FabSwingers.com forum: Chatting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why does no one chat anymore? I used to quite often reply to people's status updates and have a good chat. Doesn't matter if I'm interested in meeting or playing, it's just a chat. How do you people stand on this subject?x

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Women often pressume (with me) that because I message them I MUST fancy then. Couldn't be more wrong.

I don't tend to message the ones I do fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my facebook... Though admittedly dont get that many chat

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I sometimes chat. Sometimes I don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It usually ends up sexual in 2 messages.

I personally don't have time to chat.thats why I don't bother

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I mostly use my time chatting to people that I'm likely to meet at some point, as I don't have time to chat to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like chatting, but I’m so bloody awkward and getting me to chat is like trying to pull blood from a stone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I already chat to a few that I’m friends with, I don’t have the energy to strike up new friendships. If I don’t have any interest in meeting someone then it’s just eating into time I could spend talking to someone that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like chatting, but I’m so bloody awkward and getting me to chat is like trying to pull blood from a stone "
you ever fancy Chatting love, give me a shout.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is my facebook... Though admittedly dont get that many chat"
I'm same as you pal, treat it like Facebook, that's why I reply to people's status. I like to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far better than facebook.. No holds barred conversation wise

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I like chatting, but so often it comes with an ulterior motive. I've grown wary. (I'm here for the ulterior motive too, but I don't want to engage with someone I don't fancy who all too often will expect me to drop my knickers after two or three messages of OK and non sexual banter)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It usually ends up sexual in 2 messages.

I personally don't have time to chat.thats why I don't bother "
I just like to chat, doesn't have to be sexual. Although I do like a good flirt.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this. It tends to be from the forums, I’ll have a laugh and chat and they assume that means I’ll get my fanny out on cam for them

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I like chatting, you get more of an idea of what someone is like aside from just sex talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like chatting, but so often it comes with an ulterior motive. I've grown wary. (I'm here for the ulterior motive too, but I don't want to engage with someone I don't fancy who all too often will expect me to drop my knickers after two or three messages of OK and non sexual banter) "
I think even if the female just replies and tells how it is, that would be a start. I usually just keep it innocent until she makes it flirty or sexual. At end of day it is a sex site and where after fun, but I always find it better to get know someone.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like chatting, you get more of an idea of what someone is like aside from just sex talk

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exactly pal

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had this. It tends to be from the forums, I’ll have a laugh and chat and they assume that means I’ll get my fanny out on cam for them

Tends to be locals for me. Crazy thing is, if they keep it friendly and move a bit more slowly, I'm more amenable than two friendly messages then boom I'm going to x your y, I bet you live in (place), we're going to fuck tonight! And... welcome to my block list.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I love a good natter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough, we just rewrote our profile today and made reference to the increased amount of messages wanting chat. It seems like more people are looking for chat than sex, might be something in that...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I sometimes chat. Sometimes I don’t. "
I guess this is a ‘sometimes don’t’ then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]"

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:25:19]"

It seems a bit counter-productive, to put it politely, to reply by PM on your own thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

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By *ingcom76Man
over a year ago

cheltenham

I love chatting but never can find anybody to chat with about the subjects I'd like to on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:25:19]

It seems a bit counter-productive, to put it politely, to reply by PM on your own thread!"
I didn't actually mean to. Lol. Been on this site for while and never used the forum before. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

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I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x"

That’s what having cock pics on your profile will do. You will attract more men than women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

That’s what having cock pics on your profile will do. You will attract more men than women. "
I never used to put cock pics on my profile, but a lady I was seeing thought it funny to put some humorous ones on. Lolx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

That’s what having cock pics on your profile will do. You will attract more men than women. I never used to put cock pics on my profile, but a lady I was seeing thought it funny to put some humorous ones on. Lolx"

Does it work for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

I had a guy (on another app) send me a photo of his cock wearing a tiny little wooly bobble hat. So I drew faces on it, edited it and put clothes on it etc

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:25:19]

It seems a bit counter-productive, to put it politely, to reply by PM on your own thread! I didn't actually mean to. Lol. Been on this site for while and never used the forum before. X"
welcome to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

