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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "

Only meet idiots, then you won’t fall for them.

This thread has got my name all over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think further than the day you spend together.

When you leave each other, after having sex, get on with your life and don't imagine him in it.

Works for me.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It's a tough one. Maybe keep talking about other meets etc. Keep reminding yourself your not the only one and he's not the only one.

Don't make him your only fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you. "

My long term partner told me he loved me and nothing changed between us except the sex became more intimate and sensual.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Wouldn't mind finding a fuck buddy first. I'd worry about the rest later. Just be nice to know you could get a good shag when the mood is right. Volunteers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

My long term partner told me he loved me and nothing changed between us except the sex became more intimate and sensual. "

But did you fall in love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "

I did a few years ago and so did he but we both knew it could never materialise into anything else so it wasn’t really an issue. Actually made it better to be honest. As long as you can handle it it needn’t be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

My long term partner told me he loved me and nothing changed between us except the sex became more intimate and sensual.

But did you fall in love? "

I'm not capable of loving any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing that can stop you feeling any emotion. It's part of our human make-up. Surely seeing someone "regularly" will always generate some feelings.

Why is that a bad thing after all its what many on here describe as "chemistry".

What you decide to do with or about those feelings only you can decide.

But I often wonder why so many here claim to be so scared of emotions. It's not like they can be turned on and off like a tap. They exist, part of what makes us complete as a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "

More the point why wouldn't they fall for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing that can stop you feeling any emotion. It's part of our human make-up. Surely seeing someone "regularly" will always generate some feelings.

Why is that a bad thing after all its what many on here describe as "chemistry".

What you decide to do with or about those feelings only you can decide.

But I often wonder why so many here claim to be so scared of emotions. It's not like they can be turned on and off like a tap. They exist, part of what makes us complete as a person

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Exactly this

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you. "

I dont understand this. If you feel something for someone why not move the relationship into something more. Why stop it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have someone in between meets maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "
If you have feelings how can you stop that happening, it's impossible in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your socks on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photoshop a big picture of them passing you an apron with the words "do the dishes and make me food" coming out of their mouth then throw darts at it on a nightly basis

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Have someone in between meets maybe"

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

I dont understand this. If you feel something for someone why not move the relationship into something more. Why stop it?"

In my situation my FB was married. She had full consent from her husband to see me but we didn’t expect to fall for each other. It was a hard time but it had to end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember even though we are swingers, we are still human.

If you form an attachment then let them know. You might actually be surprised and they feel the same.

I meet the same guy every week, I wouldn't say I have an attachment to him but it'd upset me if he stopped seeing me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also could have a print of wife/hubby on a t-shirt.

Kill any passion

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

I dont understand this. If you feel something for someone why not move the relationship into something more. Why stop it?

In my situation my FB was married. She had full consent from her husband to see me but we didn’t expect to fall for each other. It was a hard time but it had to end. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

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Haha yep. One would be good!!

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

I dont understand this. If you feel something for someone why not move the relationship into something more. Why stop it?

In my situation my FB was married. She had full consent from her husband to see me but we didn’t expect to fall for each other. It was a hard time but it had to end.

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It requires real discipline and a clear separation. A Fab life and a real life. You can’t afford to relax your focus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

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communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

communication is the key"

Yeah, like don't come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing that can stop you feeling any emotion. It's part of our human make-up. Surely seeing someone "regularly" will always generate some feelings.

Why is that a bad thing after all its what many on here describe as "chemistry".

What you decide to do with or about those feelings only you can decide.

But I often wonder why so many here claim to be so scared of emotions. It's not like they can be turned on and off like a tap. They exist, part of what makes us complete as a person

"

Not all swingers are human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

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2 isnt many just rotate them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find one that's a brilliant fuck but he's such a childish knob that you'd never want a relationship with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

2 isnt many just rotate them"

What like a spit roast?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to at least find a fb first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it good by caller her by the wrong name as you give her the m.o.t.check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

2 isnt many just rotate them

What like a spit roast?

