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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right. Definitely not your business

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By *siancouple4femCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing whatsoever to do with you, in my opinion.

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

I would not intrude. Did she posted her face pictures?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very awkward situation to be in. Has she seen you on here?

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Keep out of it xx karma will win in the end x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right. Definitely not your business "

Oh your best friend?? Oh I’m not sure then. I’m on the fence with this one. If it was my best friends husband I think I’d speak to him. Only if it was her though, anyone else I’d stay out of their business.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Keep out of it and say nothing ..

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I’d block her now to avoid any potential problems in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say nothing. I’d block her and try forgetting it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I haven't spoken to her, in fact I blocked her as soon as I saw her face pic, as heaven forbid she contacted me! Lol...I'm getting the gist I'm morally in the right not saying anything lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind your own man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right. Definitely not your business

Oh your best friend?? Oh I’m not sure then. I’m on the fence with this one. If it was my best friends husband I think I’d speak to him. Only if it was her though, anyone else I’d stay out of their business. "

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "
What does her profile say? He might know already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't spoken to her, in fact I blocked her as soon as I saw her face pic, as heaven forbid she contacted me! Lol...I'm getting the gist I'm morally in the right not saying anything lol"

If your friend found out and she said that you knew then you could lose a friendship. Good for blocking but it it was my best friends husband then not sure I could not get involved.

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By *musedforlifeMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If she's put a face pic on then she's not afraid of being recognised, or scared of her husband finding out. I think he knows she's on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your fucked whatever you do. Tell him she's on her and as so many of said it wasn't your business. Don;t tell him? Well if he finds out she's on here and that you knew and didn't tell him he's unlikely to value your discrtetion and be pissed you never told him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So assuming this is legit, then I’m guessing she’s not being discreet about her identify if you’ve been able to identify her so easily.

So either she wants to be recognised or is playing with permission.

But to answer the question I guess it would depend on how close a friend he is. A real lifelong bestie I’d tell immediately (bro’s before hoe’s after all ) but anyone else I’d have a good perve of her pics first (come on, who wouldn’t!?) before blocking and leaving her personal business to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The other consideration was its someone using her images as there are face pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bros before hoes but they have been together 15 years and have 2 kids so not just them involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it was your wife. (if you had one) how would you feel if your friend kept it from you.... xx its a tough decision isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if she reads this forum .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck her.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

Giggiddy!

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By *ong legs n LingeireWoman
over a year ago

it up to me neck. :-)

Stay away!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's her username

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

How do you know he's oblivious, how do you know it's not someone else using her images?

Not you circus, not your monkeys. You're not morally right or wrong you have no idea what goes on in their relationship.

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By *winger212Woman
over a year ago

Live in spain

I actually would have messaged them and say hi I'm here and I see you're here, what's the story?

This leaves them with the option to tell you they are there with permission or they either block you or delete profile, If they do either of the last 2 then if it's your best friend and they already know you're on here then grab a drink with them and say ..."hey, small world... But!!"

But only if the very best of friends, otherwise it's not your business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people feel the need to interfere in other's lives? Leave them be. You don't ever know what really goes on in someone else's relationship. It's their issue/ non issue. You have no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would speak to her.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Block her but pop her in your Wank bank if not done already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would speak to her. "

And if I was her I'd block him/ Ignore him/ tell him to mind his own business. He knows nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You should keep well out of it imo.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton

First thing I’d def do is ask a bunch of strangers that the vast majority is cheating on their other halves.. but hoody whooo that’s none of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to interfere in other's lives? Leave them be. You don't ever know what really goes on in someone else's relationship. It's their issue/ non issue. You have no idea. "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x"

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on. "

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

You say he's oblivious.

It could their 'thing'.

She's on here. He's a secret cuckold.

They might get off on it.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating. "
If she has face pics he could easily screenshot the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "
Right

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating. If she has face pics he could easily screenshot the profile."

How is that incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?"

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x"

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating. If she has face pics he could easily screenshot the profile.

How is that incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating?"
If she is on here without his consent I would say that is pretty good evidence. Especially if she is verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?"

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'd tell my friend and the reason why is simple if that was my husband fucking around then I would hope my friend would tell me.

You know so you can't now unknow it!

So when your friend finds out and talks to you about it. You will have to lie or tell him that you were aware.

If that was your wife would you what your friend to tell you?

Not a nice situation to be in to be honest.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

Tell him immediately. No brainer.

