FabSwingers.com forum: Regrets..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That d*unken ill-advised tattoo?

The girl / boy that got away?

The one that didn’t get away but by jiminy you should have discarded them long, long ago ...

If only you’d looked after yer teef...

Do you have any regrets? Or has life’s journey shaped you into the person you are now and you wouldn’t change a thing?

What would you do differently given the chance!?

Me? I wish I wasn’t so painfully awkward as a teenager / in my 20s. I definitely missed out on a lot of fun through it - looking back so entirely unnecessarily!

What about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my husband regret not doing a very small wedding. We did everything to try and make everyone else happy - not ourselves. We would do it different if we could go back

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

"Me and my husband regret not doing a very small wedding. We did everything to try and make everyone else happy - not ourselves. We would do it different if we could go back

We can relate to that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices. "

I can relate to that I certainly wouldn't do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinking, but it was a double edged sword, wouldn't have had half the great experiences I did have but also lost a lot as well!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices. "

yep! That can be tough, especially when it’s a simple misunderstanding and wholly unintentional. Easily done at times though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a man declare his love for me and wanting to take me travelling with him and never taking him up on his offer.

I loved him but was too scared to leave everything I had behind. I still think about him a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I did have some regrets over few things but they sort of helped me to shape the man I am today

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Regrets, I've had a few. But then again too few to mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some yes but they would alter my life too much that i wouldnt want to change them

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

Not telling my wife years ago that I cross dress,she has accepted it so well and it's brought us back closer than we have been in years

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

when you get married stop looking

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I have a few

But then again few too to mention

I tried to do what I had to do but she had other ideas

I planned each charter course she rammed in straight in my ass

And more much more than this. She did it her way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret not saying no..

If i had it would have been much easier to walk away instead of eventually having to wait 6 years to divorce the fecker!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regret not saying no to anal sex after I had a spicy curry. Never again."

Bless your rectum hun x

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices. "

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That perm I had in '93. I spent my teenage years as a frizzy haired mess.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I wish I had been more confident in my20’s as well

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"That perm I had in '93. I spent my teenage years as a frizzy haired mess. "

Oh good God yes!! Mine was plum coloured... To make things even worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it? "

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not getting into swinging until now!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not getting into swinging until now!!!"

Getting into swinging at all. I'm utterly useless at it, but for some reason I keep trying.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I regret and don't regret at the same time. If I had left my ex when I should have (a big regret), I wouldn't be in England now, with the love of my life.

If I had extended my summer in Alaska through the winter (another thing I regret), things might have been so very different.

My regrets tend to only be the things I didn't do, but if I had--I wouldn't be who and where I am today.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment. "

Maybe try seeing it as a penance? Set a limit to it and make a conscious decision to cast off the sack-cloth and ashes after whatever you deem to be an appropriate time, and forgive yourself. You might get a decent night's sleep once your penance is done. ((((hugs)))) my friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloomin loads. Way too many to mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the things I didn't do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

I'd love to be able to do that. It's unlikely I'll forgive myself that quickly though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

I'd love to be able to do that. It's unlikely I'll forgive myself that quickly though. "

Forgiving ourselves is always the hardest thing to do. If we don't we just remain trapped by our past our emotions our self reflection.

Be kind to yourself. The past cannot be changed. And only you can change your future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a few

But then again few too to mention

I tried to do what I had to do but she had other ideas

I planned each charter course she rammed in straight in my ass

And more much more than this. She did it her way"

Ah love a bit of Frank

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment. "

Every single person in the world has hurt someone else, everyone, even the person you hurt. Forgive yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I regret the shoes I wore as a young woman, rather my feet do. I bitterly regret shredding credit card statements that show ppi payments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when you get married stop looking "

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I only have one.

That's living so far away from my mum & not seeing her everyday.

Everything else, is just a lesson learnt & a memory made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

I'd love to be able to do that. It's unlikely I'll forgive myself that quickly though.

Forgiving ourselves is always the hardest thing to do. If we don't we just remain trapped by our past our emotions our self reflection.

Be kind to yourself. The past cannot be changed. And only you can change your future."

I need a period where I beat myself up. If I don't I would feel guilty. I'll get through it, it will just take a little while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

Every single person in the world has hurt someone else, everyone, even the person you hurt. Forgive yourself."

