FabSwingers.com forum: Towel Advice Required

By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

So I’m at a social last night and I’m approached by this woman who proceeded to tell me that I’m not wearing my towel right. That I need to double it up and make it shorter because I looked like a towel wanker that I didn’t know what I was doing. She said that if I took her advice I would get more action !!!

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’m at a social last night and I’m approached by this woman who proceeded to tell me that I’m not wearing my towel right. That I need to double it up and make it shorter because I looked like a towel wanker that I didn’t know what I was doing. She said that if I took her advice I would get more action !!!

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she was trying to be helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most have my socials are usually in a pub or coffee shop, never seen anyone in a towel at a social

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

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Ahahahaha utterly savaged.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Maybe she was trying to be helpful"

Good job I wasn’t a newbie or I would have felt very self conscious. My partner thought she was rude too.

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

As long as you know where your towel is, could be useful if you end up having to hitchhike the galaxy if Vogons construct a hyperspace bypass (Hitchhikers Guide geek here)

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Most have my socials are usually in a pub or coffee shop, never seen anyone in a towel at a social

It was in the swimming baths

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wouldn't have thought highly of either of you in that situation, to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most have my socials are usually in a pub or coffee shop, never seen anyone in a towel at a social

It was in the swimming baths

That's a novel place for a social ... Good on you!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"As long as you know where your towel is, could be useful if you end up having to hitchhike the galaxy if Vogons construct a hyperspace bypass (Hitchhikers Guide geek here)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did this REALLY happen?

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By *uit and bootsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"As long as you know where your towel is, could be useful if you end up having to hitchhike the galaxy if Vogons construct a hyperspace bypass (Hitchhikers Guide geek here)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she was trying to be helpful

Good job I wasn’t a newbie or I would have felt very self conscious. My partner thought she was rude too. "

I hate wearing towels anyway

I am way too body conscious

Part of the reason I don't attend clubs is that women are allowed to cover their weight / wobbly bits in play rooms, but guys are expected to wear towels only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She was just trying to see your knob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she was trying to be helpful

Good job I wasn’t a newbie or I would have felt very self conscious. My partner thought she was rude too.

I hate wearing towels anyway

I am way too body conscious

Part of the reason I don't attend clubs is that women are allowed to cover their weight / wobbly bits in play rooms, but guys are expected to wear towels only"

Pull it up under your armpits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was in the swimming baths

Is there a public viewing gallery?

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

I used to be body conscious, now I walk around clubs naked. The towel gets on my nerves after a while

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Ah well done you

You met a member of the swinging elite who bestow their presence and sprinkle ‘advice’.

Otherwise known as a bit of a douchebag actually.

You wear that towel however you like. Personally I prefer them draped over the shoulder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she was trying to be helpful

Good job I wasn’t a newbie or I would have felt very self conscious. My partner thought she was rude too.

I hate wearing towels anyway

I am way too body conscious

Part of the reason I don't attend clubs is that women are allowed to cover their weight / wobbly bits in play rooms, but guys are expected to wear towels only

Pull it up under your armpits

I'd sooner be nekkid than look like Demis Roussos

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I wouldn't have thought highly of either of you in that situation, to be honest. "

I was stood minding my own business talking to my partner. Nobody asked her to butt in and be rude. As I’ve said previously if I was new to the game it would have been very off putting. She was being quite aggressive about it and got off lightly . She just wouldn’t go away and after 4 minutes of her drivel and is laughing it off politely I decided I was entitled to make my observations too.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair "

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to be body conscious, now I walk around clubs naked. The towel gets on my nerves after a while"

It's handy for soaking up pre-cum though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw) "

She called a woman a towel wanker? Do they exist?

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I used to be body conscious, now I walk around clubs naked. The towel gets on my nerves after a while

It's handy for soaking up pre-cum though."

Can’t say I produce that much of it just walking around to be fair, but I can see your point.

I just drape the towel over my shoulder and be done with it

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Did this REALLY happen?"

Honestly it did . Me and my partner were both taken aback

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

It was in the swimming baths

Is there a public viewing gallery?

There was a glass floor viewing area in the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right....this is a pickle

I think you need to take a pic showing the towel length you were guilty of.

Then....and only then....will we be able to pass judgement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i Can’t offer advice, I tend to use a towel to dry myself off after a shower and that’s about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

Hmmm sounds like they deserved to be towel whipped across the chops!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why were you wearing a towel to a social?

I need answers.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw) "

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Why were you wearing a towel to a social?

I need answers."

