FabSwingers.com forum: Display or hide?

By *ig rig hull OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

What's everyone's views on hiding or showing veris?

I always assume a profile with 1 verification thats hidden is a fake! Especially with no photos on display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's everyone's views on hiding or showing veris?

I always assume a profile with 1 verification thats hidden is a fake! Especially with no photos on display"

I feel the same way usually.

I hide mine (except my most recent from my adoring husband) because they’re a bit cringey. My old fuck buddy wrote me some and left, a previous meet wrote me a couple and then left, and I have loads of cam ones because I went on the cam rooms a few times, so men just left me verifications randomly

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If it's a single guy, he probably doesn't want everyone to know that he's actually "fab straight"

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By *ig rig hull OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

I don't really want mine on show but I also don't want people thinking im a fake or have something to hide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really want mine on show but I also don't want people thinking im a fake or have something to hide?"

Why don’t you want them on show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer my own hidden as it always seems to cause grief when they're on show. But hate when ones I want to read are hidden as I'm nosey!! I tend to decide for myself if I think someone's legit, I don't place too much stock in verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really want mine on show but I also don't want people thinking im a fake or have something to hide?"

Not everyone shows their veris. It's down to personal choice. If I'm talking to someone who doesn't have their veris displayed, they are usually happy to give me a sneaky peek, before they hide them again. I've never actually thought of someone being fake, if the hide them. I know too many who do it haha.

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By *ig rig hull OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

I dont mind showing mine at all but would prefer a friends only system maybe like pictures that are friends only?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur profile here is in about ten other sites

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By *ig rig hull OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

"Ur profile here is in about ten other sites"

Really? What do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ur profile here is in about ten other sites

Really? What do you mean?"

Your profile pic, he means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as all companies work-they share your imfo -its a compayrison site for what u looking for

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By *ig rig hull OP Man
over a year ago

Hull

"Same as all companies work-they share your imfo -its a compayrison site for what u looking for "

Ahh right. I dont mind but would have been nice to have been told. (Unless it was in the small print somewhere)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meets we share.... other meets or people from other sites no.

We do like a good Fet. Site meet

Xxx

Nessa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

At the moment I just show the summary.

If someone is interested I’ll show them the actual verifications.

I’m happy with the number of meets I’m having currently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

One of mine is a cam veri - I never saw the guy, we only chatted on fab over some seagulls I was annoyed with. He was banned from messaging by admin so he couldn't reply to my msg and he decided to tell me that by giving me a cam veri.. Twat

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it."

Thats the second time this weekend I’ve heard about people leaving a veri to get round a message block or other communication issue. I think the recipient of one should be able to decline the receipt of one if they wish in order to stop this practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

I didn't ask for his veri. It came as a surprise. He was banned as he mentioned something about seagulls which admin didn't like. But I though he might message me back after his ban ended. What can I do with his cam veri? It was long time ago. Can I ask admin to remove it?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

That’s what I mean - we should be able to decline one and therefore it doesn’t stay on our profile. Message admin and see if they’ll delete it

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

I agree. It has happened to me, I was just chatting to a man and then he left a veri. It was very complimentary and lovely but that’s not really the point. Admin were very helpful and removed it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

That’s what I mean - we should be able to decline one and therefore it doesn’t stay on our profile. Message admin and see if they’ll delete it

I agree. Option of declining a veri would help. One guy I met few years ago twice kept on deleting his profile and creating a new one not long after, and each time he came back, he messaged me again and gave me a veri I didm't ask for.. I didn't want it as I didn't want to meet him again but I had like 3 or 4 from him.. He is blocked since but number of my meet veris stays larger thanks to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just messaged asmin asking them to remove it. Let's see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t display mine due to a couple of people contacting my veris to ask about me /and slag me off. If people pass me by because I don’t display them then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just messaged asmin asking them to remove it. Let's see."

I have received your message Jessica and will act accordingly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

That’s what I mean - we should be able to decline one and therefore it doesn’t stay on our profile. Message admin and see if they’ll delete it

I think this is pretty standard for women unfortunately. On my last profile, I had six verifications off men I hadn't even spoken to, let alone met. Their Veris were also written in a plea for me to message them as I'd not replied to their messages. Some use it as another tool to get a females attention. It would be great if we all had the portion to accept a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just messaged asmin asking them to remove it. Let's see.

I have received your message Jessica and will act accordingly x "

Amen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

That’s what I mean - we should be able to decline one and therefore it doesn’t stay on our profile. Message admin and see if they’ll delete it

Not sure if this option will ever become available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

That’s what I mean - we should be able to decline one and therefore it doesn’t stay on our profile. Message admin and see if they’ll delete it

Not sure if this option will ever become available."

I don't think it will be either. Luckily, admin are pretty good at removing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t display mine due to a couple of people contacting my veris to ask about me /and slag me off. If people pass me by because I don’t display them then so be it. "

That's the same reason i hide mine..

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I hide mine because it's no one else's business who I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have nothing to hide. But I understand some people have valid reasons to hide their veris.

so no reason to display this on my profile as it's not a true cam veri. But I cannot get rid of it.

