FabSwingers.com forum: Can't figure it out

By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Something I can't figure out, I see status updates that have a pop at guys who aren't respectful yet the same ones then never reply to a respectful message when read and then delete it. Then post that there's no respectful guys about.

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

"Something I can't figure out, I see status updates that have a pop at guys who aren't respectful yet the same ones then never reply to a respectful message when read and then delete it. Then post that there's no respectful guys about.

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

You could always try -let us know how that works out for you (Sydney university love research like this)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

You dont seem to have picked up the rules on how this works.

Just because she expects respect from you doesn't mean she feels obligated to treat you with the same.

An alternative explanation however is that often there are so many thirsty men messaging the few single females on here that from an administrative point of view it just becomes a pain in the arse to reply to everyone even with a polite no. So they dont.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Quite clearly being nice, respectful and friendly just gets a delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab FAQ;

‘There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?’

https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite clearly being nice, respectful and friendly just gets a delete "

No. Someone not being interested in you gets a delete.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Quite clearly being nice, respectful and friendly just gets a delete

No. Someone not being interested in you gets a delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Someone not being interested in you gets a delete.

I'd much prefer deleted rather than [read]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Fab FAQ;

‘There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

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I get all that, and there's plenty on here I'm not interested in also. My point is that the majority I have messaged have never answered and then bitch about nobody being polite to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I married a ‘nice guy’

What a silly statement. I wouldn’t meet with anyone who I didn’t think was nice. I love a lovely, respectful message but if I’m not interested, I’m not interested. It’s really as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

Yes

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

You dont seem to have picked up the rules on how this works.

Just because she expects respect from you doesn't mean she feels obligated to treat you with the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the big fuss. Send a message, if they are interested they will reply, if the don't they're not.

No matter what they do with your message in the meantime the result is the same. If it bothers you so much just delete your sent mail and stop checking.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I married a ‘nice guy’

its not a silly statement, slagging off single guys is a major thing on these forums. and you know it because you always add to it.

its a statement of fact. women complain a hell of a lot about the quality of men they meet and they are responsible for that.

they have a massive amount of men to choose from and still cant get it right?

come on whats next you gonna blame me for not picking the winning lottery numbers for you or celtic dominating scottish football?

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

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If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status update makes you seem like a lovely guy. Just saying, your supposed nice guy persona isn’t coming across on your profile and may not be via messages either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either."

You've based your opinion that you need to be a twat to get a response on an observation you've made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either."

Again, you seem lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I married a ‘nice guy’

its not a silly statement, slagging off single guys is a major thing on these forums. and you know it because you always add to it.

its a statement of fact. women complain a hell of a lot about the quality of men they meet and they are responsible for that.

they have a massive amount of men to choose from and still cant get it right?

come on whats next you gonna blame me for not picking the winning lottery numbers for you or celtic dominating scottish football?

Where are these posts of all the women complaining?

Must be buried under all the snog, fuck, avoid; threads

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"I don't understand the big fuss. Send a message, if they are interested they will reply, if the don't they're not.

No matter what they do with your message in the meantime the result is the same. If it bothers you so much just delete your sent mail and stop checking. "

Well said x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's got nothing to do with being nice or otherwise OP - more often than not a lot of the good ladies of Fab will take the following actions when they receive an unsolicited message from someone they don't know:

(1) Before even opening the message they'll check the profile of the sender.

(2) Based on what they think of the profile they'll either ignore or delete the message, or decide to read it.

(3) If they decide to read it, they'll then either delete or ignore the message based on its content, or decide to respond.

(4) If they delete/ignore the message they may also block you to save you troubling them again.

They do all of the above and don't reply, when they don't, because replying then opens a dialogue, and even a polite refusal has been known to see butt hurt abuse sent back along the lines of "Didn't want to meet you anyway, was only suggesting it to do you a favour" and far far worse. Replying also opens a channel around any future filters they may set.

So it's not just about sending what you think is a polite respectful message (and just because you think it is, doesn't mean it is taken that way) - it's about having a decent profile, the person finding you attractive, your message interesting them and much much more

No point fretting over it - just accept that no reply means not interested and you'll be fine.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either."

If I like you, I reply to your message.

If I really like you, I arrange a meet.

If I don't fancy you or find your profile negative or whiney I delete.

It's as simple as that.

Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

You dont seem to have picked up the rules on how this works.