Imagine how he’d feel if he found out you’d known but hadn’t revealed it to him?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x"

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating. If she has face pics he could easily screenshot the profile.

How is that incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating? If she is on here without his consent I would say that is pretty good evidence. Especially if she is verified."

But that isn't what the op said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

Tell him immediately. No brainer.

Imagine how he’d feel if he found out you’d known but hadn’t revealed it to him?! "

This. If they found out any way you've to sit and be shocked like you don't know. Not a chance in hell that's happening x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?"

No I would feel sick. And it does benefit her. She would know the truth and then she can make her own mind up what she wants to do. I know this....my pal would thank me for telling her and so would I if the roles were reversed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the wife if she’s fit !

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating. If she has face pics he could easily screenshot the profile.

How is that incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating? If she is on here without his consent I would say that is pretty good evidence. Especially if she is verified.

But that isn't what the op said. "
Yeah he hasn't been that clear, we don't know the full circumstances. But a screenshot of a verified profile with face pics would definitely be incontrovertible!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d personally show your friend the profile and say you’re worried someone’s using her pics. But that’s just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

How do you know he doesn't know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Bros before hoes. I'd say tell your mate. But quietly.

On one hand maybe his missus is really cheating on him, and you e been a good friend by not just playing dumb and ignorant whilst you know your friend's wife is cheating on him with incontrovertible evidence. On the other hand if she's playing with his permission, then you risk nothing by clearing the air with your mate and making sure it's really alright with him, after which whether you choose to play with his wife or keep a wide berth is still open to you.

Speaking from personal experience I'd be angrier at a friend hiding my partner's cheating than coming up to tell me about seeing her on the same swinging site he plays on.

He doesn't have incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating. If she has face pics he could easily screenshot the profile.

How is that incontrovertible evidence that she's cheating? If she is on here without his consent I would say that is pretty good evidence. Especially if she is verified.

But that isn't what the op said. Yeah he hasn't been that clear, we don't know the full circumstances. But a screenshot of a verified profile with face pics would definitely be incontrovertible!."

Exactly, we don't know the full circumstances.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?"

You seriously mean to say if you discovered the partner of a friend of yours was playing away behind their back you wouldn’t tell your friend they were being betrayed??

Some friend you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?

No I would feel sick. And it does benefit her. She would know the truth and then she can make her own mind up what she wants to do. I know this....my pal would thank me for telling her and so would I if the roles were reversed x"

How do you know she doesn't already know? They've come to an agreement. She doesn't want to talk about it? You never truly know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about he approaches her and gives her a chance to fill him in. If she is cheating then he can give her a chance to own up herself or he will tell his friend. If she isnt cheating and her husband (your friend) is aware of her shenanigans ( ) then he should have given you the heads up knowing that you are on here so you weren't in this predicament. There you go. You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?

You seriously mean to say if you discovered the partner of a friend of yours was playing away behind their back you wouldn’t tell your friend they were being betrayed??

Some friend you are. "

Not my business. Especially without any facts. I'm basing my answers on the op scenario. Thanks for your judgement.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?

No I would feel sick. And it does benefit her. She would know the truth and then she can make her own mind up what she wants to do. I know this....my pal would thank me for telling her and so would I if the roles were reversed x

How do you know she doesn't already know? They've come to an agreement. She doesn't want to talk about it? You never truly know people. "

Try and get him joined up too.. he may as well have some of the cake also

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Actually thinking about it if it was me and someone told me I'd be thrilled and be thinking about all the fun we could have together. High fives all round.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

I'm starting to think this belongs in the stories/fantasies section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends come first so hell yes I'd be speaking to them straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd tell my friend and the reason why is simple if that was my husband fucking around then I would hope my friend would tell me.

You know so you can't now unknow it!

So when your friend finds out and talks to you about it. You will have to lie or tell him that you were aware.

If that was your wife would you what your friend to tell you?

Not a nice situation to be in to be honest.

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I personally think he should stay out of it nothing good comes from being a clipe as they say in Scotland, if wife and hubby make it up mate becomes ex mate

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Actually thinking about it if it was me and someone told me I'd be thrilled and be thinking about all the fun we could have together. High fives all round."

You could change your name to Lucky Lick

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

What goes on fab stays on fab

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?

You seriously mean to say if you discovered the partner of a friend of yours was playing away behind their back you wouldn’t tell your friend they were being betrayed??

