FabSwingers.com forum: How do you take rejection?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

Like water off a ducks back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone will fancy you ...

I just take it as it is

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By *ohn321300Man
over a year ago

If they just delete the message then just continue with life. If they respond with a "not my type" I thank them for the courtesy of a reply and wish them happy gabbing/swinging.

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

You get used to being rejected & ignored. It's more how the rejection is done.

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

On here, common occurrence, who gives a smeg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pfft! Well I didn’t like them anyway the fat cows! I wouldn’t give them a second look in a bar. Who do they think they are!?

Nah, I’m fine with it, we can’t all like everyone can we? I won’t throw my toys out or get all upset, just move on to the next target, er, lady ..

How about you, OP?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

After I’ve finished crying we usually send a thanks for the reply and happy Fabbing message!

(Then write a private note and block them so we don’t make the mistake of messaging again oh and to stop them perving on our photos!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I threaten to boil their pet rabbit

Nobody rejects me anyway, I don't know what it feels like. Can someone tell me what it's like?

It's just one of those things, nothing to get bothered about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time it’s fine, just play the numbers game. But if it’s someone who looks perfect for me and I really fancy her it’s a bit of a downer. There’s a beautiful lady not far from me ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You get used to being rejected & ignored. It's more how the rejection is done."

I agree how it's done makes a difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pfft! Well I didn’t like them anyway the fat cows! I wouldn’t give them a second look in a bar. Who do they think they are!?

Nah, I’m fine with it, we can’t all like everyone can we? I won’t throw my toys out or get all upset, just move on to the next target, er, lady ..

How about you, OP? "

I just keep asking and asking and asking and asking until they say oh go on then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pfft! Well I didn’t like them anyway the fat cows! I wouldn’t give them a second look in a bar. Who do they think they are!?

Nah, I’m fine with it, we can’t all like everyone can we? I won’t throw my toys out or get all upset, just move on to the next target, er, lady ..

How about you, OP?

I just keep asking and asking and asking and asking until they say oh go on then. "

Does that work in reverse?

FAF?

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

"You get used to being rejected & ignored. It's more how the rejection is done.

I agree how it's done makes a difference.

It's true. None of us are made of stone. There may someone you really like but if they reject you in such a way that you feel like crap, it's not the way forward.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Pfft! Well I didn’t like them anyway the fat cows! I wouldn’t give them a second look in a bar. Who do they think they are!?

Nah, I’m fine with it, we can’t all like everyone can we? I won’t throw my toys out or get all upset, just move on to the next target, er, lady ..

How about you, OP?

I just keep asking and asking and asking and asking until they say oh go on then.

Does that work in reverse?

FAF?

Saying “go on then” over and over until they ask?

. I might try that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP do you mean just corresponding on here ? Or after a social ?

If on here not a problem but I think some would be lying if not a bit put out, if rejected after a social.

Some of us have ego's that can be bruised, not me personally I'm very thick skinned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pick my victims carefully so there is less chance of rejection in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pfft! Well I didn’t like them anyway the fat cows! I wouldn’t give them a second look in a bar. Who do they think they are!?

Nah, I’m fine with it, we can’t all like everyone can we? I won’t throw my toys out or get all upset, just move on to the next target, er, lady ..

How about you, OP?

I just keep asking and asking and asking and asking until they say oh go on then.

Does that work in reverse?

FAF?

What like you keep asking FAF and I say yeah and eventually after you asking FAF loads of times I say no and you're all like "thank fuck for that!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP do you mean just corresponding on here ? Or after a social ?

If on here not a problem but I think some would be lying if not a bit put out, if rejected after a social.

Some of us have ego's that can be bruised, not me personally I'm very thick skinned."

Anywhere. On here or after a social.