That’s what I mean - we should be able to decline one and therefore it doesn’t stay on our profile. Message admin and see if they’ll delete it

Not sure if this option will ever become available.

I don't think it will be either. Luckily, admin are pretty good at removing them

Are they? Not in my experience they're not!

I asked for this option ages ago and we are still having the same probs.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I don’t display mine - I don’t need the Green Eyed monster stuff that one of them created!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I display all full disclosure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always show ours. End of the day, we are here to meet...at its most basic level we are showing feedback. If that influences someone to meet us and have a good time, then it’s done it’s job. If it sways them the other way, then that’s fine too. It wasn’t meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris cause nothing but issues.

Grown ups are amongst some of the most jealous people I’ve met!

I don’t display mine for that reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like people to have their profile however they want it. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex meet veris displayed on their profile.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It can cause issues if you display them. Jealousy is rife on here.

I display the ones from the organised socials but not others generally. It depends how the mood takes me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine along with my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Veris cause nothing but issues.

Grown ups are amongst some of the most jealous people I’ve met!

I don’t display mine for that reason. "

Still jealous of your last one !!!!!!-!!! Why did you do that to me ffs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont display but happy to show if chatting to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had an issue with displaying mine. I just choose not to as it's not anyone else's business who I meet.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I just messaged asmin asking them to remove it. Let's see."

I've done this a couple of time's and they've removed them for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just messaged asmin asking them to remove it. Let's see.

I've done this a couple of time's and they've removed them for me."

I never needed to do it before as I just blocked users I no longer wanted to be contacted by and their veris disappeared coz of that. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We choose to keep ours private, however if asked we would show them prior to arranging to meet anyone. Do believe though that everyone has different opinions, so someone may say"Wow fabulous sexy, fun" were others may think "who are they writing about" Think natural instinct is best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to socials. If I show all mine people think I have too many veris. Sometimes I show some, sometimes all and sometimes none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel honored when displayed by those who rarelly do its a cool feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show mine as I feel a bit weird telling the whole world who I met.

I don't mind if others show theirs or not but it does make me a wee bit suspicious if they're not showing the summary.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Considering hiding mine following some recent weirdness and people contacting some of those I've met as they're outside my filters. But I prefer to contact profiles who display theirs so I'll keep them on for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two veris both hidden, my choice.

My profile is also hidden.

Horses for courses, can't please everyone. For me it's enough that they're verified. Don't necessarily need to see the veris, i'll merit someone on my opinion, not anyone elses

Fakes and timewasters come under all sorts of profiles, no factors should be used as benchmarks.

I've met unverified people, and i've been messed around by those who have veris and pictures on display.

One my previous profile a veri was hidden because it was sent from a couple I'd never met! Why on earth would I want to display a fake veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried meeting someone with veri's hidden... They flaked I have never done so since and no flakes since

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

We show ours, we prefer it that way but each to their own.

Veris come and veris go though. People are forever leaving the site for one reason or another and their veris go with them.

Lex

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I openly display mine, and have no issue with doing so, but then I've not experienced some of the petty issues they appear to cause for some - if I did it might give me cause to re-think.

If I come across a profile where they're hidden it wouldn't bother me, as it is frankly none of my business who someone has met and I'm perfectly capable of deciding for myself if I want to get to know/meet that person without needing someone else's endorsement to guide me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I decided to hide mine because showing them has caused a couple grievances in the past for very trivial and stupid reasons.

One was turned off after we had a great build up just became she didn't like a person I've been with (you couldn't have looked sooner?)

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I don't display my veris or the summary. They are my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't display my veris or the summary. They are my business."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only show veris that don’t say what we did sexually. Don’t like displaying ones where people have said ‘ very much enjoyed watching the girls play with each other’ or more graphic ones aha. Only show ones that say about meeting and having fun in an essence x

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I don't display my veris or the summary. They are my business."

Same goes for me.

I find the verification circus inane.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If somebody leave the site then their verification leaves with them but the number remains on the verification summary therefore it is very easy to have one verification and not be able to show it.

In our case we have 94 meets but could actually only show 63 if we wanted as the others are no longer available.

Now take into consideration that some are repeat meets, is there any reason to show more than one or two from the same person, there are a few which we don't show for personal reasons and finally we took the decision to not show our older verifications as we feel that people really are only interested in recent ones.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Eh. I dunno. I display/hide/display and so on.

See, I prefer not to show them but then people have (mostly) put effort into writing them and sometimes get a little hurt that I’m hiding them. I guess you can’t win.

So to get around it, I display recent ones then hide them again when they’re not so recent anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to show only the most recent ones ... Just so it's obvious I am real, and I do meet. Never even thought to not show my summary.

As with everything it's personal choice, and whatever someone choses it wouldn't affect my decision to or not to meet them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd not assume a hidden veri is fake, just that the user has some discretion and likes their privacy, to a certain extent. Nothing wrong with that.

If you're ever unsure of someone, just follow caution and pursue in ways that will help you get a clearer picture of their veracity etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can cause issues if you display them. Jealousy is rife on here.

I display the ones from the organised socials but not others generally. It depends how the mood takes me. "

Exactly. I’ve got a couple I don’t show because of who they are. Not worth the grief. It’s ridiculous really

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