It was at a club where the social part was downstairs . We had undressed to go upstairs.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

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Absolutely

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most have my socials are usually in a pub or coffee shop, never seen anyone in a towel at a social

This. And it’s pity because I wear the towel well

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

If you had been stood there minding your own business and someone approached you completely out of the blue to make personal comments . Starting with how you dress , progressing to say that you looked as if you didn’t know what you were doing and then saying you just look like a towel wanker and you had tries to laugh it off for minutes- how would you respond. It wasn’t an instant reply but at a point when we had both had enough. She got off lightly because I held back on saying she was dog ugly too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

Well, my opinions on towel critism/interference have been well documented.

I would suggest carrying 2 towels, wear one, carry the other sling over your shoulder having carefully wet one corner of it.

Use the second for brutal shower room style stingers.

Also never neglect choosing your towel carefully, I prefer the Union Jack, George cross or occasional deaths head ss towel.

A good witty come back to any towel critism is to look at theirs and ask when they last washed it, or if it’s a pale colour point at a part of it they can’t see and ask if it’s a skid mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

You see such lovely people

Being a fatty and an uggo myself I do get people do that to me and I do just walk away.

You made yourselves as bad as her and lost.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

*seem

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

She called a woman a towel wanker? Do they exist?"

They most certainly do and it's off putting seeing them in a club oggling you while touching themselves under a towel in a social area it can be very nerve racking x

Also hate seeing naked men in no towels in the social area that's what the towels are meant for x naked play is upstairs in the room areas x... no offence meant by this post just a single females point of view

To the OP she was very rude and it's up to the guy how low or high he wants his towel wouldn't want anyone telling me how to dress xx

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

You see such lovely people

Being a fatty and an uggo myself I do get people do that to me and I do just walk away.

You made yourselves as bad as her and lost. "

I wouldn’t dream of saying anything like that to you . I’m a big admirer of the curvier lady,s honestly. And if we were at a social and heard anyone say that to someone we would be in there like a shot offering support and shooting them away

It’s hard to explain without being there. She was actually stood in our way so that we couldn’t get past her whilst tugging at my towel. We tried to laugh it off until she said to my partner I’ve offended you haven’t I, then turned back and carried on.

I dont think we lost . Because we laughed about it all the way home. I hope she did too.

And besides we get to post here and it’s entettainin our Sunday morning.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

As a curvier/ overweight lady (hypothetically) overhearing this, I would assume you had a problem with people not matching your aesthetic and avoid you. The fat shaming really isn't necessary, and the fact that you're sharing as if you're proud of it doesn't say good things about you. A raised eyebrow and a sarcastic "I'll give your opinion the consideration it deserves" would have been better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no winners in this situation, only losers

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By *onyGalWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Other ways to defuse the situation or tell her where to put her opinion rather than body shaming her. Very low thing to do.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

"i Can’t offer advice, I tend to use a towel to dry myself off after a shower and that’s about it "

More of a tighty whitey and oversized silk kimono kinda guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i Can’t offer advice, I tend to use a towel to dry myself off after a shower and that’s about it

More of a tighty whitey and oversized silk kimono kinda guy

I miss my sexy silk robe thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

You was wrong to suggest that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was in the swimming baths

Is there a public viewing gallery?

There was a glass floor viewing area in the club"

So it wasn't swimming baths at all then ... It was a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

Her comment was totally unnecessary, just tell her to bugger off but your come back is just downright nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she was trying to be helpful

Good job I wasn’t a newbie or I would have felt very self conscious. My partner thought she was rude too.

I hate wearing towels anyway

I am way too body conscious

Part of the reason I don't attend clubs is that women are allowed to cover their weight / wobbly bits in play rooms, but guys are expected to wear towels only

Pull it up under your armpits

Lol

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I've had a similar thing in a club abroad, I just walked away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a similar thing in a club abroad, I just walked away

Exactly, maybe in a strange inappropriate way the lady actually thought she was helping and giving advise rather than minding her own beeswax. The comeback was just mean and nasty

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

thanks for the belly laugh it has made my day

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm the Mrs and we both have access to the account. Mr is currently out doing the weekly shop

I'm laughing at some of the comments, they're very funny

I'm old and been round the block a few times and throughout the years I've met many people who have excused their rude, obnoxious, and down right offensive comments as 'keeping it real', 'telling it as it is', 'only being honest', 'only joking, can't you take a joke?'.

Even after I was told 'Ohhhh I think you're offended' - no you're offensive!! (clearly my fault)

I said I was, she continued and went on and on giving her unsolicited opinion on us.

The way I see it, If you can dish it out, you need to take it. Suck it up buttercup.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I went to a club for the first time last night with my master and if someone had been rude to me, like she was, telling me my towel was wrong etc I would've been embarrassed and wanted to go. I found everyone really friendly and nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm the Mrs and we both have access to the account. Mr is currently out doing the weekly shop

I'm laughing at some of the comments, they're very funny

Even after I was told 'Ohhhh I think you're offended' - no you're offensive!! (clearly my fault)

I said I was, she continued and went on and on giving her unsolicited opinion on us.

