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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So last night i had the strangest and most bizzare meet ever.

I arranged to have a second meet with a lovely couple that ive already entertained from 3 weeks ago.

They arrived at my house at 20:30 as agreed. I opened the door, greeted them, sat them in the living room and asked them to bear with me for 5 mins as i wash just in the process of removing clothes from my washing machine.

Be with you in 5 mins I said. Gave them the TV remote and asked them to make themselves confortable.

They sat down, i put the kettle on and after about 3 minutes they got up, grabbed their jackets and left.

They messaged me this morning to say that I disrespected them.

OUCH! Im very gutted as she was an absolute stunner of a girl.

Honest opinion please. Is Asking someone to sit down and wait 5mins whilst i make them a Tea and remove my clothing from a washing machine too much to ask?

Even though they said as they were leaving "we be back in half an hour" I sensed from his tone of voice that he wasnt impressed in the slightest.

Yep, i know i fucked up but i was as polite and apologetic about the situation as i could have been.

By far my craziest meet ever. It really was a WTF just happened momment

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's a bit weird especially if you've met them a few time's before. If it had been a new meet then your washing could have waited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were definitely sending out a negative vibe that you thought your washing was more important than them.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

...on the other hand, could the washing have waited?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I just wonder if they told their side, how long they'd say it was. If it was 5 minutes or less then it's fine but there is a point at which it becomes rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last club visit ended with a thank fuck

The middle part was the wtf

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At least you have a lovely clean shirt to wear for the next meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you have a stunning lady in your house but you are doing the washing.... What the fuck is wrong with you lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

They had made the effort to travel to you and arrive punctually. You should have been ready and waiting for them with the kettle already boiled and ignored the washing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you have a stunning lady in your house but you are doing the washing.... What the fuck is wrong with you lol"

I agree

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By *lim Jim 68Man
over a year ago

Guernsey


"So you have a stunning lady in your house but you are doing the washing.... What the fuck is wrong with you lol"

That about sums it up!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"So you have a stunning lady in your house but you are doing the washing.... What the fuck is wrong with you lol"

Good point.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Why did you put the washing on knowing they were coming?

If I visit someone and they put the telly on I find it disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your washing was the issue here , you put it before your meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you need to improve your time management or planning skills.

Either get the washing on earlier, or wait until after your meet.

I mean, I kinda get your point about it just having finished, which might be OK if family or (vanilla) friends turn up - but the situation is different.

If you're entertaining and have made plans to do so, you should make sure that you are filly prepared and ready for your guests.

I threfore can totally understand where they are coming from

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think the key point is that many people assume that others are going to be punctually ready for meets - with some reasons for delay, acceptable for some. When it's just one party that's travelled, that investment has been made and there'd generally be an assumption that the host would be ready.

It's fine to offer a drink to your guests and to make it but I'd not get distracted into washing machine territory when guests have arrived - it seems a little ignorant.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What were you doing with the washing when you took it out of the machine? Draping your pants and socks over the radiators ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Sorry, should have left the washing. It wasn't going to self combust or anything. The worst is you'd have to put it on again after entertaining your guests.

Especially if she was as stunning as you say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just wonder if they told their side, how long they'd say it was. If it was 5 minutes or less then it's fine but there is a point at which it becomes rude. "

Yep! Totally get that but it wasnt the case. The kettle hadn't even boiled and I was still talking to them whilst this was happening. Hows your day been etc... Its not like they were in a dark room with stunned silence.

I know i done wrong but I was half way through it when they arrived.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They had made the effort to travel to you and arrive punctually. You should have been ready and waiting for them with the kettle already boiled and ignored the washing. "

i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic."

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Honestly wouldn't bother me one bit, I don't get the fuss at all. I certainly wouldn't storm out, if a wee thing like that bugged me I would probably make a joke of it that made it clear it shouldn't happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills. "

Totally!! Some people are just a bit precious.. once I'm comfortable with someone my last concern would be 5 minutes of washing.. #firstworldproblems

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your washing was the issue here , you put it before your meet "

Its my routine. Friday night is my washing night. I work most Saturdays and Sunday is my only day off to actually do something.

My punctuality sucks on the best of days. Im always in a rush and very rarely ever arrive on time. if i do, its just in time.

I was hoping they be a little more understandable and forgiving. Whats 5 mins when you have an entire evening ahead of you.

Maybe im just too laid back. Oh well! My loss for sure. There's no denying that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What were you doing with the washing when you took it out of the machine? Draping your pants and socks over the radiators ?"

I have hangers. Clothing comes out, straight onto hangers and i put them upstairs in the airing cupboard.

Nothing was on show. No socks, pants, It was just bad timing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if we'd made the effort and you started faffing about when we'd just arrived I think we'd have got up and left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic."

This is precisely me . This is me all over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

This is precisely me . This is me all over"

Wouldn't worry about it.. if I'm late getting ready then they take me as they find me. I only meet guys I've got to know well and can appreciate a bit of chaos and humour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the scenario provided a good excuse to scoot

Maybe it wasn't the washing at all

I don't think you behaved disrespectfully

'Disrespectful' is another overused term on here

It's only topped by 'preference', 'stunning' and 'exceptional'

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills. "

same I don't get it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find it off-putting if I was them. It was only the second time you had met, I'd expect someone to still be in the trying to impress stage not the we've been mates for years, stick the telly on while I faff around in the kitchen stage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly wouldn't bother me one bit, I don't get the fuss at all. I certainly wouldn't storm out, if a wee thing like that bugged me I would probably make a joke of it that made it clear it shouldn't happen again. "

Well thank you. Reading the comments thus far, i think we are in the slight minority. But hey we are all human and are all different.

