FabSwingers.com forum: Can’t get a meet why?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll meet you mate as the way you sit looks cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a look at your profile, it’s your shop window so to speak. people always look at profiles before opening messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do 17 star jumps 2 pushups and say i am a tiger 4 time then you will increase your chances

Well it cant hurt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently after so long on here you don't need veris, according to a post on a thread yesterday at least! Loading bolloxs in my experience mind.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No veris is often a factor which is a pain because how do you get veris if folk won’t meet you.

The best thing to do is ask if someone in a chat room to can veri you or maybe hit a local social where people can meet you in ‘real life’ they often result in 2 or 3 veris x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So how you all gettin meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll meet you mate as the way you sit looks cool "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you do 17 star jumps 2 pushups and say i am a tiger 4 time then you will increase your chances

Well it cant hurt

I got told to say I am a tiger 5 times ffs!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

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Veris aren't suddenly the key anyway. Club's and socials are your best bet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No veris is often a factor which is a pain because how do you get veris if folk won’t meet you.

The best thing to do is ask if someone in a chat room to can veri you or maybe hit a local social where people can meet you in ‘real life’ they often result in 2 or 3 veris x"
il say thank you for taking in this lost puppy all those months ago saved me a lot of star jumps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a well written profile, decent pics, message people you're interested in with a well written message, and have no expectations.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are those that won't meet people without veris but there are plenty that will too - so that's not always likely to be the problem necessarily.

Usually when people are finding it difficult to get meets it's something to do with either their profile or their approach and style of messaging etc.

You have to remember that single male profiles outnumber others by around 15:1 - so you have to stand out.

Take a look at your profile and ask yourself if you'd meet you if you got a message from you - is it appealing and enticing? Does it make you stand out from the crowd or blend in with it? Does it have a decent set of pics that show off your body and not your cock?

Are your messages respectful and thoughtful, tailored to the reader, or just a copy and paste generic job sent in the hope of getting a reply?

Ask yourself things like that and if you find you need to make changes make them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you it just got to point we’re in thinking this is a waste of time x

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"No veris is often a factor which is a pain because how do you get veris if folk won’t meet you.

The best thing to do is ask if someone in a chat room to can veri you or maybe hit a local social where people can meet you in ‘real life’ they often result in 2 or 3 veris xil say thank you for taking in this lost puppy all those months ago saved me a lot of star jumps

You’re welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always try making a bit of an effort with your profile text

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Have a well written profile, decent pics, message people you're interested in with a well written message, and have no expectations. "

Oh, come on! Surely it can't be that easy?

You definitley need at least two passages written badly, in the "letters page of a porno mag" style to prove you are real and capable of having sex.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Have a well written profile, decent pics, message people you're interested in with a well written message, and have no expectations.

Oh, come on! Surely it can't be that easy?

You definitley need at least two passages written badly, in the "letters page of a porno mag" style to prove you are real and capable of having sex.

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no you have to be 6 ft plus, dark hair, handsome, body of an Adonis with at least a 9 inch cock to go with all that.

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

I had 1 meet arranged but she didn't show up so I tend not to bother now just on for the forums and a laugh, if it happens it happens I'm not going to commit Harry carry over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a well written profile, decent pics, message people you're interested in with a well written message, and have no expectations.

Oh, come on! Surely it can't be that easy?

You definitley need at least two passages written badly, in the "letters page of a porno mag" style to prove you are real and capable of having sex.

You're right.

Just send a message saying Hi, FAF or You free? And Robert's your dad's brother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack. "

Your pijama bottom did it for me

merry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack. "

My profile took longer to write

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

Your pijama bottom did it for me

merry

I’ll hold that watermelon for you any day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

My profile took longer to write "

Both are so poetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

My profile took longer to write "

I’ve seen how you look. You don’t need writing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

Your pijama bottom did it for me

merry

I’ll hold that watermelon for you any day

I'll lend you when I am done with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

My profile took longer to write

Both are so poetic. "

Yours is beautiful, like a Monet but with words.

The thing is, no one has ever said how nice and well worded your profile is....it’s always your hair

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

How many social events have you been to? There are many advertised up and down the country. If you're serious about wanting to meet like-minded people then they are a fantastic way to go.