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if thats your thing

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Keep your lives separate. Remember that you're just in a bubble of fun when you're together, and that however enjoyable it is, it's not real. As fuck buddies or friends with benefits you may have the deepest affection for each other, but you don't really know each other completely. It's fantastic because you don't have to face the realities of life together, the tough times and hardships. It's a bubble of pleasure and if you can understand that and maintain some distance it can work beautifully. You leave each other smiling and looking forward to the next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve not had a fWB before but I know how I am and I can get attached easily. I’m married and in an open relationship but I don’t want fall for someone as my fuck buddy and ruin my relationship with my partner x

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

What if you both feel the same and realise it could actually work? Stranger things have happened. I fell for my last one, we couldn't be together and I got hurt, but I'm still glad I got to have what we had and feel those feelings, it was good while it lasted.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"It's a tough one. Maybe keep talking about other meets etc. Keep reminding yourself your not the only one and he's not the only one.

Don't make him your only fuck. "

This works, unless it's the other person who has the feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

2 isnt many just rotate them

What like a spit roast?

if thats your thing"

I think you know it’s not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep your lives separate. Remember that you're just in a bubble of fun when you're together, and that however enjoyable it is, it's not real. As fuck buddies or friends with benefits you may have the deepest affection for each other, but you don't really know each other completely. It's fantastic because you don't have to face the realities of life together, the tough times and hardships. It's a bubble of pleasure and if you can understand that and maintain some distance it can work beautifully. You leave each other smiling and looking forward to the next time

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Spot on. Couldn’t have said it better.

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By *INTONIC300Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow/Manchester/Edinburgh

We have a regular guy who is a gent and always shows consideration.Fuck buddies are what it says on the tin fuck buddies Not personal you can enjoy your time but it is only fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing that can stop you feeling any emotion. It's part of our human make-up. Surely seeing someone "regularly" will always generate some feelings.

Why is that a bad thing after all its what many on here describe as "chemistry".

What you decide to do with or about those feelings only you can decide.

But I often wonder why so many here claim to be so scared of emotions. It's not like they can be turned on and off like a tap. They exist, part of what makes us complete as a person

Not all swingers are human. "

Troglagye waves from the man cave

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

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"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

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Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

"

Have a drink.forget about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

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happy thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

2 isnt many just rotate them

What like a spit roast?

if thats your thing

I think you know it’s not "

People evolve lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing that can stop you feeling any emotion. It's part of our human make-up. Surely seeing someone "regularly" will always generate some feelings.

Why is that a bad thing after all its what many on here describe as "chemistry".

What you decide to do with or about those feelings only you can decide.

But I often wonder why so many here claim to be so scared of emotions. It's not like they can be turned on and off like a tap. They exist, part of what makes us complete as a person

Not all swingers are human.

Troglagye waves from the man cave

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(((

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

Have a drink.forget about it"

Yeah pass me another gin

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

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Im on the turn....hah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not had a fWB before but I know how I am and I can get attached easily. I’m married and in an open relationship but I don’t want fall for someone as my fuck buddy and ruin my relationship with my partner x"

Imo this is a conversation you should have with your partner. It could be, for example, that he's comfortable with you having a degree of emotional involvement if you give him the power to pull the plug on it if it ever gets to him. Or maybe that he's willing to allow for a time frame within which you fall madly and deeply for your fb and then have to take a break.

These approaches are obviously fraught with more danger and cut things closer to the edge. But they maybe something that works for you. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not had a fWB before but I know how I am and I can get attached easily. I’m married and in an open relationship but I don’t want fall for someone as my fuck buddy and ruin my relationship with my partner x"

Then don't meet anyone more than twice. You know you get attached easily. Why put your marriage at risk for a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

Im on the turn....hah"

Haha! Well there’s the answer for both of us then. Sorted

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

Have a drink.forget about it

Yeah pass me another gin "

a nice big one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "

Tough one...slightly been there...always best to keep the fun just that....fun...

especially if you dont want it to become anything else (there are lots of reasons why not)...

id say be open and honest from the get go...and communicate if things change...

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

"You have two hopes, Bob Hope and No Hope, and Bob Hope is dead".

Haha true. Wonder which one of us will find one first. Wtf are we doing here

Have a drink.forget about it

Yeah pass me another gin "

Got big bottle here help yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did it once, won't let it happen again.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Also could have a print of wife/hubby on a t-shirt.

Kill any passion "

Excellent advice

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I've fallen in lust with one of my FWBs but don't respect him which stops the love thing.