The way I see it, If you can dish it out, you need to take it. Suck it up buttercup.

It sounds to me she wasn't dishing out an offence remark she was trying to give inappropriate advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

You see such lovely people

Being a fatty and an uggo myself I do get people do that to me and I do just walk away.

You made yourselves as bad as her and lost.

I dont think we lost . Because we laughed about it all the way home. I hope she did too.

And besides we get to post here and it’s entettainin our Sunday morning. "

She sounds incredibly rude. Imagine if a man had said that then started tugging at your towel!

I would have just glared at her and walked past.

What did she say when you made the weight watchers comment?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think this was a poorly judged piece of banter initially designed as a flirt...the towel policewoman just wanted to get you naked and hoped that you would banter back in some way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the towel woman touched you without asking? Is that not a get booted out of the club offence for males?

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over a year ago

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

Hahaha love it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is there some towel wearing standard we all have to adhere to now? That's another memo I didn't get.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Is there some towel wearing standard we all have to adhere to now? That's another memo I didn't get."

I was thinking that

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By *omfilthMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

You see such lovely people

Being a fatty and an uggo myself I do get people do that to me and I do just walk away.

You made yourselves as bad as her and lost. "

You let people walk over you like that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this was a poorly judged piece of banter initially designed as a flirt...the towel policewoman just wanted to get you naked and hoped that you would banter back in some way"

Good point, never thought of that!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

How you were dressed,you were in a towel?! You see you're just being pretty rude there,you're being to personal.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I think this was a poorly judged piece of banter initially designed as a flirt...the towel policewoman just wanted to get you naked and hoped that you would banter back in some way"

That was my thoughts.

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By *omfilthMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I'm the Mrs and we both have access to the account. Mr is currently out doing the weekly shop

I'm laughing at some of the comments, they're very funny

Even after I was told 'Ohhhh I think you're offended' - no you're offensive!! (clearly my fault)

I said I was, she continued and went on and on giving her unsolicited opinion on us.

The way I see it, If you can dish it out, you need to take it. Suck it up buttercup.

"
this

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'm the Mrs and we both have access to the account. Mr is currently out doing the weekly shop

I'm laughing at some of the comments, they're very funny

Even after I was told 'Ohhhh I think you're offended' - no you're offensive!! (clearly my fault)

I said I was, she continued and went on and on giving her unsolicited opinion on us.

The way I see it, If you can dish it out, you need to take it. Suck it up buttercup.

It sounds to me she wasn't dishing out an offence remark she was trying to give inappropriate advice "

So was I

A few less lies wouldn’t have gone amiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why were you wearing a towel to a social?

I need answers.

It was at a club where the social part was downstairs . We had undressed to go upstairs. "

Ah, that explains the lack of clothing then.

Was she d*unk and why were you wearing your towel in the fashion of the wanking dead?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Towels just don't look attractive, do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm the Mrs and we both have access to the account. Mr is currently out doing the weekly shop

I'm laughing at some of the comments, they're very funny

Even after I was told 'Ohhhh I think you're offended' - no you're offensive!! (clearly my fault)

I said I was, she continued and went on and on giving her unsolicited opinion on us.

The way I see it, If you can dish it out, you need to take it. Suck it up buttercup.

Unfortunately, we aren't allowed to dish it out on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say good on you.

I find it odd the people saying they wouldn’t think highly of either of you in that situation!!

I’m sure everyone will happily stand around and accept insults off a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if she was rude to you then i can see no reason not to be rude back ...simple really

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

Psml.......

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

"Other ways to defuse the situation or tell her where to put her opinion rather than body shaming her. Very low thing to do. "

I quite agree, I'd have told her to mind her own business.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I say good on you.

I find it odd the people saying they wouldn’t think highly of either of you in that situation!!

I’m sure everyone will happily stand around and accept insults off a stranger

There's much to be said for an icy stare or a comment dismissing hers (or even, sometimes, "I beg your pardon?" in a scandalised tone). You make your point without looking mucky yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure she wasn't just trying to joke with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your comment was just as bad as hers, if not worse.

No need for that at all in my opinion.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Had you just washed your hair so had it on your head???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

Absolutely agree.

If she had mentioned your weight or body shamed you I could understand.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"I say good on you.

I find it odd the people saying they wouldn’t think highly of either of you in that situation!!

I’m sure everyone will happily stand around and accept insults off a stranger

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over a year ago

"I say good on you.

I find it odd the people saying they wouldn’t think highly of either of you in that situation!!