If you're after a quick fumble, then maybe you should start "swiping right" (or left, I don't fucking use it so wouldn't know)

Many men have mentioned they have more "luck" on the sites that seem to be based at dating rather than on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent 5 minutes writing my profile... think I have just been lucky... I don't show my veris...I am looking for someone regular... that can be pretty difficult in its self...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

Why don't you get yourself to a social? Some organised socials are catered towards a meet and greet mentality, whereby verifications are not needed. See if you have any going in your area. There are also clubs as an option, or going on cams, to see if anyone would verify you there. I would add that the more successful profiles have some really well written and full profiles texts ( hint hint).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

My profile took longer to write

Both are so poetic. "

It's as empty as my soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the women you’re messaging just don’t find you attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent hours writing my profile....honest.

It’s a tough industry for a single guy to crack.

My profile took longer to write

Both are so poetic.

Yours is beautiful, like a Monet but with words.

The thing is, no one has ever said how nice and well worded your profile is....it’s always your hair

I know, and I actually put effort into my profile, my hair not so much, it's just like this naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent 5 minutes writing my profile... think I have just been lucky... I don't show my veris...I am looking for someone regular... that can be pretty difficult in its self..."

I’ve just fallen in love with your beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have found that being myself and being respectful has brought the best results . Pretty much everyone is a bit skeptical to some degree , so building a worthwhile back and forth is how I approach it and go from there .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be funny and dont whine like a dying donky are my tips

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

I’d do ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had 1 meet arranged but she didn't show up so I tend not to bother now just on for the forums and a laugh, if it happens it happens I'm not going to commit Harry carry over it"

Harry carry

no.. Really... That's awesome!

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

A little confused about the nearly year bit as your profile says 3 months but in a nutshell if its not working change things around. New photos a fair few of them and rework your profile to say more about you expand it make yourself really interesting to people it can't harm after all.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

Put lots of cock pictures on your profile, the ladies go for that

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"I would add that the more successful profiles have some really well written and full profiles texts ( hint hint)."

I've just read your profile and can't stop laughing. In a very good way. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only tell you the things that put me off, or are absolute no-no's:

Put offs are; hardly any pics, pics but only cock shots, couple pics that are all the female, pics of gaping arse holes or fannies, profile texts with hardly any text - doesn't seem like the person wants to make much of an effort - but expects a woman to get dressed up and then undressed! Any profile where the person(s) seem rather up themselves.

Absolute no: Smokers. Cannot accommodate - unless you have a good reason why not. Newbies. Unverified - try going to clubs or parties. You meet people and get verified, plus it shows that you are a real swinger as opposed to someone after a free prostitute.

What some people fail to understand is that swinging is a lifestyle CHOICE. I don't HAVE to meet anyone. I don't HAVE to play. Nobody is entitled to anything on here. Like in 'real' life, respect is a two way street and it is earned and deserved.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

It says you joined 3mths ago?

And my best advice... Actually have a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

Some guys go years and never meet it sadly happens or dosn't happen for some.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

The problem is single guys and guys playing as single vastly outnumber the females and couple looking for an extra guy on here, guys chasing women and couples have to put a lot of effort in and stick out as desirable, a profile with very little info and one photo which makes you look like you fancy yourself is not going to impress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem is single guys and guys playing as single vastly outnumber the females and couple looking for an extra guy on here, guys chasing women and couples have to put a lot of effort in and stick out as desirable, a profile with very little info and one photo which makes you look like you fancy yourself is not going to impress"

Agree a lot of competition, take time reading a profile and writing an email that shows you have read it. Check out the profiles of guys who are getting meets to see if there is anything you can copy and you can see if a woman has a certain type of guy she is going with eg if they are all ripped and 6ft tall and you are 5ft 8, you will not get a meet with this woman or couple. ??

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By *appyWandererMan
over a year ago

Croydon

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/823287

My thread has the steps you should follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

Its because nobody likes discretion...

If you're not prepared to take anyone for a night out before taking them home and shagging their brains out then they don't want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is the starting point. I would take a look at that. Look at guys profiles who are successful on here and try and learn something from them.

Also get yourself out to Fab socials and clubs and get known on the scene and get verified.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

Would you like to borrow my calculator? Because 3 months is nowhere near a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

Would you like to borrow my calculator? Because 3 months is nowhere near a year.

Three months is a long time in man time

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Your profile is the starting point. I would take a look at that. Look at guys profiles who are successful on here and try and learn something from them.

Also get yourself out to Fab socials and clubs and get known on the scene and get verified."

This.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Been on this site nearly a year still can’t get a meet. Just wondering if anyone had the same problem. Get told because I have no verifications wouldn’t want to meet you.

Would you like to borrow my calculator? Because 3 months is nowhere near a year.

Three months is a long time in man time

There are frequent measurement challenges.......

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