FabSwingers.com forum: Are you actually vanilla? If not what's your kink?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It strikes me that quite a few people on here are looking for regular fun with one person who they really click with and can enjoy a deeper connection, leading to the required trust to maybe go bareback. But isn't that just a description of what vanilla is?

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

Personally, I'm pretty vanilla in this way. But I do have a kink for discreet public naughtiness and I definitely have a kink for the idea of having a hot affair with a married woman. I could imagine settling for someone who's quite vanilla. But it would definitely be fun to have a relationship with a woman who shared my public kink. We could have a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One person's kink is a other person's normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did that BDSM test thing off t’internet last night.

My top answer? 90% Vanilla.

I’m so boring!

But I’m not sure the test was hugely accurate and will take it again when it’s not late and I’m not tired. Because it also said I was 79% exhibitionist (nooooooo I’m not!!) and 4% pet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I fit that description of vanilla pretty well, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so vanilla and only have sex in missionary position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fairly vanilla but just have had a really voyeuristic side to me since my late teens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did that BDSM test thing off t’internet last night.

My top answer? 90% Vanilla.

I’m so boring!

But I’m not sure the test was hugely accurate and will take it again when it’s not late and I’m not tired. Because it also said I was 79% exhibitionist (nooooooo I’m not!!) and 4% pet!

Here Kitty Kitty.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am vanilla. I don't think it's a bad thing.

I'm not into BDSM, I have no urges to be gangbanged, I don't want to go dogging, hell I barely even have any sex toys.

But I still have good sex. Passionate and intimate and just enjoying being naked with someone and finding out how our bodies and our actions combine. I like that. I don't feel like I'm missing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trouble with "vanilla" is that other more desirable flavours are available. I wouldn't be here if I just wanted vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla to me is quick suck, hop on hop off sex.

Non vanilla isn't fucking many people in the way described above. That's just having many partners.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm very much into BDSM professionally and privately but my biggest kink is snogging, intimacy and love. Go figure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm very much into BDSM professionally and privately but my biggest kink is snogging, intimacy and love. Go figure

I like that way of looking at it. I think I could get up to all sorts of kinky mayhem with a woman. But I suspect I'd have to be in love with her for it to have real meaning to me

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"It strikes me that quite a few people on here are looking for regular fun with one person who they really click with and can enjoy a deeper connection, leading to the required trust to maybe go bareback. But isn't that just a description of what vanilla is?

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

Good luck with your search for someone to share that kink . We have loved it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a mixture of both. Sometimes I like vanilla sex, the hot passionate type where you cant keep your hands off each other regardless of where you are. But then I love my sexual partner to be quite dominant and use things like a riding crop, flogger, restraints etc. I also love the feeling of being overpowered by a man and being 100% submissive when i am with him (ok maybe 95% as there is some things I refuse to do). The probably with this type of kink ks that you can only do it with someone you trust and that takes time and i would do that on a first or even a second,third meet.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

I'm vanilla x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m very vanilla, but I took the BDSM test last night and apparently I’m not very vanilla at all....

And I’ll tell ‘vanilla’ friends what I like and they’re shocked...so who knows

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im a mixture of both. Sometimes I like vanilla sex, the hot passionate type where you cant keep your hands off each other regardless of where you are. But then I love my sexual partner to be quite dominant and use things like a riding crop, flogger, restraints etc. I also love the feeling of being overpowered by a man and being 100% submissive when i am with him (ok maybe 95% as there is some things I refuse to do). The probably with this type of kink ks that you can only do it with someone you trust and that takes time and i would do that on a first or even a second,third meet. "

I've been discussing this with a sexy friend recently and I really get it now. Don't think I did before. But yes. There'd have to be real trust there

I hope you find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a fetish for feet

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By *reendanMan
over a year ago

Norwich

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

I'm kinky. Super kinky. I do like sex of course, put there tends to be some sort of power dynamic going on, pinning someone down or similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

So why the incredibly selfish desire to ruin somebody else's relationship, is that what happened to you and you want to pay it back or.... Doesn't really go with your love everybody philosophic appearance you like to portray does it?

Or is it something you like but wouldn't actually do?

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Bondage... Both restraining and being restrained, and driving each other wild teasing and edging. I found my perfect bondage partner through Fab.

Otherwise I'm pretty vanilla I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like the way vanilla is now looked down upon by kinsters, almost in a derisory way, like its ultra conservative and passé. Some kinsters think it’s because people haven’t got the confidence to push there boundaries, but everyone has there limits to what they’re comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

Or is it something you like but wouldn't actually do? "

