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"The problem is vagina feels to good. #Vagina" That’s what I said to the instructor but they insisted I stopped doing it... | |||
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"I completely understand why bare back is important and yes, we will only play ‘safe’ BUT.... Who wears a condom for full sex and yet doesn’t for oral? Ok, you can’t get pregnant from oral but that’s about it. Are we just a bunch of hypocrites? Ed" Yeah, taking the condom off to cum in her mouth, never understood that. | |||
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"I have posted this comment before as BB comes up a lot. I’m really impressed by the responsible approach by the majority on Fab where BB is frowned upon and rightly considered too high a risk. Compare this to my experience three years ago when I had a real blast dating on POF. I met and slept with a number of women in a 12 month spell. Headteachers, nurses, local govt, business women. All in 40’s, 50’s. Not once did the topic of condoms come up. Never! I admit my negligence in that. Of course it’s not just me and I’ve no doubt it goes on in the same way today. Every day!" Women in there 40s and 50s are the best, they don’t give a fuck. #ZeroFucksWomen | |||
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"I completely understand why bare back is important and yes, we will only play ‘safe’ BUT.... Who wears a condom for full sex and yet doesn’t for oral? Ok, you can’t get pregnant from oral but that’s about it. Are we just a bunch of hypocrites? Ed Yeah, taking the condom off to cum in her mouth, never understood that. " It’s like wearing a hard hat, while wearing flip flops. | |||
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"I have posted this comment before as BB comes up a lot. I’m really impressed by the responsible approach by the majority on Fab where BB is frowned upon and rightly considered too high a risk. Compare this to my experience three years ago when I had a real blast dating on POF. I met and slept with a number of women in a 12 month spell. Headteachers, nurses, local govt, business women. All in 40’s, 50’s. Not once did the topic of condoms come up. Never! I admit my negligence in that. Of course it’s not just me and I’ve no doubt it goes on in the same way today. Every day! Women in there 40s and 50s are the best, they don’t give a fuck. #ZeroFucksWomen" ZeroFucksWomen is a very conscious fabber and always plays safe! Shame on you for spreading such rumours  | |||
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"tiptoing on broken glass there guys " And they wonder why they never get meets | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. " Is "nobemeber" like movember and rocktober only it involves lots of nobbery? Can't wait for descendher myself. | |||
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Me? Nope! "I have done, from Tinder meets. Not from here though. | |||
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"For those who haven’t been to a std clinic. They are surprisingly friendly and very understanding. You do not have to give your real name, just remember the name you give when you ask for results. There is no shame in going and no embarrassment and it’s just like going into your doctors. If your local one is too local then go to one out of town. So whether you like BB or skins do make the effort to pop in. The results are normally ready in a few days." This  | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. " I don’t see that as him being cheeky or out of order though. I see it as him being sensible and conscious of his health. | |||
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"I’ve met some very blasé women in there 50’s. Is cause of the HRT ?"  | |||
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"I have posted this comment before as BB comes up a lot. I’m really impressed by the responsible approach by the majority on Fab where BB is frowned upon and rightly considered too high a risk. Compare this to my experience three years ago when I had a real blast dating on POF. I met and slept with a number of women in a 12 month spell. Headteachers, nurses, local govt, business women. All in 40’s, 50’s. Not once did the topic of condoms come up. Never! I admit my negligence in that. Of course it’s not just me and I’ve no doubt it goes on in the same way today. Every day! Women in there 40s and 50s are the best, they don’t give a fuck. #ZeroFucksWomen" Yeah ok | |||
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"For those who haven’t been to a std clinic. They are surprisingly friendly and very understanding. You do not have to give your real name, just remember the name you give when you ask for results. There is no shame in going and no embarrassment and it’s just like going into your doctors. If your local one is too local then go to one out of town. So whether you like BB or skins do make the effort to pop in. The results are normally ready in a few days." Last time I went, I heard someone shout my real name out. I’d forgotten I knew this lady that works there. I think I’ll go elsewhere next time.  | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. I don’t see that as him being cheeky or out of order though. I see it as him being sensible and conscious of his health. " Yeah I suppose but coming from a squaddie it is quite cheeky but enough assurance to have unprotected sex knowing that he'd only just had all clear results back prior to going away for work. I had all clear results in April after him and haven't had action since January so I'm good to go. Just need someone to have sex with. | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. I don’t see that as him being cheeky or out of order though. I see it as him being sensible and conscious of his health. Yeah I suppose but coming from a squaddie it is quite cheeky but enough assurance to have unprotected sex knowing that he'd only just had all clear results back prior to going away for work. I had all clear results in April after him and haven't had action since January so I'm good to go. Just need someone to have sex with. " You’d think it wouldn’t be that difficult finding someone on here eh? Think again! | |||
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"Have you OP?
