people that aren't here I miss and it still makes it feel lonely. It's my third one since my dad died and the last two have been crap without him, and I've got an ex from 10 years ago that I always miss a bit at Christmas. I don't still pine over being with her, that ship sailed long ago, but we had an amazing Christmas together back then and I've missed her on that day ever since.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though "

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion. "

Shouldn't have expected anything different really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do Christmas so no different to being on my own on any other day, except the tv is shittier, usually ... Have a feeling some git might want me to leave the house at some point tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be on my own this Christmas, kids are at their dads this year, usually I would go to my mum and dads but this year for the first time ever, they’re going to my sisters and we don’t get on. I’m hoping someone will swap a shift with me and I’ll get to work Christmas Day instead, of not..it’ll be me and the dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be working all of Christmas and New year making sure people without family see a friendly face even if only for an hour

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion. "

This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.

This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is? "

Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.

This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?

Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves. "

I don’t get why helping someone is massaging their own ego? And why is it a saviour complex? You don’t base doing good deeds on whether or not a person is going to improve themselves. That’s not really what it is about. I think you miss the point of helping a lonely person.

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them. "

This is my problem, out of a sense of duty I've invited my awful father, no one wants him here, I cannot explain how obnoxious he is to be around (personal hygiene issues aside) but I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. We're all dreading it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I do community outreach work with the elderly. The vast majority of them are amazing people (kind, generous, empathetic, talented, I could go on), but, their children and sometimes grandchildren are responsible adults with lives, and they suffer social isolation given their decreasing mobility and independence. Although we don't do work on bank holidays, we can be their major or even only social outlet during the week (it's not all we do, of course). Some are childless, some have children who have moved far away, some had children who predeceased them.

To suggest that loneliness is a personal fault is ridiculous on its face and something I find personally affronting. For most of these things, it's very much "there, but for the grace of God, go I."

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.

This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?

Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves.

I don’t get why helping someone is massaging their own ego? And why is it a saviour complex? You don’t base doing good deeds on whether or not a person is going to improve themselves. That’s not really what it is about. I think you miss the point of helping a lonely person. "

As i say, I reject the premise that you are helping them.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I tend to spend Christmas day alone.

There are a few dates around December that bring back too many memories. A day that should be full of joy and giving simply tears me apart.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.

In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.

Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.

91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?

There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.

And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though

The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.

This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?

Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves.

I don’t get why helping someone is massaging their own ego? And why is it a saviour complex? You don’t base doing good deeds on whether or not a person is going to improve themselves. That’s not really what it is about. I think you miss the point of helping a lonely person.

As i say, I reject the premise that you are helping them. "

Which once again tells us all we need to know

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By *onny69sMan
over a year ago

Donny

I've got my daughter Xmas eve night but then she's going to her mum's for the day in the morning so I'll be on my own then.

I've provisionally booked a hotel for the night but I can cancel up to the 24th without penalty if something comes up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tend to spend Christmas day alone.

There are a few dates around December that bring back too many memories. A day that should be full of joy and giving simply tears me apart. "

Then come to Lynton! Your more than welcome xx

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... "

I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea though.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... "

That sounds lovely. Christmas spirit indeed!

I'm sometimes on my own on the day for a variety of reasons. But I celebrate on a different day and am not faced with chronic loneliness, which is an entirely different thing.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...

I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea though. "

It really is a genuine offer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...

I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea though.

It really is a genuine offer"

I think it’s s lovely offer xxx

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...

I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea

It really is a genuine offer

I think it’s s lovely offer xxx"

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Well will wait and see ...if only a couple of people takes me up on it it will be a result really though. (I am a lot of fun)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see.

Spending it on my own this year. Not doing anything. By choice "

You're in prison, aren't you?

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

lol @ Prison ^^^

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'll be alone again and will quietly enjoy.

Close the door to the world, eat, drink and watch lots of TV and movies.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Just Bumping this up ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be alone again and will quietly enjoy.

Close the door to the world, eat, drink and watch lots of TV and movies. "

This is exactly what I’ll be doing although I will speak to family on the phone.

I really enjoy spending the day alone

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By *im2006Man
over a year ago

London

Xmas is lonely another one on my own but you just remember goid oned you had previously although think everyone wants bit of company to break up day but still enjoy seeing other people and kid's enjoying there day

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I'm usually on my own at Christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a Christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... "

..I've posted this as a meet on my profile to save me bumping this up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last few years we have invited an elderly person into our home from the village nursing home for xmas lunch , games and then tea before taking them back in the evening. We got the idea from Bisto spare chair Sundays, We have met some lovely people and they really enjoy being part of a family for at least a few hours "

Love this idea

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I'm usually on my own at Christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a Christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...

..I've posted this as a meet on my profile to save me bumping this up "

Aw that's lovely

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "

Im spending Xmas on my own this year. I planned to spend it with my ex-gf but she cant keep her temper. So Im better off... if I allow myself to put up with her crap it will affect my self esteem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "

My only concern with this is why is it suggested that just widows are lonely? Anyone alive can, and are, lonely at one time or another ... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see.

My only concern with this is why is it suggested that just widows are lonely? Anyone alive can, and are, lonely at one time or another ... X"

Too true, the was a good article on it on the BBC news site a few days ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a partner or children so Christmas is a bit of a non event for me.

I'll work for a few hours in the morning for double pay, have Chrismas dinner with my sister and her family ( who I see a handful of times a year ) then come home in the evening on my own.

Which suits me just fine.

I'm happy in my own company and luckily don't suffer from acute loneliness like some.

I make myself busy and appreciate the time I have to relax.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I don't have a partner or children so Christmas is a bit of a non event for me.

I'll work for a few hours in the morning for double pay, have Chrismas dinner with my sister and her family ( who I see a handful of times a year ) then come home in the evening on my own.

Which suits me just fine.

I'm happy in my own company and luckily don't suffer from acute loneliness like some.

I make myself busy and appreciate the time I have to relax.

"

Very similar to mine, except I do the family thing before so the day and the week is mine.

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