Just because she expects respect from you doesn't mean she feels obligated to treat you with the same.

Pretty much yeah, though it depends on your definition of "ok"

If by ok you mean socially accepted and without any consequence whatever, then yes.

If by ok you mean morally virtuous, then no.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

Again, you seem lovely."
Of you have a look at my verifications you'll see that I am actually a really nice guy, but if someone feels the need to have a sly dig because of one little status of an observation then I'll respond.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

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No you can be 1 charming motherfucker and still not get a reply if they don't find you attractive. Women on here have options they don't have to settle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here mate look best tip i can give you so take it or leave it.

no cock pic on profile and never send one in a message.

have something about you on your profile that is interesting not just about the sex you like.

put a face pic on your profile that way is saved time people asking for one.

make it clear what you are looking for.

dont rush. build a conversation over time so you can see if your both compatible i.e. shared interests music, films, eating out etc.

again dont rush. dont push her into meeting she will tell you when she is good and ready.

never ever send a mail asking why she hasnt replied. she is one women getting tons of mail and may have to spend time to find yours.

get yourself to a social and mingle.

have patience. the race is long with many laps. expect to crash all rookies do.

take is easy good luck

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

No you can be 1 charming motherfucker and still not get a reply if they don't find you attractive. Women on here have options they don't have to settle."

Nail, on head, hit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

Again, you seem lovely. Of you have a look at my verifications you'll see that I am actually a really nice guy, but if someone feels the need to have a sly dig because of one little status of an observation then I'll respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I only like the nice guys as ‘bad boys’ have never been my thing. I don’t start threads moaning about guys but I do get annoying messages from men who clearly haven’t read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your status update makes you seem like a lovely guy. Just saying, your supposed nice guy persona isn’t coming across on your profile and may not be via messages either."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I only like the nice guys as ‘bad boys’ have never been my thing. I don’t start threads moaning about guys but I do get annoying messages from men who clearly haven’t read my profile. "

if they havent taken time to read your profile then they are not intelligent enough to spend time with its an easy decision to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I only like the nice guys as ‘bad boys’ have never been my thing. I don’t start threads moaning about guys but I do get annoying messages from men who clearly haven’t read my profile.

if they havent taken time to read your profile then they are not intelligent enough to spend time with its an easy decision to make.

Exactly.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

That’s exactly what this thread was for. I don’t want to read what other people have to say about the person I’ve received a message from, I’m more interested in how they put themselves across. You are not coming across as a nice guy in either your hostile responses to certain posters, or your profile. I haven’t received a message from you, so I can’t comment on that."
I'm sorry Hannah but you have got me wrong. Part of this post was a little experiment. Yes it is purely an observation but also to show that a lot of people only seem to respond to the less polite and or respectful messages.

And you're right, I've never messaged you and the chances are I probably never would as I don't think you'd reply to me, for whatever reason you'd have. And that's not a dig at you. Like I said in my original post, it seems most don't reply but then then moan that guys in Fab aren't nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We must all be backwards as we don’t want to reply to the OP! What a nice lad you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your current status will just get you a delete from pretty much all.

Being 5'7" won't help either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your current status will just get you a delete from pretty much all.

Being 5'7" won't help either

nor will knocking the guys confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending a nice message is great, but if the person you send it to doesn't fancy you, then the chances are you won't get a reply.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

Without knowing what the messages are we can't really tell what is or isn't respectful, and just because you send a respectful message, doesn't necessarily means you get a reply, maybe the lady in question just doesn't like something else about the profile or the way the guy looks in his pic, in the words of Frozen, "Let it go". For guys it will always be a numbers game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either."

Does it really matter mate,i mean its clearly wound you up but there really isnt a need.just smile,chill and respect they are not interested.Someone out there for everyone,keep smiling fella.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

One status which is an observation and all of a sudden everyone thinks they know me. I guarantee of I wrote a passive post the majority of the people who have commented on here would not have responded. Which kinda proves my point.

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

Does it really matter mate,i mean its clearly wound you up but there really isnt a need.just smile,chill and respect they are not interested.Someone out there for everyone,keep smiling fella.

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I have been doing that all this time mate, but recently it's been taking the piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I have to turn in to a twat just to get any kind of reply?

