FabSwingers.com forum: A social for the sake of being social

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not a group thing, a 1 on 1

Without sexual intent, purely for the cake, the coffee and a potential new friend

Just to say 'Hi' and share some time with another person with a common link, Fab

Would you ?

Have you ?

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol."

I mean just as friends i.e. without the chance that the meeting would ever turn sexual, either that day or at any point in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup lots of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a group thing, a 1 on 1

Without sexual intent, purely for the cake, the coffee and a potential new friend

Just to say 'Hi' and share some time with another person with a common link, Fab

Would you ?

Have you ? "

Yes but without cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol."

But that wasn't a social just to be social. That was a social 'to see how we got on', with a view to future sexual contact.

I don't do friend socials with men, as I cannot believe there is no sexual intent, and I have enough vanilla friends. Vanilla friendship is not why I am here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I haven't and I would only do that with people I've met at the STP or interacted with a lot on the forums.

I'm not the most sociable of people.

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By *7345Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Yeah- I would & I have. Always nice to meet likeminded people. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol.

But that wasn't a social just to be social. That was a social 'to see how we got on', with a view to future sexual contact.

I don't do friend socials with men, as I cannot believe there is no sexual intent, and I have enough vanilla friends. Vanilla friendship is not why I am here."

Are people on here really 'vanilla' though ?

Or is it that you are classing all non-fucks as vanilla ?

I do get your point either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have done, I’ve met a few friends for coffee and a natter. X

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol.

I mean just as friends i.e. without the chance that the meeting would ever turn sexual, either that day or at any point in the future"

Sorry my bad. But yes I would meet for a coffee and a chat just as friends.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol.

But that wasn't a social just to be social. That was a social 'to see how we got on', with a view to future sexual contact.

I don't do friend socials with men, as I cannot believe there is no sexual intent, and I have enough vanilla friends. Vanilla friendship is not why I am here.

Are people on here really 'vanilla' though ?

Or is it that you are classing all non-fucks as vanilla ?

I do get your point either way "

I go to every meet with a 'its a social' attitude. I never expect anything as that can and will inevitably lead to disappointment. You both figure the vibe when you are there and if it happens, great, if not, you have a new friend.

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

Its a great way to meet new people in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah several times. Met a lady last week for a coffee and a natter to see how we got on.

It was very enjoyable and may lead to further meets that involve more than coffee lol.

But that wasn't a social just to be social. That was a social 'to see how we got on', with a view to future sexual contact.

I don't do friend socials with men, as I cannot believe there is no sexual intent, and I have enough vanilla friends. Vanilla friendship is not why I am here.

Are people on here really 'vanilla' though ?

Or is it that you are classing all non-fucks as vanilla ?

This is a sex site, that is what I use this site for. I don't need any more friends in my life, if I did, I wouldn't use a sex site, I would meet people in the vanilla world, clubs, hobbies etc.

I don't believe any man on here is looking for anything other than sex, so I would not meet for the pretence of a coffee and cake only meet

I do get your point either way "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea how the last sentence of your post got on mine

Technology defeats me sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes have and will again

lovely to put a face to a name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done yes was good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a social first, to see if there’s a mutual attraction. It’s easier for one to let the other down down gently if you’re on neutral territory.

Some have turned into filth meets and a couple have turned into firm friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm not here to eat cake and drink coffee.

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

Ok I agree that this is a sex site but most of the profiles say friends with benefits so there has to be some kind of meet first to test to waters and if the sex is good on the next meet then you now have a friend with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have done yes was good

With no hope of future sexual meets ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I agree that this is a sex site but most of the profiles say friends with benefits so there has to be some kind of meet first to test to waters and if the sex is good on the next meet then you now have a friend with benefits

That wasn't the question. Would you, or have you met, purely for social, not as a sexual prelude meet.

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

Ok mind blowing then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always insist on a coffee and a chat socially to make sure there's a mutual attraction.

Last coffee meet I agreed to he walked into coffee shop looked me up and down, says "no thanks your not for me" turned on his heel and left me standing in middle of coffee shop.

So at moment taking a break from even a coffee meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have done yes was good

With no hope of future sexual meets ?"
yes just a coffee and a laugh

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

"I always insist on a coffee and a chat socially to make sure there's a mutual attraction.

Last coffee meet I agreed to he walked into coffee shop looked me up and down, says "no thanks your not for me" turned on his heel and left me standing in middle of coffee shop.

Don't that put you off love there is some knobs on here.

So at moment taking a break from even a coffee meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have done yes was good

With no hope of future sexual meets ?yes just a coffee and a laugh"

And you didn't fancy her just a little bit ?