I don't think having an ego is a bad thing. It's nice to love ourselves.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

I have had more rejections on fab, than successful meets. If the lady don't reply and delete my messages, i don't worry about it and move on. If she replies with a no thanks, i thank her for reading my message and wish her success with her meets. We're all not going to be attractive to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

I've been turned down loads of times, on here, in clubs and in pubs

No point in letting it get you down though

We can't be for everyone

I'm still here

It isn't life or death

It's just feels meh for a few minutes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You get used to being rejected & ignored. It's more how the rejection is done.

I agree how it's done makes a difference.

It's true. None of us are made of stone. There may someone you really like but if they reject you in such a way that you feel like crap, it's not the way forward."

Again I agree. But even 2 words "no thanks" can seem abrupt and hurtful if it's been said by 100 different people.

I don't know why some people don't realise this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the rejection.

Don't get a reply... Don't really care

Get a no thank you...how thoughtful but ok

After a social meet with a "Not my type" ... fair enough im not everyone's cup of tea.

After a social meet with just being ignored... downright disrespectful, so I get a bit miffed at the lack of maturity but usually delete messages and unfriend.

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

In real life I deal with it better now I’m older than I did years ago.

On here, I just shrug my shoulders and move on, it’s no big deal.

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

"You get used to being rejected & ignored. It's more how the rejection is done.

I agree how it's done makes a difference.

It's true. None of us are made of stone. There may someone you really like but if they reject you in such a way that you feel like crap, it's not the way forward.

Again I agree. But even 2 words "no thanks" can seem abrupt and hurtful if it's been said by 100 different people.

I don't know why some people don't realise this."

I think we're of the same mind here OP

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"You get used to being rejected & ignored. It's more how the rejection is done."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life goes on.

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By *esiressexMan
over a year ago

Essex/London

No one likes rejection really, but if I do get rejected it's just an 'ok no problem' and move on.

Better to stay classy.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Hurts. So. Much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life goes on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

With a pinch of salt, rejection only makes you stronger it helps you iron out your bad points and come back stronger, the worst some one is gonna say is no

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

All part of life's rich tapestry.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I get so depressed, it’s soo unfair!!

Then I say nah Balls to it let’s have a cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, dont give a rats ass but in real time i dont put myself in that kind of situation even if it appears someones interested..

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Pfft! Well I didn’t like them anyway the fat cows! I wouldn’t give them a second look in a bar. Who do they think they are!?

Nah, I’m fine with it, we can’t all like everyone can we? I won’t throw my toys out or get all upset, just move on to the next target, er, lady ..

How about you, OP?

I just keep asking and asking and asking and asking until they say oh go on then. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here, dont give a rats ass but in real time i dont put myself in that kind of situation even if it appears someones interested.. "

Aww you might be missing out on someone nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont message anyone in fear of it tbh. I grew up being rejected by eveyone i ever fancied. I just can't put myself in that position now c

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By *LT22Man
over a year ago

Teddington

Big Shoulders Palms Up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

I never message women first now, there’s no need too. But rejection doesn’t bother me in the slightest. There’s plenty fitter and better who are interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t bother messaging anyone anymore it’s a waste of time. When I did get a rejection I didn’t bother messaging back, I just moved on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?

I never message women first now, there’s no need too. But rejection doesn’t bother me in the slightest. There’s plenty fitter and better who are interested. "

I see what you did there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big Shoulders Palms Up."

Are you lifting someone over a wall?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feisty minx.. I feel that, its one of those teflon issues that stickz with you no matter what you try to beat it... X

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Day by day

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It is what it is. We all get rejected for something or other in our lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont message anyone in fear of it tbh. I grew up being rejected by eveyone i ever fancied. I just can't put myself in that position now c"

Being a female on Fab I don’t think any man will reject you.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I thank them, and, if applicable, go be sad in private (I don't take everything personally, obviously, but some rejection hurts).

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Accept it as a part of everyday fab life.

Although I don't think I've ever asked so never been turned down

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

After being on fab for so long, I have developed a thick skin. I have met some stunners here, so when someone rejects me, I think ‘their loss’

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Not everyone will fancy you ...

