FabSwingers.com forum: When did you feel comfortable with your sexuality?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Whatever your sexuality is. Perhaps even if you're a straight swinger you feel 'different' because so many are bi.

Or if you're gay.. bi.. pan... etc

Do you feel comfortable with your sexuality? Was it hard admitting it to yourself? Have you told any real life (non Fab) friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From as early as I can remember

I had a huge crush on the Bionic Woman and Luke Skywalker

It’s not been something I’ve had to define , it’s just me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Being straight? I've always felt comfortable. The rest took a bit longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knew at university I was bi and went from there. Enjoyed relationships with both men and women x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from the moment i didnt give a fuck what people thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I’m comfortable that I’m straight and have been for years.

I’m still uncomfortable at how reserved I am sexually though, particularly compared to all the sexual athletes on here! I’m still very much a bit of a sexual recluse that needs coaxing out of his shell.

How about you OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I got the dossier from Sydney University telling me exactly what I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever your sexuality is. Perhaps even if you're a straight swinger you feel 'different' because so many are bi.

Or if you're gay.. bi.. pan... etc

Do you feel comfortable with your sexuality? Was it hard admitting it to yourself? Have you told any real life (non Fab) friends?"

I have known I was bi since school but I am from a small town that had poor attitudes to any sexuality other than straight, so I didn't admit it to anyone or myself. I came out to my family as a lesbian when I went through a stage of identifying as gay but then came to the realisation that I actually still liked men, so I had to go half back out of the closet, as it were!

All my family know I am bi as they have met my ex-girlfriends, as do all of my friends. I do not mention anything at work, although it's because I want to keep things on a professional level.

At this stage of my life I am completely comfortable with my sexuality and I am now married to a wonderful human and we both enjoy indulging both of our bi-sides together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I’m comfortable that I’m straight and have been for years.

How about you OP?

I don't know. Hence the OP.

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

The moment I realised that your sexuality is only a small part of who you are and quite simply a preference, pretty much like preferring red wine over white wine.

We are who we are and what we do for sexual pleasure is our own concern

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I’m comfortable that I’m straight and have been for years.

How about you OP?

I don't know. Hence the OP.

OP’s avoiding answering their own question is rife on here, innit!

I won’t push any further as it could be misconstrued as bullying! Fingers already burnt on that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm not sure, great thread.. Not sure cos my start to sexuality was very very young and not voluntary but as years past i turned it around and accepted it but now im so comfortable with my sexuality and its all voluntary and very enjoyable which is kinda odd cos i had to fight ptsd concerning it and occassionally still fight it but, if this makes sense... I fight with the involuntary start but sit real easy with the recent past voluntary.. I know weird... I ve been with both sexes over last few acceptance years and enjoyed it all??i love that I am bi..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah my current girlfriend is bi and knows??

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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago

Happy go lucky

I'm still trying to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at school in the 80s when a lad came out as bi. Loads of people made a big deal of it but I can clearly remember thinking that although it "wasn't for me" it was not an issue.

25 years later a couple I was having a threesome with asked if he could suck me. It was very plesant, so I sought out more pleasant experiences. No drama

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By *cinterMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I think I've always been comfortable within myself but only as I got older did I have the confidence to act on it. Took till myid thirties to have an experience with a bi guy thought the thought has been there as long as I can remember. So far only the people I have played with know the aspects of my sexuality, but I would never lie if asked directly by a friend.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I’ve always been comfortable being straight .

Over the past few years I’ve tried a bit of bi action with convincing TVs and it didn’t really change things for me . I enjoyed getting sucked by some of them , I didn’t really reciprocate , and I even fucked a couple of them . Again , it was alright but I would have to say that I am ambivalent to it all .

I certainly don’t feel the need to tell friends and family about any of my sex life nor my sexuality . In fact I think it’s fucking strange that anyone would want to , but hey ho .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I’m comfortable that I’m straight and have been for years.

How about you OP?

I don't know. Hence the OP.

OP’s avoiding answering their own question is rife on here, innit!

I won’t push any further as it could be misconstrued as bullying! Fingers already burnt on that one!!

Asking questions isn't bullying. Who on earth would say it is?!

I'm probably similar to you in that I'm no sexual athlete - but that's all relative. To a virgin I might be mind blowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m confident in my sexuality and I’m confident in myself.

