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By *inkylovers09 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We would just like to know single mens opinion about paying for hotels?

If your willing to pay would you expect or like a lady to visit you longer than an hour or two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you expecting the single men to pay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No that would be fine if I was spending the night in it.I wouldn't pay for one if it were for a female as that is just paying for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should they pay?

Can't you go halves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone told me they “expected” anything of me they can do one. And it should be halves on a hotel. Why should one person pay?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"We would just like to know single mens opinion about paying for hotels?

If your willing to pay would you expect or like a lady to visit you longer than an hour or two? "
If I'm staying in the hotel on business etc I wouldn't expect the lady to pay a penny. If I arrange to meet in a hotel I would expect to pay half. I wouldn't pay for a couple to stay in a hotel and go and visit them for a couple of hours though. I don't have mug tattooed on my forehead

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By *inkylovers09 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Im not saying one person should pay or we expect them to pay!

Just men say they are willing to pay for a hotel and if they were willing how long is ok to stay for? Thats the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely that would be down to the individual guy. Some may be happy with an hour, some may want you to stay all night.

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By *inkylovers09 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

This is why we are asking, just wanted to get single mens opinion.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Im not saying one person should pay or we expect them to pay!

Just men say they are willing to pay for a hotel and if they were willing how long is ok to stay for? Thats the question "
if you're arranging to meet there and their not staying there, you should pay half.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"We would just like to know single mens opinion about paying for hotels?

If your willing to pay would you expect or like a lady to visit you longer than an hour or two? "

Isn't that a" how long is a piece if string" type question?

Depends on how well the meet goes, how good the sex is, and whether they need to be somewhere else at a certain time.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't think there's any expectations. Each meet should surely be treated individually and arrangements made that all parties are happy with.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"We would just like to know single mens opinion about paying for hotels?

If your willing to pay would you expect or like a lady to visit you longer than an hour or two?

Isn't that a" how long is a piece if string" type question?

Depends on how well the meet goes, how good the sex is, and whether they need to be somewhere else at a certain time."

Kinda jinx. That's what I was trying to say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will get lots of different answers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We if all get on, stay as long as you like!!! Round three, four or five!!!

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I think if a couple have asked for men to visit them in a hotel room then surely the couple should be paying for the room . If I was meeting a lady or a couple and I had asked them to meet me . I would not expect them to contribute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would just like to know single mens opinion about paying for hotels?

If your willing to pay would you expect or like a lady to visit you longer than an hour or two? "

Personally I'd never pay for a hotel that wasn't been halved between us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve paid and split the bill depending on circumstances

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By *art time deviantsCouple
over a year ago

The mighty fax

If someone messaged us and said how about a hotel meet we wouldn't expect to pay half, we are happy to meet in a club and that's not their thing, then why should we contribute?

Likewise if we had a hotel for us and had a guy come we wouldn't expect anything off him

I would say the question of paying is 1, who makes the suggestion, 2 who gets the room when finished

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I never really get this, isn't it just common courtesy to split the bill? I mean you're both choosing to meet there and hopefully for something you both enjoy.

Unless it's a regular arrangement where you maybe take turns to pay or there's some other arrangement to make things fair then not paying your half just seems rude to me.

If you really are that skint you can't afford it and the other person genuinely doesn't mind then fair enough but that's not many people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never really get this, isn't it just common courtesy to split the bill? I mean you're both choosing to meet there and hopefully for something you both enjoy.

Unless it's a regular arrangement where you maybe take turns to pay or there's some other arrangement to make things fair then not paying your half just seems rude to me.

If you really are that skint you can't afford it and the other person genuinely doesn't mind then fair enough but that's not many people."

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"If someone messaged us and said how about a hotel meet we wouldn't expect to pay half, we are happy to meet in a club and that's not their thing, then why should we contribute?

Likewise if we had a hotel for us and had a guy come we wouldn't expect anything off him

I would say the question of paying is 1, who makes the suggestion, 2 who gets the room when finished

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Agreed, if you're getting/got a room anyway or for other reasons than just the meet. That's different to getting a room specifically for a meet you are arranging with someone where you both clear off after.

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

If you agree to go halves it sends a clear signal that nothing is owed by either of you to the other one.

There’s no expectation other than to see how it goes which, assuming you’ve met before and found out if there’s any chemistry, shouldn’t be too much of a surprise.

That said, it doesn’t / shouldn’t mean an automatic assumption of full on sex. That should always be something that is a possibility, not a prerequisite.

Maybe I’m just too “old fashioned”. Or maybe just not that desperate and rather choosy/fussy.

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By *inkylovers09 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Omg!! Do you know what just leave it!! All i ask was a question about how long was ok to stay if you did pay for it!! Not i expect you to! Not im to skint too!!

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Why should they pay?

Can't you go halves?"

Doesnt it depend on how much money you have?

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Im not saying one person should pay or we expect them to pay!