I’m sure everyone will happily stand around and accept insults off a stranger

Am I reading the thread correctly here??? As far as I can make out she was suggesting the wife was wearing the towel wrong.... Her delivery may have been piss poor but that's basically what she is saying. Suggesting weight watchers is a personal attack. A nasty comeback remark.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame. "

Honestly we laughed it off so many times but she just wouldn’t go and we were blocked in by her. She even said to my partner you’re offended aren’t you . She said yes and she carried on calling me a wanker because I didn’t have my towel at her regulation length . It had to come to an end and the alternative would not have been pretty.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Towels just don't look attractive, do they?

I’m going for the over the shoulder look

next time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

Was she d*unk? Personally I would have said please leave us alone or we will report you to the club. No need for insults. Talking about your towel wasn't insulting you

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

You see such lovely people

Being a fatty and an uggo myself I do get people do that to me and I do just walk away.

You made yourselves as bad as her and lost.

I dont think we lost . Because we laughed about it all the way home. I hope she did too.

And besides we get to post here and it’s entettainin our Sunday morning.

She sounds incredibly rude. Imagine if a man had said that then started tugging at your towel!

I would have just glared at her and walked past.

What did she say when you made the weight watchers comment? "

She walked away thankfully so we could enjoy the rest of our evening x

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

Was she d*unk? Personally I would have said please leave us alone or we will report you to the club. No need for insults. Talking about your towel wasn't insulting you "

Was it not insulting to call me a wanker though ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did this REALLY happen?

Honestly it did . Me and my partner were both taken aback "

She sounds as if she was two sandwiches short of a picnic

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Other ways to defuse the situation or tell her where to put her opinion rather than body shaming her. Very low thing to do. "

Tried that ( see other replies)

She wouldn’t bugger off or shift out of the way so that we could. My comment did defuse the situation which was at risk of turning nasty when she pointed out to us that she regarded her behaviour as offensive but carried on regardless.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Did this REALLY happen?

Honestly it did . Me and my partner were both taken aback

She sounds as if she was two sandwiches short of a picnic"

I will refrain from suggesting what happened to the sandwiches !

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Was this said to the male or female?

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Was this said to the male or female?"

To the male whilst she barged between us to express her fashion tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ? "

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

You’re both as bad in my book.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

So calling her fat is acceptable? Nothing like body shaming imagine the outcry on here if it was a bloke saying that I think you are out of order for being personal about her weight it wasn’t like she was being nasty to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was this said to the male or female?

To the male whilst she barged between us to express her fashion tips

Out of interest, how was he wearing the towel and how was the lady suggesting he wore it ?

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people. "

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

I wasn’t body shaming her. She was telling me that my chances of getting to play with someone would be better if I wore my towel differently and not standing around looking like a towel wanker. I said that her chances might improve If she joined weightwatchers .

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

You’re both as bad in my book. "

No. If you go out your way to comment on someone's appearance then don't be surprised if you get grief in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

You’re both as bad in my book.

No. If you go out your way to comment on someone's appearance then don't be surprised if you get grief in return."

I don’t agree.

I don’t fight abuse with abuse, as you are then no better than the person who abused first.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Was this said to the male or female?

To the male whilst she barged between us to express her fashion tips

Out of interest, how was he wearing the towel and how was the lady suggesting he wore it ?"

Apparently not below the knee is the etiquette .

That part wasn’t offensive and we went along with it laughing but she became personally abusive . We even laughed that off the first few times but it became very wearing.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Towel wanker I’m going to use that at 5aside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off. "

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book. "

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that. "

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

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By *opsy71Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Most have my socials are usually in a pub or coffee shop, never seen anyone in a towel at a social

It was in the swimming baths

That's a novel place for a social ... Good on you!

Synchronised swimming is so bitchy these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was this said to the male or female?

To the male whilst she barged between us to express her fashion tips

Out of interest, how was he wearing the towel and how was the lady suggesting he wore it ?

Apparently not below the knee is the etiquette .

That part wasn’t offensive and we went along with it laughing but she became personally abusive . We even laughed that off the first few times but it became very wearing. "

I'm inclined to go along with what someone back up there said about her fancying a bit

It reads awfully like a bit of (really poorly played out) playful flirtyness that went tits up

As I said earlier though, I don't think there are any winners here

It makes for an awkward read all round

Onwards and upwards as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time. "

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book.

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

I didn’t imply she should lose weight

I specifically said that she might improve her chances by going to weight watchers just as she had specifically said I might improve my chances by not being a wanker. Note at the time I did not have my dick in my hand so there was no factual basis for what she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a towel. See profile pic.

Wear your towel how you like. Can't imagine it was offensive to the eye...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

What if they said " because I looked like a towel wanker"

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book.

