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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am sure there are a few of us on here that suffers with a day to day illness that no one can see. Mine is bipolar disorder.

Any other sufferers out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got summat dunno what tho

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I have a feeling that if I hdnt joined fab then my mental health would have deteriorated - however, a few weeks after joining and getting a meet, I realised being here was a good thing for me.

Mid thread game: insert the missing ‘a’.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

"I am sure there are a few of us on here that suffers with a day to day illness that no one can see. Mine is bipolar disorder.

Any other sufferers out there? "

If Fab is a representative of the population. Then about 5% will have BP 1/2 and a further 20% will have some form on mental illness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are plenty of people on the site living with mental health conditions;some managing some not so well.

Of course, that's stating the obvious, but my point is that they reflect the fact that society is made up of people with such conditions.

I'm not sure it's always the best place to be in here when suffering highs and lows, as it's easy to be exploited or to lose self esteem. Just don't go through the motions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manic depression and anxiety so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a very high proportion on here. More so than you would find anywhere else.

Not just basic mental health issues but personality disorders too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing torments you more than your own thoughts.

we beat ourselves up a lot and mostly over little things that snowball.

partly its about control, dont let your thoughts control you.

mental illness is an illness like any other and should be treated as such.not to point the finger or make fun of.

Take your time healing, as long as you want. Nobody else knows what you've been through. How could they know how long it will take to heal you.

and i will always be around to listen, help where i can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have bipolar how on earth do you deal with setting up meets when you're all up and excited and then, come the time to meet, feeling like hiding down the back of the sofa instead? Do you just accept that you're going to let some people down and be called a timewaster and that's just going to be that or do you have ways of getting around that issue?

I'm interested as I know someone who is struggling with it and it would be good to have some insight into how others deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use fab as a way to escape from anxiety and mental pain, as well as it feeding my attention seeking.

Always happy to chat to anyone who is struggling and will help where I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ptsd

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you have bipolar how on earth do you deal with setting up meets when you're all up and excited and then, come the time to meet, feeling like hiding down the back of the sofa instead? Do you just accept that you're going to let some people down and be called a timewaster and that's just going to be that or do you have ways of getting around that issue?

I'm interested as I know someone who is struggling with it and it would be good to have some insight into how others deal with it "

I don’t meet simple as that, if I’m having a down period I do literally hide and won’t answer any messages. I usually hide my profile and have in the past left fab. If I can’t make a meet I always give plenty of notice and I’ve never stood anyone up.

I know I was meant to meet you but after thinking about a 4hr round trip it just wasn’t doable for me.

Just because I’m bipolar doesn’t mean I can’t be on here and enjoy myself so saying how on earth can I set up meets, I can easily but only when I’m able.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

I'm interested as I know someone who is struggling with it and it would be good to have some insight into how others deal with it "

Bi Polar does work like that.

BP suffers can have periods of full stability and lead a ‘normal ‘ life. During these periods arranging meets would not be a problem.

When in a less stable period cycling from up to down and back arranging meets could be an issue.

However not BP suffers can have different intensities of symptoms.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

I'm interested as I know someone who is struggling with it and it would be good to have some insight into how others deal with it

Bi Polar does work like that.

BP suffers can have periods of full stability and lead a ‘normal ‘ life. During these periods arranging meets would not be a problem.

When in a less stable period cycling from up to down and back arranging meets could be an issue.

However not BP suffers can have different intensities of symptoms. "

That first line should read

BO does NOT work like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tourette’s. Although Clonidine has serious helped me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the Fab forums contribute to mental agitation. Don't get me wrong, they've helped me through big traumas, somewhere to turn to to get away from life. But I've come out of that with a mental antsyness and spiritual disorientation that comes from the new tech. That's why I'm thinking of switching off and going old skool soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found the Fab forums contribute to mental agitation. Don't get me wrong, they've helped me through big traumas, somewhere to turn to to get away from life. But I've come out of that with a mental antsyness and spiritual disorientation that comes from the new tech. That's why I'm thinking of switching off and going old skool soon

maybe something in what you say there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OCD, successfully treated...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manic depression and anxiety so far "

Manic depression is the old term for bi-polar. Clinical depression? Though to be fair the use of clinical is superfluous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also take a combination of Carbmazpine and Venlafaxine, that can seriously wipe me out and all I want to do is sleep.