The majority of men I've met here have told me they'd never date a swinger. Which is rubbish but easier to accept that it is what it is

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Just realise that when you see your fb, both are trying to be at their best. After all, you're not seeing them as their normal perhaps duller selves.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You can only stop yourself by not engaging with them in ways that will make it likely and being self-aware enough to stop meeting if any signs show that either of you is getting involved.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Make sure the person you choose is not someone you would want to have a relationship with - too young, too tall, too loud, too boring - something, then you can safely meet them forever!

The danger comes if you are too compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make sure the person you choose is not someone you would want to have a relationship with - too young, too tall, too loud, too boring - something, then you can safely meet them forever!

The danger comes if you are too compatible."
as in your case?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Make sure the person you choose is not someone you would want to have a relationship with - too young, too tall, too loud, too boring - something, then you can safely meet them forever!

The danger comes if you are too compatible.as in your case?"

I've had both kinds yes!!

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

For a guy find a hot wife...., chemistry can be immense as no day to day boundary....that's for her poor hubby who she's very much in love with.....

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By *un4meanduMan
over a year ago

STOTFOLD

"Have someone in between meets maybe

Christ another...I cant find one help

having said that I wouldn't be one of many..no way..

Haha yep. One would be good!!

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I'm sure you get offers from more than 1 lol , especially with all the new pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that is inevitable.

If you keep meeting someone that you have a sexual and mental connection with, you'll fall in love with that person. Simply because that person will fill a hole in your life (no pun intended).

Safe sex is an oxymoron.

There is no such thing as safe sex, because even though sex can sometimes be only physical, if you meet someone that ticks all the boxes (be it sexual or not) and even the one you haven't thought of, you'll develop feelings for that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that is inevitable.

If you keep meeting someone that you have a sexual and mental connection with, you'll fall in love with that person. Simply because that person will fill a hole in your life (no pun intended).

Safe sex is an oxymoron.

There is no such thing as safe sex, because even though sex can sometimes be only physical, if you meet someone that ticks all the boxes (be it sexual or not) and even the one you haven't thought of, you'll develop feelings for that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK...spanner in the works but does it matter? I fell for my previous FWB. We discussed it. We don't see each other now - not for that reason but are still the best of friends. Eventually my feelings for him faded due to not seeing him for quite a few months and we did meet up again and the sex was no where near as good as when we had deeper feelings.

I only tend to do regular and I'm not afraid of feelings arising, as long as your honest with each other and open I think it can actually make things a lot better sexually.

Open, honest and enjoy the ride together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and I fell in love with my fwb.

I would never have wanted to have a relationship with him though.

We messaged every day and the sex was amazing but that's all it was. We never went on "dates" just kept it as meeting for sex.

We're not together anymore but I would definitely do it all again.

I don't see why some are so bothered about feelings. I'd be more worried if I didn't have them!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If I meet someone more than once then it is because I like spending time with them, which means I already have feelings for them. But as has been said above, it’s knowing where the line is. Fab is escapism, it’s sexy adventure with real people but it’s not everyday life.

Feelings will develop, and that usually makes the sex better but as long as both people know that it’s not going to become a relationship then I think it’s possible to enjoy it for what it is.

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over a year ago

"If I meet someone more than once then it is because I like spending time with them, which means I already have feelings for them. But as has been said above, it’s knowing where the line is. Fab is escapism, it’s sexy adventure with real people but it’s not everyday life.

Feelings will develop, and that usually makes the sex better but as long as both people know that it’s not going to become a relationship then I think it’s possible to enjoy it for what it is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My way to stop attatchment is to get a few regular play partners and dont see the same one more then once a week or fortnightly . Through experience this works for me xx

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over a year ago

It's quite easy to keep it purely sex when that is truly what you want. I don't make the other person my focus. We get together now and then have a great time when together then go back to our lives. We might not contact much in between until we're planning to meet again. That works perfectly...I guess already being married to someone I love to the moon and back helps as I don't need that emotional connection with the other person so much. It's on a completely different level.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The answer is to psychological pigeon hole them. In other words separate compartments for everything. Let’s face it you only need them for sex.

Have psychological pigeon holes for every aspect of life, meet the fwb then afterwards place them in the pigeon hole until you need them next time.....and so on.

Simples !

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over a year ago

"The answer is to psychological pigeon hole them. In other words separate compartments for everything. Let’s face it you only need them for sex.

Have psychological pigeon holes for every aspect of life, meet the fwb then afterwards place them in the pigeon hole until you need them next time.....and so on.

Simples !