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

I didn’t imply she should lose weight

So unless people go to weight watchers to put on weight, you implied she should lose weight to improve her chances no?

I think you know you were wrong hence why you are trying to justify it somehow here by stating you didn’t imply she should lose weight, when that’s exactly what people go to WW for.

It’s a nasty comment to make.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Anyone know what a " towel wanker" is by the way and how are you meant to wear a towel? If you don't wear it the right way do you get it ripped off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

What if they said " because I looked like a towel wanker""

Reminds me of people using the word “bus wanker” to describe those who use a bus to get to and fro!

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I love a towel. See profile pic.

Wear your towel how you like. Can't imagine it was offensive to the eye... "

Now that’s how to wear a towel x

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book.

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

I didn’t imply she should lose weight

So unless people go to weight watchers to put on weight, you implied she should lose weight to improve her chances no?

I think you know you were wrong hence why you are trying to justify it somehow here by stating you didn’t imply she should lose weight, when that’s exactly what people go to WW for.

It’s a nasty comment to make. "

For the avoidance of doubt (and see my OP )

I was quite pleased with my restrained riposte

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

What if they said " because I looked like a towel wanker"

Reminds me of people using the word “bus wanker” to describe those who use a bus to get to and fro! "

Those that have been here a while will know that my profile name is an abbreviation of Bus Wanker

I used that for a while, until I started getting messages asking if I had any favourite routes, were there any good places to sit, had I ever been caught etc etc

I can only assume that they'd never seen The Inbetweeners

Either way, I knew I had to change it, and quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

....but her comments were not actual personal insults were they. You asked people's opinion on your reply to her and you have been given it and now your arguing when someone does not agree with what you did.

Your OP did not quote any actual personal abuse or insults said by the lady yet you insulted her weight and now you say she was lucky not to have been called dog ugly as well.

It would have been simpler to tell her to go away and mind her own business since your old enough to dress yourself..... You chose to let it go on and on until you felt justified in throwing personal insults.

Perhaps you were looking for an excuse to...

Just my opinion on a forum post you chose to share with us.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

What if they said " because I looked like a towel wanker"

Reminds me of people using the word “bus wanker” to describe those who use a bus to get to and fro!

Those that have been here a while will know that my profile name is an abbreviation of Bus Wanker

I used that for a while, until I started getting messages asking if I had any favourite routes, were there any good places to sit, had I ever been caught etc etc

I can only assume that they'd never seen The Inbetweeners

Either way, I knew I had to change it, and quick

Hahaha! Love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book.

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

I didn’t imply she should lose weight

So unless people go to weight watchers to put on weight, you implied she should lose weight to improve her chances no?

I think you know you were wrong hence why you are trying to justify it somehow here by stating you didn’t imply she should lose weight, when that’s exactly what people go to WW for.

It’s a nasty comment to make.

For the avoidance of doubt (and see my OP )

I was quite pleased with my restrained riposte "

Restrained? Her comment really bothered you that much?

I dread to think how you’d act if someone body shamed you or called you dog ugly, like you did this lady then.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "
Some people have a dog in this fight OP. Sounds like she was trying to help but in a patronising and condescending way. I don't think it was like for like though and your comment can give more of a complex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What colour towel did you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

Suggesting how to wear a towel at a SOCIAL to keep your dick covered up and avoid looking like a towel wanker is not hurling insults.....you seem to be adding to this story every time you post to justify insulting someone's weight and facial attractiveness. You don't appear swinger club material and I hope I don't come into contact with you at one.

Did you just think you would get a pat on the back from everyone and screams of "your so witty"...... When will people learn not everyone will agree with you....It is our right to disagree.

I will say no more I don't wish to argue with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

Are you two having one conversation with us? One minutes it's the wife talking, next minute the husband. You're being confusing

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

This says more about your behaviour than hers op! She behaved like a cunt, my opinion is that you behaved worse!

An appropriate response in the situation would have been to tell her the conversation is over and ask her to move out the way so that you can leave. Followed by reporting her behaviour to the staff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

Did you just think you would get a pat on the back from everyone and screams of "your so witty"...... When will people learn not everyone will agree with you....It is our right to disagree.

I will say no more I don't wish to argue with you."

I think it's the wife who was told she was wearing her towel wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This says more about your behaviour than hers op! She behaved like a cunt, my opinion is that you behaved worse!

An appropriate response in the situation would have been to tell her the conversation is over and ask her to move out the way so that you can leave. Followed by reporting her behaviour to the staff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This says more about your behaviour than hers op! She behaved like a cunt, my opinion is that you behaved worse!

An appropriate response in the situation would have been to tell her the conversation is over and ask her to move out the way so that you can leave. Followed by reporting her behaviour to the staff.

