FabSwingers.com forum: Your worst social...

By *opping_candy OP Woman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I've seen threads over the years about meets gone wrong, but can you share your worst social?

The one that springs to mind for me happened last summer. I was in town having a drink with a work colleague who knew about my fab life and, whilst she'd never dip her toe herself, she was very curious about it. Eventually I put a post up saying I was in a bar in town with a friend and we were up for a social, the more the merrier, made it clear that attraction wasn't an issue as it was a SOCIAL ONLY.

Of course got many messages, and one actually showed up!

He proceeded to spend 90 minutes talking our ears off about his successful business which seemed to be some sort of pyramid scheme but he was very hazy about the details! He berated us for having normal jobs working for someone else. He spat when he talked. He spoke loudly of past fab meets.

Feeling mentally exhausted and the time for politeness long since past, we said we were moving on elsewhere and said our goodbyes.

I got home two hours later to find him logged in to fab still quite close by (he lived in another town). As soon as I logged in he messaged saying he'd been sat in his car in the town centre waiting to see if I needed 'tucking in'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dint think I've had one, but I dud once meet someone, who suggested a nearby pub to meet.

We got there and it was quiz night which made it impossible to talk so we entered

Funny in both our books.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Buffalo Bill.

The guy I met at a pub, turned up on a filthy transit (can t help that I understand.... but it adds to the whole experience!)

He spoke broken English, yet when messaging he spoke perfect English (must have been using a translator)

I found him pushy from the word go, rather than general chit chat he was straight into telling me how all the women on fab were bitches and sluts

Alarm bells! He had nothing good to say about women at all and seemed really bitter and angry towards the female sex. I went to make my exit, sorry dude not for me plus I need to get to work and he tried to convince me to get in the back of his van which was kitted out with cuffs and all kinds of other stuff that I'd only ever consider doing with someone I trusted with my life!

Commence "operation leg it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not very good at socials, I have a terrible habit of not keeping it just social

So I’m thinking any social I’ve had where it’s been just a social...is probably the worse...means I didn’t fancy them

MrsK x

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By *opping_candy OP Woman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Buffalo Bill.

The guy I met at a pub, turned up on a filthy transit (can t help that I understand.... but it adds to the whole experience!)

He spoke broken English, yet when messaging he spoke perfect English (must have been using a translator)

I found him pushy from the word go, rather than general chit chat he was straight into telling me how all the women on fab were bitches and sluts

Commence "operation leg it""

Sounds like a lucky escape!

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By *opping_candy OP Woman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

" I dint think I've had one, but I dud once meet someone, who suggested a nearby pub to meet.

We got there and it was quiz night which made it impossible to talk so we entered

Funny in both our books."

Did you win?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually drink pints but in this case I was glad I only ordered half a cider as soon as he offered me a drink

couldn't wait to leave that bar, he wanted to escort me home.. No, thanks!

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By *opping_candy OP Woman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"I usually drink pints but in this case I was glad I only ordered half a cider as soon as he offered me a drink

couldn't wait to leave that bar, he wanted to escort me home.. No, thanks!

May I ask why?

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

All of em I always feel awkward

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

When I have a social it will be my worst and best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was on had a few socials and they were nothing like they were on there banter on fab .In person lacked communication skills.i see them now as key board warriors .we all learn by mistakes and move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My worst one was where we chatted a while and got on well. Sorry......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I probably AM that awkward / worst social, so just posting to bookmark in case I recognise any scenarios

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I haven’t had a bad social. I’ve been a bit shy, quiet maybe but I’ve enjoyed them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really had any bad socials..

I did attend an organised social a few yrs ago. It was in a pub and there were quite a few attendees but me and the organiser were the only women ..i like to think i can talk to anyone but trying to talk to any of those men was like trying to get blood out of a stone..

It was too much like hard work for me so i made my excuses and left

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

Had a few bad socials worst one guy was a teacher his pic on fab was about 15 years out of date had chat made our excuses and left.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Not really had any bad socials..

It was too much like hard work for me so i made my excuses and left "

Jesus woman I said I was sorry move on ffs move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really had any bad socials..