Mentally, I’m in a good place right now but with the highs then lows will follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok mines cyclothymia. Diagnosed 3 yrs ago. Most haven't heard of this i imagine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have acute anxiety, fibromyalgia and CFS which can render me incapeable of meeting people..its a bit like being on a roller coaster..sometimes im up but mostly I am down ..i can manage it to a certain extent but if it all gets too much i either hide the profile or I will leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm interested as I know someone who is struggling with it and it would be good to have some insight into how others deal with it

Bi Polar does work like that.

BP suffers can have periods of full stability and lead a ‘normal ‘ life. During these periods arranging meets would not be a problem.

When in a less stable period cycling from up to down and back arranging meets could be an issue.

However not BP suffers can have different intensities of symptoms.

That first line should read

BO does NOT work like that. "

Ahhh so my friend is currently cycling, so can't really set much up. But you're telling me that they'll come out of that at some point, presumably thanks to the right medication. That's good to know. It's so depressing seeing them set themself up to fail over and over again

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I think there is a very high proportion on here. More so than you would find anywhere else.

Not just basic mental health issues but personality disorders too. "

I think people here are also very open about their issues and challenges, disclosing things via the internet is sometimes easier than in real-life scenarios, which may be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Years ago I wouldn’t have dreamt of telling anyone because of the stigma attached to it. Now I don’t care. I’ve got this illness but I’m still me.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

"I also take a combination of Carbmazpine and Venlafaxine, that can seriously wipe me out and all I want to do is sleep.

Mentally, I’m in a good place right now but with the highs then lows will follow. "

Glad the meds are working.

The Silver Bullet for BP2 (and 1?)is supposed to be but Lamotrigine but about 10-20% are intolerant to it.

I believe it’s expensive so NHS not keen to prescribe it I understand.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I have a feeling that if I hdnt joined fab then my mental health would have deteriorated - however, a few weeks after joining and getting a meet, I realised being here was a good thing for me.

Mid thread game: insert the missing ‘a’. "

I've got ClinicaL Depression and the forum has saved my sanity too. I've found that it's best to let my posts do the leg work for me, rather than go for the normal PM approach.

Mail shots=junk mail: no meets or socials

Bloody good posts=part time blogger: 1 club social, 1 day visit, 1 weekend visit, 1 pending, (can't wait!) So this is how musicians get groupies?

The future's bright, the future's FAB

hAdn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok mines cyclothymia. Diagnosed 3 yrs ago. Most haven't heard of this i imagine x"

Plus body Dismorphia which ive battled for 31 yrs . But i deal with both daily. I try not to let it get in my way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I was meant to meet you but after thinking about a 4hr round trip it just wasn’t doable for me."

My post wasn't about that Kitty

Of course a 4hr round trip was silly. You do know I didn't expect that of you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety. Took most of my adult life to accept I had it, taken over a year to realise the bit I interact with daily is the tip of an iceberg.

Kink thoughts and deeds help though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know I was meant to meet you but after thinking about a 4hr round trip it just wasn’t doable for me.

My post wasn't about that Kitty

Of course a 4hr round trip was silly. You do know I didn't expect that of you xx"

I know but felt bloody awful as I so wanted to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use fab as a way to escape from anxiety and mental pain, as well as it feeding my attention seeking.

Always happy to chat to anyone who is struggling and will help where I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a feeling that if I hdnt joined fab then my mental health would have deteriorated - however, a few weeks after joining and getting a meet, I realised being here was a good thing for me.

Mid thread game: insert the missing ‘a’. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I use fab as a way to escape from anxiety and mental pain, as well as it feeding my attention seeking.

Always happy to chat to anyone who is struggling and will help where I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally no not at the moment but as a family going through hell just now. My daughter has tried to commit suicide 3 times in the last 8 weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe something in what you say there"

I'm a big believer in attracting things to myself. After having feasted on the excesses of YouTube dating and pickup videos, I've come to the conclusion that the best way to attract the woman of my dreams is to become the man of her dreams. The spiritual disorientation that comes from the new tech really messes with all that (for me). It makes me less grounded and more flighty. I just feel like I'm not really rooted in this reality. So becoming rooted, becoming a fuller loving person, I think that's all gonna send out attraction signals to the universe and my beautiful soul mate will emerge from the mists and come to me

...at least that's the plan

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me personally no not at the moment but as a family going through hell just now. My daughter has tried to commit suicide 3 times in the last 8 weeks."

