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What are you holding on to you should let go of ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good morning Friends Fabbers and Forumites.

It's another autumnal Monday morning . A new week and a blank page , fresh and new on to which you can write your story .

Pooch and I have just topped up the bird feeders . We are watching the host of feathered friends who have descended for a feed .

The garden is strewn with leaves , the trees letting go of things they no longer need .

It got us thinking .

What are we going on to that we should let go of ?

For me it's past memories that once made me smile but can now make me a tad glum.

So chums our question is

What are you holding on to that you should let go of ?

Taff and Pooch xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor body image. I've had CBT for it, which has helped a lot. But I wish i could just let it completely go. It does impact my life and self esteem a little more than it should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hair envy. I should let it go, but I won’t.

Men with beautiful hair make me sick

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Poor body image. I've had CBT for it, which has helped a lot. But I wish i could just let it completely go. It does impact my life and self esteem a little more than it should. "
I had very similar issues and mindfulness helped me so very much .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor body image. I've had CBT for it, which has helped a lot. But I wish i could just let it completely go. It does impact my life and self esteem a little more than it should. "

Girl your body is bloody beautiful! I've always wanted to have a more womanly figure and feel more like "a real woman". I've also suffered with body confidence issues since a young age and I've always been quite slim. Well done you for going through CBT aswell.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

The postman!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hair envy. I should let it go, but I won’t.

Men with beautiful hair make me sick "
let it go buddy , just think the hours they take preening in the morning . Embrace yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The postman!"
is he still in the cupboard under the stairs

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Two things really.

Being bullied, prolonged, intense, targeted bullying. My experiences are always in there somewhere.

My mistrust of doctors. I get no pleasure from saying it and I wish it was different but it can’t be at this point in time.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"Poor body image. I've had CBT for it, which has helped a lot. But I wish i could just let it completely go. It does impact my life and self esteem a little more than it should.

Girl your body is bloody beautiful! I've always wanted to have a more womanly figure and feel more like "a real woman". I've also suffered with body confidence issues since a young age and I've always been quite slim. Well done you for going through CBT aswell. "

Thats sure helped !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rope ahhhhhhhh I let gooooooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Two things really.

Being bullied, prolonged, intense, targeted bullying. My experiences are always in there somewhere.

My mistrust of doctors. I get no pleasure from saying it and I wish it was different but it can’t be at this point in time. "

I detest bullies they project their inadequacy on others . You are a truly beautiful person and appreciated by many here x x x

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"The postman! is he still in the cupboard under the stairs "

He was under the bed last time I checked!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The postman! is he still in the cupboard under the stairs

He was under the bed last time I checked!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterdays losses by the miami dolphins and england teams

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

My club cherry. I really should stop playing so hard to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hair envy. I should let it go, but I won’t.

Men with beautiful hair make me sick let it go buddy , just think the hours they take preening in the morning . Embrace yourself "

I suppose I could look at like I save a fortune in hair product and barbers fees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The feeling of never being good enough, in the way I look or how I do things. And that no one wants me, lots of years of negativity have made their mark. I’m slowly getting there. X

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Toejam

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Bad gas......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bad gas...... "

Let it out for Christ sake! You'll get trapped wind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends, I have a couple that I really should let go. I do everything to help them but they don't bother ringing or chatting to me. I'm too soft though, that's my problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My car It's 13 years old and it's starting to show signs of wear and tear, I've loved it over the years and bought it from an ex boss who sadly died in a light aircraft crash last year, there's an emotional tie there i think but it really should go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The subject that caused a really shitty PTSD nightmare (the first for years that I can remember) in the early hours of this morning.

Easier said than done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My youth and probably my youth.

Oh fuck it, i'll still be thinking i'm 25 when they stick me in the ground.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

False hope

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A lot of clothes and accessories. A huge amount of books that I'm unlikely to read again. Lots of mugs that nobody will ever drink from again.

I'm not a hoarder...yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger towards people who are no longer in my life who treated me badly.

Love for the people in my life who do not reciprocate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hair envy. I should let it go, but I won’t.

Men with beautiful hair make me sick let it go buddy , just think the hours they take preening in the morning . Embrace yourself "

Preening? The most I do is run a brush through it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hair envy. I should let it go, but I won’t.

Men with beautiful hair make me sick let it go buddy , just think the hours they take preening in the morning . Embrace yourself

Preening? The most I do is run a brush through it "

I may well have had you in mind when I wrote the first bit.

