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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How good are you at them? Im crap really or was. I had a few that lasted up to about a year, three that lasted about 18 months. Two that lasted just over 4 years. I worked this out one night during one of my insomina nights and me and Jay celebrate 5 years together in may but working it out by months in January it will be the longest relationship ive ever been in at nearly 47

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL I managed 3 years then 5 years then 8 years then 12. Seemed to be getting better at it each time but to be honest these days can't be bothered to break a new one in xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't do Relationships longest was 5 years from 13 to 18 not had a relationship since. And I don't know how to be have been on my own for that long.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"LOL I managed 3 years then 5 years then 8 years then 12. Seemed to be getting better at it each time but to be honest these days can't be bothered to break a new one in xxxxx"

If god forbid anything happened to me and jay, id stay on my own. Wouldnt want another one. Jays spoilt me for anyone else anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just rubbish full stop at relationships, thats why im single lol ive just given up on them now because i know there no point as i'll only end up single again so may as well cut middle man out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id like to think i'll have one sometime. Longest so far has been 6 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had one long term relationship and it's been 30 years next June, so I think we got it right first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

25 years with my husband. I had his mum over for Christmas day and we speak most days. July would have been our 30th wedding anniversary.

My current friend has been in my life four years.

I've only had one other boyfriend and that was nearly two years.

I'm good at relationships.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

How long is a relationship supposed to last ?

A relationship is just that.

How do you judge it a failure? Because you didn't die first ?

Some odd thoughts go on in here.

A relationship is good for as long as it's good.

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By *in4sumMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"How long is a relationship supposed to last ?

A relationship is just that.

How do you judge it a failure? Because you didn't die first ?

Some odd thoughts go on in here.

A relationship is good for as long as it's good. "

+1

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"How long is a relationship supposed to last ?

A relationship is just that.

How do you judge it a failure? Because you didn't die first ?

Some odd thoughts go on in here.

A relationship is good for as long as it's good. "

I cant see anywhere where anyone has said they are a failure because they cant/dont want to hold down a long term relationship

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By *arumcoupleCouple
over a year ago

salisbury

Erm 36 Years married !! Known each other over 40!! Guess thats a resonable time !!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I seem to meet complete utter dicks!! I was married for 3 yrs but the actual marriage lasted 3 weeks he forgot to mention he was seeing someone else. We lived together for 3 years as I was to proud to go back to England.

I had a 4 year relationship with a guy in the army.

Had a 2 year abusive relationship and the odd 6 months here and there.... maybe 2012 is my year!! haha

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"How good are you at them? Im crap really or was. I had a few that lasted up to about a year, three that lasted about 18 months. Two that lasted just over 4 years. I worked this out one night during one of my insomina nights and me and Jay celebrate 5 years together in may but working it out by months in January it will be the longest relationship ive ever been in at nearly 47"

ive only ever been in one relationship...22 years and counting...so i suppoe i'm fab at them

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

I've been with Mr A since 2days before my 18th birthday, and still going strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few relationships... The good ones tend to make you a better person and you can take that into your next relashionship.

Hope to meet a new soul mate soon.. But I can't have a relashinship with just anyone.. Special people don't come that offern ;(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10yrs was my best, 6yrs of them we were married, i should have left him after 1 the cheatin scumbag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have been married for 30 years, some things i am good at, some things i am not, same as everyone else really.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

long term relationship here too been together since 1975 and married in 1977

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

First relationship was 13 years, second one was 18 months, latest one was 6 months. At this rate my next one will be two weeks so best to stay single I reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first one lasted from when we were 10 until about 28 we married at 20

My second (daughters mum) was married to for five years

My third lasted 9 years (we never married)

And I've been with Wendy now for 12 months in January

So yeah I like things that last but I do know Wendy will be my final one whatever happens xx

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Met at school and still together 26 years later xxx

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By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset

Nine months for me, my own fault for always being so busy, she hardly ever seen me.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Pretty ok with relationships overall, one lasted 19 years, the present one almost 6 and going well.

I read somewhere the following : Some people come into your life for a season and some come into your life for a reason.

On that note I would kind of agree with what Granny said...

Relationships dont have to last for a certain amount of time.. and I dont see the break up of a relationship as a failure necessarily. It may just mean that the relationship has run its course?

From that stance I find it easier to remain friends with some people...

Happy new Year to everybody btw xx

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

This is both our longest relationship. We've been together coming up 8 years now, married for almost 3.

Prior to this my longest relationship was 4 years.

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another point to stimulate your brain cells.

Some people choose "life" partners, others move from one relationship to another.

Both types are ok, polygamy and monogamy are something else though.

I wonder if people who are in a polygamous relationship see themselves as being in a stable relationship?

