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By *xCurvySwingxX OP   Couple
over a year ago

cambridge

Hi all, were relatively new to the scene. Have only been to a club (VA) twice.

On the first occasion, we enjoyed a very soft swing in that a lady(who was part of a couple) joined in in giving mr c2c head. Both of us enjoyed it, but didn’t go any further. On the second visit, we were up for pushing boundaries further, but the atmosphere on that particular night was all wrong. A few very d*unk men staggering around, some fully clothed, which was an issue for us right off the bat! We didn’t really strike up conversation with anybody, which left us deflated.

We are absolutely up for exploration with another couple or possible single of either sex (mr is 100% straight though) and don’t really know how to find it.

We’re uncomfortable with private meets and would prefer a club, but visits are few and far between due to our kids and finding sitters etc!

Whilst the idea of plying is a huge turn on for both of us, neither of us know how we will react when it actually happens. We’re sure this is just nerves, and all will be fun on the night, but we’d both just like to hear others stories and experiences.

We realise we are not hugely desirable, in that neither of us are body perfect! We fancy the pants off each other though, which is, I guess, the most important thing.

We have been together for 17years and married for 14....so our love for each other is absolute. We are just looking for a little something extra, which we can both put in our ‘box’ for unearthing periodically (when we’re Uber horny!!!)

Be interested in any advise you can offer

C2C

Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we felt elated after our first experience I would say don't overthink it but also don't do it if you have serious doubts.

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By *xCurvySwingxX OP   Couple
over a year ago

cambridge

Thanks.

We were elated after our first experience....for days

We don’t have doubts, we absolutely want to explore, just wanted some other thoughts and feelings from people who have been there before!

We have been to agde a few times also, and enjoyed ourselves on the beach.... we are very open minded and will be heading back to VA when we can!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Maybe look to attend a club on a couples only night with the intention of socialising only.

If anything more happens it's a bonus.

As for not being desireable. I would say you have normal figures, as do most of us.

If you feel undesirable at VA try a different club. Most clubs we have attended have a wide range of ages, shapes and sizes.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember our first meet, it was for a social that turned into a play meet. I was shaking with nerves as we went in, but it was definitely an experience we wanted to try again. But we had already talked through what we wanted so everything went the way we liked. Neither of us felt pressured to do anything we didn’t. So for us it was a good introduction to swinging x

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

If your not happy with VA then there is always Jaydee's a couple of miles down the road, alot cheaper aswell at £25 for couple's and bring your own drink. We don't wish to do a PA job for the club but we have found it so much more friendly than the aforementioned with alot more private areas.

Just take your time and find your feet in the swinging world, it's a marathon not a sprint.

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

A few things spring to mind. We know we definitely not most people's cup of tea, so we go with the mindset that we're going to have fun together and it doesn't matter to us if we don't even speak to anyone else. I think if you go expecting an amazing time every time you'll either be disappointed or find yourself perhaps changing what you'd already agreed to make something happen - that way regrets lie!

I think every club changes slightly depending on who's going and the vibe that night- just because it's off one night may not mean it will another. But you can help improve your chances by a bit of work first. Choose a night/club that suits you and what you're looking for - look at the reviews and their websites. Think about the layout- Jaydees has lots of private rooms for example while VA has none - does that matter to you? Check the meets and the threads beforehand- we're not good at spontaneous (no radar!) so we've usually arranged that we'd at least say hi to someone first.

Finally - there's no rush, and getting it right is better than getting it soon!

Bon Chance!

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