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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s real! And I’m slipping slowly into it! A smile can hide a lifetime of hurt and mistakes! Self inflicted mainly which makes it harder to deal with

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By *rofessJayWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Go to your doctor and get a referral to see a counsellor to get help and also anti depressants if you need them

Cognitive behavioural Therapy Counselling helps you to take a more positive outlook on everyday issues rather than taking everything in a negative manner, which in turn will make you feel more depressed

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Ive had it since a teenager, ive had all kinds of therapy, now i just live with it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cannot dwell on the past, the past has gone, ok, mistakes have been made, the mistakes are not important, it's what you do to put things right now that is important, move forward, learning to be a better person than you were yesterday.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive defiantly come to terms with it!!! It’s the suicidal thoughts I can’t bare!!! I have more good days then bad! But tonight...is. Bad....it’s scary that if I didn’t have my girls I’d of gone I know I would of! It used to be a cry for help but then I didn’t want the help so I was only crying to myself it’s depressing as fuck! I’m happy alone but when you’re actually alone all you want is company it’s bullshit how the brain works

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can imagine people will think...beg....from this but alcohol is a full on trigger for me and just talking helps me otherwise I’m alone with my thoughts

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By *ast RolloMan
over a year ago

glasgow west

depression is a pain ( putting it nicely) now i dont know if you have hobbies but getting outside away from four walls helps me be it hill walking or cycling. i find that the voices in my head abate for a few hours. do anything to alter the routine of normality then the lure of doing the big jump is less .

remember suicide is like your driving test get it right and you only do it once

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By *ertscouple99Couple
over a year ago

Rickmansworth

Depression isn’t funny or something you can just shake yourself out of. Like your first response said, go and get some help. It happens to us all not just in this community but in life and help really helps. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Sending hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"depression is a pain ( putting it nicely) now i dont know if you have hobbies but getting outside away from four walls helps me be it hill walking or cycling. i find that the voices in my head abate for a few hours. do anything to alter the routine of normality then the lure of doing the big jump is less .

remember suicide is like your driving test get it right and you only do it once "
this has seriously helped!! I’m not going to lie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The fact I’ve had a drink doesn’t help matters I’m under no illusion alcohol is a serious depressant! And being late I’m glad I’ve got this forum to talk to people wow seriously it has helped I can’t believe it x I’m making an appointment for Monday I’ve been lower and thought I’d got past it but obviously not it wasn’t a one off I think I have a problem

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Good luck. I'm now on 150mg of sertraline and it's helping.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP depression is very real and many on fab have a good understanding of what you are going through.

It can be difficult admitting to yourself that you have a problem, never mind asking for help. You've taken the first step by reaching out to us - the next step is to talk to your GP.

If you are in crisis and need support now you can call the samaritans. You don't have to give your real name if you don't want to and they will just listen. They won't judge you or offer advice unless you specifically ask for it. Sometimes just talking really helps.

If you feel like you will harm yourself you can go to your local A+E department or even call the ambulance service. They are all able to offer you immediate support.

Hugs xx

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By *erriAnneTV/TS
over a year ago

The shire

It comes in lots of different forms. It's one of those thing we have to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No words can really help...ive been on meds since 1994..believe me lost more "friends" than i care ti think about. CBT can help so can a dann good GP...bigfest help though...IS YOU. Took ne 15 yrs to work this out. Forcing yourself to do stuff your brain doesnt want you to do is tough...washing eating talking etc but you will get there mate. Meds will help but dont think they are a fix..i did...i was wrong. They are a crutch. Good luck and God bless you in the weeks ahead. Remember...theres unknown friends with you on this. Gee x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a vicious cycle, and self destructive.

I know it all too well as do many other people living with mental health issues.

I can tell you how I cope with mine, it isn't the best way and it's different for everyone but I'm still alive so doing something right at least.

I don't drink alcohol unless I'm in a great mood. Because you're right it is a depressant, but in a great mood and with good company you can enjoy yourself.

I try to do things to occupy my thoughts all the time. Even 5 minutes alone with my thoughts I lose the plot.

Be it reading, drawing, watching TV box sets and movies or sitting on fabchat, texting and messaging people.

Sex is an excellent distraction for them thoughts and elevates the right chemicals in the brain.

I've tried every antidepressants going and even double meds. Problem I had they made the suicidal tendencies worse all day every day from waking to sleeping. It's a vicious cycle as you think there's no reason to feel that way but you feel like you don't want to be here any more. So you feel bad for thinking it making you feel worthless, useless, unloved, unwanted, pathetic, ugly, miserable and the list goes on.

I lock myself away when I feel this way which is totally wrong thing to do. Because that's when we need others the most. But I never want to be a burden or disrupt anyone's life because of my own.