Some are laid back and some put real life to one side during a meet and enter a different lifestye with different reasons.

Look! I do understand their point and I did message them to apologise.

Clearly i misread the signals on our first meet. Thought they be a little more relaxed around me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Honestly wouldn't bother me one bit, I don't get the fuss at all. I certainly wouldn't storm out, if a wee thing like that bugged me I would probably make a joke of it that made it clear it shouldn't happen again.

Well thank you. Reading the comments thus far, i think we are in the slight minority. But hey we are all human and are all different.

Some are laid back and some put real life to one side during a meet and enter a different lifestye with different reasons.

Look! I do understand their point and I did message them to apologise.

Clearly i misread the signals on our first meet. Thought they be a little more relaxed around me"

You're clearly not compatible then. What's important to them isn't important to you. It happens.

We went to a guys house once and he turned the telly on. I sat there having taken a long time to get ready, wearing some sort of tiny dress with see through bits and shoes that nearly broke my ankles and felt completely sidelined and a bit foolish, the message I got was "yeah you've made an effort but I've got more important things to do".

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"What were you doing with the washing when you took it out of the machine? Draping your pants and socks over the radiators ?

I have hangers. Clothing comes out, straight onto hangers and i put them upstairs in the airing cupboard.

Nothing was on show. No socks, pants, It was just bad timing

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And that only took five minutes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So last night i had the strangest and most bizzare meet ever.

I arranged to have a second meet with a lovely couple that ive already entertained from 3 weeks ago.

They arrived at my house at 20:30 as agreed. I opened the door, greeted them, sat them in the living room and asked them to bear with me for 5 mins as i wash just in the process of removing clothes from my washing machine.

Be with you in 5 mins I said. Gave them the TV remote and asked them to make themselves confortable.

They sat down, i put the kettle on and after about 3 minutes they got up, grabbed their jackets and left.

They messaged me this morning to say that I disrespected them.

OUCH! Im very gutted as she was an absolute stunner of a girl.

Honest opinion please. Is Asking someone to sit down and wait 5mins whilst i make them a Tea and remove my clothing from a washing machine too much to ask?

Even though they said as they were leaving "we be back in half an hour" I sensed from his tone of voice that he wasnt impressed in the slightest.

Yep, i know i fucked up but i was as polite and apologetic about the situation as i could have been.

By far my craziest meet ever. It really was a WTF just happened momment "

Is asking someone to sit down and wait for five minutes, while you do your chores, too much to ask?

Yup. Its downright bloody rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another nail in the coffin of getting a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They seem a bit uptight leaving because of that. But at the same time it’s a bit weird to do your washing when you have guests over

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They seem a bit uptight leaving because of that. But at the same time it’s a bit weird to do your washing when you have guests over "

I know, the scenario with the washing sounds unfounded but honestly i was already half way through unloading the machine when they arrived.

Well ive learnt a lesson there. I shouldnt assume everyone is as patient, relaxed, undeterred, chilled and understanding as me.

I've got to be On it the moment the door opens.

Learning the hard way I am

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Plan washing a bit better. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I must be the most relaxed meet ever, I've helped a previous meet tidy up after his daughter was collected as he was stressed out as she was collected later than he expected. I've helped another one with his washing and changed the bed with another . Maybe that's the difference between fucking people you become friends with and have a connection with. I seriously would have laughed it off and asked if you want a hand, some real up tight people around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you like being chasted OP?

You seem to recognise that you committed what many would regard as a swinging faux pas, yet chose to post about it

Surely you knew you would get more negative feedback than positive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic."

I agree with this. It seems a bit dramatic.

I mean, if you'd got the ironing board out or starting pairing your socks up then I can understand but 5 minutes of normal life is nothing.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I just wonder if they told their side, how long they'd say it was. If it was 5 minutes or less then it's fine but there is a point at which it becomes rude.

Yep! Totally get that but it wasnt the case. The kettle hadn't even boiled and I was still talking to them whilst this was happening. Hows your day been etc... Its not like they were in a dark room with stunned silence.

I know i done wrong but I was half way through it when they arrived."

Taking your story at face value, I don't think you did anything wrong. You generally find on fab that when a single male OP posts something, the people most likely to reply are those who disagree. They are welcome to their opinion, but it's not the most representative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They seem a bit uptight leaving because of that. But at the same time it’s a bit weird to do your washing when you have guests over

I know, the scenario with the washing sounds unfounded but honestly i was already half way through unloading the machine when they arrived.

Well ive learnt a lesson there. I shouldnt assume everyone is as patient, relaxed, undeterred, chilled and understanding as me.

I've got to be On it the moment the door opens.

Learning the hard way I am

"

Cock in hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rookie error!

The female half of the couple should be treated as a demi Unicorn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I like to get the washing done first when there’s a hot woman in the front room, you wait there Love I’m just soaking my whites.

What fabric softener do you use OP ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you offer to unload on her?

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

You could've maybe timed your laundry better. But they were super extra. Some people are a bit precious.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rookie error!

The female half of the couple should be treated as a demi Unicorn! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked one lady to wait while I cooked a beef stew for the slow cooker, I Like to prep for the week. Anyway long story short I had a Pot Noodle and a wank that evening.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"What were you doing with the washing when you took it out of the machine? Draping your pants and socks over the radiators ?

I have hangers. Clothing comes out, straight onto hangers and i put them upstairs in the airing cupboard.

Nothing was on show. No socks, pants, It was just bad timing

And that only took five minutes?"