It was too much like hard work for me so i made my excuses and left

Jesus woman I said I was sorry move on ffs move on

Is that why you never left me a verification

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Not really had any bad socials..

It was too much like hard work for me so i made my excuses and left

Jesus woman I said I was sorry move on ffs move on

Is that why you never left me a verification

I did you was just to pussy to show it. I'm sure a Dyson was mentioned in it somewhere

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

We met in a pub ... he had no front teeth , told me his life story , picked up the menu and read aloud each meal .... saying which ones he didnt like ... and how expensive it was .... needless to say I made my excuses and left .... phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met 3 couples for a pre meet social in a bar. My ex went off chatting up random women at the bar then made a twat of himself being really leery with the wife of one of the couples.

When we left the bar to all drive to the club, the 'leered at wife couple' roared off with spinning wheels... never to be seen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn't awful as in bad, but I met someone once who had an eye that kept going off for a walk on its own

I put so much effort into concentrating on the good eye, but you know that once you see something you can't unsee it, well that

(The meet wasn't off here btw)

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

Only really had one bad social meet.

Had been chatting to someone that turned out to be very local, so arranged to pop round for a coffee and a chat.

Turned up at the agreed time, after spending time showering, shaving, primping and making myself vaguely human, and was greeted by the aforementioned lady. Clad in a dressing gown (loosely tied) and what I can only assume were nightclothes that were well past their prime....

Being a gent, I didn't mention the apparent lack of effort, as she had previously said that she did work long hours, so maybe she'd just got home? No matter, it was only a social after all....

I had also noticed quite quickly that the profile pic she had used was probably a decade out of date, and heavily shopped at a guess.... again, I was too polite to point this out!

So I went in, and she led me to the lounge, offered me a seat and asked if I'd like a drink. I said yes to a coffee as I was driving (local, but not so local as to walk!) and she went off to make it. The place stank horrendously of fags - bear in mind I was a 20-a-day smoker at that point - and the ashtrays were overflowing. She came back with my coffee and a large glass of wine.... at this point I realised it wasn't her first glass of the evening! She then proceeded to tell me that she was having the wine to wash down the tablets she was taking for cystitis (too much info!) and for some other 'downstairs problem'. Yes, that was the phrase she used.

I also realised at this point that the loosely tied dressing gown was now revealing that the slightly shabby nightwear had vanished....

The conversation was stilted and awkward, she had little to say about anything other than what turned her on and what got her off, and I was honestly both bored and horrified in equal measures.... all the time her dressing gown gradually becoming increasingly revealing, to the extent that it may as well have not been there eventually. Sadly, time had not been kind to her well proportioned assets....

I brought the meet to an end as quickly and painlessly as I could, saying I had to be up early for work, and having made my excuses I left, saying that maybe we might meet at some point, but not sure when as I was very busy with work. Not a lie, but certainly was never happening.

I was as gentlemanly as I could be throughout, but oh my god it was bad. It was obvious she was well on the way to being d*unk, hadn't bothered getting ready, and had an expectation of sex on the night in spite of medical issues that should have precluded that.

I'm not sure if it is possible to have an inverse hard on, but that night was as close to it as it gets!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

One if he reasons we don’t , and never did socials again , was down to a social that went like this .

We turned up at the designated pub in a small town to meet the couple . All good , but they seemed to be a bit worse for wear when we arrived . I get my wife a small g and t , and a cola for me and we sit with them . Oh my days they were so loud and raucous we wanted the ground to swallow us . We quickly finished our drinks and I went for a pee and phoned my wife . Told her to make out it was the sitter and we had to go . Got back and could hear them berating my wife that we hadn’t even got to first base ! The fucking pub was full and everyone was staring at us . We couldn’t get away quick enough .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually drink pints but in this case I was glad I only ordered half a cider as soon as he offered me a drink

couldn't wait to leave that bar, he wanted to escort me home.. No, thanks!