I just take it as it is

sensible and safe approach - we are all here for pleasure without petty anxieties, a man with charm will often succeed over a man with cock

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By *emon DelightMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Just take it on the chin and move on. I would never send abuse or block a user based on rejection. Aside from it just being a despicable and cowardly thing to do in general, I wouldn’t want to burn my bridges, as I could meet them in person at some point further down the line (eg. at a social) and change their opinion of me, which may lead to friendship or further meets (social or otherwise).

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Win some loose some.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

ok... no problem... thanks for the reply... block them.... move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just take it on the chin and move on. I would never send abuse or block a user based on rejection. Aside from it just being a despicable and cowardly thing to do in general, I wouldn’t want to burn my bridges, as I could meet them in person at some point further down the line (eg. at a social) and change their opinion of me, which may lead to friendship or further meets (social or otherwise)."

I've met people at socials and they said meeting in person changed their opinion of me.

Not sure if they meant in a bad way.

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I've met people at socials and they said meeting in person changed their opinion of me.

Not sure if they meant in a bad way.

Good way i suspect.

well that would be my opinion anyway..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've met people at socials and they said meeting in person changed their opinion of me.

Not sure if they meant in a bad way.

Good way i suspect.

well that would be my opinion anyway.."

Is that like saying I seem like a really awful person on the forums so it can only get better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends entirely on how much I have invested emotionally...on here, it's nothing so it doesn't bother me one tiny bit...not that anyone turns us down, obvs...

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"
I just fuck them when I meet them in a club

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I've met people at socials and they said meeting in person changed their opinion of me.

Not sure if they meant in a bad way.

Good way i suspect.

well that would be my opinion anyway..

Is that like saying I seem like a really awful person on the forums so it can only get better.

xx"

You’re a lovely lady on and off the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been rejected on here yet.

I've been rejected in real life though. It smarts a little, but I'm a tough cookie. I can take it with good grace ( other than my voodoo doll collection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feisty minx.. I feel that, its one of those teflon issues that stickz with you no matter what you try to beat it... X"

Exactly. Ive never had luck with men ever apart from my hubby. Its only since ive been on here i get offers. Even though it's just sex, its still offers lol

I still feel thst same person i was back in school. Plain and boring x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feisty minx.. I feel that, its one of those teflon issues that stickz with you no matter what you try to beat it... X

Exactly. Ive never had luck with men ever apart from my hubby. Its only since ive been on here i get offers. Even though it's just sex, its still offers lol

I still feel thst same person i was back in school. Plain and boring x"

You are far from that. You are gorgeous, funny and one of my favourite people on here

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

Total indifference. You never miss what you’ve never had ... I hear about men sending nasty responses . I just think where’s your pride and dignity !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they read it, or deleted the message. I usually block them so that I won’t waste my time on them again.

How about No Shows? What do you guys do about it?

Because I know admins don’t care even if you reported them.

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I've met people at socials and they said meeting in person changed their opinion of me.

Not sure if they meant in a bad way.

Good way i suspect.

well that would be my opinion anyway..

Is that like saying I seem like a really awful person on the forums so it can only get better.

xx"

It might just be..

this place what the hells happened.. yes you should check profiles missy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send messages so it's never a problem as I'm not interested currently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not been rejected on here, but have in real life. Doesn’t bother me on bit!

It’s a part of life and it happens to all of us at some point, we can’t be for everyone.

Life goes on, and it’s no biggie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't let it bother me. We don't all fancy everyone. That would make the world a crazy place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 years ago I wasn't very good but now I'm super duper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"
pretty well, just don’t walk anywhere my car weigh’s nearly 3 ton and it gonna hurt ‘oh you can write Xmas off I’m sitting on top of you’re chimney, Santa is not getting in! that bastard ain’t happening !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a sensitive soul but rejection is part of life and I deal with it like we all have to. So what if someone doesn't want to meet me, there's always another person that does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they read it, or deleted the message. I usually block them so that I won’t waste my time on them again.

How about No Shows? What do you guys do about it?