Oh as referring to someone as a cunt is way nicer than suggesting they may need to visit weight watchers! Wow!!

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

Your OP did not quote any actual personal abuse or insults said by the lady yet you insulted her weight and now you say she was lucky not to have been called dog ugly as well.

Perhaps you were looking for an excuse to...

Just my opinion on a forum post you chose to share with us....."

I think when she called me a wanker ( several tunes ) that counts as personal abuse or do you disagree in your haste to defend her.

We were polite and took it for long enough .

Anyone can have their opinion as we did ask but get it right when you decide .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

Are you two having one conversation with us? One minutes it's the wife talking, next minute the husband. You're being confusing "

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book.

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

I didn’t imply she should lose weight

So unless people go to weight watchers to put on weight, you implied she should lose weight to improve her chances no?

I think you know you were wrong hence why you are trying to justify it somehow here by stating you didn’t imply she should lose weight, when that’s exactly what people go to WW for.

It’s a nasty comment to make.

For the avoidance of doubt (and see my OP )

I was quite pleased with my restrained riposte

Restrained? Her comment really bothered you that much?

I dread to think how you’d act if someone body shamed you or called you dog ugly, like you did this lady then."

No her comment didn’t bother me that much at all. It was her persistence and rudeness that was the straw that broke the camels back. As I said earlier this went on for three or four minutes . People were stood nearby looking and laughing as she tried to ridicule me. We’ve been going to clubs for a long time and never come across such directly rude behaviour before. And despite what I thought about her looks I didn’t say that . You seem to think it was a one off comment - it wasn’t. Like this post it just went on and on and on. In the same situation I do wonder how you would have reacted if some big bloke penned you in a corner and berated you about how you had chosen to dress , refused to give up and move away.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"This says more about your behaviour than hers op! She behaved like a cunt, my opinion is that you behaved worse!

An appropriate response in the situation would have been to tell her the conversation is over and ask her to move out the way so that you can leave. Followed by reporting her behaviour to the staff.

Tried that

She wouldn’t let up

Or move

Staff were on the same floor ejecting a guy who had been overly familiar with a girl who didn’t want his attention .

I wouldn’t do anything different so thank you for your opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

Your OP did not quote any actual personal abuse or insults said by the lady yet you insulted her weight and now you say she was lucky not to have been called dog ugly as well.

Perhaps you were looking for an excuse to...

Just my opinion on a forum post you chose to share with us.....

I think when she called me a wanker ( several tunes ) that counts as personal abuse or do you disagree in your haste to defend her.

We were polite and took it for long enough .

Anyone can have their opinion as we did ask but get it right when you decide . "

Blimey, the plot thickens.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ? "

I would rather someone call be that then suggest I go to weight watchers

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

Did you just think you would get a pat on the back from everyone and screams of "your so witty"...... When will people learn not everyone will agree with you....It is our right to disagree.

I will say no more I don't wish to argue with you."

No she suggested it should be worn shorter.

I didn’t expect a pat in the back at all. I expected to create a shit storm . That’s what happens in forums

Actually I expected more people to say I was wrong. But I’m interested at what you regard as being an insult and what is not !

Hmmmm !!!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

What if they said " because I looked like a towel wanker""

Still a big difference

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

All seems very playground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference in someone telling you, you are wearing your towel wrong and body shaming someone, IMO

And is it ok for someone to walk up to a complete stranger and call them a wanker ?

It’s not okay to do either, but you went low & insulted her physical appearance.

Get a grip

I said weight watchers

Not fat club

You’re both as bad in my book.

What’s there to get a grip on?

You implied someone should lose weight.

Or do people go to weight watchers to put on weight now?

I didn’t imply she should lose weight

So unless people go to weight watchers to put on weight, you implied she should lose weight to improve her chances no?

I think you know you were wrong hence why you are trying to justify it somehow here by stating you didn’t imply she should lose weight, when that’s exactly what people go to WW for.

It’s a nasty comment to make.

For the avoidance of doubt (and see my OP )

I was quite pleased with my restrained riposte

Restrained? Her comment really bothered you that much?

I dread to think how you’d act if someone body shamed you or called you dog ugly, like you did this lady then.

I would’ve raised my voice so others could hear and could help me out, or I would’ve told him to leave me the alone and get out of my way, unless he wants reporting to the staff.

I certainly wouldn’t have thought to insult his appearance, one because I’m not nasty like that and two he may get violent because of it.

How exactly is insulting someone going to help an already bad situation?! I’m baffled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

Are you two having one conversation with us? One minutes it's the wife talking, next minute the husband. You're being confusing "

Very confusing

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? Some people have a dog in this fight OP. Sounds like she was trying to help but in a patronising and condescending way. I don't think it was like for like though and your comment can give more of a complex.