May I ask why? "

He used someone else's picture in his profile.. Apologised as soon as he came to the table. Tried to give his reasons for lying. Has a child he does not have in care. Using social media to escape, pretending to be someone he is not. Said he would never agree to meet anyone for the obvious reasons but he felt I was special so wanted to meet me in person and explain it all. Well I said good bye and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't awful as in bad, but I met someone once who had an eye that kept going off for a walk on its own

I put so much effort into concentrating on the good eye, but you know that once you see something you can't unsee it, well that

(The meet wasn't off here btw)"

And that's why I now wear an eye patch.

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

"It wasn't awful as in bad, but I met someone once who had an eye that kept going off for a walk on its own

I put so much effort into concentrating on the good eye, but you know that once you see something you can't unsee it, well that

(The meet wasn't off here btw)

And that's why I now wear an eye patch.

Sometimes looking at pics on here I wish I was wearing two!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Mine was off a dating site - he looked 10 years older and 2 stone heavier and when he stood up to greet me he revealed the stains down the front of his yellow jumper......I froze like a frightened rabbit in horror for a full 15 mns drinking my cappuccino and making polite conversation 'til I could bear it no longer and fled!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse meet i had was a coffee social and he was late as he went to the wrong cafe, he came in and his photos looked better then him lol. He sat down and within 30 seconds checked his phone and said his friend needed him. I was shocked and disgusted by his behaviour but relieved at the same time. Knocked me back quite abit and that is still with me at meets now. Lucky it was a one off. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't awful as in bad, but I met someone once who had an eye that kept going off for a walk on its own

I put so much effort into concentrating on the good eye, but you know that once you see something you can't unsee it, well that

(The meet wasn't off here btw)

And that's why I now wear an eye patch.

Sometimes looking at pics on here I wish I was wearing two!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Buffalo Bill.

The guy I met at a pub, turned up on a filthy transit (can t help that I understand.... but it adds to the whole experience!)

He spoke broken English, yet when messaging he spoke perfect English (must have been using a translator)

I found him pushy from the word go, rather than general chit chat he was straight into telling me how all the women on fab were bitches and sluts

Commence "operation leg it"

Sounds like a lucky escape! "

Or a missed opportunity? What girl doesn’t fantasise of being cuffed in a grubby Transit van by a guy who thinks women are sluts and bitches and appears bitter?

On second thoughts - leg it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't awful as in bad, but I met someone once who had an eye that kept going off for a walk on its own

I put so much effort into concentrating on the good eye, but you know that once you see something you can't unsee it, well that

(The meet wasn't off here btw)

And that's why I now wear an eye patch.

Sometimes looking at pics on here I wish I was wearing two!

Sorry.

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

"It wasn't awful as in bad, but I met someone once who had an eye that kept going off for a walk on its own

I put so much effort into concentrating on the good eye, but you know that once you see something you can't unsee it, well that

(The meet wasn't off here btw)

And that's why I now wear an eye patch.

Sometimes looking at pics on here I wish I was wearing two!

Sorry.

It's the socks....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky in that all but one social meet has gone well, the bad one still gives me shivers...

Met someone I'd chatted to for a few days, we'd arranged for a social drink in town.

He was very pushy from the start & seemed surprised that I didn't want to down my drink & go back to his. I was getting a bad vibe from him so made my excuses to leave, he followed me to my bus stop even though we had to walk past his car (I declined a lift), bus came & I said goodbye but he got onto the bus with me, sat next to me saying he wanted to make sure I got home ok & maybe he could pop in for a nightcap.

By this point I was terrified of him so thought I'd make out that would be ok. I got off one stop earlier than my stop & knocked on my friends front door making out I'd forgotten my keys & they had a spare set, luckily my friends husband opened the door (he's a big bloke) & he had a bit of a non polite chat with my 'date'.

I had a message when I got home asking to see me again & if I'd leave him a verification...I messaged telling him how scared I'd felt & blocked him instead.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I've been lucky in that all but one social meet has gone well, the bad one still gives me shivers...

Met someone I'd chatted to for a few days, we'd arranged for a social drink in town.

I had a message when I got home asking to see me again & if I'd leave him a verification...I messaged telling him how scared I'd felt & blocked him instead."