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It's kind of a clue, if they post negative status it stands to reason they are a negative person

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"women dont want nice guys mate.

they all say they do but look on the forum at how many moan and complain about the way guys behave.

a lot get the guy they deserve and then they slag him off on the fab facebook page that the women set up.

nice guys pick carefully and dont rush into meeting and thats why they seem thin on the ground.

women i know and ones im talking to privately know me and how i behave. and they are the intelligent ones who seek the right man.

I married a ‘nice guy’

its not a silly statement, slagging off single guys is a major thing on these forums. and you know it because you always add to it.

its a statement of fact. women complain a hell of a lot about the quality of men they meet and they are responsible for that.

they have a massive amount of men to choose from and still cant get it right?

come on whats next you gonna blame me for not picking the winning lottery numbers for you or celtic dominating scottish football?

Where are these posts of all the women complaining?

Must be buried under all the snog, fuck, avoid; threads

Complain about men they meet?

Sorry must have missed that thread..

Yes we do complain, about idiots that send us ridiculous messages.

But pretty sure the majority of us are quite picky about who we meet, have a criteria we follow when making that decision, thus avoiding meeting idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One status which is an observation and all of a sudden everyone thinks they know me. I guarantee of I wrote a passive post the majority of the people who have commented on here would not have responded. Which kinda proves my point."

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Yeah may people wouldn't have replied to a more passive post. That's where finding the balance helps, the guys who are successful around here tend to sit somewhere in the middle of good guy/bad guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

This post was never about creating an argument but an observation on the majority of posts by women that I've read. But it seems others want to pick argumentative points and try to show me up as not a nice person, which is in fact, in the words of Mother Theresa "a load of bollocks""
I actually agree with the OP,here age's myself,nice polite guy,send a message,gets read,deleted etc.C'est la vie.Send my usual polite messages.Result=90% deleted/unread.Sent more risque messages.Result=blocked.Just too many guy's here I suppose.The ladies must get hundreds of messages per day.But I'm shocked OP

You've got the David Brent look down to a tee in one of your pics..So that's it,you me & Finchy down to Chasers

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I wouldn't respond either after reading your status update

If you base your opinion on a little status which is an observation and nothing to do with who I am then I'd not want to talk to you either.

This post was never about creating an argument but an observation on the majority of posts by women that I've read. But it seems others want to pick argumentative points and try to show me up as not a nice person, which is in fact, in the words of Mother Theresa "a load of bollocks" I actually agree with the OP,here age's myself,nice polite guy,send a message,gets read,deleted etc.C'est la vie.Send my usual polite messages.Result=90% deleted/unread.Sent more risque messages.Result=blocked.Just too many guy's here I suppose.The ladies must get hundreds of messages per day.But I'm shocked OP

You've got the David Brent look down to a tee in one of your pics..So that's it,you me & Finchy down to Chasers

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No they don't all get hundreds my thread the other day proved that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You've kinda missed the point - everyone is responding negatively, this disproves your theory conclusively!!

The only thing most women on here respond to is a message from someone they fancy, and disrespect will put most women off even the hottest guys.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

You've kinda missed the point - everyone is responding negatively, this disproves your theory conclusively!!

The only thing most women on here respond to is a message from someone they fancy, and disrespect will put most women off even the hottest guys."
the penny might drop soon

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"It's got nothing to do with being nice or otherwise OP - more often than not a lot of the good ladies of Fab will take the following actions when they receive an unsolicited message from someone they don't know:

(1) Before even opening the message they'll check the profile of the sender.

(2) Based on what they think of the profile they'll either ignore or delete the message, or decide to read it.

(3) If they decide to read it, they'll then either delete or ignore the message based on its content, or decide to respond.

(4) If they delete/ignore the message they may also block you to save you troubling them again.

No point fretting over it - just accept that no reply means not interested and you'll be fine."

You put that absolutely perfectly!!!!