It's one thing I'm too hard on myself for. I know that. I will get there, but it'll take a little time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not becoming a rubber twink in my late teens early 20s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could have my life over again, then I would ljve my life totally differently.

Having said that though, I try not to look back with regrets as you can't change the past. Life is an adventure, with good and bad. You need the bad to appreciate the good. Don't look back in anger, just keep looking ahead and keep moving forwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment. "

You aren't being punished though, that is your mind thinking that. Don't allow yourself to think that way, that's self destruction. Try and look at the positives in life instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are only two days of your life of which you have no control .

Yesterday and tomorrow .

The past is a nice place to visit but not live

Remember you only control two things. Your Thoughts and Your Actions

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are only two days of your life of which you have no control .

Yesterday and tomorrow .

The past is a nice place to visit but not live

Remember you only control two things. Your Thoughts and Your Actions

You certainly can’t change yesterday Taff, but maybe you can influence tomorrow? But I get your point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are only two days of your life of which you have no control .

Yesterday and tomorrow .

The past is a nice place to visit but not live

Remember you only control two things. Your Thoughts and Your Actions

You certainly can’t change yesterday Taff, but maybe you can influence tomorrow? But I get your point!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Oh, how I wished I lived in Berkshire with all the studs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

You aren't being punished though, that is your mind thinking that. Don't allow yourself to think that way, that's self destruction. Try and look at the positives in life instead. "

Self destruction is an unfortunate part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I’d had the courage to call it a day with my ex the first time he cheated on me. Would have saved me and the kids lots of heartache x

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By *vcarolTV/TS
over a year ago

kilmarnockish

Regret ne rien pas.

Some might say not paying attention in French class....

But, it’s tsken a change in society for me to be where I am today. I can’t go back but wish I could...

I should have turned left, when I had the chance - it was easier to go right... but that is one choice

I wish I sought professional help to understand

Carol, rather than taking 10 years to sort it out. 10 years wasted.

Took me 30plus years to disown a family member that has given all around misery thru selfish and ignorant acts.

Regret not buying a swb 911 when it was offered cheap. The Aston v8 ditto.

Zut alors!!

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Getting married........both times ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I now have one i would change the timing of

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

The first 4 in the op.

Plus marriage, not staying in constuction, not being there in person when I should have been.

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

"That d*unken ill-advised tattoo?

The girl / boy that got away?

The one that didn’t get away but by jiminy you should have discarded them long, long ago ...

If only you’d looked after yer teef...

Do you have any regrets? Or has life’s journey shaped you into the person you are now and you wouldn’t change a thing?

What would you do differently given the chance!?

Me? I wish I wasn’t so painfully awkward as a teenager / in my 20s. I definitely missed out on a lot of fun through it - looking back so entirely unnecessarily!

What about you?

Pretty much one of the things you've listed already. I have anxiety due to events over the past year and I am now that painfully awkward guy in his twenties, I was quite cheeky and people generally found it endearing. But now I just don't really know what to say, I am ok chatting to someone one to one in a pub or whatever but when it comes to approaching someone in a group I now have to give myself a pep talk and that's if I even go through with it.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

My biggest regret should have stayed in the Army longer x storm x

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've got a few, things not working out with my ex from 10 years ago is one, I don't dwell on it now but she was the only person I've genuinely ever fallen for. It wasn't my fault though so at least I don't have to kick myself over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My only regrets are where I've hurt someone. I often think about what I could have done differently. I don't go out to intentionally hurt anyone but I've made stupid or bad choices.

Aye

sorry never feels like it's enough does it?

No it doesn't. I've been losing a lot sleep recently for something I did. I see it as my punishment.

I'd love to be able to do that. It's unlikely I'll forgive myself that quickly though.

Forgiving ourselves is always the hardest thing to do. If we don't we just remain trapped by our past our emotions our self reflection.

Be kind to yourself. The past cannot be changed. And only you can change your future."

I like this thought, someone said similar on a thread a while ago and it stayed with me.

People always want to go back in time to change their past but they should believe they can change their future.

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By *entleman Blue EyesMan
over a year ago

Saffron Walden

Oh heck painful teenage years...so with you there. Sends shivers down my spine thinking about it.