That's awful and completely unjustified or inexcusable behaviour. You seemed to have kept your cool and didn't panic, instead thinking of a solution.

Unfortunately, even if you've had several wonderful meets prior, a bad one like that may force you put put everything in a different perspective, perhaps even question if meeting is worth the risk!

I've spoken to some people who for that reason, only meet in clubs as it adds an extra layer of security. Unfortunately, no club meet can compare to a one on one meet outside when its really good.

Hugs xx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

On a dating site it was a guy who was using his mates pictures. Fortunately we met for coffee in Macdonalds as he was clearly pretty unbalanced and practically chased me to my car when I left after listening to half an hour of bullshit about how honest he was really! Had to lock the car doors so he couldn’t get in!

On fab it was a chap earlier this year! Looked ok on his pics but when we met and he opened his mouth he had about 8 teeth missing and those he had left were really crooked! He was wearing a huge baggy tracksuit thing with trousers like harem pants and he informed me that he wasn’t long out of prison after an 18month sentence for cultivating cannabis! Pleasant chap in some ways when we chatted - but most certainly not for me!

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

My wifd had one with another FB. Met another couple who they had arranged a social and possibly play but they were apparently dressed in joggers, overweight and nothing like their pics so she texted me asking me to call her to say there was a problem at home so they could make their excuses and leave.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Two spring to mind.

A date with a couple where she was lovely but he was one of those loud. "life and soul of the party" types who thinks that making continuous offensive remarks is just witty banter. Katie didn't fancy him, but even if she did and his partner was the hottest woman in the world I would have turned her down if it meant spending any time in his company.

Second one was a group social and the second person to turn up was one of Katie's juniors from work! Cue a quick exist and change of profile name.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"On a dating site it was a guy who was using his mates pictures. Fortunately we met for coffee in Macdonalds as he was clearly pretty unbalanced and practically chased me to my car when I left after listening to half an hour of bullshit about how honest he was really! Had to lock the car doors so he couldn’t get in!

Why on earth would you tell someone you are hoping to have sex with you've just come out of prison?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Why are all my past meets posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been lucky in that all but one social meet has gone well, the bad one still gives me shivers...

Met someone I'd chatted to for a few days, we'd arranged for a social drink in town.

I had a message when I got home asking to see me again & if I'd leave him a verification...I messaged telling him how scared I'd felt & blocked him instead."

Thank you for telling your story- that's actually a really good tip for how to escape if anyone ever has a similar meet in the future.

Or go in a pub or shop and discreetly tell the staff you need to escape. Hopefully they would help too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are all my past meets posting

I once met this really nice bloke in a pub beer garden. We had a nice time until the local weirdos turned up and had some strange women gang fight in the car park.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Why on earth would you tell someone you are hoping to have sex with you've just come out of prison? "

God only knows! To be fair, though, by then I’d already told him that I was happy to sit down and have a drink with him but he wasn’t my type sexually - so he probably thought he’d have nothing to lose in being honest! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading these, makes our worst social seem good haha!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Why are all my past meets posting

I once met this really nice bloke in a pub beer garden. We had a nice time until the local weirdos turned up and had some strange women gang fight in the car park.

Fuckinel I'd forgotten about that. A d right next to my car if I remember right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I thought I was supposed to be meeting a couple at their house for a cup of coffee and natter, see how we all got on. I turned up, it was a single man, no woman in site and his house smelled like kippers. No drink offered, I messaged another fab friend and asked him to call me and say my daughter was poorly and say I had to go. I was making tracks to leave and he said he sensed he wasn't going to see me again and asked if he "could put 'it' in" while I was waiting for my taxi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are all my past meets posting

I once met this really nice bloke in a pub beer garden. We had a nice time until the local weirdos turned up and had some strange women gang fight in the car park.

Fuckinel I'd forgotten about that. A d right next to my car if I remember right

So much for me being a memorable meet!!