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I have done, from Tinder meets. Not from here though."That's fine then, because nobody on Tinder has any STD's of course. | |||
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"The problem is vagina feels to good. #Vagina" But constant itching and a smelly cheesy discharge wouldn't. Safety first, safety second! | |||
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"Have you OP?
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I have done, from Tinder meets. Not from here though.
That's fine then, because nobody on Tinder has any STD's of course."Don’t be snide. | |||
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"I have posted this comment before as BB comes up a lot. I’m really impressed by the responsible approach by the majority on Fab where BB is frowned upon and rightly considered too high a risk. Compare this to my experience three years ago when I had a real blast dating on POF. I met and slept with a number of women in a 12 month spell. Headteachers, nurses, local govt, business women. All in 40’s, 50’s. Not once did the topic of condoms come up. Never! I admit my negligence in that. Of course it’s not just me and I’ve no doubt it goes on in the same way today. Every day! Women in there 40s and 50s are the best, they don’t give a fuck. #ZeroFucksWomen" . pmsl | |||
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"Have you OP?
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I have done, from Tinder meets. Not from here though.
That's fine then, because nobody on Tinder has any STD's of course.
Don’t be snide."It was sarcasm actually. However, to put everyone right, maybe you can explain why it's fine to go bareback with people off Tinder but too risky to do it with folk off FAB. It will be most interesting to have some insight into your rationalisation process. | |||
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"Have you OP?
Me? Nope!
I have done, from Tinder meets. Not from here though.
That's fine then, because nobody on Tinder has any STD's of course.
Don’t be snide.
It was sarcasm actually. However, to put everyone right, maybe you can explain why it's fine to go bareback with people off Tinder but too risky to do it with folk off FAB. It will be most interesting to have some insight into your rationalisation process."I haven’t actually said it’s fine to go bareback with women on Tinder and not on here, you’re putting words in my mouth. It was based on the individuals and the situation. I was looking for a relationship at the time and so were they. The women that I went bareback with on Tinder, I got to know very well before we had sex. They weren’t casual hook ups. So I knew there history and there was trust there. They were clean, I was clean. | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. " Morning after pill does not stop stds and anyone can say that they are clean, it's not necessarily the truth, you should really be more careful. | |||
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 This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. Is "nobemeber" like movember and rocktober only it involves lots of nobbery? Can't wait for descendher myself." You're thinking of Dicksember | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird "Says the bloke who wants to live on an island, in a hippy commune of free love and sexual exploration. | |||
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"As someone posted here if you use condoms but not a dental dam or other protection for oral you really are being hypocritical. More importantly I think the majority that use condoms don't even bother to visit clinics for testing when chlamydia can be passed on orally. Plus others and that complacency is dangerous. Bareback isn't the danger. Being here regardless of condom use or not and meeting others and not going to a clinic for regular checking is. Go Google how stds are passed don't take my word for it and health professionals will tell you the same. Chlamydia can be passed by oral sex alone. " Exactly | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird "I'm a very honest person, if anyone ever questions my integrity I find it cheeky, it's cos I think too highly of myself, like how dare you think I'd be riddled with diseases. I very very rarely have sex, I've had sex with 8 men in the last 17 years so I'm hardly putting myself about. | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird
I'm a very honest person, if anyone ever questions my integrity I find it cheeky, it's cos I think too highly of myself, like how dare you think I'd be riddled with diseases. I very very rarely have sex, I've had sex with 8 men in the last 17 years so I'm hardly putting myself about. "Thing is Annie it’s irrelevant how many. Only takes one. I’ve had sex with less than that and always safe sex. I don’t really understand your thinking to be honest. I’d have had more respect for him for being like that. Unless I’ve totally misinterpreted this whole thread | |||
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"A lot of people say one thing and do quite another on here. I have actually stopped a meet in full flow, got dressed and walked out because someone would not stop trying just to get bare contact. No means no." the right and responsible thing to do ... a lady must be firm about her health and confidence | |||
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"I’ve met some very blasé women in there 50’s. Is cause of the HRT ?" I’ve met blase women in there teens and twenties too. It’s not age depenadant. | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. Is "nobemeber" like movember and rocktober only it involves lots of nobbery? Can't wait for descendher myself.You're thinking of Dicksember " Yes that's half my problem -I think about it so much that i never get to Orgasmuary | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird
I'm a very honest person, if anyone ever questions my integrity I find it cheeky, it's cos I think too highly of myself, like how dare you think I'd be riddled with diseases. I very very rarely have sex, I've had sex with 8 men in the last 17 years so I'm hardly putting myself about.
Thing is Annie it’s irrelevant how many. Only takes one. I’ve had sex with less than that and always safe sex. I don’t really understand your thinking to be honest. I’d have had more respect for him for being like that. Unless I’ve totally misinterpreted this whole thread "Me too. If this isn't a joke Annie if you'd responded to me that way it would've been meet over for me. I don't know you from adam. I don't have a clue how many guys you've really fucked or how much of a risk you might be. Most importantly I can't evaluate if I trust your story. If you couldn't sympathise with that and instead pulled an emotive appeal for me to not be so cheeky my libido would've immediately died and I'd be gone. If, however, we'd met a few times and I felt you were a trustworthy soul then I might be willing to take the risk. Maybe this is what happened with you and this guy. But I seem to recall you describing it as a first meet. Sorry if I got that wrong | |||
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"I completely understand why bare back is important and yes, we will only play ‘safe’ BUT.... Who wears a condom for full sex and yet doesn’t for oral? Ok, you can’t get pregnant from oral but that’s about it. Are we just a bunch of hypocrites? Ed" This is what I wonder!!! Unless you aren’t doing oral (and where’s the fun In that) what is actually the point in condoms? Thank you nhs for free screening as often as you need!!! Everyone saying they only use condoms, do you not do oral then? Is it not normal for oral to be a part of this world ? | |||
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"The problem is vagina feels to good. #Vagina" You just hashtagged a Virgina? Haha that’s so cool  | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird
I'm a very honest person, if anyone ever questions my integrity I find it cheeky, it's cos I think too highly of myself, like how dare you think I'd be riddled with diseases. I very very rarely have sex, I've had sex with 8 men in the last 17 years so I'm hardly putting myself about.
Thing is Annie it’s irrelevant how many. Only takes one. I’ve had sex with less than that and always safe sex. I don’t really understand your thinking to be honest. I’d have had more respect for him for being like that. Unless I’ve totally misinterpreted this whole thread
Me too. If this isn't a joke Annie if you'd responded to me that way it would've been meet over for me. I don't know you from adam. I don't have a clue how many guys you've really fucked or how much of a risk you might be. Most importantly I can't evaluate if I trust your story. If you couldn't sympathise with that and instead pulled an emotive appeal for me to not be so cheeky my libido would've immediately died and I'd be gone.