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you only need me for sex, well I never

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

I'd say you're bolting the stable door before you even bought the horse

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I think that is inevitable.

If you keep meeting someone that you have a sexual and mental connection with, you'll fall in love with that person. Simply because that person will fill a hole in your life (no pun intended).

"

I don't think it's inevitable though, I've had great fb/fwb I've met for years without coming anywhere near falling for them. Chatting about it though I guess the problem is it's unpredictable - you can never be sure who will flip that switch, or guarantee at the outset you won't suddenly find yourself sliding down a slippery slope and getting carried away with it all.

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over a year ago

"I think that is inevitable.

If you keep meeting someone that you have a sexual and mental connection with, you'll fall in love with that person. Simply because that person will fill a hole in your life (no pun intended).

Safe sex is an oxymoron.

There is no such thing as safe sex, because even though sex can sometimes be only physical, if you meet someone that ticks all the boxes (be it sexual or not) and even the one you haven't thought of, you'll develop feelings for that person.

"

I've been seeing someone for sex for 8 and a half years and I have not fallen in love with him. I don't want a relationship with him or to live with him.

The sex is all I want from him.

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By *rs PurchaseWoman
over a year ago

Pear Tree Productions

"There's nothing that can stop you feeling any emotion. It's part of our human make-up. Surely seeing someone "regularly" will always generate some feelings.

Why is that a bad thing after all its what many on here describe as "chemistry".

What you decide to do with or about those feelings only you can decide.

But I often wonder why so many here claim to be so scared of emotions. It's not like they can be turned on and off like a tap. They exist, part of what makes us complete as a person

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

It's a difficult one and for some people there may be no way to avoid this from happening. If we see someone regularly, it's clearly because they appeal to us in one or more levels. That familiarity often can kindle other feelings that weren't originally intended. Some people are great at compartmentalizing and others aren't. The ones that aren't, I think will be at greater risk of falling for a fb. It obviously becomes complicated if those feelings aren't reciprocated by the other person.

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over a year ago

I have a buddy who has moved away. We now only see each other once maybe twice a month. Before he moved we saw each other at least once a week. There did come a point where I thought maybe I had other feeling for him. I spoke to him about them and reckoned it was only because he was the only one I was fucking and he was right. Once I started having sex else where the feelings went away.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

PlayD8 touched on it further upthread OP but to expand on what she and others have said a little.

It's inevitable, and in fact only natural, that if you see someone regularly you will have feelings for them on some level, even if they're purely carnal, it's how you separate and compartmentalise those feelings that is key, especially given your circumstances.

To use one of my oft rolled out analogies that applies here - I look at any meet as stepping into a bubble, one which the whole time you are in it you are 100% with the person (or persons) who's in it with you but also totally aware (and respectful) of your life outside of the bubble - once the meet is over, you step back out of the bubble, but it remains intact to preserve the memories of the time inside it as well as to be there for the next time you step inside.

Thinking of it like that works in two ways - firstly to help compartmentalise any thoughts and indeed feelings about meeting others, but also to compartmentalise any feelings you may have about them meeting other people (they just stepped into a different bubble this time).

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I've been with mine for 18mths, I think keeping the chats between meets to a minimum helps maintain boundaries. And only meet for sex not social things, keeps things simple.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Honestly, I think if you refer to someone as a "fuck buddy", that will in itself kill any emotion. Personally, I would never be exclusive with anyone and be in the scene. If that point is reached, we will become a couple and stop seeing other people.

Not a swinger, I know. Horrible.

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over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you. "

Why is it a problem? There’s no better feeling than falling in love. Well if it’s both ways of course, there’s no worse feeling being the only one feeling it.

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By *zzy69Woman
over a year ago

The Lake District

"I’ve not had a fWB before but I know how I am and I can get attached easily. I’m married and in an open relationship but I don’t want fall for someone as my fuck buddy and ruin my relationship with my partner x

Then don't meet anyone more than twice. You know you get attached easily. Why put your marriage at risk for a fuck?"

Exactly

Or only meet in a club? Or put a time limit on meets? Or a time limit between and see others in between?

But I agree you need to ask yourself why do you want sex outside your relationship?

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over a year ago

"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person?

I had to stop seeing a regular FB because of this problem. If your seeing someone you like regularly for sex feelings sometimes get involved at some point. All you can do is stop seeing that person as soon as you can feel something else between you.