Some friend you are.

Not my business. Especially without any facts. I'm basing my answers on the op scenario. Thanks for your judgement. "

Sorry but that doesn’t sit well with me, and yes I will judge.

If I had an inkling that a mate’s other half was doing the dirty I’d tell my friend about my suspiscions. I wouldn’t even hesitate!

If those suspiscions proved unfounded then all well and good, but they’d still thank me for looking out for their best interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?

Me cos she'll kick my arse if I didn't tell her x

As I thought. It doesn't benefit her. And how will she possibly find out you know anything? It's extremely unlikely. Does it make you feel good?

No I would feel sick. And it does benefit her. She would know the truth and then she can make her own mind up what she wants to do. I know this....my pal would thank me for telling her and so would I if the roles were reversed x

How do you know she doesn't already know? They've come to an agreement. She doesn't want to talk about it? You never truly know people. "

I know my best mate. I see it. I tell her. The details are irrelevant x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you come across her? (pun not intended). If you’ve got in touch with her and she knows it’s you then if you don’t tell your friend she can say to your friend, well he knew about it and tried to approach me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would speak to her.

And if I was her I'd block him/ Ignore him/ tell him to mind his own business. He knows nothing. "

Then I'd be talking to my friend if he really was his best mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s her business don’t get involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?"

He is, he gets to make a decision on continuing or not his relationship and not wasting more time with a cheat if he doesn't.

And that is assuming real best friends, mine has no secrets from me and vice Versa so if her boyfriend was on fabs with her knowledge I would know too.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"Personally I would speak to her.

And if I was her I'd block him/ Ignore him/ tell him to mind his own business. He knows nothing.

Then I'd be talking to my friend if he really was his best mate. "

Yep. This thread has about as much credibility as the “wanking in the woods” thread.

I’ve wasted my time replying to both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go shag her and have done with it, you know you have thought about nothing else since you’ve seen her

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By *un4meanduMan
over a year ago

STOTFOLD

Your friend knows you're on here?

maybe they are both trying to entice you in because she fancies you and he knows all about it and told her to come on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dose she know ur on here because your pall dose as you said ....

Drop it to him ......

Subtle tho ....

Say there a few married women on here, what/how would you feel if it was your miss

Might be waiting for you to fire a few messages at her .......

Easier way for ur pall an his miss telling u they a 3 some, probably been hinting for years ?

Ahahahahah

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"Dose she know ur on here because your pall dose as you said ....

Drop it to him ......

Subtle tho ....

Say there a few married women on here, what/how would you feel if it was your miss

Might be waiting for you to fire a few messages at her .......

Easier way for ur pall an his miss telling u they a 3 some, probably been hinting for years ?

Ahahahahah

"

...or it could be his mate testing the boundaries of their friendship to see if he would tell or not...

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a woman say nothing because it's ok and really hot for women to cheat.

If it's a man tell everyone you know because men that cheat are evil evil evil.

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By *ix-foot-two-stuMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Why do people feel the need to interfere in other's lives? Leave them be. You don't ever know what really goes on in someone else's relationship. It's their issue/ non issue. You have no idea. "

While he’s not part of their relationship, he’s very much part of their lives. Or of his best friend’s at least.

Very tricky moral conundrum and what to do would depend on the nature of the friends’ relationship.

Anonymously sending him a link to her profile wouldn’t work if he knows you’re on here. Too obvious.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Is your mate's name Jesse

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Right. Definitely not your business

Oh your best friend?? Oh I’m not sure then. I’m on the fence with this one. If it was my best friends husband I think I’d speak to him. Only if it was her though, anyone else I’d stay out of their business. "

No one knows what goes on behind closed doors so I'd mind my own business.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

How do you know he's oblivious, how do you know it's not someone else using her images?

Not you circus, not your monkeys. You're not morally right or wrong you have no idea what goes on in their relationship."

This always for me!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I actually would have messaged them and say hi I'm here and I see you're here, what's the story?

This leaves them with the option to tell you they are there with permission or they either block you or delete profile, If they do either of the last 2 then if it's your best friend and they already know you're on here then grab a drink with them and say ..."hey, small world... But!!"

But only if the very best of friends, otherwise it's not your business"

...and who made you boss?!! I'd be fucking furious if someone asked me to justify my actions.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why do people feel the need to interfere in other's lives? Leave them be. You don't ever know what really goes on in someone else's relationship. It's their issue/ non issue. You have no idea. "

I was beginning to think I was alone in my thoughts.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x"

Think you'll find even if you told her you'd lose the friendship. Couples generally close ranks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block her, for get her and never mention it.