If, however, we'd met a few times and I felt you were a trustworthy soul then I might be willing to take the risk. Maybe this is what happened with you and this guy. But I seem to recall you describing it as a first meet. Sorry if I got that wrong "It was the first time we met. I don't normally have sex the first time I meet a guy purely because I like cum inside me. Previously I've met a guy and then through the art of communication and logic you can deduce whether someone is ok to sleep with unprotected. With this guy in November it was his unwillingness at first to have unprotected sex that made me think he was ok to fuck, if he had straight away said yeah fuck it lets go, I would have thought ok well he's probably been like this with other people so therefore he could be a risk. Because he said he never sleeps with anyone off here unprotected and because he said he's all clear from army sexual health checks they do and was about to be posted to the Middle East the next day and couldn't risk catching anything I thought well ok he seems pretty adamant he's got a clean bill of sexual health and therefore ok to sleep with. With communication and some common sense it's pretty easy to decide. It's what I've always done and I've never caught anything. I don't sleep with many people so that's the level of risk I'm willing to take. IF I was meeting different men each week then I'd re-evaluate but I don't. | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird
I'm a very honest person, if anyone ever questions my integrity I find it cheeky, it's cos I think too highly of myself, like how dare you think I'd be riddled with diseases. I very very rarely have sex, I've had sex with 8 men in the last 17 years so I'm hardly putting myself about.
Thing is Annie it’s irrelevant how many. Only takes one. I’ve had sex with less than that and always safe sex. I don’t really understand your thinking to be honest. I’d have had more respect for him for being like that. Unless I’ve totally misinterpreted this whole thread
Me too. If this isn't a joke Annie if you'd responded to me that way it would've been meet over for me. I don't know you from adam. I don't have a clue how many guys you've really fucked or how much of a risk you might be. Most importantly I can't evaluate if I trust your story. If you couldn't sympathise with that and instead pulled an emotive appeal for me to not be so cheeky my libido would've immediately died and I'd be gone.
If, however, we'd met a few times and I felt you were a trustworthy soul then I might be willing to take the risk. Maybe this is what happened with you and this guy. But I seem to recall you describing it as a first meet. Sorry if I got that wrong
It was the first time we met. I don't normally have sex the first time I meet a guy purely because I like cum inside me. Previously I've met a guy and then through the art of communication and logic you can deduce whether someone is ok to sleep with unprotected. With this guy in November it was his unwillingness at first to have unprotected sex that made me think he was ok to fuck, if he had straight away said yeah fuck it lets go, I would have thought ok well he's probably been like this with other people so therefore he could be a risk. Because he said he never sleeps with anyone off here unprotected and because he said he's all clear from army sexual health checks they do and was about to be posted to the Middle East the next day and couldn't risk catching anything I thought well ok he seems pretty adamant he's got a clean bill of sexual health and therefore ok to sleep with.