That's what I thought. Bet they were there for longer than 5 mins and thought fcuk this.

You might be laid back OP, but some people have to hype themselves up for a meet (especially in someone else's house).

I can understand how then being left hanging while you sorted your smalls might have grated.

It did make me laugh a bit tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I like to get the washing done first when there’s a hot woman in the front room, you wait there Love I’m just soaking my whites.

What fabric softener do you use OP ?"

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked one couple to wait while I cut the lawn and trimmed the hedge. Anyway long story short, I had a very lonely and tearful wank that evening. Although he did give some excellent advice on pruning back a bush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly off topic (apologies as I don’t want to hijack your thread...)

WTF moments ....

Our very first meet was a no show in a local pub. Waiting outside for a taxi, I nipped back into pub for the loo. Came back outside to see a random bloke have a go at hubby. He’d apparently, stumbled out of a taxi, (d*unk) and accused him of following him all night. Cue a scuffle, few punches thrown and hubby twisting the guy up on the floor and restraining him there till the police turned up!!

Free lift home in a riot van though....every cloud and all that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but you should have left the washing

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills. "

I was starting to wonder if I'd missed something too.

If I was them, I'd be chatting to whoever in the kitchen while they were sorting the washing out.

It's not the most sexiest of scenarios, but it does show a human side!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Your washing was the issue here , you put it before your meet

Its my routine. Friday night is my washing night. I work most Saturdays and Sunday is my only day off to actually do something.

My punctuality sucks on the best of days. Im always in a rush and very rarely ever arrive on time. if i do, its just in time.

I was hoping they be a little more understandable and forgiving. Whats 5 mins when you have an entire evening ahead of you.

Maybe im just too laid back. Oh well! My loss for sure. There's no denying that one"

Their loss I think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they wanted you to wait until the end of the meeting so you could do theirs too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked one couple to wait while I cut the lawn and trimmed the hedge. Anyway long story short, I had a very lonely and tearful wank that evening. Although he did give some excellent advice on pruning back a bush. "

I’ve laughed at your comments far more than I should have done!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Blimey, if someone can't wait 5 minutes for someone's full attention!!!

They need a chill pill, especially after you'd met them already.

I'd say it's their loss, not yours OP.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"They seem a bit uptight leaving because of that. But at the same time it’s a bit weird to do your washing when you have guests over

I know, the scenario with the washing sounds unfounded but honestly i was already half way through unloading the machine when they arrived.

Well ive learnt a lesson there. I shouldnt assume everyone is as patient, relaxed, undeterred, chilled and understanding as me.

I've got to be On it the moment the door opens.

Learning the hard way I am

"

Ok, you're adding bits to this as it goes along and started to imply that they're in the wrong. Neither of you are, you're just not compatible.

Some people like their meets to be special occasions upon which the everyday mundane doesn't intrude others are happy to get involved in the detail of people's lives.

Hope your next meets go a bit more smoothly.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Did it really just take you 5 mins? If someone was making me a cuppa and shoved laundry in the drier at the same time I'd barely have noticed that. I'd be more miffed that I turn up on time having made an effort to get given the tv remote and be told to make myself comfortable. I guess they thought having been told that you were going to be a while and weren't taking it seriously.

On a side note people who admit to being poor at time management and always rushing drive me mad. If you know that's you and you make plans why not tell yourself you need to be ready 15 mins/30 mis earlier. I do find it disrespectful to always be running late and think other people's time is less valuable than your own.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I had a meet with a couple. Came to mine, I said I just had to creosote the fence and threw them some overalls and told them to get a wiggle on.

They did a terrible job. Not inviting them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Did it really just take you 5 mins? If someone was making me a cuppa and shoved laundry in the drier at the same time I'd barely have noticed that. I'd be more miffed that I turn up on time having made an effort to get given the tv remote and be told to make myself comfortable. I guess they thought having been told that you were going to be a while and weren't taking it seriously.

On a side note people who admit to being poor at time management and always rushing drive me mad. If you know that's you and you make plans why not tell yourself you need to be ready 15 mins/30 mis earlier. I do find it disrespectful to always be running late and think other people's time is less valuable than your own. "

This. I abhor tardiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey, if someone can't wait 5 minutes for someone's full attention!!!

They need a chill pill, especially after you'd met them already.

I'd say it's their loss, not yours OP. "
Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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They sat down, i put the kettle on and after about 3 minutes they got up, grabbed their jackets and left.

"

I was just having a quick reread.

If they are leaving after 3 minutes maybe they were just impatient. It's going to take a good 5 minutes to make a proper cup of tea anyway.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Don't you realise that you are a single male?

Your purpose in the swinging world is as fuckmeat for couples, and for this you should be grateful. Your life is secondary to them daning to allow you to invite them into your home and offer you the privilege of fucking the woman for their amusement.

What is wrong with you?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Don't you realise that you are a single male?

Your purpose in the swinging world is as fuckmeat for couples, and for this you should be grateful. Your life is secondary to them daning to allow you to invite them into your home and offer you the privilege of fucking the woman for their amusement.

What is wrong with you?"

This

We bring the hoops and you jump through them. What part of your role is unclear OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Did it really just take you 5 mins? If someone was making me a cuppa and shoved laundry in the drier at the same time I'd barely have noticed that. I'd be more miffed that I turn up on time having made an effort to get given the tv remote and be told to make myself comfortable. I guess they thought having been told that you were going to be a while and weren't taking it seriously.