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

My then regular chap and I met a couple. Their pictures and their chat was very enticing and we were excited to embark on a potential 4 way. Our interests matched and everything was going swimmingly in the group chat. Then we met up in a local club. They were obviously fans of the harder substances and couldn’t stay still. He was just like an excited puppy and kept darting about to see what he could perve on. We knew it was time to leave when she told us about the time she had double anal and poohed all over the bed

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Why are all my past meets posting

So we met this guy in a pub car park and as he arrived doing a wheelie on his motorbike , my wife’s sister almost wet her pants . Well needless to say I beat a hasty retreat and left my wife and her sister to meet this lunatic on their own ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rea being told 'Urgh, you're not what I expected you're far too old' at 51 we might add.

Another time an older chap kept trying to feel Re up in a crowded pub, wouldn't take 'No' for an answer.

Both being told we were unattractive,well 'gross' actually which we probably might be to sime on here but there are more tactful ways to express such sentiments.

Extreme in the main we believe but as Nick Cave might say "Un- good"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a woman once....and her daughter and the biggest German Sheppard I’ve ever seen.

Greeted at the door, walked in and bang a child in the room “don’t go near the dog he doesn’t like strangers”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been lucky in that all but one social meet has gone well, the bad one still gives me shivers...

Met someone I'd chatted to for a few days, we'd arranged for a social drink in town.

I had a message when I got home asking to see me again & if I'd leave him a verification...I messaged telling him how scared I'd felt & blocked him instead."
Jesus Christ

Run run..he was a feicing nutter!Haha I say your neighbour's hubby put the fright in him

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I've had a few bad socials. The worst is probably a guy I met for coffee. He turned up looking scruffy , not a penny to his name and then got shitty when I offered to buy him a drink

sat down and he started a rant about how all women were bitches

at that point I got up and walked out , he was blocked before I got to the door

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Hmmm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a few off other sites where they didn't look anything like their photos(always older and shorter!)

One off Fab who offered to take me out to lunch. Again was older and about 3 stone heavier than his photos suggested but I thought I would give him a chance. Just started tucking into our tapas wheb he informed me he actually had a partner but they never had sex

I paid my half of the lunch and messaged him saying I don't play with married/attached men. He still occasionally messages me asking to meet again!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Why are all my past meets posting

I once met this really nice bloke in a pub beer garden. We had a nice time until the local weirdos turned up and had some strange women gang fight in the car park.

Fuckinel I'd forgotten about that. A d right next to my car if I remember right

So much for me being a memorable meet!!

Blocking me really didn't help

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Why are all my past meets posting

Oi this 1s on the wrong list it was fantastic untill your wife's sister insisted on riding the bike rather than me. The bietch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once agreed to go round for a coffee with a guy i had been chatting with on and off for a few weeks.

As i got to the area i could see someone standing at a side door of a pub.

I parked up walked down the road and sure enough the number above the side door was the place. He said "hi, do come in" and thats when i really should have left.

He had track bottoms on that were way to large even though he was heavily overweight and a white vest ... well it was not white, he must have had it on for well over a couple of months with every concievable food and drink stain on it. he had not shaved for a good couple of weeks and as i squezzed past up the narrow winding carpet less stairs (it was a flat over the pub) it smelt like he had not bathed/showered for a couple of weeks either.

Entering the lounge i was met by four walls of shelving that wer full of books ... that is there were books in the places that the cats were not reclining in. All those feline eyes suddenly watching you was a bit unnerving as was the dozne or so that then started rubbing round my legs and trying to sit on my lap and peering over my shoulders from the back of the sofa.

The smell in the room was overwhelmingly feline.

Thye guy himself was actually quite well mannered but then proceeded to tell me he was married and that the wife was out so he would try his luck.

I said i needed to use the bathroom.

I walked through the door only just stopping myself from stumbling over a cat litter tray and going headlong into other ones that had not been emtied in quite sometime.

I was heartily glad that i did not need to sit to pee as the toilet had not ever seen a loo brush or cleaner.

Exited the loo, said i had recieved an urgent text from my sister and had to go and pick her up.

I was down the stairs and gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are all my past meets posting

I once met this really nice bloke in a pub beer garden. We had a nice time until the local weirdos turned up and had some strange women gang fight in the car park.