Why is it a problem? There’s no better feeling than falling in love. Well if it’s both ways of course, there’s no worse feeling being the only one feeling it."

Agreed.

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By *ASABanterMan
over a year ago

Banterville

Okay here's the real scoop u wanna make sure u don't fall for your fb then keep it all about the fun don't talk about like your life's only talk about your fun when u speak because when u start talking about your life's and stuff that's the time when the feelings start to come because u start to grow attached to that person and there life and become or want to become part of there life also try not to think about them when there not there unless it's for inspiration when playing keep it light but the sad fact is most people who fool around fall in love

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Enjoy the time you have whilst you have it...

Mr Benn! Walk through the door ... enjoy the escapism whilst you’re in virtuality and when you leave it close the door behind you until the next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 3 year Fwb

He fell for me

I fell for him

I like being in love it wasn't a problem

We spent every other weekend together then I came home to my normal life

The problems only began when he expected to be fully in my life

I didn't want that

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over a year ago

"I think that is inevitable.

If you keep meeting someone that you have a sexual and mental connection with, you'll fall in love with that person. Simply because that person will fill a hole in your life (no pun intended).

Safe sex is an oxymoron.

There is no such thing as safe sex, because even though sex can sometimes be only physical, if you meet someone that ticks all the boxes (be it sexual or not) and even the one you haven't thought of, you'll develop feelings for that person.

I've been seeing someone for sex for 8 and a half years and I have not fallen in love with him. I don't want a relationship with him or to live with him.

The sex is all I want from him."

Yes because he may only be good for that in your eyes but if you see him from another angle, it may change everything...

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over a year ago

"It's a difficult one and for some people there may be no way to avoid this from happening. If we see someone regularly, it's clearly because they appeal to us in one or more levels. That familiarity often can kindle other feelings that weren't originally intended. Some people are great at compartmentalizing and others aren't. The ones that aren't, I think will be at greater risk of falling for a fb. It obviously becomes complicated if those feelings aren't reciprocated by the other person."

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over a year ago

Emotional attachment or even loving someone doesn't necessarily mean you are in love with them. Always take a step back and figure out how you would feel about everything if you were to stop seeing them, I mean dig deep. I love my fwb and at present we are cohabiting but I know he will eventually want to go and find a wife, I don't want a husband so will be happy for him when he finds her and is happy himself. I am ok with that and we make the most of the time we have. We both knew we would love eachother at the start but knew we wanted different things long term. I will hate not having him as a lover but will always be his friend

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

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"Is there a way to stop someone falling for a regular fuck buddy. I don’t have one but would love a regular buddy but always been a bit concerned if I was meeting someone on a regular basis what stops me falling for that person? "

If you keep meeting the same person regularly then you are more than likley going to develop feelings. The only way to stop this I guess it so limit repeat meets with people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies.

I think my problem and I’ve seen previous threads about it is getting too involved with someone as I’m married. Hubby happy for me to have a FWB but I just get attached too easily.

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over a year ago

"Thanks for all the replies.

I think my problem and I’ve seen previous threads about it is getting too involved with someone as I’m married. Hubby happy for me to have a FWB but I just get attached too easily. "

See I find it easy... because I'm married. I'm really not interested in emotional involvement and there's no need to open yourself up to that. It's really easy to keep things on a sex only level if that's what both parties are clear that it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the replies.

I think my problem and I’ve seen previous threads about it is getting too involved with someone as I’m married. Hubby happy for me to have a FWB but I just get attached too easily.

See I find it easy... because I'm married. I'm really not interested in emotional involvement and there's no need to open yourself up to that. It's really easy to keep things on a sex only level if that's what both parties are clear that it is. "

That’s what I’m going to do xx

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over a year ago

"Thanks for all the replies.

I think my problem and I’ve seen previous threads about it is getting too involved with someone as I’m married. Hubby happy for me to have a FWB but I just get attached too easily.

See I find it easy... because I'm married. I'm really not interested in emotional involvement and there's no need to open yourself up to that. It's really easy to keep things on a sex only level if that's what both parties are clear that it is.

That’s what I’m going to do xx"
Ahh if you can do that

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

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over a year ago

In my 20s OP I had an FB we met each other regularly for 7 years and I have to say whilst I didn’t feel love for him I most definitely felt something. I wouldn’t have ever wanted him for a relationship but I cared for him and still do.

We don’t meet now haven’t for years but we talk every now and then.

