FabSwingers.com forum: Support and public awareness

By *uciyass OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

So from an earlier thread that was from a member who was clearly looking for support and advice due to depression. What should we as fab members do to help these people.

We sit miles away from these people trying to offer support or any help we can not knowing whether it will make a difference or not

Some advice could possibly break the rules of fab as in providing contact information which by the rules of fab is not allowed but my question is should certain circumstances override rules and regulations to provide support to others who genuinely need it. Or should we just sit back and say nothing for fear we break the rules ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to google help lines and pass them on to them or advise the person in need of help what to google.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be different for everyone

What works and helps one person may not have the same effect on others.

Also even though have done it myself, discussing on social media can make things worse not better, especially if you are like me and compare yourselves to others. Can feel others are coping better or your problems are not as bad as others.

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By *uciyass OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

"Better to google help lines and pass them on to them or advise the person in need of help what to google. "

But my question if you were to post details such as that in the thread rather than in a PM would it be the right thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Better to google help lines and pass them on to them or advise the person in need of help what to google.

But my question if you were to post details such as that in the thread rather than in a PM would it be the right thing to do "

In what way?

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By *uciyass OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

"Better to google help lines and pass them on to them or advise the person in need of help what to google.

But my question if you were to post details such as that in the thread rather than in a PM would it be the right thing to do

In what way? "

Well as we know the rules of the site say you should not post contact details emails websites etc in the forums but say someone was crying out for help and saying things that you were concerned about. And you tried to PM them but they had blocked all messages so to try help them you posted in the thread details of where they could get support. Your not advertising a competitor website only a support group or professional support group. This means your breaking the fab rules So should you just go ahead and post or basically say Jump to avoid a telling off from the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to think admin would have the sense that people were genuinely trying to help someone who is crying out for help.

However, sadly,I doubt that would be the case,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have posted a link to a domestic violence website and one to a men’s specific depression group - both posts removed.

Sadly, it’s not flexible.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Get creative. You can signpost without giving the specific address.

It is a shame we can post news articles but not support networks.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Get creative. You can signpost without giving the specific address.

It is a shame we can post news articles but not support networks. "

It is a shame, some people have some very useful information on here, for us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get creative. You can signpost without giving the specific address.

It is a shame we can post news articles but not support networks. "

Oddly I did with the men’s support group - it wasn’t a link posted, but still taken down.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"Get creative. You can signpost without giving the specific address.

It is a shame we can post news articles but not support networks.

Oddly I did with the men’s support group - it wasn’t a link posted, but still taken down. "

That sucks.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Get creative. You can signpost without giving the specific address.

It is a shame we can post news articles but not support networks.

Oddly I did with the men’s support group - it wasn’t a link posted, but still taken down. "

Doesn't make sense to me Estella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know that was a rule. It doesn't make much sense to me if they are genuine support services and could actually help a person in need.

To answer the OP's question I'd risk the ban and post it anyway, I'd hate to think I could've helped someone and didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Better to google help lines and pass them on to them or advise the person in need of help what to google.

But my question if you were to post details such as that in the thread rather than in a PM would it be the right thing to do

In what way?

I'd give enough information for the person to Google it. If they're on here they have the internet so they can Google.

I wouldn't tell someone to jump just so that I'd avoid a forum ban.

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