Oh no, please I’m here for you x

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

maybe something in what you say there

...at least that's the plan

There’s a great short video about I girl dating a guy ‘off line’. Very funny. Search

A modern dating horror story.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I’m just glad that it’s now accepted on here finally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe something in what you say there

...at least that's the plan

There’s a great short video about I girl dating a guy ‘off line’. Very funny. Search

A modern dating horror story. "

This one?

https://youtu.be/e1fqC9nbmc4

It's very sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I’m just glad that it’s now accepted on here finally "

Acceptance goes a long way. Thanks op

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

OCD which I've got very much under control without any meds compared to a decade or so ago. Never had outward compulsions though, just intrusive thoughts that would torture me for months on end till the subject matter changed (the anxiety and dark feeling always felt the same regardless of what the obsessional thought was). Once I recognised the patterns and triggers and realised I wasn't actually going mad it became far easier to live with.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Aspergers, anxiety , clinical depression,

its all up and down, good days bad days etc,

know I'm not for everyone but can't help what I have , just have to treat it and hope the good days are more regular then the bad ones,

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

"Ok mines cyclothymia. Diagnosed 3 yrs ago. Most haven't heard of this i imagine x

Plus body Dismorphia which ive battled for 31 yrs . But i deal with both daily. I try not to let it get in my way x"

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

It amazes me in life we all have difficulty explaining our mental health difficulties. But on fab, i feel this method of expressing our feelings and moods is brilliant.

All of you give yourselves a massive pats on the back and broaden that smile. I think we're helping each other and emphasising with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety. It started when i left the army 11 years ago. Nothing to do with the forces. I just started to get really anxious. My mind would race , over thinking , panic attacks , body aches , jaw clenching. The list goes on and on. Went to my with chronic earache and she noticed something was not right. I just burst into tears. I had not cried in years but there i was just out the army crying like a baby trying to explain something i didnt understand. My gp was great. Put me on sertraline and i got CBT through the british legion.

I tried coming off my medication once but the anxiety crept back into my mind like an unwanted guest refusing to leave. So went back on sertraline. Im now ok , happy with life. I still get anxious at times but not often and not to the state it once was. It passes.

Anyone with or thinks they need help go and get it.

Lifes to good not too.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I've got depression. Now though, 95% of the time it doesn't stop me. It's taken me a good few months to get to this stage.

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By *ittykat76Woman
over a year ago

Plymouth

I have severe depression and anxiety,PTSD, Raynauds and Congenital Kyphosis

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

with the stigma around mental health its good to see people being so honest about their own, on a swingers site no less

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By *ave182Man
over a year ago

romford

I suffered with anxiety and depression but bought on in many ways than one as in public or with family friends and sexual too

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Bipolar anxiety and panic attacks but i keep on fighting x

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By *terling2017Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

This is an enlightening and encouraging feed.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Well I know personally , I come on here not just to meet people but to chat on here and spend a lot of time in the chatrooms,

Helps take my mind off things a little bit some times, some good people on here,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great that so many of us are aware of our mental health and are or have sort help with it.

It's the ones on here that either aren't aware or won't recognise they have a problem that can cause issues!

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over a year ago

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It's obvious from some threads there are those with serious issues. Sometimes it makes uncomfortable reading because you just know there's someone reading poised to take advantage.

It's an individual choice where we seek solace. Personally, I wouldn't be looking here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manic depression and anxiety so far

Manic depression is the old term for bi-polar. Clinical depression? Though to be fair the use of clinical is superfluous. "

I have to disagree that the use of the word clinical is superflous sorry.

There is a big difference between depression and clinical depression.

It is good that more people talk about mental health problems now and hopefully this will help others.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"I am sure there are a few of us on here that suffers with a day to day illness that no one can see. Mine is bipolar disorder.

Any other sufferers out there? "

Depression

But I can’t take my flouxeitine tablets and haven’t been able to for a few weeks due to can’t swallow pills they get stuck in my throat and nearly ch0ke me

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Anxiety - thankfully only a very few attacks in the last few years and thankfully not as bad or coupled with depression (as it was about 4 years ago), but still do have times when I have a proper anxiety attack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I think there are plenty of people on the site living with mental health conditions;some managing some not so well.

Of course, that's stating the obvious, but my point is that they reflect the fact that society is made up of people with such conditions.

I'm not sure it's always the best place to be in here when suffering highs and lows, as it's easy to be exploited or to lose self esteem. Just don't go through the motions."

If one is going through the motions, always remember to nagivate the river of poo swimming breaststroke, it scoops them out of the way.

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