I can get along with anybody and happy to speak to anyone of any gender or sexuality. I don’t feel uncomfortable or think that affects my sexuality if I do. I say that, because I used to go on the chat rooms before quite a bit and get to know people there - but, the things you hear and see. You just think, ‘I thought swingers would be a bit more open’.

Don’t know if that makes sense.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I'm very comfortable with my sexuality and have been for a few years including the fact I like dressing in ladies clothes to do it.

Only a couple of close friends know I'm Bi, no one nows about Alex and even though I'm happy with it, it's no one else's business.

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

When I had an ffm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really know if I know mine.

I'm quite happy and confident in my sexual self but in terms of labels I don't know if I can fit into one. I would say I'm more playful with it in that in the right circumstances or with the right people I'm open. I've never dated a woman but maybe I just haven't met the right one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever your sexuality is. Perhaps even if you're a straight swinger you feel 'different' because so many are bi.

Or if you're gay.. bi.. pan... etc

Do you feel comfortable with your sexuality? Was it hard admitting it to yourself? Have you told any real life (non Fab) friends?"

No I haven't found it hard and because I'm just a heterosexual male I don't feel the need to introduce myself as such, it doesn't matter and I doubt most people give a toss. So actually this is the very first time I've ever made that statement, and will very probably be the last. It doesn't identify who I am, same as I don't introduce myself as a white man originally born in London and went to a half decent school, blah, blah, because it rarely matters.

The ONLY thing that gets me with a, minority, of gay people, mainly men, is the desire to make sure everybody knows so they can get a reaction from it. None of my gay friends do it and I just don't understand the need to run around shouting about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many years ago,when I came out to my Mum as trans, she said something to the effect of ''tell me something I don't already know'' (Mums just know).

As for sexuality,I personally have felt very comfortable and confident with my bisexuality for almost as long as I can remember but it's not the sort of thing that is ever discussed in family.

I do know of at least one other family member who is bi (they told me themselves) and I have a sneaking suspicion about one other but it's just never discussed.

In other words,I'm very comfortable but not everyone is comfortable with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only really within the last few years tbh. Don't know what exactly has changed, maybe talking more to Mr about finding women attractive has done it and him encouraging me more

I've always been accepting of others sexuality (I think) so it's perhaps a bit strange that it took me longer to come to terms with my own. Catholic guilt perhaps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was about 6 and i fancied a lady teacher and began to point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was about 6 and i fancied a lady teacher and began to point

Awww...found that quite sweet.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

Haddenham

For me it's all ways been on and of finding myself but since July 2017 I've been myvanwy to the point where I now own more female clothing and boots then my male shell and I don't think I'm going to change who I am and want to be now it's just so much fun know x myvanwy x

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I'd like to say yes but none of my freinds or family know that I'm bi. So I guess that's a no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whatever your sexuality is. Perhaps even if you're a straight swinger you feel 'different' because so many are bi.

Or if you're gay.. bi.. pan... etc

Do you feel comfortable with your sexuality? Was it hard admitting it to yourself? Have you told any real life (non Fab) friends?

I must admit I don't understand it either. Coming out shouldn't be a thing. Sexuality should be as irrelevant as hair colour or foot size.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Many years ago,when I came out to my Mum as trans, she said something to the effect of ''tell me something I don't already know'' (Mums just know).

As for sexuality,I personally have felt very comfortable and confident with my bisexuality for almost as long as I can remember but it's not the sort of thing that is ever discussed in family.

I do know of at least one other family member who is bi (they told me themselves) and I have a sneaking suspicion about one other but it's just never discussed.

In other words,I'm very comfortable but not everyone is comfortable with me."

Your mum sounds ace.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

(Fem) 15 I knew sex was for me ... men! Then 18 I discovered I liked women too .... I couldn’t live without men for sex but could women.. although absolutely don’t want to .... so I guess bisexual

.... at 40

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I absolutely love trans women who have gone through transition and have boobies, keep the dick though please. I'm very comfortable with that and it's like a running joke with all my close friends.

I like sucking dick but am extremely fussy with guys and loath the LGBT 'community'. So you could say I'm not really comfortable with "bi" as a label and changed our profile for practical reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’ve got a cock up my ass, it’s hard to get comfy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever your sexuality is. Perhaps even if you're a straight swinger you feel 'different' because so many are bi.