With communication and some common sense it's pretty easy to decide. It's what I've always done and I've never caught anything. I don't sleep with many people so that's the level of risk I'm willing to take. IF I was meeting different men each week then I'd re-evaluate but I don't. "That makes more sense. But I'd still run a mile if a woman accused me of being cheeky for wanting to keep things safe. Sorry if you feel you're having to defend yourself. I'm just posting my views on this. I don't mean to corner you. I just feel personally that step 1 towards any possibility of having sex is sensing that there's likely to be mutual respect. If that's not there I'm not going there either. A woman who didn't respect that I wanted to play safe wouldn't be a woman I'd want to open up to. I know that's a pretty biased view so I'm sure you see it differently. But that's the way I see it. | |||
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"The problem is vagina feels to good. #Vagina You just hashtagged a Virgina? Haha that’s so cool "This would have been great if you spelt vagina correctly. Back to the drawing board big fella. #VaginaNotVirgina | |||
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"Never thought 'fuck it... Let's go bareback', but have discussed it and made intelligent, rational decisions on it in advance with long term exclusive partners. The thing is... You can still get the 'I've got Chlamydia, you need to get tested' call from a previous sexual partner even if you've used condoms folks... Fact is, many STIs are transmissible orally and also through indirect contact (fingering/stroking someone and subsequently touching your own genital area for example), so there are always risks involved in any sexual contact. How many people wash their hands after foreplay before putting on a condom? How many use a barrier for oral sex on either a man or woman? How many strictly use condoms for penetrative sex and just assume they must be 'clean' because of it without ever getting tested? Whatever way we choose to play, we all need to take responsibility for our own health, educate ourselves about the real risks (as opposed to the myths), make intelligent choices, and stop blaming and/or judging others. We choose who we have sex with. Nobody is forcing us. If you're uncomfortable with someone's sexual history, pass them by. If you slip up or choose not to use precautions, take ownership. If you're sexually active, with or without condoms, get tested." | |||
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" This thread is weird. I'd assumed the op started it as a joke. But it has panned out to be just weird. And I'm guessing Annie's depiction of a guy who wanted to play safe as being "cheeky" is a joke too
Just weird
I'm a very honest person, if anyone ever questions my integrity I find it cheeky, it's cos I think too highly of myself, like how dare you think I'd be riddled with diseases. I very very rarely have sex, I've had sex with 8 men in the last 17 years so I'm hardly putting myself about.
Thing is Annie it’s irrelevant how many. Only takes one. I’ve had sex with less than that and always safe sex. I don’t really understand your thinking to be honest. I’d have had more respect for him for being like that. Unless I’ve totally misinterpreted this whole thread
Me too. If this isn't a joke Annie if you'd responded to me that way it would've been meet over for me. I don't know you from adam. I don't have a clue how many guys you've really fucked or how much of a risk you might be. Most importantly I can't evaluate if I trust your story. If you couldn't sympathise with that and instead pulled an emotive appeal for me to not be so cheeky my libido would've immediately died and I'd be gone.
If, however, we'd met a few times and I felt you were a trustworthy soul then I might be willing to take the risk. Maybe this is what happened with you and this guy. But I seem to recall you describing it as a first meet. Sorry if I got that wrong
It was the first time we met. I don't normally have sex the first time I meet a guy purely because I like cum inside me. Previously I've met a guy and then through the art of communication and logic you can deduce whether someone is ok to sleep with unprotected. With this guy in November it was his unwillingness at first to have unprotected sex that made me think he was ok to fuck, if he had straight away said yeah fuck it lets go, I would have thought ok well he's probably been like this with other people so therefore he could be a risk. Because he said he never sleeps with anyone off here unprotected and because he said he's all clear from army sexual health checks they do and was about to be posted to the Middle East the next day and couldn't risk catching anything I thought well ok he seems pretty adamant he's got a clean bill of sexual health and therefore ok to sleep with.
With communication and some common sense it's pretty easy to decide. It's what I've always done and I've never caught anything. I don't sleep with many people so that's the level of risk I'm willing to take. IF I was meeting different men each week then I'd re-evaluate but I don't.