Its none of your business, you will lose your "best Friend"

I wish you wisdom.

Xxx

Nessa

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Block her, for get her and never mention it.

Its none of your business, you will lose your "best Friend"

I wish you wisdom.

Xxx

Nessa"

Yep...the messenger is always shot.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

How do you know it’s not him that’s done the profile

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep to yourself . Neither will thank you for it and both likely will turn you for getting involved x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other consideration was its someone using her images as there are face pics!"

I agree. I've done a thread to ask and most say they'd tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let it gooooooo !

Let it gooooooo!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow, after reading all the posts, and what seems a split in concensus I would alienate half of the membership whichever decision I take. Therefore I must thank you all for your comments and feedback. As her profile is unverified I will at this stage not progress things further as there could be so many scenarios being played out so she is blocked and forgotten about, I will have a separate mates convo on what's happening in his relationship like we sometimes do and see if he's still happy, and to those who have asked if i now fantasise about her? Omg in any other circumstance I would but I can't look at her like that, she's my mates wife, and a friend,...that has absolute disaster written all over it.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "
. Sorry mate you are in a no win situation.There is a saying If in doubt stay out.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Wow, after reading all the posts, and what seems a split in concensus I would alienate half of the membership whichever decision I take. Therefore I must thank you all for your comments and feedback. As her profile is unverified I will at this stage not progress things further as there could be so many scenarios being played out so she is blocked and forgotten about, I will have a separate mates convo on what's happening in his relationship like we sometimes do and see if he's still happy, and to those who have asked if i now fantasise about her? Omg in any other circumstance I would but I can't look at her like that, she's my mates wife, and a friend,...that has absolute disaster written all over it.

"

You wouldn't alienate anyone if you kept your personal life personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s not your mate or you’d tell him! If it was her mates she’d know already

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Tricky one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clean your eyes you saw nuthin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your mates wife is cheating on him and everyone is saying don’t tell him.

Some mate you are if you don’t tell him. If it was a female situation they wouldn’t hesitate we all know that’s true.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Wow, after reading all the posts, and what seems a split in concensus I would alienate half of the membership whichever decision I take. Therefore I must thank you all for your comments and feedback. As her profile is unverified I will at this stage not progress things further as there could be so many scenarios being played out so she is blocked and forgotten about, I will have a separate mates convo on what's happening in his relationship like we sometimes do and see if he's still happy, and to those who have asked if i now fantasise about her? Omg in any other circumstance I would but I can't look at her like that, she's my mates wife, and a friend,...that has absolute disaster written all over it.

"

But why is the state of THEIR relationship your business?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So your mates wife is cheating on him and everyone is saying don’t tell him.

Some mate you are if you don’t tell him. If it was a female situation they wouldn’t hesitate we all know that’s true. "

Because fab is not to be confused with real life

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

Think you'll find even if you told her you'd lose the friendship. Couples generally close ranks."

Thankfully I know that would never happen x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So your mates wife is cheating on him and everyone is saying don’t tell him.

Some mate you are if you don’t tell him. If it was a female situation they wouldn’t hesitate we all know that’s true. "

We DON'T know the circumstances of their relationship. As she has face pics up I daresay she has nothing to hide. I'm not married, retired, met my other half here and neither of us would have face pics up!

We also have no way of knowing what their relationship is.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???"

Again...What gives you the right to ask another adult to justify their actions to you?

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???

Again...What gives you the right to ask another adult to justify their actions to you?"

You don’t get it, he’s in an imposdible situation, this is his best friend, sorry but I stand by what I said, confront her

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

Think you'll find even if you told her you'd lose the friendship. Couples generally close ranks.

Thankfully I know that would never happen x"

Actually, you have no way of knowing that.

You're not keeping them warm at night. Some people will overlook their other halfs indiscretion so as not to upset the status quo and drop the friend.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Maybe he checked the site out when you mentioned it to him,told his Mrs you were on here,they both checked it out together and set her up a profile in the hope you would see it which you have.

Maybe it's their way of saying they want a threesome. What did her profile say?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???

Again...What gives you the right to ask another adult to justify their actions to you?

You don’t get it, he’s in an imposdible situation, this is his best friend, sorry but I stand by what I said, confront her"

I do get it. I just don't see why I'd expect anyone to justify their actions to me.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"The other consideration was its someone using her images as there are face pics!"