Mrsk xx

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over a year ago

"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

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Point very well made

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over a year ago

"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

"

But that would only happen if you're open to that. If you're not open to any emotional involvement then surely you'd just walk away the minute anyone displays that behaviour? I know I would and have done. In the op case as she's married I'm guessing that's what she would do also? Otherwise it's dangerous ground and people get hurt. It's way different for single people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things change for people

Sadly it's usually one and not the other. Human after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Falling for a fuck buddy before and then felt hurt when she started seeing another guy on a different day of the week so it was time to walk away.

Lesson learnt

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over a year ago

"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

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Totally agree

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

But that would only happen if you're open to that. If you're not open to any emotional involvement then surely you'd just walk away the minute anyone displays that behaviour? I know I would and have done. In the op case as she's married I'm guessing that's what she would do also? Otherwise it's dangerous ground and people get hurt. It's way different for single people. "

But what if that behaviour is who they are? If that's their "thing". Making you feel special is part of their style, and they enjoy making you feel that way. They want you to feel good about yourself and confident and believes everyone should feel special.

You weren't looking for anything more than a laugh and some mind blowing sex, but you ended up with that and a whole lot more.

I agree that if you're in a relationship it's more likely to be easier to not develop feelings as you'll see it for what it is, and not have the volume of contact that you do.

So yeah, it is different for singles, as those in relationships have a responsibility to their partner, whereas singles don't and it's much easier to get swept away.

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over a year ago

When you share so much time and intimacy together it's inevitable that you are going to form a bond , a strong bond .

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over a year ago

"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

But that would only happen if you're open to that. If you're not open to any emotional involvement then surely you'd just walk away the minute anyone displays that behaviour? I know I would and have done. In the op case as she's married I'm guessing that's what she would do also? Otherwise it's dangerous ground and people get hurt. It's way different for single people.

But what if that behaviour is who they are? If that's their "thing". Making you feel special is part of their style, and they enjoy making you feel that way. They want you to feel good about yourself and confident and believes everyone should feel special.

You weren't looking for anything more than a laugh and some mind blowing sex, but you ended up with that and a whole lot more.

I agree that if you're in a relationship it's more likely to be easier to not develop feelings as you'll see it for what it is, and not have the volume of contact that you do.

So yeah, it is different for singles, as those in relationships have a responsibility to their partner, whereas singles don't and it's much easier to get swept away."

Yep I completely get where you're coming from... but if you're single can you not allow yourself to get swept up... take it for what it is? With the knowledge that it's fun while it lasts? Enjoy the moment? Yes there's the potential to get hurt but if you always have in the back of your mind to stay grounded then surely any happiness you get from the experience is worth it? That's how I see it anyway.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

But that would only happen if you're open to that. If you're not open to any emotional involvement then surely you'd just walk away the minute anyone displays that behaviour? I know I would and have done. In the op case as she's married I'm guessing that's what she would do also? Otherwise it's dangerous ground and people get hurt. It's way different for single people.

But what if that behaviour is who they are? If that's their "thing". Making you feel special is part of their style, and they enjoy making you feel that way. They want you to feel good about yourself and confident and believes everyone should feel special.

You weren't looking for anything more than a laugh and some mind blowing sex, but you ended up with that and a whole lot more.

I agree that if you're in a relationship it's more likely to be easier to not develop feelings as you'll see it for what it is, and not have the volume of contact that you do.

So yeah, it is different for singles, as those in relationships have a responsibility to their partner, whereas singles don't and it's much easier to get swept away.

Yep I completely get where you're coming from... but if you're single can you not allow yourself to get swept up... take it for what it is? With the knowledge that it's fun while it lasts? Enjoy the moment? Yes there's the potential to get hurt but if you always have in the back of your mind to stay grounded then surely any happiness you get from the experience is worth it? That's how I see it anyway. "

I do agree, to stay grounded though I would need to not see them regularly, for the contact to shift from the amount you expect when you're dating or in a relationship with someone, to maybe once or twice a week, rather than multiple convos daily plus calls.

Enjoy it while it lasts, yes.

But don't tell people that kind of stuff if you don't mean it. No fuck is worth messing with someones head n heart.

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"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

But that would only happen if you're open to that. If you're not open to any emotional involvement then surely you'd just walk away the minute anyone displays that behaviour? I know I would and have done. In the op case as she's married I'm guessing that's what she would do also? Otherwise it's dangerous ground and people get hurt. It's way different for single people.