Just men say they are willing to pay for a hotel and if they were willing how long is ok to stay for? Thats the question "

Doesnt it depend on how the date goes - sometimes you feel relaxed so you would sleep with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get the how long you should be expected to stay thing though. Surely you stay as long as you want to. Or maybe I just misinterpreted the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stay until you’re thrown out

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By *inkylovers09 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"I don’t get the how long you should be expected to stay thing though. Surely you stay as long as you want to. Or maybe I just misinterpreted the question "

Of course you stay as long as you want to, just wanted to get mens view on it and how long they would like you to stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get the how long you should be expected to stay thing though. Surely you stay as long as you want to. Or maybe I just misinterpreted the question

Of course you stay as long as you want to, just wanted to get mens view on it and how long they would like you to stay. "

From all men on Fab.... stay until I have blew my load...

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

If somone stays in the hotel all night they play

If you both spend all night in the hotel you share.

If you suggest it and the other person/s is reluctant due to cost its your choice to pay for it all.

If you have plenty of wedge you pay.

If you piss the bed you pay

What you do do thigh is if someone else has paid no matter if you are going to share or not you turn up no excuses no bullshit you turn up even if you broke your leg and are in a pot you never leave someone hanging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, if you guys are arranging to meet in a hotel. I’m guessing you’re planning to stay the whole night and make the most of it.

I’ve not had a meet where we just spend an hour or two. It’s usually been for the night or two but these are meets with people I’ve known for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg!! Do you know what just leave it!! All i ask was a question about how long was ok to stay if you did pay for it!! Not i expect you to! Not im to skint too!! "

You know people can't read a question and just answer it accordingly.

I understood what you were saying and I'm shit at reading these forum threads.

I would think it's something you have to discuss with each man individually, as they won't all want the same, plus they should consider what you want to. If you don't want to pop in for an hour for a quick fuck you should tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, if you guys are arranging to meet in a hotel. I’m guessing you’re planning to stay the whole night and make the most of it.

I’ve not had a meet where we just spend an hour or two. It’s usually been for the night or two but these are meets with people I’ve known for a while.

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They are asking what the man would expect. Which, I assume, is different with each man and each occasion.

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By *inkylovers09 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"Omg!! Do you know what just leave it!! All i ask was a question about how long was ok to stay if you did pay for it!! Not i expect you to! Not im to skint too!!

You know people can't read a question and just answer it accordingly.

I understood what you were saying and I'm shit at reading these forum threads.

I would think it's something you have to discuss with each man individually, as they won't all want the same, plus they should consider what you want to. If you don't want to pop in for an hour for a quick fuck you should tell them."

Thank you! Finally someone gets it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Halves both having fun at the end of the day

Unless one is sleeping there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not saying one person should pay or we expect them to pay!

Just men say they are willing to pay for a hotel and if they were willing how long is ok to stay for? Thats the question "
....Till one party has had enough!..but if it goes well,they can pay for breakfast!

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By *eyooooMan
over a year ago

London

I have had couples ask me to pay for a hotel so they can meet me init i then said we should go halfs onit n they had a fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, if you guys are arranging to meet in a hotel. I’m guessing you’re planning to stay the whole night and make the most of it.

I’ve not had a meet where we just spend an hour or two. It’s usually been for the night or two but these are meets with people I’ve known for a while.

They are asking what the man would expect. Which, I assume, is different with each man and each occasion. "

That’s right. That’s something we can’t answer. There isn’t a base line expectation on how long someone’s stays. That all depends on what both parties have agreed on or arranged.

Sometimes meeting couples is different. A couple may be spending the night at a hotel but just want a bit of fun for a short while. Then, that’s understandable. In those instances, I guess the couple would have already paid for their room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why we are asking, just wanted to get single mens opinion. "

In the situation you've quoted the only man's opinion that matters is surely the one offering to pay. Any other opinion is worthless as they aren't paying. So you're asking the wrong people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone messaged us and said how about a hotel meet we wouldn't expect to pay half, we are happy to meet in a club and that's not their thing, then why should we contribute?

Likewise if we had a hotel for us and had a guy come we wouldn't expect anything off him

I would say the question of paying is 1, who makes the suggestion, 2 who gets the room when finished

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But surely a clubs going to cost you money in it's self?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple ! !

Genuine couples or females that know the scene and have indulged in different situations will do the real swingers thing and share costs.

For those that state Males should pay due to them getting the wife or pussy and you need us then you can......... DO ONE

If I personally was to invite anyone then it would be me as accommodating and I shall do the right swingers thing and cover the cost.

I have in the past and present had women stay with be by invite and would never expect any contribution.

Although as I only meet polite people its been know to go to hotels for club nights out and she has insisted on buying food at some point. All fair in all.

But as for timings I'd rather someone do an overnight as I take a while and like to give as much pleasure without rushing as possible.

1 or 2 hours what's that all about.. this is swinging not prostitution.

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