On a side note people who admit to being poor at time management and always rushing drive me mad. If you know that's you and you make plans why not tell yourself you need to be ready 15 mins/30 mis earlier. I do find it disrespectful to always be running late and think other people's time is less valuable than your own. "

Totally agree.

If you acknowledge that you're always running late, you should make the effort to get things done earlier, so that when you inevitably do run a little later than planned, you still end up being ready on time.

Why do you EXPECT OTHERS to allow for or accommodate one of YOUR failings.

If you're late for the bus or the train, do you expect the bus or train company to keep it waiting for when you eventually show up?

What about if you go to see a film and are running late? Want the cinema to keep everyone waiting until you've finally managed to drag yourself to your seat?

There are some things in life that I'm not great at. I have two choices. Do nothing and expect the world to accept me for who I am, or make the effort to do something about it

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Don't you realise that you are a single male?

Your purpose in the swinging world is as fuckmeat for couples, and for this you should be grateful. Your life is secondary to them daning to allow you to invite them into your home and offer you the privilege of fucking the woman for their amusement.

What is wrong with you?

This

We bring the hoops and you jump through them. What part of your role is unclear OP? "

"Dance, Fuckmeat, dance"

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By *arberrys-EventsTV/TS
over a year ago

Great Yarmouth

I feel that i wouldn't have had the washing machine on if I thought it might still be going after they arrived. No one wants to hear domstic duties when playing.

If id have travelled to see someone then id have waited. After all the journey is made and there are expectations.

All in all it was a minor hiccup and people should be more tolerant.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First house meet I had on here was with a couple at their home.When I got there she opened the door in a pink nighty and lead me to the kitchen.She proceeded to unload the washing machine,I just stood there mouth open with a semi-on.It was a good night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They had made the effort to travel to you and arrive punctually. You should have been ready and waiting for them with the kettle already boiled and ignored the washing. "

Agree with this, they turn up on time yet you cant be ready for them on time?

The washing could have waited

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't you realise that you are a single male?

Your purpose in the swinging world is as fuckmeat for couples, and for this you should be grateful. Your life is secondary to them daning to allow you to invite them into your home and offer you the privilege of fucking the woman for their amusement.

What is wrong with you?

This

We bring the hoops and you jump through them. What part of your role is unclear OP?

"Dance, Fuckmeat, dance""

Who's calling the tune here? The one's waiting or the one making them wait. Hoop jumping works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get what their problem was, you were in the kitchen making a tea anyway... I'm not sure I would be that bothered if someone like that left, but I don't think I would attract someone that uptight in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get what their problem was, you were in the kitchen making a tea anyway... I'm not sure I would be that bothered if someone like that left, but I don't think I would attract someone that uptight in the first place "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Don't you realise that you are a single male?

Your purpose in the swinging world is as fuckmeat for couples, and for this you should be grateful. Your life is secondary to them daning to allow you to invite them into your home and offer you the privilege of fucking the woman for their amusement.

What is wrong with you?

This

We bring the hoops and you jump through them. What part of your role is unclear OP?

"Dance, Fuckmeat, dance"

Who's calling the tune here? The one's waiting or the one making them wait. Hoop jumping works both ways."

For 5 whole minutes after inviting them into his home!

And he had the insolence to put the kettle on!

I agree, he is not showing them the fealty they command. He should realise that he is nothing more than their toy, there for their amusement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez some people make meeting such hard work. Clearly just incompatibility applies here op. Get to know your meets better before actually meeting. That's my advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez some people make meeting such hard work. Clearly just incompatibility applies here op. Get to know your meets better before actually meeting. That's my advice. "

He had already met them though so you would assume they liked each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez some people make meeting such hard work. Clearly just incompatibility applies here op. Get to know your meets better before actually meeting. That's my advice.

He had already met them though so you would assume they liked each other "

Just because he'd met them doesn't mean he got to know them.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I don't get what their problem was, you were in the kitchen making a tea anyway... I'm not sure I would be that bothered if someone like that left, but I don't think I would attract someone that uptight in the first place "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you like being chasted OP?

You seem to recognise that you committed what many would regard as a swinging faux pas, yet chose to post about it

Surely you knew you would get more negative feedback than positive?"

Not in the slightest. Thought id share my experience and see what people thought.

It bugged me last night, it really did but you know what. I do the same again. It was a normal life situation and if someone doesnt have it in them to wait 5 minutes whilst i finish what id started, quite frankly i dont need pre- Madonnas like that in my life.

Im tough skinned, genuine, normal and honest. Indeed i lost out last night but clearly they arent for me. I cant be around people and pretend to be someone im not. They clearly didn't like what I done and quite frankly I think the way they reacted was somewhat petulant too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you like being chasted OP?

You seem to recognise that you committed what many would regard as a swinging faux pas, yet chose to post about it

Surely you knew you would get more negative feedback than positive?

Not in the slightest. Thought id share my experience and see what people thought.

It bugged me last night, it really did but you know what. I do the same again. It was a normal life situation and if someone doesnt have it in them to wait 5 minutes whilst i finish what id started, quite frankly i dont need pre- Madonnas like that in my life.

Im tough skinned, genuine, normal and honest. Indeed i lost out last night but clearly they arent for me. I cant be around people and pretend to be someone im not. They clearly didn't like what I done and quite frankly I think the way they reacted was somewhat petulant too"

I like the cut of your jib

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They seem a bit uptight leaving because of that. But at the same time it’s a bit weird to do your washing when you have guests over

I know, the scenario with the washing sounds unfounded but honestly i was already half way through unloading the machine when they arrived.

Well ive learnt a lesson there. I shouldnt assume everyone is as patient, relaxed, undeterred, chilled and understanding as me.

