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By *lsie OP   Woman
over a year ago

where ever

I need to grow a thicker skin.

I always send a message saying sorry no thank you . And wish them well .

Today I have had a man give me so much abuse because after saying no thank you . Continued sending me messages. Had to say . Sorry not interested .

Would love to name and shame him.

And he blocked me before I could . Think that is the most upsetting thing .

Why are us women in here just holes for men to fill.

I know this is a swinging site not an Instant shag site.

Or am I the one in the wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enter his name on the block list so he can't unblock and abuse you again

Good luck

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Forget about that one. Unfortunately there will be others. Just continue using the site in the best way for you.

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By *lsie OP   Woman
over a year ago

where ever


"Enter his name on the block list so he can't unblock and abuse you again

Good luck"

Thank you .

I did block him after he block me .

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By *lsie OP   Woman
over a year ago

where ever


"Forget about that one. Unfortunately there will be others. Just continue using the site in the best way for you. "

Thank you Mrs Mac

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time with me. It used to upset me but now I try not to let it. Just block them and think you've had a narrow escape they're obviously unpleasant people to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had the same thing happen to me. You can be polite and say no thank you or whatever and they come back at you with a million of uncomfortable questions or you can just delete and they come again with more messages why did you delete etc. I have been on the receiving end of no reply or a no thanks and it’s not nice but it wouldn’t do if we were all the same and want the same thing. I only pop on when I’m in the right mood to deal with the rude!! Just breathe hun. Try not to worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is like everywhere else in life, where unpleasant men who abuse women lurk in every corner. Block them the second they don’t accept your polite refusal - you don’t owe anybody an explanation for not wanting to have sex with them, same as in a pub or anywhere else. We’ve had a spare of people saying “why not” or, even worse, giving some kind of bullshit HR-type thing like “please let me know why not so that I can improve my efforts elsewhere”. Sheesh. It’s annoying. If we said, “because you look like a sexual serial killer” I don’t think they’d be happier than with a simple no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men take it on the chin, it's the odd prick that causes the grief. I had similar happen to me, he said he was attached, I said sorry not interested, barrage of abuse including "make it clear on your profile" then blocked me before I could say "it is!!"

Some guys are just fucking weapons grade morons xx

Block, deep breath and try not to take it out on the next guy that messages. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block as soon as you say no thank you

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By *lsie OP   Woman
over a year ago

where ever


"Happens all the time with me. It used to upset me but now I try not to let it. Just block them and think you've had a narrow escape they're obviously unpleasant people to know"

Demon. Thank you. He was quite nasty . Thanks for kind words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to grow a thicker skin.

I always send a message saying sorry no thank you . And wish them well .

Today I have had a man give me so much abuse because after saying no thank you . Continued sending me messages. Had to say . Sorry not interested .

Would love to name and shame him.

And he blocked me before I could . Think that is the most upsetting thing .

Why are us women in here just holes for men to fill.

I know this is a swinging site not an Instant shag site.

Or am I the one in the wrong?"

No your not in the wrong... but that is how this site works so you will have to ignore it or leave I am afraid.

Try blocking all men and do your own selecting thats about all you can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Enter his name on the block list so he can't unblock and abuse you again

Good luck

Thank you .

I did block him after he block me ."

Well done. Don't let people like this spoil your experience x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those men who abuse women online give nice honest men a bad name. in the end i been reject but i take it on the chin but some times it does get me down.. any way good luck to you op hope your ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dispense with the no thankyou's altogether. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to grow a thicker skin.

I always send a message saying sorry no thank you . And wish them well .

Today I have had a man give me so much abuse because after saying no thank you . Continued sending me messages. Had to say . Sorry not interested .

Would love to name and shame him.

And he blocked me before I could . Think that is the most upsetting thing .

Why are us women in here just holes for men to fill.

I know this is a swinging site not an Instant shag site.

Or am I the one in the wrong?"

It's not just women who get this sort of treatment and no you are not in the wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men take it on the chin, it's the odd prick that causes the grief. I had similar happen to me, he said he was attached, I said sorry not interested, barrage of abuse including "make it clear on your profile" then blocked me before I could say "it is!!"

Some guys are just fucking weapons grade morons xx

Block, deep breath and try not to take it out on the next guy that messages. Xx"

I’ve had nasty replies after turning down offers from a women. It’s not just guys that are weapon grade morons on here believe me. If you get a rejection just don’t reply and move on. There’s no real need to block them.

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By *lsie OP   Woman
over a year ago

where ever

Thanks for replies guys. Will take your advice on board .

Will start by not sending a no thank you, and just blocking .

Thank you xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens all the time with me. It used to upset me but now I try not to let it. Just block them and think you've had a narrow escape they're obviously unpleasant people to know

Demon. Thank you. He was quite nasty . Thanks for kind words "

Always report abusive mail.

And see it as a good thing he was so nasty in mail. Imagine if you'd ended up meeting that kind of man. See it as a positive and a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get abuse a lot. Kinda got used to it after many years I've been on fab. Even though I shouldn't get used to it. I delete and block most of the day. It's not fun anymore..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to grow a thicker skin.

I always send a message saying sorry no thank you . And wish them well .

Today I have had a man give me so much abuse because after saying no thank you . Continued sending me messages. Had to say . Sorry not interested .

Would love to name and shame him.

And he blocked me before I could . Think that is the most upsetting thing .

Why are us women in here just holes for men to fill.

I know this is a swinging site not an Instant shag site.

Or am I the one in the wrong?"

Ive had 3 like that this week. Prior to that maybe the same amount in a year!

Don’t let them worry you, the vast majority of men either don’t reply when they get my polite no thank you or reply to say how much they appreciated my messsge despite the content

As others have said, treat it as a lucky miss xx

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