Fuckinel I'd forgotten about that. A d right next to my car if I remember right

So much for me being a memorable meet!!

Blocking me really didn't help

I had to check to see if you'd blocked me!

I'm your last veri so I can't be too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This one happened very recently.....

Got a email at about 2am , from a blank profile...

Sent my number and we FaceTimed...

All going well , I was to be their first 3 some experience.

We planned to meet at a bar close to their house for a quick drink and if all goes well back to their place....

When I jumped into the Uber , they decided to skip the bar and have me come straight to their place....

When I arrived I was greeted at the door by a beautiful woman and 6 large mongrel dogs...

Mind you this was a very small studio apartment in NYC...

I asked to use the bathroom and when I looked at the bowl... it was black... not brown or yellow but soot black....

It was so dirty I didn’t feel comfortable exposing the cock to the germs....

I went back into the room and told them I can’t do this... I have a pregnant wife at home....

We chatted while I waited for my Uber to arrive...

On my way home.... they had the cheek to message me asking for a verification.,..

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

" I dint think I've had one, but I dud once meet someone, who suggested a nearby pub to meet.

We got there and it was quiz night which made it impossible to talk so we entered

Funny in both our books."

That happens on one of our social meets, we entered and won the bloody thing. Had to leave the pub all together acting like we had known one another for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not very good at socials, I have a terrible habit of not keeping it just social

So I’m thinking any social I’ve had where it’s been just a social...is probably the worse...means I didn’t fancy them

MrsK x"

Mrs K .... we are due a social soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a bad socialhad agood laugh each time

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By *opping_candy OP Woman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Wow, some real horror stories here

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I had a meet and it was ok. Few drinks and he would escort me to the bar every time it was my round and at first I thought it was to help me carry them which was kind but each time I needed the loo he'd escort me and stand outside.

Made my excuses and left but I realised he was following me round Newcastle city centre, in and out of shops on my random route.

I live in the city centre and didn't want the clinger to see snd I didn't want a public confrontation to tell him to buggee off so I got on the metro across the river and back just to ditch him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet and it was ok. Few drinks and he would escort me to the bar every time it was my round and at first I thought it was to help me carry them which was kind but each time I needed the loo he'd escort me and stand outside.

Made my excuses and left but I realised he was following me round Newcastle city centre, in and out of shops on my random route.

I live in the city centre and didn't want the clinger to see snd I didn't want a public confrontation to tell him to buggee off so I got on the metro across the river and back just to ditch him."

This sounds like a plot from a spy movie

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Thankfully as a woman on my own it was easier to hop on the train for 1 stop than to confront or be followed home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had some dodgy meets with major embarrassments to say the least lol but had some great meets aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago when I was new to the scene met a couple at a pub for a social before going on to a possible meet at theirs. I wasn't quite sure about them beforehand but she had tempted me by dropping into conversation that she was a screamer (shallow of me I know).

Turned up and she was not the looker she was in her picture and he looked like he was dead like something out the crypt (a lot older than her and looked ill). Thoughts had already turned to escape when he casually dropped into conversation that he had cum in her twice already and was looking forward to me going down on her first and 'licking it all out'. Time to leave!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Thankfully it was just a group social and arrived slightly after it started, it was just awkward and uncomfortable , the location felt cramped, to many men. Really has put me off going on any group socials.

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham

A guy I met was running late and didn’t inform me, he then complained about the pub I’d picked (too noisy) and to top it off he’d brought his own bottle, by bottle I mean water! Cheapskate! I cut it short and said “I’m a busy woman and have things to do!” He looked shocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a bad social thankfully. Shocked by some of the horror stories in here

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By *nsatiable Needy BratWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