I've got to be On it the moment the door opens.

Learning the hard way I am

Cock in hand "

LOL xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know I like to get the washing done first when there’s a hot woman in the front room, you wait there Love I’m just soaking my whites.

What fabric softener do you use OP ?"

Lenor sensations vanilla orchard. . Highly recommend it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you offer to unload on her? "

It didnt get to that stage. Offered them a tea or coffee and thats it. They didnt hang around xx

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

You put wet washing before wet pussy? Are you a man or a mouse ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could've maybe timed your laundry better. But they were super extra. Some people are a bit precious.

Mrs"

I know and hindsight is a wonderful thing. I wasnt expecting them to be bang on 20:30 and was not expecting the washing to have finished at 20:28.

Shit happens and in my case it did lol. At least i have a weird story to tell and remember haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I asked one lady to wait while I cooked a beef stew for the slow cooker, I Like to prep for the week. Anyway long story short I had a Pot Noodle and a wank that evening."

Now that story is a little far fetched and the 2 are no way comparable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I asked one couple to wait while I cut the lawn and trimmed the hedge. Anyway long story short, I had a very lonely and tearful wank that evening. Although he did give some excellent advice on pruning back a bush. "

Yes... Im sure you did. How long ago did this happen then? Grass stops pollinating and growing in the winter months. So this can't have been recent.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Last thing on my mind would be my washing lol waahing wouldnt have been on my mind in the hours leading up either.

Does make me smile, all the woe is me threads about guys not getting meets, and then you read this

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Just does to show the lengths of shallow.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic."

My thoughts too ..

Miss

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Couples and single women would be allowed to do that but not a single guy. You should of had the red carpet rolled out and some champagne on ice waiting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Did it really just take you 5 mins? If someone was making me a cuppa and shoved laundry in the drier at the same time I'd barely have noticed that. I'd be more miffed that I turn up on time having made an effort to get given the tv remote and be told to make myself comfortable. I guess they thought having been told that you were going to be a while and weren't taking it seriously.

On a side note people who admit to being poor at time management and always rushing drive me mad. If you know that's you and you make plans why not tell yourself you need to be ready 15 mins/30 mis earlier. I do find it disrespectful to always be running late and think other people's time is less valuable than your own.

Totally agree.

If you acknowledge that you're always running late, you should make the effort to get things done earlier, so that when you inevitably do run a little later than planned, you still end up being ready on time.

Why do you EXPECT OTHERS to allow for or accommodate one of YOUR failings.

If you're late for the bus or the train, do you expect the bus or train company to keep it waiting for when you eventually show up?

What about if you go to see a film and are running late? Want the cinema to keep everyone waiting until you've finally managed to drag yourself to your seat?

There are some things in life that I'm not great at. I have two choices. Do nothing and expect the world to accept me for who I am, or make the effort to do something about it"

I dont understand your analogy on this.

If im late for the bus, im late. I dont expect the bus to wait for me and i wait foe the next one.

If i arrive late to a football game or a Cinema or whatever it is that has an actual start time; ive merely missed 5 minutes and enjoy the rest of the show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Jeez some people make meeting such hard work. Clearly just incompatibility applies here op. Get to know your meets better before actually meeting. That's my advice. "

The thing is I met them before. They've already been to mine. We have sat in the living room, chatted, got to know each other better and then played.

This was round 2. If i was a dick then, they would have found this out during the first 4 hour meet we had.

Oh well . Onwards and upwards

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Jeez some people make meeting such hard work. Clearly just incompatibility applies here op. Get to know your meets better before actually meeting. That's my advice.

The thing is I met them before. They've already been to mine. We have sat in the living room, chatted, got to know each other better and then played.

This was round 2. If i was a dick then, they would have found this out during the first 4 hour meet we had.

Oh well . Onwards and upwards "

I think that's the best attitude to have. You did something they didn't like, they did something you didn't like. Everyone involved missed out on a meet. Life rolls inexorably on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You put wet washing before wet pussy? Are you a man or a mouse ? "

Im a self sufficient, domesticated, successfull single guy who has been raised well by mum and dad values .

I can cook, clean, iron, own my own house, have a decent job. Dont do meets very well though LOL

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Just does to show the lengths of shallow. "

'Go's'. I wouldn't worry about it. Not worth your time.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Did you offer to unload on her?

It didnt get to that stage. Offered them a tea or coffee and thats it. They didnt hang around xx"

You bastard! How dare you offer them a warm beverage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP i think you were perfectly fine in doing that.

I think they behaved like prima donnas.

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By *vcarolTV/TS
over a year ago

kilmarnockish


"Sorry but you should have left the washing "

I think with hindsight this is what you should have done. Yes?

But, no one is perfect in the time management especially me.

ALso when you go into someone’s house, you get them, the mess and a snapshot of there life, warts and all!

They should have started without you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you offer to unload on her?

It didnt get to that stage. Offered them a tea or coffee and thats it. They didnt hang around xx

You bastard! How dare you offer them a warm beverage. "

LOL This made me chuckle LOL. Nice one fella

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"You put wet washing before wet pussy? Are you a man or a mouse ? "

Of course! If he was a real man, as soon as his meet arrived, he'd be straight up it, wouldn't even say hello.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Jeez some people make meeting such hard work. Clearly just incompatibility applies here op. Get to know your meets better before actually meeting. That's my advice.

The thing is I met them before. They've already been to mine. We have sat in the living room, chatted, got to know each other better and then played.

This was round 2. If i was a dick then, they would have found this out during the first 4 hour meet we had.