Because I know admins don’t care even if you reported them."

I don't meet them again.

Years ago a lovely lady (Miss_Tress) gave a top tip- she always has a social first at a place she'll be anyway. If they don't turn up it doesn't matter.

So I do the same. If they don't turn up I eat all the cake myself.

Oh shit I just realised why I'm getting fatter.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection? pretty well, just don’t walk anywhere my car weigh’s nearly 3 ton and it gonna hurt ‘oh you can write Xmas off I’m sitting on top of you’re chimney, Santa is not getting in! that bastard ain’t happening !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feisty minx.. I feel that, its one of those teflon issues that stickz with you no matter what you try to beat it... X

Exactly. Ive never had luck with men ever apart from my hubby. Its only since ive been on here i get offers. Even though it's just sex, its still offers lol

I still feel thst same person i was back in school. Plain and boring x

You are far from that. You are gorgeous, funny and one of my favourite people on here

Stop making me smile lol, its far to early

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I rarely send messages so very few have rejected me.

I console myself with the thought I was out. Of their league.

Falling down is part of life, getting back up is living.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've met people at socials and they said meeting in person changed their opinion of me.

Not sure if they meant in a bad way.

Good way i suspect.

well that would be my opinion anyway..

Is that like saying I seem like a really awful person on the forums so it can only get better.

It might just be..

this place what the hells happened.. yes you should check profiles missy..

I only look at pics.

oops

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

Block and move on.. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

As long as its a polite rejection, then no problem. I wish them well and move on.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

It’s not really rejection unless they know you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s not really rejection unless they know you. "

I like this. A lot.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Not everyone will fancy you ...

I just take it as it is

Agreed. I'd go as far to say that most won't fancy me, and I'm ok with that

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"If they read it, or deleted the message. I usually block them so that I won’t waste my time on them again.

How about No Shows? What do you guys do about it?

Because I know admins don’t care even if you reported them.

I don't meet them again.

Years ago a lovely lady (Miss_Tress) gave a top tip- she always has a social first at a place she'll be anyway. If they don't turn up it doesn't matter.

So I do the same. If they don't turn up I eat all the cake myself.

Oh shit I just realised why I'm getting fatter.

Did someone say cake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends how it’s done, on here I just shrug my shoulders and move on. But I’ve also been on the receiving end of a very public rejection and that knocked my confidence, he was a twunt. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest, although I don't have a big ego it does knock me back a bit, mainly because I only cold message women who's criteria I fill and don't cut and paste.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

To be honest I dont do a lot of approaching in the first place. But if im not someone's cup of tea fair enough, wish the a happy fabing experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry until my tear soaked cheeks and streaming nose get chapped

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By *VxrMan
over a year ago

Newton le Willows

Take it on the chin & crack on.......we can't all be for everyone can we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of this life. I expect far more rejections than acceptance.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It’s not really rejection unless they know you. "

Yeah fab is totally ephemeral, it means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty more fish in the sea it’s water of a ducks back for me

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Disappointed of course. I wouldn’t have gone there in the first place if I wasn’t wanting it. When you get on a roll of rejection you start doubting yourself and wonder what’s wrong with you.

But ultimately it is what it is, a fuck with a stranger. You move on.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone will fancy you ...

I just take it as it is

Agreed. I'd go as far to say that most won't fancy me, and I'm ok with that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s bound to sting a little, after all you messaged them as you thought they were intriguing.

But I can’t think that everyone I think is intriguing finds me intriguing so it’s just one of them things.

Life is too short to hold grudges or get upset. Move on.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think I've been rejected once - no reply. Erm, I just got on with my day, nothing you can really say when they are clearly not interested. I don't try and avoid it, maybe to some extent I haven't always put myself out there enough to be rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do kind of get accustomed to it. A lovely lady I chat to recently asked why I hadn't suggested a social coffee when I happened to be in her part of the world, and my honest answer was that I am so used to being turned down that I never expected her to accept..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've sent face pics/messages and have been blocked/ignored, it's not the end of the world. We've had people send us face pics and messages and not wanted to take it further.