My wasn't off here but a dating site. He arrived wearing navy

tracksuit bottoms, brown leather shoes, and a green sweater. He had the worst teeth I have ever seen. He let himself into my home as I was upstairs applying my lipstick (I was only young and stupid enough to arrange to meet someone at home once) he drank about eight beers in fifteen minutes. He spoke about how shit he was in bed and that he came really quickly but th at he could go again after a little break. I was so uncomfortable the while time but too polite (did I mention I was stupid) to just tell him to leave so I said I wasn't ready to date as having him here had made me realise I was still in love with my ex and that I was sorry to waste his time but that it just wasn't going to work out. He then said he had arrived on his much bile and that after drinking so much he couldn't ride all the way home. I suggested he got a taxi and he said he had no money so I paid for his taxi to get him out of the house despite his insistence that it would be better for us both if he simply stayed the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic. "

That reminds us of a social we had. The guy spent the whole evening telling us about how at work he did as little as possible and that if challenged by a manager he just threatened them with the union, his wife hardly said a word all night.

We didn't need any code words or signals to tell us that we didn't want to take this further.

At the end of the night we said our goodbyes but then their taxi didn't turned up so we offered to give them a lift. Pulled up outside their house and the husband leads forward from the back seat rubbing his hands together and says "So how about it then, you coming in for fun".

Mrs looked at him and just said "NO, now get out" She blocked them before I had gone more than 10m down the road.

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over a year ago

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic.

We didn't need any code words or signals to tell us that we didn't want to take this further.

Mrs looked at him and just said "NO, now get out" She blocked them before I had gone more than 10m down the road."

Oh that sounds awful too. Women shouldn't be agreeing to meets if they aren't wanting to swing.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

That moment when you think omg I just dont fancy you. When you think what the hell have I let myself in for.

That moment when you question why you would have changed your mind. That moment when you question yourself about what did happen as you just can't remember....that moment you realise something wasn't quite right...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A guy I met was running late and didn’t inform me, he then complained about the pub I’d picked (too noisy) and to top it off he’d brought his own bottle, by bottle I mean water! Cheapskate! I cut it short and said “I’m a busy woman and have things to do!” He looked shocked.

I suspect he didn’t offer to buy you a drink?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic. "

Shame, sounds like she was being bullied.

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over a year ago

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic. "

Because these husbands pester them non stop until they finally agree to swing... just to shut him up...

There are a few warning signs I have learned over the years to spot these couples....

They usually make unrealistic demands on single guys for a meet....

Like must be a great masseuse....

Why would I need to massage your wife before sex?

Must look like this celebrity....

If I looked like Tom Hardy , why would I be jumping through hoops to fuck your wife....

When I read things like this on a profile, I know the wife has made it so difficult for the husband to find the right guy. That she is hoping he gives up...

I hope that helps...

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Buffalo Bill.

The guy I met at a pub, turned up on a filthy transit (can t help that I understand.... but it adds to the whole experience!)

He spoke broken English, yet when messaging he spoke perfect English (must have been using a translator)

I found him pushy from the word go, rather than general chit chat he was straight into telling me how all the women on fab were bitches and sluts

Commence "operation leg it""
No quickie in the back of the van on the mattress then? Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was late night and a message popped up. “Do you fancy a threesome with my wife and I?”

Well the photos were of two nice people, fairly smart in appearance. He said they had just come back from a pub and very horny.

About 30 mins later I arrived at their place, he opened the door and was certainly in a jolly mood. As I went into their place I saw another guy sitting there getting his cock sucked by the lady.

It wasn’t the same lady, all were doing Charles, and I think the session was being recorded. Oh and the place was a shithole. I just left.

I love sex but I won’t compromise myself. I instantly lost trust for these people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been chatting to a couple for a while and they invited me over for a 3sum on a Saturday afternoon. I took a bottle of wine with me, had great communication on the way and they lived on this lovely estate.

When I arrived she was upstairs getting ready but there already was another male invitee in the House. Then another came and another.

If they wanted a gangbAng they should have said...then the bull came, a regular friend, who fucked her first. I just left and walked out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a woman for A Saturday afternoon drink, she looked exactly as her photos but she was loony. Can you imagine being in a pub with the lady jumping up and down on the chair, shouting “let’s have sex”

Sounds like a dream, right?

Sodding nightmare.

When I told her I was going she could not understand why lol

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over a year ago

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic.