It's a kink dude. Take your complaint up with my subconscious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m quite vanilla. Although I did do that test thing and I was only 47% vanilla. Although I was 90% some word I’ve never even heard of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m about 80% vanilla 20% raspberry so I’m raspberry ripple, my kinks are doing sexual things to sleeping men such as, sucking them off, sticking my tongue up their arse and climbing on their face to fuck their nose and chin and covering their mouth with my cunt so I can watch them struggling to breath, that is one kink. Another is caring for men, washing their body, willy, balls and bum hole in the bath, drying them and putting talc on them, holding their willy whilst they pee and having the guy piss in my mouth and over my face. Also I couldn’t be with a man who wouldn’t let me lick his arse hole out so I have some mild kinks but on the whole I’m very loving and sensual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t like the way vanilla is now looked down upon by kinsters, almost in a derisory way, like its ultra conservative and passé. Some kinsters think it’s because people haven’t got the confidence to push there boundaries, but everyone has there limits to what they’re comfortable with. "

So that's a no then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m about 80% vanilla 20% raspberry so I’m raspberry ripple, my kinks are doing sexual things to sleeping men such as, sucking them off, sticking my tongue up their arse and climbing on their face to fuck their nose and chin and covering their mouth with my cunt so I can watch them struggling to breath, that is one kink. Another is caring for men, washing their body, willy, balls and bum hole in the bath, drying them and putting talc on them, holding their willy whilst they pee and having the guy piss in my mouth and over my face. Also I couldn’t be with a man who wouldn’t let me lick his arse hole out so I have some mild kinks but on the whole I’m very loving and sensual. "

Kinks, all applauded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kink has got to be choking (both giving and receiving) and like, really rough almost-angry primal sex with a partner who isn't afraid to get physical and rough as well.

The latter kink was brought out of me by my last ex who somehow managed from the vanilla, sensual-in-the-bedroom style sex to drag out. It was both scary and yet intensely erotic on a deep emotional level to feel myself fully cut loose and become like a primal hunter in the bedroom with a willing partner egging me on to be rougher, harsher, more intense, more urgent in our fucking.

And the aftercare moment for me and my partner was bliss too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

Or is it something you like but wouldn't actually do?

It's a kink dude. Take your complaint up with my subconscious

No, it isn't a kink, a kink would be fu King her with her socks up your ass. Its interestingly different to the image you try and portray. I wonder if anybody on here is actually really genuine as opposed to fab genuine. I. E. I'll say anything to get a shag, lol.

Amongst the guys I can probably think of two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that's a no then?

Sorry. I have plenty of kinks, I was just venting from a conversation I had earlier, just annoyed the way vanilla people were looked down on by this person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I love good vanilla sex, I need the option of something slightly more exotic every now and again. My main kink is sharing a man with another man but also love a bit of BDSM and voyeurism. Finding someone who loves that mix is pretty interesting.. but very possible based on the few guys I've clicked with over the last few years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come to think of it... I do have a few more kinks.

Gagging a sex partner with her own underwear.

Utter humiliation and degradation with spitting and marking on my partner's body with lipstick.

Watersports. Both giving and receiving. Occasionally as extreme as doing it inside her orifice.

Rough sex, all night. No stopping. Just fuck cum rest repeat as many time as possible, until she goes right into subspace brought on by all the fucking. Bonus if she has shattering eye-rolling orgasms from being used like a sex ragdoll.

Having said so, all these kinks also do mean that I have to be VERY RESPONSIBLE with doing them, and very attuned to the limits to which I can push up to. And I never neglect aftercare. I'd hate to actually use and dump someone.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"I think I’m very vanilla, but I took the BDSM test last night and apparently I’m not very vanilla at all....

And I’ll tell ‘vanilla’ friends what I like and they’re shocked...so who knows "

So you know you're not very vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I’m very vanilla, but I took the BDSM test last night and apparently I’m not very vanilla at all....

And I’ll tell ‘vanilla’ friends what I like and they’re shocked...so who knows

So you know you're not very vanilla "

I think of myself as vanilla. Others don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If that's you do you admit that you're basically vanilla? Or do you have any kinks which mean you're not really vanilla?

Or is it something you like but wouldn't actually do?

It's a kink dude. Take your complaint up with my subconscious

Amongst the guys I can probably think of two

I have zero ethical problems having an affair with a cheat. If you want to discuss it from way up there on your high horse Mr genuine maybe start a new thread. But don't accuse me of being a wolf in sheep's clothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only person in the world to have a stripey top fetish on women, but the stripes have to be horizontal, vertical stripes do nothing for me ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am vanilla, no kinks, not into BDSM, Dom/Sub, or group sex, or anything that causes pain. Not liking having my poopipe messed with.

Just love good hard sex, a little rough play maybe if I trust you and know you well

That's that.

I don't even have fantasies... Hate being asked that question, because I just don't, I don't envisage scenarios, again my fantasy is the reality of what is going to happen.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know what I am.

All I know is that I adore a good snog. Nothing gets me so horny like a good kiss.

Kinky? I guess I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't even have fantasies... Hate being asked that question, because I just don't, I don't envisage scenarios, again my fantasy is the reality of what is going to happen."

That's very common among the women I've met. I think fantasies are a man thing, abstracting away from reality some kind of sexy occurrence. I suspect women are more turned on by the sensuality of reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One person's kink is a other person's normal. "

This.