But what if that behaviour is who they are? If that's their "thing". Making you feel special is part of their style, and they enjoy making you feel that way. They want you to feel good about yourself and confident and believes everyone should feel special.

You weren't looking for anything more than a laugh and some mind blowing sex, but you ended up with that and a whole lot more.

I agree that if you're in a relationship it's more likely to be easier to not develop feelings as you'll see it for what it is, and not have the volume of contact that you do.

So yeah, it is different for singles, as those in relationships have a responsibility to their partner, whereas singles don't and it's much easier to get swept away.

Yep I completely get where you're coming from... but if you're single can you not allow yourself to get swept up... take it for what it is? With the knowledge that it's fun while it lasts? Enjoy the moment? Yes there's the potential to get hurt but if you always have in the back of your mind to stay grounded then surely any happiness you get from the experience is worth it? That's how I see it anyway.

I do agree, to stay grounded though I would need to not see them regularly, for the contact to shift from the amount you expect when you're dating or in a relationship with someone, to maybe once or twice a week, rather than multiple convos daily plus calls.

Enjoy it while it lasts, yes.

But don't tell people that kind of stuff if you don't mean it. No fuck is worth messing with someones head n heart."

Oh no I completely agree... but sadly there are shitbags out there and we ain't gonna change that, so you have to approach with caution to protect yourself.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

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"When you have someone that makes you feel super special, tells you how wonderful you are and is in almost constant contact, added to that the effort they go to to meet, amazing sex, the fact you can talk about anything and everything, you're connected mentally, you trust this person completely, well, it's hardly fucking surprising really.

It shocks me more that people can make you feel special, go to that effort, make you feel wanted, that they wish they were with you, and to a degree loved, and expect it NOT to happen.

But that would only happen if you're open to that. If you're not open to any emotional involvement then surely you'd just walk away the minute anyone displays that behaviour? I know I would and have done. In the op case as she's married I'm guessing that's what she would do also? Otherwise it's dangerous ground and people get hurt. It's way different for single people.

But what if that behaviour is who they are? If that's their "thing". Making you feel special is part of their style, and they enjoy making you feel that way. They want you to feel good about yourself and confident and believes everyone should feel special.

You weren't looking for anything more than a laugh and some mind blowing sex, but you ended up with that and a whole lot more.

I agree that if you're in a relationship it's more likely to be easier to not develop feelings as you'll see it for what it is, and not have the volume of contact that you do.

So yeah, it is different for singles, as those in relationships have a responsibility to their partner, whereas singles don't and it's much easier to get swept away.

Yep I completely get where you're coming from... but if you're single can you not allow yourself to get swept up... take it for what it is? With the knowledge that it's fun while it lasts? Enjoy the moment? Yes there's the potential to get hurt but if you always have in the back of your mind to stay grounded then surely any happiness you get from the experience is worth it? That's how I see it anyway.

I do agree, to stay grounded though I would need to not see them regularly, for the contact to shift from the amount you expect when you're dating or in a relationship with someone, to maybe once or twice a week, rather than multiple convos daily plus calls.

Enjoy it while it lasts, yes.

But don't tell people that kind of stuff if you don't mean it. No fuck is worth messing with someones head n heart.

Oh no I completely agree... but sadly there are shitbags out there and we ain't gonna change that, so you have to approach with caution to protect yourself. "

Oh I hear ya, you need to make the decision whether to walk away and protect yourself (and possibly never know if you could have been more given time) or whether to stick with it and risk heartbreak if you allow it to break your heart.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

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Do you have to not fall for them? Feelings are normal and there is a whole spectrum of love out there. Why can't you have a degree of feeling/Love for fwb? It is possible to love a friend, then why not a FWB? I don't see why you can't have feelings for someone who is not the one you see your self spending your life with? There are different levels as love. You can have feelings for someone but not want to spend your life together with them. Surely it's just nice to live in the moment and be free to be your self?

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over a year ago

"Do you have to not fall for them? Feelings are normal and there is a whole spectrum of love out there. Why can't you have a degree of feeling/Love for fwb? It is possible to love a friend, then why not a FWB? I don't see why you can't have feelings for someone who is not the one you see your self spending your life with? There are different levels as love. You can have feelings for someone but not want to spend your life together with them. Surely it's just nice to live in the moment and be free to be your self? "

Exactly. I don’t get what the big fear is! I suppose it depends what kind of person you are. I can’t do random sex with just anyone and everyone anyway, there’s got to be a bit of something else there for me (that’s probably reduced my messages by half!) but I know that it won’t ever be anything else other than a FWB situation for me. Someone hit the nail on the head with the bubble comment earlier.