This happens and has happened to me before! But the answer here is simple. You've already said your friend knows you use this site, so you're not too worried yourself about friends knowing you're on here.... Next time you see his wife, just quietly tell her you've seen her face pic on here. Don't elaborate or assume. Just tell her you've seen it, and let her decide what to do after that.

If it's not her, she can ask for your help in getting the pics removed.. If it is her, she might just feign ignorance and then delete her account later, or she might come clean and admit its her and tell you if it's with or without permission. At least then you can make an informed decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

Think you'll find even if you told her you'd lose the friendship. Couples generally close ranks.

Thankfully I know that would never happen x

Actually, you have no way of knowing that.

You're not keeping them warm at night. Some people will overlook their other halfs indiscretion so as not to upset the status quo and drop the friend.

"

I've been best mates with her since I was 12. I'm not going anywhere x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???

Again...What gives you the right to ask another adult to justify their actions to you?

You don’t get it, he’s in an imposdible situation, this is his best friend, sorry but I stand by what I said, confront her

I do get it. I just don't see why I'd expect anyone to justify their actions to me. "

I guess you don't have a best friend. My best friend is like my sister, and there is zero doubt she would expect me to help out in her relationship and any other aspect of her life, as she would in mine. Otherwise I'm just an acquaintance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she fit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How loyal and close is your friendship? What would be right or wrong? You’re caught between a rock and a very hard place Op and you have our sympathy’s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was the other way round, would you want your friend to tell you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to interfere in other's lives? Leave them be. You don't ever know what really goes on in someone else's relationship. It's their issue/ non issue. You have no idea. "

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Only thing you know for certajn op is you have a profile on fab. Anything after that you cannot be certain of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other consideration was its someone using her images as there are face pics!"

For a best friend, I would use this opening to tell her in front of him

For an acquaintance I would block and ignore.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???

Again...What gives you the right to ask another adult to justify their actions to you?

You don’t get it, he’s in an imposdible situation, this is his best friend, sorry but I stand by what I said, confront her

I do get it. I just don't see why I'd expect anyone to justify their actions to me. "

So, if you discover you’re best friend is being cheated on, you’re not going to pass that knowledge on to them?

Your view of friendship is very different to mine.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong??

I have read all the responses,

1) he knows you’re on here

2) she has a face pic on here

So the issue here is if he doesn’t know then finds out, he’s going to say something to you, purely based on the facts above, he’s going to suspect you’re involved somehow. May even suspect you’ve been fucking her...

If you tell him, he may already know. If he doesn’t it will devistate him and their marriage, but it still the moral thing to do.

But.....

I would confront her about it, tell her you know and what the fucks going on???

Again...What gives you the right to ask another adult to justify their actions to you?

You don’t get it, he’s in an imposdible situation, this is his best friend, sorry but I stand by what I said, confront her

I do get it. I just don't see why I'd expect anyone to justify their actions to me.

I guess you don't have a best friend. My best friend is like my sister, and there is zero doubt she would expect me to help out in her relationship and any other aspect of her life, as she would in mine. Otherwise I'm just an acquaintance. "

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Is being pious really worth the fallout? Do they have children and an otherwise happy family life? Is he the perfect partner to her?

A former friend of mine years beat the shit out of his girlfriend and threw her down stairs after someone told him about an indiscretion she'd had, is your friend the type to react like that?

Sometimes it's better to say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She put her face pic on here for all to see....how do you not know her hubby is not fine with this scenario.....ask him..if not then he needs to know if he is your best mate..but of course that depends on if this story is true and not just a look at me forum post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would a married female without her partners knowledge put face pics on her profile ?

She would have to be extremely naive or just plain reckless to do so.

If her partner is aware do you think he would allow her face to be shown on here ?

This just doesn't ring true to me but nothing surprises me much these days.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

From the forum rules:

Dirty laundry

The forums aren't for airing your dirty laundry in public. If you've got a problem with another site user, please block them and/or report to admin via the report link on their profile.

Surely this entire thread is about another site user, therefore "dirty laundry"? Whether named or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes on fab stays on fab"

No

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I find it quite interesting that we have threads almost daily complaining about fake profiles i.e. profiles set up by men pretending to be women or people using other people's photos but a lot of people are happy to assume that this woman is actually the one behind this profile. Furthermore they would be superior to me morally because in the name of friendship, they're prepared without actual concrete evidence, to tell someone's partner that their wife is cheating on them. On the face of what little evidence we have this is the ops best friends wife but we all know "the internet" is all smoke and mirrors and what we see on profiles is very often not what is really happening.