I wasn’t aware I needed any help or advice on how to wrap a towel around myself. But I respect your measured response . Thank you "

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

Did you just think you would get a pat on the back from everyone and screams of "your so witty"...... When will people learn not everyone will agree with you....It is our right to disagree.

I will say no more I don't wish to argue with you.

No she suggested it should be worn shorter.

I didn’t expect a pat in the back at all. I expected to create a shit storm . That’s what happens in forums

Actually I expected more people to say I was wrong. But I’m interested at what you regard as being an insult and what is not !

Hmmmm !!!"

Name calling wouldn't hurt me, been called a lot worse when I was working, but if I had a complex about my weight, looks etc a comment like that would really upset me. Just my personal opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as you know where your towel is, could be useful if you end up having to hitchhike the galaxy if Vogons construct a hyperspace bypass (Hitchhikers Guide geek here)"

That is always my first thought when it comes to towels. Second thought is don't share them at socials/meets.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"As long as you know where your towel is, could be useful if you end up having to hitchhike the galaxy if Vogons construct a hyperspace bypass (Hitchhikers Guide geek here)

That is always my first thought when it comes to towels. Second thought is don't share them at socials/meets."

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

Did you just think you would get a pat on the back from everyone and screams of "your so witty"...... When will people learn not everyone will agree with you....It is our right to disagree.

I will say no more I don't wish to argue with you.

No she suggested it should be worn shorter.

I didn’t expect a pat in the back at all. I expected to create a shit storm . That’s what happens in forums

Actually I expected more people to say I was wrong. But I’m interested at what you regard as being an insult and what is not !

Hmmmm !!!

Name calling wouldn't hurt me, been called a lot worse when I was working, but if I had a complex about my weight, looks etc a comment like that would really upset me. Just my personal opinion

Sorry to hear that and I respect what you say. Maybe I was wrong and should have said something else but me and my partner had tried to laugh it off and edge around her but she was persistent .

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By *ll That Ass 67Woman
over a year ago

Kettering

OP yes you were wrong to suggest the lady in question go to weight watchers..if anyone said that to me in a club I would be mortified..and then I would report them to the staff..

Stop trying to justify something you know was wrong ..why else ask "was I wrong to.."..

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"To be fair she sounds like a dick and you sound like bigger dicks for your comment if I'm honest. Just say thanks now not interested leave me alone. You don't have to get nasty and body shame.

It’s as if you’re trying to justify your body shaming comment to people who don’t agree.

A quick “fuck off” would’ve sufficed, it’s quite low to insult someone’s physical appearance in my opinion, especially when you claim to have no issue with bigger women/people.

I don’t have to justify myself to anyone though and my OP said was it wrong to say what I did.

Neither of us might have been correct but it had the desired effect of making her bugger off.

You body shamed her when you mentioned weight watchers. Implying she should lose weight.

It’s sounds to me like her comment was an attempt at banter, shit banter at that.

Ok point taken . Banter only allowed one way is it?

I will say Slimmers World next time.

I don’t see body shaming as banter personally.

Each to their own.

There was no banter it was hurling insults

All one way until I finished it with one sentence.

Did you just think you would get a pat on the back from everyone and screams of "your so witty"...... When will people learn not everyone will agree with you....It is our right to disagree.

I will say no more I don't wish to argue with you.

No she suggested it should be worn shorter.

I didn’t expect a pat in the back at all. I expected to create a shit storm . That’s what happens in forums

Actually I expected more people to say I was wrong. But I’m interested at what you regard as being an insult and what is not !

Hmmmm !!!

Name calling wouldn't hurt me, been called a lot worse when I was working, but if I had a complex about my weight, looks etc a comment like that would really upset me. Just my personal opinion

Sorry to hear that and I respect what you say. Maybe I was wrong and should have said something else but me and my partner had tried to laugh it off and edge around her but she was persistent . "

Thank you. Hope it doesn't happen to you again, but at least you'll have some ideas of how to deal with it!

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

One thread and I'm entirely put off going to a club

particularly in Wales

Glad so many comments on here are better and make this seem like something not quite normal

Feels a bit like unreliable narrators too though

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

Your OP did not quote any actual personal abuse or insults said by the lady yet you insulted her weight and now you say she was lucky not to have been called dog ugly as well.

Perhaps you were looking for an excuse to...

Just my opinion on a forum post you chose to share with us.....

I think when she called me a wanker ( several tunes ) that counts as personal abuse or do you disagree in your haste to defend her.

We were polite and took it for long enough .

Anyone can have their opinion as we did ask but get it right when you decide . "

Excuse me but you clearly said that she said you "looked like a towel wanker".....that is not the same thing as calling someone a wanker.....