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over a year ago

some women ive met in the past i have built what i would call special relationship with.

they talk to me about things they just want to share with someone they trust and find out if im ok.

its not love, just a caring for each other which didnt stop just because we no longer meet.

feels good to have people in your life like this.

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over a year ago

This has been a great thread to read through! Interesting how different we all are!! It's certainly given me something to think about

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over a year ago

"Do you have to not fall for them? Feelings are normal and there is a whole spectrum of love out there. Why can't you have a degree of feeling/Love for fwb? It is possible to love a friend, then why not a FWB? I don't see why you can't have feelings for someone who is not the one you see your self spending your life with? There are different levels as love. You can have feelings for someone but not want to spend your life together with them. Surely it's just nice to live in the moment and be free to be your self?

Exactly. I don’t get what the big fear is! I suppose it depends what kind of person you are. I can’t do random sex with just anyone and everyone anyway, there’s got to be a bit of something else there for me (that’s probably reduced my messages by half!) but I know that it won’t ever be anything else other than a FWB situation for me. Someone hit the nail on the head with the bubble comment earlier. "
im the same as i explained yesterday to ya

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over a year ago

"Do you have to not fall for them? Feelings are normal and there is a whole spectrum of love out there. Why can't you have a degree of feeling/Love for fwb? It is possible to love a friend, then why not a FWB? I don't see why you can't have feelings for someone who is not the one you see your self spending your life with? There are different levels as love. You can have feelings for someone but not want to spend your life together with them. Surely it's just nice to live in the moment and be free to be your self?

Exactly. I don’t get what the big fear is! I suppose it depends what kind of person you are. I can’t do random sex with just anyone and everyone anyway, there’s got to be a bit of something else there for me (that’s probably reduced my messages by half!) but I know that it won’t ever be anything else other than a FWB situation for me. Someone hit the nail on the head with the bubble comment earlier. im the same as i explained yesterday to ya"

Yesterday makes my comments look a bit hypocritical haha. I’m over it now though

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over a year ago

"Do you have to not fall for them? Feelings are normal and there is a whole spectrum of love out there. Why can't you have a degree of feeling/Love for fwb? It is possible to love a friend, then why not a FWB? I don't see why you can't have feelings for someone who is not the one you see your self spending your life with? There are different levels as love. You can have feelings for someone but not want to spend your life together with them. Surely it's just nice to live in the moment and be free to be your self?

Exactly. I don’t get what the big fear is! I suppose it depends what kind of person you are. I can’t do random sex with just anyone and everyone anyway, there’s got to be a bit of something else there for me (that’s probably reduced my messages by half!) but I know that it won’t ever be anything else other than a FWB situation for me. Someone hit the nail on the head with the bubble comment earlier. im the same as i explained yesterday to ya

Yesterday makes my comments look a bit hypocritical haha. I’m over it now though

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nope

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over a year ago

Why fight it?... nobody’s gonna live forever

... start a new adventure

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

"My way to stop attatchment is to get a few regular play partners and dont see the same one more then once a week or fortnightly . Through experience this works for me xx"

I met a lovely lady recently. Had BF and a few extra friends dotted about. Think there was a slot free

I could have had the choice of being monday or tuesday man.

I declined. Bit too swingery.

We all want to feel a bit special,not partof some entourage.

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"My way to stop attatchment is to get a few regular play partners and dont see the same one more then once a week or fortnightly . Through experience this works for me xx

I met a lovely lady recently. Had BF and a few extra friends dotted about. Think there was a slot free

I could have had the choice of being monday or tuesday man.

I declined. Bit too swingery.

We all want to feel a bit special,not partof some entourage. "
Ahhh you want to feel special in this life ha good luck with that one

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Looksike the OP found the solution

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over a year ago

"Looksike the OP found the solution"

Give her a few days

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By *haron7540Woman
over a year ago

Hayle, Cornwall

I have found this thread interesting.

Easy to say not to fall for them or get emotionally involved but once it happens, its too late.

I've fallen for my FWB and its hard because that was not our intention

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