Oh well . Onwards and upwards

I think that's the best attitude to have. You did something they didn't like, they did something you didn't like. Everyone involved missed out on a meet. Life rolls inexorably on.

"

This about sums it up perfectly - I can see both sides here, and neither is particularly wrong, just differing values and conceptions/expectations.

The moment has passed and no real value in picking over it - just have to take it on the chin and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problem is that I would have asked if you needed a hand. Or just went and got us all drinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would change bed sheets with you any day

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Did you offer to unload on her?

It didnt get to that stage. Offered them a tea or coffee and thats it. They didnt hang around xx

You bastard! How dare you offer them a warm beverage. "

That made me laugh a bit to much

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

Those of you complaining about people who can't "get their act together and be on time for stuff", thank you for being so understanding about people with hidden disabilities.

There are many conditions which means no matter how hard you try, you are always disorganised and late.

For me personally, it's anxiety that causes it (and it doesn't matter if I've met the person before).

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

What a great idea..my round trip to pick up my FB is about two hours...if I put my washing on before I leave she can help me hang it out when we get back

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I once made a meet wait outside while I kicked someone else out

Don't swear it op. Some people are just uptight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked another couple to wait, while I popped out to do the big shop at Asda, I’d run out of Rola Cola. But they wouldn’t wait, I thought everybody loved Rola Cola, but not this pair.

I can tell you it was a very sad and lonely wank that evening, but at least my cupboards and fridge were full.

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By *hrobbermanMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Of course the stunning woman should have gone to sort the washing out, made you and her fella a cup of tea and brought some biscuits in her handbag. Then sucked both your cocks at once while you guys slurped tea and munched the Hob-Nobs.

Lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’ve one of them. She ended up pissed and in tears and claimed I stole her hairbrush... very weird meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah I’ve one of them. She ended up pissed and in tears and claimed I stole her hairbrush... very weird meet "

WOW! Was she okay? Sounds like a fruit loop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I’ve one of them. She ended up pissed and in tears and claimed I stole her hairbrush... very weird meet

WOW! Was she okay? Sounds like a fruit loop "

I think so - I don’t think she was cut out for a situation where she went to meet a stranger on the proviso that there would be sex happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see both sides, if it was just 5 minutes though it does seem hasty to leave. I’ve helped someone serve dinner in a b & b before we got down to sex. It probably depends how well you know someone though.

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

Wouldn't have bothered me, if in a building environment hotel or house I tend to have a more formal chilled out approach. I stayed at one place and he generally did most day to day things. Only thing he didn't do was go anywhere unless I came to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked another couple to wait in the front room, while I decorated the spare room, but they offered to help. She was actually very good at cutting into the corners and he was very good on the roller.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously, if someone can't wait 5 minutes for you to empty your washing machine they got issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be impressed that a man was actually doing washing and knows how to use a washing machine come do mine and I’ll watch you if you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all."

What you like at painting ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously, if someone can't wait 5 minutes for you to empty your washing machine they got issues."

Washing machine, he was down the stream with a bar of soap and a washboard ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all.

What you like at painting ?"

Shit hot actually, I love decorating

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Could of asked her to make the tea while you sorted the washing .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be impressed that a man was actually doing washing and knows how to use a washing machine come do mine and I’ll watch you if you like "

If you’re impressed with that you should see me load the dish washer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be impressed that a man was actually doing washing and knows how to use a washing machine come do mine and I’ll watch you if you like

If you’re impressed with that you should see me load the dish washer."

Oooh please stop... you’re getting me all hot and flustered now

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It wouldn’t have bothered me in the slightest, some people just seem to highly strung, I mean did they expect to walk in the door and start fucking? I prefer a natter and a relax before anything starts, so you wood have plenty of time to sort ya small out

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"It wouldn’t have bothered me in the slightest, some people just seem to highly strung, I mean did they expect to walk in the door and start fucking? I prefer a natter and a relax before anything starts, so you wood have plenty of time to sort ya small out "

#wood WTF

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all."

Why? Presumably he was also putting the kettle on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all.

Why? Presumably he was also putting the kettle on.

"

Just preference. I know a lot of people like having a cup of tea/chat beforehand but I don't, so I'd see it as an anti-climax to arrive mid chores.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my meet couldn't wait for the time it takes to boil a kettle and make a cuppa or didnt want to chat before getting down to it I think I would feel a bit used to be honest, there is no meter running, what's their bloody rush?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A previous GF was v similar in attitude. It wasn't about the time (1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes or whatever) it was about her BF making an effort and being attentive when she first walked in. Made her feel special. I totally got it.

Remember what they say about job interviews - you have 30 seconds, maybe a minute max to make the right impression. If you don't it is really hard to recover.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

hahaha i love that you made sure your household chores were completed hahaha this site makes me howl. if im ever having a bad day i come on here and have a good laugh...perks me right up.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"If my meet couldn't wait for the time it takes to boil a kettle and make a cuppa or didnt want to chat before getting down to it I think I would feel a bit used to be honest, there is no meter running, what's their bloody rush? "

People have got lives to lead lady!

You are supposed to assume the position immediately.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"A previous GF was v similar in attitude. It wasn't about the time (1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes or whatever) it was about her BF making an effort and being attentive when she first walked in. Made her feel special. I totally got it.

Remember what they say about job interviews - you have 30 seconds, maybe a minute max to make the right impression. If you don't it is really hard to recover."

Because there's nothing more fun that a swinging meet that feels like a job interview

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over a year ago


"I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all.

Why? Presumably he was also putting the kettle on.

