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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

As a young, handsome gentleman (according to my mother) I am finding it surprisingly difficult to get a decent convo, let alone a meet out of you beauties. So either my mother tells fibs or it's something I said.

Women especially, what makes a GOOD first message, what do you like to hear? Should they be short and sweet or a short essay? Straight to the point or get to know? Opinions please

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

There are lots of good first messages but thereisn't one you can send to everyone. Individual ones take the most time but are more likley to work and ones based on someone's profile I would say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what makes something good, but I just say hello and make a point of showing that the message is for that individual, and not some carpet bombing. Never had a problem striking up a rapport here.

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"There are lots of good first messages but thereisn't one you can send to everyone. Individual ones take the most time but are more likley to work and ones based on someone's profile I would say. "

Very true there must be some do's if there are don'ts though, what about you personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say don't be pushy. It's more straightforward for me in that regard as I'm rarely back in the UK, so I'm making friendships and not thinking about trying to sleep with somebody yesterday already. On the occasions I contact somebody it's because I find them likable first and foremost.

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there."

Like bait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there."

Enough said.

Most will view your profile before even looking at your message, so you should make sure that it is the best that it can possibly be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally the first line would put me off (not because Iv had hundreds lol)

It just sounds judgy

Judgy+casual sex doesn't work

For me

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I'd say don't be pushy. It's more straightforward for me in that regard as I'm rarely back in the UK, so I'm making friendships and not thinking about trying to sleep with somebody yesterday already. On the occasions I contact somebody it's because I find them likable first and foremost."

Yh can't be pushy, need to let it drop naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there.

Enough said.

Most will view your profile before even looking at your message, so you should make sure that it is the best that it can possibly be.

"

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's not so much the content of the message but the person who sends it which decides if I reply. I'd look at a profile and see how they come across and if there's an attraction before I even open the message.

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Personally the first line would put me off (not because Iv had hundreds lol)

It just sounds judgy

Judgy+casual sex doesn't work

For me "

It's not necessarily a bad thing just something I don't like

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there.

Enough said.

Most will view your profile before even looking at your message, so you should make sure that it is the best that it can possibly be.

I agree, so suggest you like their profile

Exactly. "

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

I would recommend you start your message with something like...

Can I tongue punch you in your fart box ?

Failing that try the old tried and trusted FAF message....

They will be beating a path to your door.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there.

Enough said.

Most will view your profile before even looking at your message, so you should make sure that it is the best that it can possibly be.

I agree, so suggest you like their profile

Exactly. "

No, I’m not implying *their* profile has an issue.

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Yeah it's not so much the content of the message but the person who sends it which decides if I reply. I'd look at a profile and see how they come across and if there's an attraction before I even open the message. "
it is all about the person true

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I would recommend you start your message with something like...

Can I tongue punch you in your fart box ?

Failing that try the old tried and trusted FAF message....

They will be beating a path to your door..... "

made my day

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By *opman0192286 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"A first message brings you to someone’s profile.

I’ll stop there.

Enough said.

Most will view your profile before even looking at your message, so you should make sure that it is the best that it can possibly be.

I agree, so suggest you like their profile

Oh, I should start a new thread topic then

Exactly.

No, I’m not implying *their* profile has an issue. "

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