I got it right thank you very much. It is YOU that apparently cannot even stick to his own story and is changing it all the time....

I am not interested in arguing further with you. It all sounds a load of bollocks to me.

Oppps sorry don't want to get accused of insulting you.....not with me being in need of weight watcher's services!!

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"OP yes you were wrong to suggest the lady in question go to weight watchers..if anyone said that to me in a club I would be mortified..and then I would report them to the staff..

Stop trying to justify something you know was wrong ..why else ask "was I wrong to.."..

"
Actually I don’t think I was wrong at all. In fact the more I think about it the more I’m glad I said it. Next time she might think twice but I doubt it because she skipped off far less concerned than some of you appear to be.

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ?

Both of you were a bit twattish to be fair

She said, 'I can see you've took offence' and carried on with her 'helpful advice' (I'm Mrs btw)

I stand by my original comment. Both you (whoever made the weight watchers comment) and her (who gave unsolicited towel placement advice) behaved in a twattish manner.

Your OP did not quote any actual personal abuse or insults said by the lady yet you insulted her weight and now you say she was lucky not to have been called dog ugly as well.

Perhaps you were looking for an excuse to...

Just my opinion on a forum post you chose to share with us.....

I think when she called me a wanker ( several tunes ) that counts as personal abuse or do you disagree in your haste to defend her.

We were polite and took it for long enough .

Anyone can have their opinion as we did ask but get it right when you decide .

Excuse me but you clearly said that she said you "looked like a towel wanker".....that is not the same thing as calling someone a wanker.....

I got it right thank you very much. It is YOU that apparently cannot even stick to his own story and is changing it all the time....

I am not interested in arguing further with you. It all sounds a load of bollocks to me.

Oppps sorry don't want to get accused of insulting you.....not with me being in need of weight watcher's services!!"

No need to be sorry .

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"One thread and I'm entirely put off going to a club

particularly in Wales

Glad so many comments on here are better and make this seem like something not quite normal

Feels a bit like unreliable narrators too though

I shouldn’t be put off. It’s a first for us and every other club we have been to has been great . Fantastic people and fantastic atmosphere . We will put it down to experience and avoid said place again in case we have the misfortune to come across her again .

V x"

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"One thread and I'm entirely put off going to a club

particularly in Wales

Glad so many comments on here are better and make this seem like something not quite normal

Feels a bit like unreliable narrators too though

V x"

I went to a club for the first time Saturday night and everyone was friendly and lovely no issues at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP yes you were wrong to suggest the lady in question go to weight watchers..if anyone said that to me in a club I would be mortified..and then I would report them to the staff..

Stop trying to justify something you know was wrong ..why else ask "was I wrong to.."..

Actually I don’t think I was wrong at all. In fact the more I think about it the more I’m glad I said it. Next time she might think twice but I doubt it because she skipped off far less concerned than some of you appear to be. "

You asked for advice. You got it.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Would op be man enough to say that to her hubby? Probably not only picks on women

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Why do I keep hearing Dr Albán in my head

“Its my life”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was I wrong to suggest weight watchers might help her prospects too ? "

Who was wearing the towel? The man or the woman?

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"OP yes you were wrong to suggest the lady in question go to weight watchers..if anyone said that to me in a club I would be mortified..and then I would report them to the staff..

Stop trying to justify something you know was wrong ..why else ask "was I wrong to.."..

You asked for advice. You got it."

I asked for an opinion

I got your advice

But thanks anyway

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Would op be man enough to say that to her hubby? Probably not only picks on women "

It was the hubby that said it

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I don’t think this actually happened if you look back at posts it looks like it happened to the female side and some posts it’s the male that was told about the towel I’m confused so I’m out

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Would op be man enough to say that to her hubby? Probably not only picks on women

It was the hubby that said it "

Sorry misread what you were saying !

Yes they would have been treated equally in the situation.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"Would op be man enough to say that to her hubby? Probably not only picks on women

It was the hubby that said it

Sorry misread what you were saying !

Yes they would have been treated equally in the situation. "
it is a bit early in the day I’m still half asleep

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By *affquest OP Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Would op be man enough to say that to her hubby? Probably not only picks on women

It was the hubby that said it

Sorry misread what you were saying !

Yes they would have been treated equally in the situation. it is a bit early in the day I’m still half asleep

Same !!

Have a good day

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Maybe she was trying to be helpful

Good job I wasn’t a newbie or I would have felt very self conscious. My partner thought she was rude too.

I hate wearing towels anyway

I am way too body conscious

Part of the reason I don't attend clubs is that women are allowed to cover their weight / wobbly bits in play rooms, but guys are expected to wear towels only"

Couldn't you wear a nice basque?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont go to clubs since my forehead was assaulted by a blying bell end

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