That's where you need friends and family to push back your walls and love you be there for you.

Sadly I don't have anyone willing to push my walls down.

Hold strong on your love for your kids they are your anchor

In this life know above all else you deserve to live it and depression is a battle even when you feel defeated you're still here. Find people to have in your life you trust and will break your walls down when you build them.

Go out even when you feel MEH (where you don't feel happy or sad just empty) force yourself then sometimes you may even find yourself lifting out of the hole even if it's only a bit.

Every step forward counts even if you have to go back a few steps. Try and try again it's OK because we are all human and know it's OK to feel what you feel. Reaching out isn't attention seeking it's survival.

Try your doctors try the mental health services you can. Hopefully there will be someone who can point you in the right direction for good support but don't forget family and friends. Don't be ashamed of your mental health. When you feel up to it print leaflets off, many online for family and friends suffering mental health. Gives them advice on how to support you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a vicious cycle, and self destructive.

I know it all too well as do many other people living with mental health issues.

I can tell you how I cope with mine, it isn't the best way and it's different for everyone but I'm still alive so doing something right at least.

I don't drink alcohol unless I'm in a great mood. Because you're right it is a depressant, but in a great mood and with good company you can enjoy yourself.

I try to do things to occupy my thoughts all the time. Even 5 minutes alone with my thoughts I lose the plot.

Be it reading, drawing, watching TV box sets and movies or sitting on fabchat, texting and messaging people.

Sex is an excellent distraction for them thoughts and elevates the right chemicals in the brain.

I've tried every antidepressants going and even double meds. Problem I had they made the suicidal tendencies worse all day every day from waking to sleeping. It's a vicious cycle as you think there's no reason to feel that way but you feel like you don't want to be here any more. So you feel bad for thinking it making you feel worthless, useless, unloved, unwanted, pathetic, ugly, miserable and the list goes on.

I lock myself away when I feel this way which is totally wrong thing to do. Because that's when we need others the most. But I never want to be a burden or disrupt anyone's life because of my own.

That's where you need friends and family to push back your walls and love you be there for you.

Sadly I don't have anyone willing to push my walls down.

Hold strong on your love for your kids they are your anchor

In this life know above all else you deserve to live it and depression is a battle even when you feel defeated you're still here. Find people to have in your life you trust and will break your walls down when you build them.

Go out even when you feel MEH (where you don't feel happy or sad just empty) force yourself then sometimes you may even find yourself lifting out of the hole even if it's only a bit.

Every step forward counts even if you have to go back a few steps. Try and try again it's OK because we are all human and know it's OK to feel what you feel. Reaching out isn't attention seeking it's survival.

Try your doctors try the mental health services you can. Hopefully there will be someone who can point you in the right direction for good support but don't forget family and friends. Don't be ashamed of your mental health. When you feel up to it print leaflets off, many online for family and friends suffering mental health. Gives them advice on how to support you.

"
well said

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Sad to hear and read what your going through, ive jad a couple of years from hell, very low very depressed. I can imagine your inbox is full of support. All i did was update my status with how low i was and i was touched ny the genuine support from the guys and ladies of fab.

Your probably a half hour drive from me, feel free to pm, can even meet for a coffee, talking i found is a huge help.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"It’s real! And I’m slipping slowly into it! A smile can hide a lifetime of hurt and mistakes! Self inflicted mainly which makes it harder to deal with "
Change your filters you have blocked every one from my gender then email me if you need to chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had it since a teenager, ive had all kinds of therapy, now i just live with it .."
Fair play.Respect to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know your pain.. Someone else has said go out, do things etc and that is good advice... The human mind was meant to be busy, it was meant to gather food, light fires, create and raise families, problem is our minds now have too much time to think and we tend to allow it to dwell. I have scars, mental and physical and at the peak i would jump in my truck and drive... To anywhere... Music playing.. I ve driven around this country just enjoying the sounds and costa... The thing is it focusses the mind, my demons, and believe me i ve had the demons since i was six, they cannot function if the mind is occipied on other more important things.... I understand your pain fella, but there is a way out, a way to deal with daily life but i have to say drugs and alcohol are not in that mix... Been there, doesnt end well and on here, are some of the best people you will, i have found, in a crisis... Always up for chat if you need it, take care bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact I’ve had a drink doesn’t help matters I’m under no illusion alcohol is a serious depressant! And being late I’m glad I’ve got this forum to talk to people wow seriously it has helped I can’t believe it x I’m making an appointment for Monday I’ve been lower and thought I’d got past it but obviously not it wasn’t a one off I think I have a problem "

How are you feeling this morning? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact I’ve had a drink doesn’t help matters I’m under no illusion alcohol is a serious depressant! And being late I’m glad I’ve got this forum to talk to people wow seriously it has helped I can’t believe it x I’m making an appointment for Monday I’ve been lower and thought I’d got past it but obviously not it wasn’t a one off I think I have a problem

How are you feeling this morning? x"

I’m feeling ok and just feel stupid this morning tbh but there’s definatly some issues I need to address and will be making an appointment I have to!

