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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different?

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By *allguy33777Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

I haven't but I don't imagine it is any different, except you're paying for people to tell you how horny they are

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

You can pay me for a chat if you like?

Happy to have helped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? "
exactly the same, just because you pay doesn't give you a better class of person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did but it was 2005 and I met a guy who I married and was with for 10 years. Online dating was very different back then. Not so disposable and people were actually wanting a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? exactly the same, just because you pay doesn't give you a better class of person "

No but it usually means they are more serious about meeting someone. I’m talking about the ones you pay a bit more for membership and not just extra features like Pof.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I used to subscribe here but don't now and found it no different.

I've never paid on a 'dating' site but this is the next best thing

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

Most of the ones that have paid features are free for basic use - a bit like here.

Irrespective of whether something has a cost or not, you’re still going to get the good and the bad. Possibly even worse for those who have the same attitude towards clubs. ie: they have paid more, so that somehow gives them the sense of entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem with a lot of these dating sites they are aimed at gullible men.

They get you to sign up to a free account and as soon as you do your mail box had messages from seriously attractive women.

Then to read them you got to pay but what you don't know is these woman are just bots to rope you in to get your cash.

Be very careful as them canceling membership can be a problem as they don't reply to your complaints.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? "

Not me personally but i think the general understanding is that if people are prepared to pay for a more tailored dating service, then they are more likely to be serious about actually meeting someone for more than a few dates, rather than with random timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? exactly the same, just because you pay doesn't give you a better class of person

No but it usually means they are more serious about meeting someone. I’m talking about the ones you pay a bit more for membership and not just extra features like Pof. "

Yeah that's the ones I mean, where there are no free memberships, the whole site must be paid for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did once... it was crap. The "matches" were nothing like what I wanted and in the end I got a refund.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects


"I did but it was 2005 and I met a guy who I married and was with for 10 years. Online dating was very different back then. Not so disposable and people were actually wanting a relationship. "

I would agree that even those which used to be good, have now sought to follow the tinder model.

I think then, that it is much less about specifically paying for a site, and more what level of insight into other users it gives.

I’m not going to decide upon someone’s profile based purely on their photos. I want to know more about them in advance of any interaction. Those sites which have algorithms based upon answering questions and statements are, for the most part, reasonably reliable in matching me with people I’m likely to click with. Unfortunately even those algorithms on a certain site have now been skewed to allow “better” matches with fewer questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way you look dotty you could get on them high class ones where other members vote you in..

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading


"Problem with a lot of these dating sites they are aimed at gullible men.

They get you to sign up to a free account and as soon as you do your mail box had messages from seriously attractive women.

Then to read them you got to pay but what you don't know is these woman are just bots to rope you in to get your cash.

Be very careful as them canceling membership can be a problem as they don't reply to your complaints.

"

Amazing how many of these 'women' have messaged me, without looking at my profile or even being on the site in weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve heard good things about guardian soulmates, I think it’s about £32 a month membership.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain...just give it a go.

At least your both starting off on the same page so to speak. Unlike here were guys tell you what you want to hear but Im sure you know that anyhow.

I met a nice guy a few years ago from match but it's the location thing for me. The same as here really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once used a dating site and at the same time had a free trial on another paying dating site,there was literally the same people on both so doesn’t really matter at all in my view

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have nothing to lose and everything to gain...just give it a go.

At least your both starting off on the same page so to speak. Unlike here were guys tell you what you want to hear but Im sure you know that anyhow.

I met a nice guy a few years ago from match but it's the location thing for me. The same as here really. "

Yeah I'm not actively looking to date. If someone came along i clicked with then I'd be open to it but I'm quite content as I am.

I'mnot completely convinced by the online dating thing either, I worry that people are so keento date they might get together because they'd rather that than be alone? I know I'm probably generalising a bit much though!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? "
Try speed dating

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? Try speed dating"

Or just try speed

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? Try speed dating

Or just try speed"
It was on at the casino once i tried it before playing poker later. The people at them are very serious about relationships and you see what you could be getting face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have nothing to lose and everything to gain...just give it a go.

At least your both starting off on the same page so to speak. Unlike here were guys tell you what you want to hear but Im sure you know that anyhow.

I met a nice guy a few years ago from match but it's the location thing for me. The same as here really.

Yeah I'm not actively looking to date. If someone came along i clicked with then I'd be open to it but I'm quite content as I am.

I'mnot completely convinced by the online dating thing either, I worry that people are so keento date they might get together because they'd rather that than be alone? I know I'm probably generalising a bit much though! "
Well in my own opinion that things shouldn’t be pushed or forced,they will happen naturally. I’m a big believer of that’ll I’ll rather be happy single than unhappy with someone,living a fake life wasting my own life for something that isn’t true. Yes a lot of people are obsessed with dating and feel they have to be with someone,dating apps will be rammed as Xmas is coming haha!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met my hotwife on one, glad I made the move with the first message

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"I joined a dating site a few weeks ago. More out of curiosity than to actively seek anything.

My general observation is it's just fab with a bit more small talk, they at least ask how you're doing before announcing how horny they are.

My friend says it's because the sites are free so people chance their luck so I was just wondering has anyone ever used a paid for/premium dating service and was it any different? "

I naively paid for match. As soon as my subscription finished apparently I had numerous matches and messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met my hotwife on one, glad I made the move with the first message "
How do we class someone as a “hot wife”? We’ve all got different ideas of what that maybe? She been on the sunbed too long?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’ve heard good things about guardian soulmates, I think it’s about £32 a month membership. "

That was OK a few years back, but I tried it again for a month and it was dead as a dodo, full of unsubscribed profiles.

I started with the Times one and moved down the food chain doing a few trials until I ended up trawling the bottom feeders on Badoo where I found an fb who asked me to look at fab with a view to opening a couples profile!

None of them are any good IMO, so I just stick with POF and fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve heard good things about guardian soulmates, I think it’s about £32 a month membership.

That was OK a few years back, but I tried it again for a month and it was dead as a dodo, full of unsubscribed profiles.

I started with the Times one and moved down the food chain doing a few trials until I ended up trawling the bottom feeders on Badoo where I found an fb who asked me to look at fab with a view to opening a couples profile!

None of them are any good IMO, so I just stick with POF and fab.

"

I had a 10 year and an 18 month relationship from dating direct. I went on badoo nearly 4 years ago after me and ex broke up. I met some nice guys back then and 3 are still in my close circle of friends. Now it’s full of strange characters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on several paying sites and as I said they all serve up much the same, men outweigh women in numbers one had a better chatroom but was very cliquey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on tinder and my pic is me cuddling chickens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

POF to me is just somewhere where men who can't get a meet off fab go

they pretend they want to date but really they just want NSA sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met some great guys via free ones.. then upgraded to a paying one and met a loon with a secret life and now a criminal record.. very much pot luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"POF to me is just somewhere where men who can't get a meet off fab go

they pretend they want to date but really they just want NSA sex "
Yes correct I think the majority of men think that they will tell the girls anything to get a leg over on pof,and maybe it works for them? Who knows......answers on a postcard

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