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

theres no such things as regrets just lessons learned - not just saying that i genuinely believe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot I could regret if I dwelled on it. I chose to try and learn and to be a better person from the things I could have done differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If life was too cosy and comfortable I seem to have the uncanny knack for unconsciously hitting the destruct button to create a major crisis in my life. Often through really poor judgement or violating what I imagined were my values.

However those crises despite being filled with regret, guilt and remorse at the time often opened up a new chapter in my life and proved to be transformational moments. So in hindsight I don’t regret them but do wish I could learn the lessons in an easier way.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Buying the air pistol the ruined my chance of going into the navy as an officer, a mate was messing about with it. I got shot in the eye with it.

Not going to Australia when I had the chance, I had a chance to work for a relative. He wouldnt sponser me, so i couldn't go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being settled with to many years travelling and no family..

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By *awtynath88Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Only one regret. After splitting up from my wife I kinda went off the rails and stupidly d*unk drove. Ended up crashing (only myself was hurt) and lost my liscence as a result.

Honestly is my only regret but what a silly mistake it was

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Not only have i been home to Captain Fuckup, but he's frequently turned up d*unk with lots of makes and moved in for an extended period....but then again, some of the good things i've done are linked to my bouts of stupidity and fuckuppery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret meeting my ex bf as he screwed up my life a lot.

I regret not spending more time with my mum when she was alive.

I regret selling my house when I was 19

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 recent one

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By *hrobbermanMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

That road not taken. The eternal regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not being settled with to many years travelling and no family.. "

This for me too amongst quite a few others.

I don't regret seeing the world and the experiences I had but I wish I had thought about the future just a little bit.

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Life is too short to have regrets. I’m a strong believer that everything in life happens for a reason, and shapes our future. If you’ve made the wrong decision about anything there’s no point in regretting it, just move on and learn from your mistakes

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"That d*unken ill-advised tattoo?

The girl / boy that got away?

The one that didn’t get away but by jiminy you should have discarded them long, long ago ...

If only you’d looked after yer teef...

Do you have any regrets? Or has life’s journey shaped you into the person you are now and you wouldn’t change a thing?

What would you do differently given the chance!?

Me? I wish I wasn’t so painfully awkward as a teenager / in my 20s. I definitely missed out on a lot of fun through it - looking back so entirely unnecessarily!

What about you?

I think everyone has regrets, but you make your choice in life and deal with the issues in front of you, then you can reflect on life. If I had done this and that I could have been XYZ..

But then I wouldn’t have met the person I’m with and not have the wonderful kids I have!!

Sometimes I think life maybe already planned out, and the choices you think you’ve made were inevitable

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"That d*unken ill-advised tattoo?

The girl / boy that got away?

The one that didn’t get away but by jiminy you should have discarded them long, long ago ...

If only you’d looked after yer teef...

Do you have any regrets? Or has life’s journey shaped you into the person you are now and you wouldn’t change a thing?

What would you do differently given the chance!?

Me? I wish I wasn’t so painfully awkward as a teenager / in my 20s. I definitely missed out on a lot of fun through it - looking back so entirely unnecessarily!

What about you?

I think everyone has regrets, but you make your choice in life and deal with the issues in front of you, then you can reflect on life. If I had done this and that I could have been XYZ..

But then I wouldn’t have met the person I’m with and not have the wonderful kids I have!!

Sometimes I think life maybe already planned out, and the choices you think you’ve made were inevitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regret meeting my ex bf as he screwed up my life a lot.

I regret not spending more time with my mum when she was alive.

I regret selling my house when I was 19

I have the same regrets apart from last one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regret the shoes I wore as a young woman, rather my feet do. I bitterly regret shredding credit card statements that show ppi payments."

Why do you regret shredding statement? ?

You don't need them to claim ppi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only have one.

That's living so far away from my mum & not seeing her everyday.

Everything else, is just a lesson learnt & a memory made. "

That's interesting as I feel the opposite way, I regret that me and my boy are stuck in a dead and shitty small town as it would hurt my parents too much if we left. And I guess once he is old enough to leave I will stay as they will be really elderly. I do love them though. But I have told my boy, when he chooses uni go far far from here if he wants to, there is nothing for him here.

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