The response from this post has been amazing and I appreciate so much the advice people have given and hole heartedly it has helped! I have my lows, but then when I’m high I’m untouchable! Thank you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely seek help. If you don't want to speak to your GP then go to the mind website, they have people you can talk to and give you advice.

But really you need to seek professional help, I have had it since I can remember even as a child. I was only formally diagnosed about 4 years ago when my marriage ended but inhave had 1-2-1 counselling, I have had CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and medication. It will help you through your darkest moments but depression never really leaves you so you need to put the techniques in place to get through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact I’ve had a drink doesn’t help matters I’m under no illusion alcohol is a serious depressant! And being late I’m glad I’ve got this forum to talk to people wow seriously it has helped I can’t believe it x I’m making an appointment for Monday I’ve been lower and thought I’d got past it but obviously not it wasn’t a one off I think I have a problem

How are you feeling this morning? x

I’m feeling ok and just feel stupid this morning tbh but there’s definatly some issues I need to address and will be making an appointment I have to!

The response from this post has been amazing and I appreciate so much the advice people have given and hole heartedly it has helped! I have my lows, but then when I’m high I’m untouchable! Thank you all "

Don't feel stupid. x

I'm glad you're feeling better today. Hope you do make the appointment. You're worth it.

And same for everyone else reading this.

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By *uriousnewbies37Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Glad you are feeling more positive this morning and well done for reaching out. Don't feel stupid though, if you had a physical ailment you would go and get it fixed. Going to the doctors 2 years ago was the best thing I did and I am now living again instead of barely existing. Like others have said, occupying your mind is key to calming down the 'noise' in your head. Learning something, playing a game, reading, singing, crosswords, anything basically that makes you focus on something else for a while.

Good luck, you're not alone and there is lots of good support out there when you're ready.

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s real! And I’m slipping slowly into it! A smile can hide a lifetime of hurt and mistakes! Self inflicted mainly which makes it harder to deal with "

I have depprsion. It's awful

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock


"The fact I’ve had a drink doesn’t help matters I’m under no illusion alcohol is a serious depressant! And being late I’m glad I’ve got this forum to talk to people wow seriously it has helped I can’t believe it x I’m making an appointment for Monday I’ve been lower and thought I’d got past it but obviously not it wasn’t a one off I think I have a problem

How are you feeling this morning? x

I’m feeling ok and just feel stupid this morning tbh but there’s definatly some issues I need to address and will be making an appointment I have to!

The response from this post has been amazing and I appreciate so much the advice people have given and hole heartedly it has helped! I have my lows, but then when I’m high I’m untouchable! Thank you all "

Hello mate glad your feeling ok , thinks always better after a good sleep . Give us a shout if your bored later we,ll get one of them daft threads going again ....it was mad but we had a laugh . I'll keep an eye out for you X

Keep your head up

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Definitely seek help. If you don't want to speak to your GP then go to the mind website, they have people you can talk to and give you advice.

But really you need to seek professional help, I have had it since I can remember even as a child. I was only formally diagnosed about 4 years ago when my marriage ended but inhave had 1-2-1 counselling, I have had CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and medication. It will help you through your darkest moments but depression never really leaves you so you need to put the techniques in place to get through it. "

Exactly this you learn to live with it and how best to deal with it for you, I handle things better now but I still have dark moments but luckily my kids keep me going x storm x

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

Ooo I get this and it’s horrible, effects people in totally different ways. Is heridaity too, my Nan bless her was put in a “mental home” and given electric shock treatment for depression!

Best quote I have seen and it helps me get through those dark cloudy moments is:

Depression is the inability to construct a future - Rollo May

Just have faith that this moment will pass, speak to friends family about what is troubling you and always remember tomorrow is a whole new day... she says while suffering a stress headache that will not budge

Xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You need professional help. See your GP ASAP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it since leaving the army mixed with PTSD. have flashbacks every now and again.

I find lots of people on here don't understand and take the mick out of us. But there is lots like the fine folk in this forum who understand

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By *tacks1980Man
over a year ago

dudley

I found taking up snowboarding and other sports helped my state of mind. I made great friends doing these activites and I'm never far away from a friend if I ever need one.

Stay safe and hang in there.

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