Swinging isn't the same as polygamy, but I wonder if any people on here practice polygamy?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I would happily practice polygamy ..... not polyandry though.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I practice monopoly....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I practice monopoly...."

Ya took a chance wi that on boom boom xx

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I practice monopoly....

Ya took a chance wi that on boom boom xx"
Think I d like to practice polyphony with your bottom...;-) xx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"Another point to stimulate your brain cells.

Some people choose "life" partners, others move from one relationship to another.

Both types are ok, polygamy and monogamy are something else though.

I wonder if people who are in a polygamous relationship see themselves as being in a stable relationship?

Swinging isn't the same as polygamy, but I wonder if any people on here practice polygamy?"

I live with 2 people that are married. We met on another site when we went to a social together. We had a 3sum, but because of the distance chatted a lot on msn and phone. So found we had a lot of mutual interests, and that we got on great together.

2 years on their lodger was moving out, and they wanted another. I moved in, because I was bored where I was, and it was a good opportunity. 3 years, I'm still here.

We still have sex occasionally, they are 2 of my best friends, and I love their daughters (who call me Aunty Katie), like the nieces we tell people they are.

It's not a polygamy relationship, I know their relationship is the most important thing, but sometimes it comes close.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Consider myself pretty lucky as have been with MrB for 20 years now....still going strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I practice monopoly....

Ya took a chance wi that on boom boom xxThink I d like to practice polyphony with your bottom...;-) xx"

xx

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester

4 years

8 years then 10 years

so not bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 years with my husband till we divorced then 7 years with my lovely till he was killed.

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple
over a year ago

Douglas

Next month will be 22yrs together for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2012 will be our Eleventh year together xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been married to the same guy for 40 + years since i was 16

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18 year to my ex hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2012 will be our Eleventh year together xxx"

Same here!!! Before that 3 years also had an 18 month!! I dont think i do to bad with relationships considering i normally go for the 'bad boys'!!!

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

Rhett is currently my shortest so far but is also the best. I have to thank my past relationships because without them I woudn't be here now. We met at the right time and are blissfully happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just the one relationship of 28 yrs and counting with the mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was with my ex from 15 to 50 and totally faithfull so i was gfood at it ......he wasnt !!!!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I am very good at long term relationships....having been very happily married for 27 years

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes


"been married to the same guy for 40 + years since i was 16 "

wooooooooooow, medals heading in your direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes two to make a marriage work. How do you know which one is to blame when a marriage doesnt work? and if you have only been married once how do you know if it really is a good marriage if you have nothing to compare it to?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Definition of a "good relationship" to me is that I can be totally myself with the other person, that he will accept me for what I am and not try and change me in any way. It also means mutual trust, respect and shared values (not necessarily shared opinions) and a feeling of being "more complete" with him.

It also means passion and good sex but the friendship aspect comes before that.

Others may value different things in a relationship...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

40 years this year with my gal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been with my husband since i was 16 11yrs and to be honest i wouldnt know where to start if i was single lol been soo long and i was young when i met him with little experience. But i wouldnt swop him for the world its all about finding the right person for you. I beleive theres atleast one person out there for everyone its just finding those people. But those who experience relatioships that dont last i wouldnt give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How good are you at them? Im crap really or was. I had a few that lasted up to about a year, three that lasted about 18 months. Two that lasted just over 4 years. I worked this out one night during one of my insomina nights and me and Jay celebrate 5 years together in may but working it out by months in January it will be the longest relationship ive ever been in at nearly 47"

first one sep 1988-aug 1995

second one dec 1995-now

third one july 2006-now (if ya count a LT fb)

so i've had lasting relationships, the key (i believe) being that i've either been honest with them from the start or have levelled with about my sexuality / sexual needs at some point early on.

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

We have been together 39 years and married for 37. Not boasting just proud of it.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"We have been together 39 years and married for 37. Not boasting just proud of it. "

Congrats to you both, good to see there are a few of us long termers around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years with a no-gooder who stole from me; then 10y with my ex hubby (married for 7y); left him for my late partner and spent 4 good years together until he died of an accident; then 5 months with a mistake that I would like to forget; single in between, and have been single since Jul 2010.

I am too set in my own ways and independent to be able to conform to a normal relationship and live with another person under the same roof full time.

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Same to you. Nothing beats a long term relationship in my opinion.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am too set in my own ways and independent to be able to conform to a normal relationship and live with another person under the same roof full time.

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that's why myself and mrs bus prefer to keep seperate houses. if we were under the same roof 24/7, one of us would now be under the patio !

unconventional set-up, but it works for us and that's what makes the bond we have stronger as neither of us works to the set 'norm' and assume that it must work either in a certain way or it isn't working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years this year with Nick.

sometimes it works and sometimes its fucked up but im happy with this and he is lol

but communication is the key

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