Just preference. I know a lot of people like having a cup of tea/chat beforehand but I don't, so I'd see it as an anti-climax to arrive mid chores. "

Hence my comment about incompatibility and getting to know who you're meeting. Surely you get a feel for if someone's laid back or not during General conversation? You should get indicators as to whether they're gonna be the type of person to be pissed off because you spend a bit of time putting the kettle on

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over a year ago


"I asked one couple to wait while I cut the lawn and trimmed the hedge. Anyway long story short, I had a very lonely and tearful wank that evening. Although he did give some excellent advice on pruning back a bush.

Yes... Im sure you did. How long ago did this happen then? Grass stops pollinating and growing in the winter months. So this can't have been recent.

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It was the Summer of ‘97. When Oasis were flying high in the hit parade and the internet hadn’t been invented yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be angry, but it would kinda kill the mood a bit. Would feel like you weren't excited to see me at all.

Why? Presumably he was also putting the kettle on.

Just preference. I know a lot of people like having a cup of tea/chat beforehand but I don't, so I'd see it as an anti-climax to arrive mid chores.

Hence my comment about incompatibility and getting to know who you're meeting. Surely you get a feel for if someone's laid back or not during General conversation? You should get indicators as to whether they're gonna be the type of person to be pissed off because you spend a bit of time putting the kettle on "

I haven't read the whole thread so haven't seen the earlier comment but totally agree with that. If I was meeting someone they'd be on the same wavelength so that's why I'd be a bit put off to arrive in lingerie and be handed a TV remote. Different if you had all expected a more casual build up anyway though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A previous GF was v similar in attitude. It wasn't about the time (1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes or whatever) it was about her BF making an effort and being attentive when she first walked in. Made her feel special. I totally got it.

Remember what they say about job interviews - you have 30 seconds, maybe a minute max to make the right impression. If you don't it is really hard to recover.

Because there's nothing more fun that a swinging meet that feels like a job interview "

The science of "first impression" is well established and long standing. It applies to all sorts of situations. The job interview is one of the most well know examples. First impressions are just as important in a swinging meet. The OP seems to have rather proved the point :- )

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"A previous GF was v similar in attitude. It wasn't about the time (1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes or whatever) it was about her BF making an effort and being attentive when she first walked in. Made her feel special. I totally got it.

Remember what they say about job interviews - you have 30 seconds, maybe a minute max to make the right impression. If you don't it is really hard to recover.

Because there's nothing more fun that a swinging meet that feels like a job interview

The science of "first impression" is well established and long standing. It applies to all sorts of situations. The job interview is one of the most well know examples. First impressions are just as important in a swinging meet. The OP seems to have rather proved the point :- )"

Other than it wasn't a first impression and they'd already had a previous meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A previous GF was v similar in attitude. It wasn't about the time (1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes or whatever) it was about her BF making an effort and being attentive when she first walked in. Made her feel special. I totally got it.

Remember what they say about job interviews - you have 30 seconds, maybe a minute max to make the right impression. If you don't it is really hard to recover.

Because there's nothing more fun that a swinging meet that feels like a job interview

The science of "first impression" is well established and long standing. It applies to all sorts of situations. The job interview is one of the most well know examples. First impressions are just as important in a swinging meet. The OP seems to have rather proved the point :- )

Other than it wasn't a first impression and they'd already had a previous meet "

Yes but it was that evening :- )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people taking this thread seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least they turned up for a second meet

Fair play mate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At least they turned up for a second meet

Fair play mate!"

And why wouldn't they. Im a nice bloke . If Fab had feedback scores like ebay, id be on 100% positive. Well not quite lol, not after last night haha

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

What I want to know is are they so miffed you didn't drop everything that they've blocked you?!!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"A previous GF was v similar in attitude. It wasn't about the time (1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes or whatever) it was about her BF making an effort and being attentive when she first walked in. Made her feel special. I totally got it.

Remember what they say about job interviews - you have 30 seconds, maybe a minute max to make the right impression. If you don't it is really hard to recover.

Because there's nothing more fun that a swinging meet that feels like a job interview

The science of "first impression" is well established and long standing. It applies to all sorts of situations. The job interview is one of the most well know examples. First impressions are just as important in a swinging meet. The OP seems to have rather proved the point :- )"

Yeah, except one of those is for s career that will hopefully pay the bills and keep a roof over your head.

The other is for a few hours of an evening where you get to fuck someone else's wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never underestimate the true value of a couple!

It is an honour and a priveledge to be invited into their sex life ans as a single guy you should have cancelled absoluty everything in your life to be at their beck and call. I routinely resign from my job to ensure I can be available for couples as it suits them

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Definitely a cock up on your part OP.

Anyone who assumes I want to watch their telly, Fab or vanilla is disrespectful in my opinion.

I am not a toddler that will be entertained by being plonked in front of a TV

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely a cock up on your part OP.

Anyone who assumes I want to watch their telly, Fab or vanilla is disrespectful in my opinion.

I am not a toddler that will be entertained by being plonked in front of a TV "

not even for 5 minutes whilst he fixes refreshments? Maybe he was *ahem* clearing the pipes. He said he was sorting his washing. Maybe he was sorting out a fresh load

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

You did say there arrived at 20.30 "as arranged", so what do you think they were thinking when you still had "chores" to do? Couldn't be arsed to be ready on time is just one possibility.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"not even for 5 minutes whilst he fixes refreshments? Maybe he was *ahem* clearing the pipes. He said he was sorting his washing. Maybe he was sorting out a fresh load "

No, TV is brain dead entertainment. I know drinks need fixing but one can talk through that, even men can I believe

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Definitely a cock up on your part OP.