Not everyone is for us, and we're not for everyone.

It doesn't ruin our day, or our experience on here, life's too short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t expect I’ll be everyone’s cup of tea.

That’s not a reflection on me. It’s that person’s taste.

I am pretty confident though (and that’s well founded)!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Anyone who rejects me gets tracked down and disappears. I've stopped making initial contacts as I've a feeling it isn't accepted behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here, dont give a rats ass but in real time i dont put myself in that kind of situation even if it appears someones interested.. "

Hmmm.. if someone seems interested..why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what kind of rejection it is.

I got rejected by someone on here not long ago - it panged for about 2 mins and then I got over it

If the rejection was from someone I know Im sure it would feel different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends what kind of rejection it is.

I got rejected by someone on here not long ago - it panged for about 2 mins and then I got over it

If the rejection was from someone I know Im sure it would feel different."

Sure. If you're been talking a while shared pics etc. Understandable

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think rejection is much easier to take in the swinging world, as a couple.

If they aren't interested, it really is perfectly fine. Whether on here or after a social. However, we already have someone in our life.

I'm sure it's harder for singles. I think as a single you need to be thick skinned and simply accept that, everyone is different and just because you like them, they won't necessarily like you.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

Story of my life, I get more shocked when I'm NOT rejected

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Getting rejected on here is pretty much par for the course and I just shrug it off. I don't take it personally.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Better than those I reject, the endless ‘Why ?’ messages back, honestly do they really want me to go into detail about how unattractive I find them.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

Just move on ...you win some , you lose some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone who rejects me gets tracked down and disappears. I've stopped making initial contacts as I've a feeling it isn't accepted behaviour."

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I mean it's not exactly nice. Especially if they're a dick about it. I won't lose any sleep over it though as I'd much rather sleep with people who are really into me than someone's who's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?

Story of my life, I get more shocked when I'm NOT rejected

Prepare to be shocked then x

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Next .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a mail saying, 'yeah nice but not my type, sorry'

Was proper shocked! Lol

Not stopped whinging into my coffee cup since!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 46 and fairly sensible, if I can't take rejection by now then I don't deserve acceptance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot..but i take on chin..move on..theres always someone out there for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s easier for men to except rejection on Fab as we have to get use to it, along with all the man bashing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a pinch of salt...and a nice bottle of Chianti.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well 99% of the time we take it ever so personally, internalise it and constantly question what we could do better to be worthy of their attention before adding them to the “we will find you one day list”

1% of the time we just shrug and move on

We aren’t good at math

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there may well be someone for everyone but it’s all about the way they do it Delete and block is always confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With a pinch of salt...and a nice bottle of Chianti.

It puts the lotion on the skin or it gets the hose again!

I'd only....! *sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With a pinch of salt...and a nice bottle of Chianti.

It puts the lotion on the skin or it gets the hose again!

I'd only....! *sigh*"

If!

Fucking autocorrect!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I take it for what is, I’m not their type. Just as they should if I’m not interested in them.

I think rejection would be harder to take for people who start from a place of low self esteem.

The key to a happy life, in whatever you do not just Fab, is to be totally happy in yourself. It’s easy to say and it can take some serious self work, but it is worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take it for what is, I’m not their type. Just as they should if I’m not interested in them.

I think rejection would be harder to take for people who start from a place of low self esteem.

The key to a happy life, in whatever you do not just Fab, is to be totally happy in yourself. It’s easy to say and it can take some serious self work, but it is worth it

Fascinating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm not indifferent to it, as some seem to be.

I'd rather not be rejected, after all I'll only generally nessage someone I'm actually interested in.

But accept it and move on, and by the next day it's back to normal....whatever that is !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s easier for men to except rejection on Fab as we have to get use to it, along with all the man bashing. "

Somehow I don't think you get rejected much ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like a hot blade, straight through the heart, and a little part of me dies. For a nanosecond. Then it's all forgotten again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just decided to stop sending the first message now

(unless their really special)

If you want me you'll message me like, I usually try and head for clubs now where you actually meet a person face to face then over a screen.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Depends on how much I know/like the person.