I'd say the same if this was someone who had seen their friends husband however two people have mentioned that awful phrase "bros before hoes" so I guess not everyone feels that way.

There's more than one way to be a good friend, sometimes its necessary to stand back and consider what's the best course of action for your friends well being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it quite interesting that we have threads almost daily complaining about fake profiles i.e. profiles set up by men pretending to be women or people using other people's photos but a lot of people are happy to assume that this woman is actually the one behind this profile. Furthermore they would be superior to me morally because in the name of friendship, they're prepared without actual concrete evidence, to tell someone's partner that their wife is cheating on them. On the face of what little evidence we have this is the ops best friends wife but we all know "the internet" is all smoke and mirrors and what we see on profiles is very often not what is really happening.

I'd say the same if this was someone who had seen their friends husband however two people have mentioned that awful phrase "bros before hoes" so I guess not everyone feels that way.

There's more than one way to be a good friend, sometimes its necessary to stand back and consider what's the best course of action for your friends well being."

Very good point

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

Think you'll find even if you told her you'd lose the friendship. Couples generally close ranks.

Thankfully I know that would never happen x

Actually, you have no way of knowing that.

You're not keeping them warm at night. Some people will overlook their other halfs indiscretion so as not to upset the status quo and drop the friend.

I've been best mates with her since I was 12. I'm not going anywhere x"

No...but she might.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find it quite interesting that we have threads almost daily complaining about fake profiles i.e. profiles set up by men pretending to be women or people using other people's photos but a lot of people are happy to assume that this woman is actually the one behind this profile. Furthermore they would be superior to me morally because in the name of friendship, they're prepared without actual concrete evidence, to tell someone's partner that their wife is cheating on them. On the face of what little evidence we have this is the ops best friends wife but we all know "the internet" is all smoke and mirrors and what we see on profiles is very often not what is really happening.

I'd say the same if this was someone who had seen their friends husband however two people have mentioned that awful phrase "bros before hoes" so I guess not everyone feels that way.

There's more than one way to be a good friend, sometimes its necessary to stand back and consider what's the best course of action for your friends well being."

My point exactly!

It amazes me these so called friends, without any corroborating conclusive evidence are prepared to throw a potential grenade into their friends lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I saw my best mates husband on here I would have messaged her with 5 seconds. I would expect the same. Some people have a weird idea of what a best mate is x

Who benefits from you sticking your beak in?

If my pal found out I knew and didn't tell her she would hit the roof. We tell each other everything. I thought that what best mates do x

That doesn't answer my question. Who is better off if you say anything?"

Who is better off not saying anything?

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By *i amy cdTV/TS
over a year ago

leicester

My guess is that as your mate knows your on here, he has set up this fake profile of her to maybe try catch you out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#youknowwhatyoulike

#youknowwhoyouare

#youknowwhosheis

#you'llknowwhattodo

#listentoyourheart

#stayaway

And

#fuckawatermelon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well personally my best friend is closer than any of my family so I'd be telling if I saw her fella on here

Literally any other person in the world I'd keep out of it but not her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t imagine a lady putting her face picture on her profile and not wanting to be found out. Either her husband knows about this or this is just a made up scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would serve no purpose telling anyone, keep out of it

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Send her a wink -nothing more

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

He might be really upset that you've found out his wife has to come on here to fulfil her sexual needs because he can't.

So many scenarios. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors. It really is none of your business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sign up for a fake gmail or yahoo email account and send him the link to her profile anonymously.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do people think that because he's seen her that he needs to tell him? If anyone feels they need to get involved why not approach her? Unless your motive is to actually cause trouble.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sign up for a fake gmail or yahoo email account and send him the link to her profile anonymously. "

That in my opinion is not a great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my friend knows I'm on this site but he is oblivious to the fact that his wife is! I would never tell because it's not my business to intrude...right or wrong?? "

Hit her............................. with the best chat up line you got!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's her username "

Haha you know I was thinking the same..... Lad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck her.

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What ever meaning, his head jumps to first he should do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this isn’t jackanory....why the hell are they together if they are sneaking around? Well she couldn’t care much to be discreet if you recognised her.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Right. Definitely not your business "
another vote for this.

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