I had a guy (on another app) send me a photo of his cock wearing a tiny little wooly bobble hat. So I drew faces on it, edited it and put clothes on it etc"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

Does it work for you? "

It made me laugh. Lol. I've never had anyone tell me that it's put them off. And nor have I ever sent a dick pic. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

I had a guy (on another app) send me a photo of his cock wearing a tiny little wooly bobble hat. So I drew faces on it, edited it and put clothes on it etc

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exactly, having a laugh. Can be to serious sometimes.x

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By *palWoman
over a year ago

The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk

I am wary about just having a general chat as from past experience they end up on my block list or I loose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

I had a guy (on another app) send me a photo of his cock wearing a tiny little wooly bobble hat. So I drew faces on it, edited it and put clothes on it etc

exactly, having a laugh. Can be to serious sometimes.x"

I think she meant it was better covered up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 11/11/18 15:20:22]

WARNING!!! Interaction with bi men will make all the other men think you’re ghey

Haha

I missed it and I need to know what it said

I do seem to find that a lot of men look at my profile and a lot of gay men contact me. I just talk to them any way, letting them know I'm straight.x

I had a guy (on another app) send me a photo of his cock wearing a tiny little wooly bobble hat. So I drew faces on it, edited it and put clothes on it etc

exactly, having a laugh. Can be to serious sometimes.x

I think she meant it was better covered up. "
I know. Lolx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am wary about just having a general chat as from past experience they end up on my block list or I loose interest."

If you loose interest then obviously you know they're not for you and you tell them your not interested. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had a chat with someone that didn't end up with them suggesting play or cam play or pics. Even when, in their first message, they tell me they know I'm not meeting single guys and they just want to chat. So now I rarely bother "chatting" regardless.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

That’s why after a handful of messages I always suggest talking on the phone.

It’s the best way to feel like you get a ‘feel’ for people. No sex chat. I think that’s a bit clumsy until you actually know the person.

But.. the beauty of the site is that you get to chat to those whom otherwise you might never have had the chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't chat with anyone who just messages out of the blue, as even if they say they are just being friendly the conversation always steers around to sex..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s why after a handful of messages I always suggest talking on the phone.

It’s the best way to feel like you get a ‘feel’ for people. No sex chat. I think that’s a bit clumsy until you actually know the person.

But.. the beauty of the site is that you get to chat to those whom otherwise you might never have had the chance "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't chat with anyone who just messages out of the blue, as even if they say they are just being friendly the conversation always steers around to sex..

“Good morning! How are you?”

“Good morning! How are you at keeping your legs wrapped around my shoulders as your pussy lips feel the stubble on my balls?”

Yes, I see what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't chat with anyone who just messages out of the blue, as even if they say they are just being friendly the conversation always steers around to sex..

"
I usually try to keep it innocent until the lady steers it toward flirting or sexual talk.x

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

Oh people do chat. I think it’s more that people aren’t brave enough to start the conversation for fear of rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chatting is a waste of time because you got to be brainy and sexy looking if people find you appling if they want to know you.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

‘Or I want to get to know you’

‘Hi’

‘How are you?’

‘Good thanks, you’

‘Good’

‘What are you up to?’

‘Just having my tea’

‘Lol’

‘I’m having a Pork chop’

‘Do you have peas?’

‘Yes’

‘Faf’

‘Now I’ve got to know you why not..?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat total bobbins, some people stick with it, others leave it behind and move on

I can’t do ‘sex talk’ very well so stick to the mundane stuff. Hit me up if you want to talk holidays, what’s for lunch and the size of wagon wheels these days! If you want someone to make you cum with explicit sex talk, pass on by!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Or I want to get to know you’

‘Hi’

‘How are you?’

‘Good thanks, you’

‘Good’

‘What are you up to?’

‘Just having my tea’

‘Lol’

‘I’m having a Pork chop’

‘Do you have peas?’

‘Yes’

‘Faf’

‘Now I’ve got to know you why not..?’"

Spot on

Want to borrow my chainsaw

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