Mrs

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

My advice would be buy a towel rail...women love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Your status was along the lines of people being "fucking backwards". I think that's pretty negative language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Yeah may people wouldn't have replied to a more passive post. That's where finding the balance helps, the guys who are successful around here tend to sit somewhere in the middle of good guy/bad guy. Offensive language? I've not been offensive to anyone and I don't think anyone else has been. So the fact I have highlighted negativity of the posts I've seen and experienced very little positive means I'm negative and offensive?? I'm sorry but that's completely wrong."
you havnt been offensive just highlighting a negative which begets a negative here unfortunately

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"My advice would be buy a towel rail...women love them

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Is that the secret? Bloody hell lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Oh and my point was if you choose to highlight the negatives in life then people assume you to be a negative person. It makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Yeah may people wouldn't have replied to a more passive post. That's where finding the balance helps, the guys who are successful around here tend to sit somewhere in the middle of good guy/bad guy. Offensive language? I've not been offensive to anyone and I don't think anyone else has been. So the fact I have highlighted negativity of the posts I've seen and experienced very little positive means I'm negative and offensive?? I'm sorry but that's completely wrong."
My earlier post was a good observation if you see a negative status then think their is a reason for that and go elsewhere, trouble here is guys are wanting to attract women's attention so they target the women's replies, which is kind of sad, I give good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever anyone puts a status update up it's a "look at me" statement. The genius one I saw once was a woman imploring "guys please stop messaging me. my boyfriend is here" followed a little later by "really guys. stop messaging me. my boyfriend is here. it's so inappropriate". That woman must've got soooo many horny kinky messages that night

Other great look at me status updates include "not meeting at the mo" and "where are all the decent men"... your one... to which the desired response is always just a massive influx of new messages to delete and reply to as they wish.

Fab is a game dude. Learn how to play it

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"here mate look best tip i can give you so take it or leave it.

no cock pic on profile and never send one in a message.

have something about you on your profile that is interesting not just about the sex you like.

put a face pic on your profile that way is saved time people asking for one.

make it clear what you are looking for.

dont rush. build a conversation over time so you can see if your both compatible i.e. shared interests music, films, eating out etc.

again dont rush. dont push her into meeting she will tell you when she is good and ready.

never ever send a mail asking why she hasnt replied. she is one women getting tons of mail and may have to spend time to find yours.

get yourself to a social and mingle.

have patience. the race is long with many laps. expect to crash all rookies do.

take is easy good luck"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your messages are being read and then deleted your messages must be crap in my opinion. If your profile was bad they would be deleted unread.

All this polite/respectful obsession with sending messages is just bollocks. The message needs to be nothing more than appropriate.

When you've had a stream of polite, respectable inappropriate messages it can get quite wearing.Easier to delete than give it some credence with a not for us thanks.

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over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Your status was along the lines of people being "fucking backwards". I think that's pretty negative language. "

You've never been fucked backwards??

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Quite clearly being nice, respectful and friendly just gets a delete "

I genuinely don't understand the logic ?

You are on here to meet women you find attractive and with whom you have a connection and who do not act like twats

Just because a lady is asking for respect it does not mean anyone one she means the ones she finds attractive !

It would not matter if you're polite or a twat if she does not feel your the one

Politeness is not some magic that means a women changes her opinion of how attractive she finds you, it's what she requires IF she finds you attractive

The reality is you have just not been attractive enough in the eyes of the profile that you messaged , get over it

I seriously cannot understand why men think. BEING NICE is the only requirement a women should have of a man

I can assure you I'm far more demanding and would expect the same

Maybe every women who wants a little more respect , dislikes men in suites , maybe they prefer men with long hair

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"If your messages are being read and then deleted your messages must be crap in my opinion. If your profile was bad they would be deleted unread.

All this polite/respectful obsession with sending messages is just bollocks. The message needs to be nothing more than appropriate.

When you've had a stream of polite, respectable inappropriate messages it can get quite wearing.Easier to delete than give it some credence with a not for us thanks."

Don't just delete , block too xx

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By *_Rider OP Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"If your messages are being read and then deleted your messages must be crap in my opinion. If your profile was bad they would be deleted unread.

All this polite/respectful obsession with sending messages is just bollocks. The message needs to be nothing more than appropriate.

When you've had a stream of polite, respectable inappropriate messages it can get quite wearing.Easier to delete than give it some credence with a not for us thanks."
Sorry but your opinion is just a poor assumption. I have never sent an inappropriate message, never will either and never sent a stream of messages. If my messages were inappropriate then I'd understand, which prompted me to write this post after seeing some complain that they don't get messages other than inappropriate ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an observation but it's one you chose to share. It's negative and the language is offensive.

The majority of women check a profile before they decide whether to open the message or reply so you shot yourself in the foot proclaiming you're a nice guy.

Your status was along the lines of people being "fucking backwards". I think that's pretty negative language.

You've never been fucked backwards??"

Reverse cowgirl is my specialty