Or if you're gay.. bi.. pan... etc

Do you feel comfortable with your sexuality? Was it hard admitting it to yourself? Have you told any real life (non Fab) friends?"

This place , I didn’t even know I was bi till I came here , I feel it’s somghing that really evolved , I feel comfortable and proud to embrace it , no one out side my swinging life knows , part I guess is fear of judgment , and at the same time I kinda want to keep it for me , not sure that will make sense to everyone , I’ve told a couple of real close friends and that was refreshing .

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

When I finally broke free from my incredibly homophobic peer group. Peer group pressure is such a burden when you are younger

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I finally broke free from my incredibly homophobic peer group. Peer group pressure is such a burden when you are younger

Hope you have nicer friends now.

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Fully comfortable with my sexuality 4 years or so ago, after splitting up with my ex and having freedom to explore (not that we split up for any reason to do with my sexuality).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The night I first walked out of chams on a Saturday night,I was a changed man

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

3 yrs ago

When I started x dressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m uncomfortably confused

one day I might take the plunge with a guy, but considering I find them all ugly, it’s a barrier I can’t get past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a slow starter and didn't really think about fancying anyone long until after school friends found it acceptable 'what you don't fancy anyone?' So I picked Howard from Take That to add my thoughts to the giggly who do you love conversations, to fit in.

College gave me a few girly and older men crushes, which never really went anywhere. I was an irritatingly slow starter

I reckon Im pretty much straight and have been happy enough with that. If I wanted to explore though I wouldn't feel a need to have to accept myself for it especially at my age. No one would give a monkeys

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

When i left home and got married, i think i was a bit of an embarrassment to my family who were sort of uptight. I never had any privacy at home and couldnt be myself.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Always been straight, always been happy with it.

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

"When I finally broke free from my incredibly homophobic peer group. Peer group pressure is such a burden when you are younger

Hope you have nicer friends now.

Indeed I do, thank you

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By *vcarolTV/TS
over a year ago

kilmarnockish

I’m a typical tranny, in denial off and on, then accepted it.

Went thru all the stages, now like a previous poster own more fem clothes and accessories than male. I don’t look at women as a sexual object more a comparison, but I sleep with women too.

Men are play things, and there is a mutual satisfaction for both me and my partner.

I have two lives, both separate, only a very select few know both.

I’m the only tranny in the village. Not ready to fly that flag.

But, even that is evolving.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a typical tranny, in denial off and on, then accepted it.

Went thru all the stages, now like a previous poster own more fem clothes and accessories than male. I don’t look at women as a sexual object more a comparison, but I sleep with women too.

Men are play things, and there is a mutual satisfaction for both me and my partner.

I have two lives, both separate, only a very select few know both.

I’m the only tranny in the village. Not ready to fly that flag.

But, even that is evolving."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew I was into guys from a young age when you think 'oh he's really fit' when watching a film or TV.

I accepted I was bi around the age of 15/16 but didn't tell anyone or act on it at all until I got to 18. University was really good for that because they had an LGBT society and it was like a 'safe place' for anything that concerned you. A nice support group and social meet-ups and nights out. It really helped and introduced me to some lovely ladies too!

It just confirmed that I like both guys and girls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as I lost 7 stone , I changed so much!

I love feeling confident & sexy.

And enjoying sex as I never felt good about showing my body!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always felt comfortable with my sexuality. I'm straight, very straight.

I do find that some men seem to find it hard to believe that i'm straight, they think i'm in denial lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The moment I stopped feeling like it was important to tell every one else about it, as though it defined me.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I am very COMFY with my sexuality but equally UNCOMFY with labels. I'm mostly straight but do play with girls on and off. When I"m in the mood for a girl, even the sexiest man won't move me, I'm full-on lez and want a girl to hold kiss, eat up not necessarily in that order. Other times (which is most of the time) you could put the most gorgeous girl in front of me and I'll go towards an average guy with a hot cock. I like looking at cocks and hot bums on men and I like men cumming deep in me.

So am I bi? Probably but mostly I like to fuck men so I'm really str8. Except when I'm in the mood at which time I'm a lesbian. Don't like labels. But very comfy in what I like.

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