To many I'm far from vanilla. To others I'm very vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am basically vanilla. So what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forcing orgasms and watching the struggle in girls faces to see how many they can take at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinky or erotic.

Erotic is using a feather, kinky is using the whole bird.

Kink or vanilla, does it matter as long as all involved parties are having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even have fantasies... Hate being asked that question, because I just don't, I don't envisage scenarios, again my fantasy is the reality of what is going to happen.

Yes. I haven't had a fantasy since I was a teenage virgin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forcing orgasms and watching the struggle in girls faces to see how many they can take at once"

Isn’t that called Bukkake!?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I don’t like the way vanilla is now looked down upon by kinsters, almost in a derisory way, like its ultra conservative and passé. "

Pisses me right off too. I look down on them in return - I don't need all that shit to enjoy sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t like the way vanilla is now looked down upon by kinsters, almost in a derisory way, like its ultra conservative and passé.

Pisses me right off too. I look down on them in return - I don't need all that shit to enjoy sex!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Not kinky, just looking for amazing fun with likeminded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like vanilla

Like kink

I don't really have many limits if the vibe is right

Water sports for example-not something I fantasise about not something that particularly turns me on thinking about it right this second

But I have done in the moment and enjoyed thoroughly

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I am vanilla. I don't think it's a bad thing.

I'm not into BDSM, I have no urges to be gangbanged, I don't want to go dogging, hell I barely even have any sex toys.

But I still have good sex. Passionate and intimate and just enjoying being naked with someone and finding out how our bodies and our actions combine. I like that. I don't feel like I'm missing out."

Me neither, that's how I feel. Funnily enough I did the BDSM test and my first four were:

96% Vanilla

90% Submissive

71% Primal (Prey)

60% Girl

....with the rest nowhere. That is a really accurate assessment of my sexual nature and I bloody love it - raw, unfiltered, emotional, let yourself totally go and entrust yourself to someone's desire! Yowser!

I just don't need the abuse or degradation that some people get off on, and I'm glad I don't -my sex life is so much simpler lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forcing orgasms and watching the struggle in girls faces to see how many they can take at once

Isn’t that called Bukkake!?

Hahahaha shut it you grrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even have fantasies... Hate being asked that question, because I just don't, I don't envisage scenarios, again my fantasy is the reality of what is going to happen.

Yes. I haven't had a fantasy since I was a teenage virgin. "

Glad it's not just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a kinky bitch.

I think the fact I've visited a professional dominatrix shows I have an adventurous kinky streak.

I can also enjoy vanilla sex on some occasions with some people.

But I suppose to some people who have done much more then me, they may rate me as vanilla.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Yes I am basically vanilla. So what? "

Did anyone suggest it was an issue ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a kinky bitch.

I think the fact I've visited a professional dominatrix shows I have an adventurous kinky streak.

I can also enjoy vanilla sex on some occasions with some people.

But I suppose to some people who have done much more then me, they may rate me as vanilla."

Did you visit her on your own or with a friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I’m very vanilla, but I took the BDSM test last night and apparently I’m not very vanilla at all....

And I’ll tell ‘vanilla’ friends what I like and they’re shocked...so who knows

So you know you're not very vanilla

I think of myself as vanilla. Others don’t. "

Married and being involved in sex with others isn't exactly vanilla... doesn't have to be bdsm related.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I’m very vanilla, but I took the BDSM test last night and apparently I’m not very vanilla at all....

And I’ll tell ‘vanilla’ friends what I like and they’re shocked...so who knows

So you know you're not very vanilla

I think of myself as vanilla. Others don’t.

Married and being involved in sex with others isn't exactly vanilla... doesn't have to be bdsm related. "

Well aye that’s true, I’ve just never thought myself as adventurous or kinky...it’s just normal for me I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably kink within vanilla, well I would be if I could find someone to be it with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is being fucked in the ass by a beautiful woman with a strap on vanilla ? It was the missionary position !

Asking for a friend etc

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Is being fucked in the ass by a beautiful woman with a strap on vanilla ? It was the missionary position !

Asking for a friend etc "

More chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a kinky bitch.

I think the fact I've visited a professional dominatrix shows I have an adventurous kinky streak.

I can also enjoy vanilla sex on some occasions with some people.

But I suppose to some people who have done much more then me, they may rate me as vanilla.

Did you visit her on your own or with a friend?"

I went with a male friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a kinky bitch.

I think the fact I've visited a professional dominatrix shows I have an adventurous kinky streak.

I can also enjoy vanilla sex on some occasions with some people.

But I suppose to some people who have done much more then me, they may rate me as vanilla.

Did you visit her on your own or with a friend?

I went with a male friend."

That's so cool.

Sorry for being nosey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a kinky bitch.

I think the fact I've visited a professional dominatrix shows I have an adventurous kinky streak.

I can also enjoy vanilla sex on some occasions with some people.

But I suppose to some people who have done much more then me, they may rate me as vanilla.

Did you visit her on your own or with a friend?

I went with a male friend.

That's so cool.

Sorry for being nosey. "

It's fine

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