Anyone who assumes I want to watch their telly, Fab or vanilla is disrespectful in my opinion.

I am not a toddler that will be entertained by being plonked in front of a TV "

I can be entertained for hours with a colouring book

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I suppose the couple could of been a bit more proactive and tried to put the OP off his domestic duties, I know I would of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe chatting about sex turned them on to themselves. …………. so no need for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The people taking this thread seriously "

If only we were all as intelligent as you at spotting when someone's joking. Then you'd have no one to give smart arse comments to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I want to know is are they so miffed you didn't drop everything that they've blocked you?!!"

Surprisingly they havent blocked me and still on thier friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The people taking this thread seriously

If only we were all as intelligent as you at spotting when someone's joking. Then you'd have no one to give smart arse comments to. "

Not every comment is aimed at you, as much as you like to think it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You did say there arrived at 20.30 "as arranged", so what do you think they were thinking when you still had "chores" to do? Couldn't be arsed to be ready on time is just one possibility. "

Finished work at 6 and was rushing around like a blue ass fly trying to get everything ready.

Hand on heart thats the truth. Hence why i was peraonally miffed about the situation. Its not like i was sitting on my backside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I want to know is are they so miffed you didn't drop everything that they've blocked you?!!

Surprisingly they havent blocked me and still on thier friends list "

Won't be after this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I want to know is are they so miffed you didn't drop everything that they've blocked you?!!

Surprisingly they havent blocked me and still on thier friends list

Won't be after this "

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pre-Madonnas"

Sorry to mock, but this really did make me laugh. It's a good job I wasn't drinking anything at the time - or else it would have been sprayed everywhere.

btw, it's Prima Donnas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pre-Madonnas

Sorry to mock, but this really did make me laugh. It's a good job I wasn't drinking anything at the time - or else it would have been sprayed everywhere.

btw, it's Prima Donnas "

LOL. Indeed. Was thinking one thing and spelt something completely differently. Thanks fir the correction haha

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

It's not weird or bizarre or wtf

I would done same thing

Why would you leave them to do ur fucking washing

Why give them a remote n tell them to watch TV they come all the way on this busy month n

Kettle wtf were to make if they want drinks they would ask u to meet them in a bar or somewhere

They travel to do business not for a fucking tv or coffee

U fucked up big time

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's likely the straw that broke the camels back I'd guess.

If you have a crisis, tell people. If it's not, then just give your undivided attention to the people you are with.

I was hoping this thread was going to be full of some OMG meet moments though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills.

same I don't get it either"

I'm still scratching my head as to what the actual "offense" was?!?

Putting the kettle on?!

I don't get it xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills.

same I don't get it either

I'm still scratching my head as to what the actual "offense" was?!?

Putting the kettle on?!

I don't get it xx"

Not giving them his undivided attention from what I can work out. All hail the couples!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not weird or bizarre or wtf

I would done same thing

Why would you leave them to do ur fucking washing

Why give them a remote n tell them to watch TV they come all the way on this busy month n

Kettle wtf were to make if they want drinks they would ask u to meet them in a bar or somewhere

They travel to do business not for a fucking tv or coffee

U fucked up big time "

Well unlike your meets i always welcome my guests at home. Sit them down on the sofa, have a chat, offer them a drink, get them relaxed. Thats what normal people do.

Not sure what sort of people you meet but i dont meet them just for business as you put it so eloquently.

Thanks for the advice but im happy doing things my way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's likely the straw that broke the camels back I'd guess.

If you have a crisis, tell people. If it's not, then just give your undivided attention to the people you are with.

I was hoping this thread was going to be full of some OMG meet moments though "

Thats what i was hoping for. I believe there have been 2 comments only in this thread based on their experience, rather than my debacle last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not weird or bizarre or wtf

I would done same thing

Why would you leave them to do ur fucking washing

Why give them a remote n tell them to watch TV they come all the way on this busy month n

Kettle wtf were to make if they want drinks they would ask u to meet them in a bar or somewhere

They travel to do business not for a fucking tv or coffee

U fucked up big time

Well unlike your meets i always welcome my guests at home. Sit them down on the sofa, have a chat, offer them a drink, get them relaxed. Thats what normal people do.

Not sure what sort of people you meet but i dont meet them just for business as you put it so eloquently.

Thanks for the advice but im happy doing things my way"

Sounds very welcoming and reasonable to me. Don't change xx

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"It's not weird or bizarre or wtf

I would done same thing

Why would you leave them to do ur fucking washing

Why give them a remote n tell them to watch TV they come all the way on this busy month n

Kettle wtf were to make if they want drinks they would ask u to meet them in a bar or somewhere

They travel to do business not for a fucking tv or coffee

U fucked up big time "

So when you invite people into your home, you just get straight on with it, do you?

I see you take your duty as fuckmeat very seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I honestly don't get it.. maybe I'm too laid back to be offended by 5 minutes of normal life. If I'm making someone a brew and and greeting them I'll faff around as I normally would... I'd be more weirded out if everything was set up perfectly! Personally think it's a little dramatic.

Do you know what...I was reading this thinking exactly the same thing. I thought I was missing something. When I meet someone it's because I feel relaxed enough and comfortable enough to meet them. Something like emptying the washing machine wouldn't have me running for the hills.

same I don't get it either

I'm still scratching my head as to what the actual "offense" was?!?

Putting the kettle on?!

I don't get it xx

Not giving them his undivided attention from what I can work out. All hail the couples!!!! "

Precisely this

They messaged me this morning to say that i was out of order and that dis respected them, asking them to wait.

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