Being rejected by a random on a fuck site doesn't bother me.

Being rejected by someone I care about in my personal life, of course that's going to hurt.

It also depend how kindly or brutally the rejection is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't change what other people think of me so what's the point in trying...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I can't remember.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online rejection has zero effect on me now. You can't even say I wasn't their type. They never met me. So how would they know? So it's just a door closing with a "no thanks" sign on it and that's totally fine by me.

Being rejected in public, however, is probably still a bit thorny for me, despite getting over it online. In person it really is more of an assessment of me. Plus, there's the social awkwardness of it all happening in front of others. Or being left hanging. Since it takes a lot more courage to even approach someone you fancy in real life, it's much further to fall if they brush you off... unless they're really lovely and brush you off in a friendly kind way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if being rejected turns you on, is that a paradox ?

Paradox is on my word of the day toilet roll.

Paradox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok as long as the person rejecting is polite and respectful (presuming you have been) can be annoying if people are rude or cruel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men dont take rejection very well i have had men get abusive with me and block me one guy in particular kept messaging me for weeks i didnt tell him your not my type i dont have the heart to say that to someone wish i had i might have to say that to men in the future i just kept telling the guy im not interested but he would not stop messaging me so he blocked me when i had an argument with him

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

Life's to short to worry, "It is what it is"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if being rejected turns you on, is that a paradox ?

Paradox is on my word of the day toilet roll.

Paradox. "

I had one pair of doc Martin boots. Then I saw another pair on eBay and bought them.

Paradox

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?

Like water off a ducks back."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get rejected. It’s not a problem. Not everyone is for everyone

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

"Some men dont take rejection very well i have had men get abusive with me and block me one guy in particular kept messaging me for weeks i didnt tell him your not my type i dont have the heart to say that to someone wish i had i might have to say that to men in the future i just kept telling the guy im not interested but he would not stop messaging me so he blocked me when i had an argument with him "

I always put " sorry you not my type , I hope you find what your looking for X " always get reply saying thanks , you too ...works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if being rejected turns you on, is that a paradox ?

Paradox is on my word of the day toilet roll.

Paradox.

I had one pair of doc Martin boots. Then I saw another pair on eBay and bought them.

Paradox"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey feisty minx.. I ve looked at your pics.. Like me, plain n boring you ain t

its how we are perceived by others.. In my case i m so outside the box in my life i m just dangling.. Erm not fangling like that coz the weight of such a dangling would drag me down

.. You seem pretty good to me girl, so chin up... Life is a case of suck it n see

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Is there really any alternative other than to move on? Sure it sucks, but that's life - highs with lows etc.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"
we can't be everyone's cup of tea....I don't mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All depends how it’s done, on here I just shrug my shoulders and move on. But I’ve also been on the receiving end of a very public rejection and that knocked my confidence, he was a twunt. X

I think if someone does that in public they're doing it for a reaction and they're a shitty person. They think you're on a higher level and they're trying to bring you down. Try and take it as a weird compliment. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s easier for men to except rejection on Fab as we have to get use to it, along with all the man bashing. "

Really? If I was a man I wouldn't be on here. Constant rejection/ no replies would surely get to any human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone turns you down what do you say? Are you ok with being rejected?

Do you avoid the possibility of rejection?"

Im fine with rejection, or being turned down. It's nothing personal. I always reply with a courteous 'no problem, thank you for replying'. If someone takes the time to send a message, at least reciprocal response is in order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s easier for men to except rejection on Fab as we have to get use to it, along with all the man bashing.

Really? If I was a man I wouldn't be on here. Constant rejection/ no replies would surely get to any human being.

I'd recommend men to join here for a while. Just to get over their fear of online rejection. It's been one of the most positive features of the site

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