Your hair is beautiful and it makes me jealous. I’m not afraid to say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hair envy. I should let it go, but I won’t.

Men with beautiful hair make me sick let it go buddy , just think the hours they take preening in the morning . Embrace yourself

Preening? The most I do is run a brush through it

I may well have had you in mind when I wrote the first bit.

Your hair is beautiful and it makes me jealous. I’m not afraid to say it "

thank you

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Anger towards people who are no longer in my life who treated me badly.

Love for the people in my life who do not reciprocate it. "

I can relate to this.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those sexy leather trousers that used to fit me about 15 yrs ago...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was my ex.... But I have finally let her go! Let her goooooo

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Those sexy leather trousers that used to fit me about 15 yrs ago... "

I've got a pair of suede trousers that have never fitted me . They're in a drawer waiting to be recycled. Into what I still haven't decided

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

My babies, they are growing up so fast, I know I need to let them spread their wings, but fear stops me, and yet I fear I am spoiling their outlook on life by not cutting the apron strings, it’s so hard Mrs blue eyesxx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Your post made me smile OP.

I'm having a major declutter.

Finally threw away a box of video tapes last week, that have moved house with me twice!

Clearing drawers this morning.

Getting there gradually,moving in the right direction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Your post made me smile OP.

I'm having a major declutter.

Finally threw away a box of video tapes last week, that have moved house with me twice!

Clearing drawers this morning.

Getting there gradually,moving in the right direction.

"

This has inspired me to have a clear out. It's a good job I have three empty charity bags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body Dismorphia, 31 yrs. But ive improved a tiny bit since joining kinky sites lol xx

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Bad gas......

Let it out for Christ sake! You'll get trapped wind "

You're gonna regret that advice......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"False hope"

Hope is never false. It's just hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor body image. I've had CBT for it, which has helped a lot. But I wish i could just let it completely go. It does impact my life and self esteem a little more than it should. "

I know it’s hard to convince yourself you have a great body when your self esteem and mind tells you otherwise and few knocks in life make it even harder no matter how many people tell you look good

But for what it’s worth I looked at your photos and you look stunning I am only sorry I live in the wrong part of Wales for you

A wise man once said, “If you have low self esteem practice esteem full things every day”

And for me there are a few things in my past I should just let go of but I let them run around my head from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The anxiety of actally having to have day to day interactions woth real people.... would love to live in a bubble, but such is life. Grit the teeth and get on with it.

Mindfulness does help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find mindfulness helps me greatly .

It stops me focusing on the past , or worrying about the future .

After all the two days which you have no control over are yesterday and tomorrow .

I don't worry about what other people think, I can't mind read and most of the time other people have their own anxieties which they keep hidden .

I'm more compassionate with myself , be as compassionate with yourself as you are with others .

Negative thoughts, about yourself or your life . They rise and fall and you are the own author of your life , if you don't like the story , change it.

People will always judge you , its human nature, but try not to judge yourself and you will find younwill stop judging others too. Let them have their hang ups and problems , don't let them project that on to you.

I know these seem a tad simplistic and life is never ever simple chums.

Have a peep at mindfulness friends , as for the leather pants , sorry I can't help so try eBay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negative body image

Too much self criticism

Low self worth

The list is endless

But never mind im on my way to sorting it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Negative body image

Too much self criticism

Low self worth

The list is endless

But never mind im on my way to sorting it out"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheers taff

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire

Secrets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 stone of fat.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Emotional issues, due to past life experiences.

But I don't class that as a bad thing, in fact the opposite.

Some barriers will never come down.

It keeps me safe & stops me from ever getting hurt again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got treated very very badly by one of my parents. It affected me for 30 years until I finally sought help for my mental health. I joined the army at 16 to get away from home and the years of physical and mental abuse I suffered. I’ve been through tons and tons of therapy sessions and I’m feeling great then all of a sudden something will trigger it and I’ll be a nervous wreck all over again. I hate how it makes me feel and just wish I could rid myself of the feelings it gives me. 99.9% of the time I’m happy and free from it.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I've just mentally let go of the business that made me dread monday mornings.....I've decided I'm gonna spend the rest of my working life doing something I really look forward to!!

Unless they give me that job with the huge salary I applied for, then I might bite my lip for a year or two more and cry all the way to the bank....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've just mentally let go of the business that made me dread monday mornings.....I've decided I'm gonna spend the rest of my working life doing something I really look forward to!!

Unless they give me that job with the huge salary I applied for, then I might bite my lip for a year or two more and cry all the way to the bank.... "

Go for it!

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