That makes more sense. But I'd still run a mile if a woman accused me of being cheeky for wanting to keep things safe. Sorry if you feel you're having to defend yourself. I'm just posting my views on this. I don't mean to corner you. I just feel personally that step 1 towards any possibility of having sex is sensing that there's likely to be mutual respect. If that's not there I'm not going there either. A woman who didn't respect that I wanted to play safe wouldn't be a woman I'd want to open up to. I know that's a pretty biased view so I'm sure you see it differently. But that's the way I see it. "But in that particular scenario and the tone of the conversation, me calling him a cheeky bastard wasn't as bad as how it's written. That particular event I'd only spoken to the guy on the phone the previous night and the plan was to have a drive through Starbucks the next evening. I met him in the pub car park by my mums, got out of my car and into his, when we saw each other in the flesh he said shall we sack off Starbucks and just have a cuppa tea in your house, said he only suggested Starbucks in case he wanted to make a quick get away. He was obscenely attractive, as soon as we got in my house he carried me into my sitting room and we were kissing and I had to say let's just have a cuppa tea first and a chat, I was pulling his jogging bottoms off to suck him off, he was undressing me, he was already planning on meeting when he got back and was saying he wanted to fuck me there and then and asking if I had condoms and that's how the rest of the conversation came about. It was banter (hate that word) but me calling him cheeky was in a playful semi serious way. I don't think it was bad that he wanted to have safe sex and was reluctant to fuck bareback, it was a good thing that he was being careful over his sexual health, it helped me make that judgement there and then that it was safe to have his bare penis inside me. We fucked and met many times after that night and since him I've had all clear bloods, mouth swabs and the normal cotton bud up the fanny std tests. It's not like I'm going round in a van having bareback gangbangs every night. When I meet someone I want to have sex with I'll have sexual health discussions and will also explain how I need to be on the contraceptive pill for 7 full days before having sex, if they want to sleep with me then I'd need assurance that they have a clean bill of sexual health. I'm not looking for anyone off here or for a one off fuck so anyone I meet I'd date and then the natural progression towards sex will occur. People shouldn't busy themselves with what I'm doing as there's nobody on here I'd ever have sex with. | |||
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"People shouldn't busy themselves with what I'm doing as there's nobody on here I'd ever have sex with. " As I said in my last comment, I'm not busying myself with what you're doing. I'm merely reacting to what you're posting. You say "I did x" and I'm just saying "I wouldn't have done x myself". That's just the nature of a public forum | |||
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"People shouldn't busy themselves with what I'm doing as there's nobody on here I'd ever have sex with. As I said in my last comment, I'm not busying myself with what you're doing. I'm merely reacting to what you're posting. You say "I did x" and I'm just saying "I wouldn't have done x myself". That's just the nature of a public forum" Did you have to type that quote out again, or do you have to delete everything else ? Thanks in advance x | |||
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"Have you OP?
Me? Nope!
I have done, from Tinder meets. Not from here though."What's tinder like. Can you put any topless pics on or is it fully clothed only | |||
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"People shouldn't busy themselves with what I'm doing as there's nobody on here I'd ever have sex with. As I said in my last comment, I'm not busying myself with what you're doing. I'm merely reacting to what you're posting. You say "I did x" and I'm just saying "I wouldn't have done x myself". That's just the nature of a public forum" He obviously wasn't as strong willed as you then as by that time I'd already had my tongue up his arse, sucked his dick and was bent over my sofa pulling my thong to the side asking him to fuck me. | |||
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"People shouldn't busy themselves with what I'm doing as there's nobody on here I'd ever have sex with. As I said in my last comment, I'm not busying myself with what you're doing. I'm merely reacting to what you're posting. You say "I did x" and I'm just saying "I wouldn't have done x myself". That's just the nature of a public forum He obviously wasn't as strong willed as you then as by that time I'd already had my tongue up his arse, sucked his dick and was bent over my sofa pulling my thong to the side asking him to fuck me. " Well to be fair my will power hasn't been tested to that degree | |||
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"I only fuck bareback but to put into context I've slept with 8 men in 17 years. A lot of preparation goes into fucking. The last guy I met in nobemeber, the first time we met I sucked him off and he wanted to fuck and asked if I had a condom. I said no but I'm fine, he said he doesn't sleep with women off here without anything and he was flying to the Middle East the next day for 3 weeks so couldn't risk catching anything. I told him he was a cheeky cunt and that I was clean but not on the pill, he said I'll pull out then which he did. I took the morning after pill the next day to be sure. "
I get checked at the GUM clinic every month so far still in one piece | |||
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"Yes, and then her hot friend called over and sucked my balls as I barebacked her, and the pizza delivery guy recorded it all on video." Did you get free pizza aswell? Ss | |||
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"Yeah - but I got an instant std and my fanny flaps fell off! Had to have them sewn back on! #truefact! " It happens. | |||
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