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I always insist on a coffee and a chat socially to make sure there's a mutual attraction.

Last coffee meet I agreed to he walked into coffee shop looked me up and down, says "no thanks your not for me" turned on his heel and left me standing in middle of coffee shop.

So at moment taking a break from even a coffee meet

There are some horrifically rude men on here. FFS!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

That wasn't the question. Would you, or have you met, purely for social, not as a sexual prelude meet."

I have actually done this and we are still VERY good friends and still meet often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I meet someone occasionally who helps me organise my Uni work.

Nothing is ever going to happen between us but he's a nice guy

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

That's what give us good guys a bad reputation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would

Yes I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always insist on a coffee and a chat socially to make sure there's a mutual attraction.

Last coffee meet I agreed to he walked into coffee shop looked me up and down, says "no thanks your not for me" turned on his heel and left me standing in middle of coffee shop.

So at moment taking a break from even a coffee meet

That says more about him than you. If he behaved like in public, I would consider it a lucky escape. Don't let rudeness damage your confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have, but not met anyone for 4 1/2 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always insist on a coffee and a chat socially to make sure there's a mutual attraction.

Last coffee meet I agreed to he walked into coffee shop looked me up and down, says "no thanks your not for me" turned on his heel and left me standing in middle of coffee shop.

So at moment taking a break from even a coffee meet

That says more about him than you. If he behaved like in public, I would consider it a lucky escape. Don't let rudeness damage your confidence."

Yep I know, will just take a while to give someone a chance again. It was a coffee and chat, have had a few where there wasn't an attraction and that was fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always insist on a coffee and a chat socially to make sure there's a mutual attraction.

Last coffee meet I agreed to he walked into coffee shop looked me up and down, says "no thanks your not for me" turned on his heel and left me standing in middle of coffee shop.

So at moment taking a break from even a coffee meet

That says more about him than you. If he behaved like in public, I would consider it a lucky escape. Don't let rudeness damage your confidence.

Yep I know, will just take a while to give someone a chance again. It was a coffee and chat, have had a few where there wasn't an attraction and that was fine. "

He was rude and arrogant, most men on here are not like that. Get back out them and shine

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I had one the other day that was very much like that. Someone nearby had just been on an overnight night meet and I was just at a loose end in a hotel. Messaged her to see if she fancied a spontaneous ‘how mad is Fab anyway?’ coffee. Didn’t really expect anything to come if it but she said she was too hungover to come out but invited me over for the coffee.

Was very obviously purely social but we were both at loose ends and had a few hours gassing about Fab, music and our wildly different jobs.

It was very much a social for the sake of social, rather than a first meet social that might lead to more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have done yes was good

With no hope of future sexual meets ?yes just a coffee and a laugh

And you didn't fancy her just a little bit ?"

There are quite a few people on here who I'd like to meet, singles and couples alike

Very few of them I'd like to get sexual with

I don't need to fancy someone to spend time with them or enjoy their company

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes, I always do them first. Unfortunately a lot of the time it's also misconstrued. Social means social. Nothing else.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"Not a group thing, a 1 on 1

Without sexual intent, purely for the cake, the coffee and a potential new friend

Just to say 'Hi' and share some time with another person with a common link, Fab

Would you ?

Have you ? "

Yes, I've met a lady from here for a pure social.

I would meet a man/couple/TV but I think most would see it as a stepping stone to something else (which I didn't have in mind!)

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I have and would do again, with no expectations on either side

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve done this to give someone a verification. We got chatting over music and he was local. He said he had a hard time meeting because he had never had a meet and so we met for coffee. Nice chap. We still chat from time to time but other than music we had little common ground and zero attraction.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Nahhhhh, I only have a social with someone who could potentially become a playmate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets always start as Social then if the feelings are mutual then it is upto each side. I have always done it this way unless in a club where I have been asked or winked at to take part in a 3 some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of socials just to help a few guys get verified.

I had no intentions of anything more happening & they were nice guys that felt like they were struggling because they weren't verified.

I've met one for tea a few times since & we always have a good natter over starbucks biscuits & tea.

I recommend the chocolate & honeycomb biscuit bar

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Not a group thing, a 1 on 1

Without sexual intent, purely for the cake, the coffee and a potential new friend

Just to say 'Hi' and share some time with another person with a common link, Fab

Would you ?

Have you ? "

Depends on the cake,and person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and yes, the vast majority of the lifestyle is social for me, and I'm a huge fan of coffee and cake

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

On the build up to the first time I met a lady be anything other than a social, I'm not saying my mind wouldn't wander a little or even alot during but that's the idea of the social.

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