Because these husbands pester them non stop until they finally agree to swing... just to shut him up...

There are a few warning signs I have learned over the years to spot these couples....

They usually make unrealistic demands on single guys for a meet....

Like must be a great masseuse....

Why would I need to massage your wife before sex?

Must look like this celebrity....

If I looked like Tom Hardy , why would I be jumping through hoops to fuck your wife....

When I read things like this on a profile, I know the wife has made it so difficult for the husband to find the right guy. That she is hoping he gives up...

I hope that helps..."

There are many more obvious signs too. I can spot them a mile off these days.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

1) We meet a couple for a social. Looked around where we thought they said they were, couldn’t see them anywhere, looked down and recognised our drinks. We were standing next to them all the time lol (why do people send photos that do not resemble anything of what they look like.)

2) Turned up another social and the couple didn’t talk! Hard work

3) another social a little awkward as he hadn’t told his date, (who was expecting a romantic evening, as they hadn’t seen each other for two weeks,) that they were meeting another couple till they were on the way!

But we do love a social and keep trying...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Early days on Fab met someone for a drink. He was at least 10 years older than his profile age, and had clearly used old photos. He spent the next hour loudly bitching about his workmates and a job I had no interest in hearing about. We met in a bar that was clearly his local and knew just about everyone. I was repeatedly and proudly introduced to people as his 'date' and had to politely grit my teeth and endure the humiliation of people thinking I might actually be into this arrogant asshole... I made my excuses to leave as soon as I could and he was genuinely astonished that I didn't want to take things further. He then started to hurriedly tell me about his past meets and how fantastic he was in an attempt to make me see what I would be missing... I could not get away fast enough

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over a year ago

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic. "

Agree but not about it being pathetic. Just sad.

They may fear their husband/ partner. It's a form of abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever been to two (Reading social) and I've had a good time. Can't really say more about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve ever had a bad social

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic.

Agree but not about it being pathetic. Just sad.

They may fear their husband/ partner. It's a form of abuse.

I've come across this too. I've known the female halves of couples to be some of the brightest, loudest and most vocal proponents of swinging in chatrooms, etc., and come across as the life and soul of the party... And privately confess to only doing it to keep a partner happy and to having cried bitter tears after 'taking one for the team' with someone they didn't actually like. Its incredibly sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once met a guy for a social and maybe more,we met in a coffee shop,had a nice chat and coffee n biccies,he was quite a nice guy,reasonably attractive,funny and interesting (seemed to think the same about me too),we moved on from the coffee shop to a local pub,had more interesting chat and a couple of drinks,everything seemed to be going well until we moved into the outdoor smoking area (for him,not for me).

The pub allowed people to take their dogs in,one of the dogs had left a rather large 'offering' in the garden,which my date stepped in. Somehow it just seemed to get everywhere,all over both his shoes,on both legs of his jeans,,,,somehow I remember it being on his hands,in his hair,on his face,,,but that may be slightly exaggerated.

So,totally not his fault but we couldn't just ignore it and carry on,the poor guy was mortified and I just couldn't have gone anywhere near him.

He fled through the back gate and I never heard from him again.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I once met a guy for a social and maybe more,we met in a coffee shop,had a nice chat and coffee n biccies,he was quite a nice guy,reasonably attractive,funny and interesting (seemed to think the same about me too),we moved on from the coffee shop to a local pub,had more interesting chat and a couple of drinks,everything seemed to be going well until we moved into the outdoor smoking area (for him,not for me).

So,totally not his fault but we couldn't just ignore it and carry on,the poor guy was mortified and I just couldn't have gone anywhere near him.

He fled through the back gate and I never heard from him again.

Oh god... Tears of laughter here... Sorry... I know it can't have been a pleasant experience, but too too funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a social of fab but would love to. Was supposed to have one a couple of weeks ago. We exchanged photos and then she blocked me. Oh well. Anyway I used to be really shy but am a lot better now. X

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

While nothing on the scale of the above, I did have the moment of walking straight past the woman I was supposed to be meeting, not realising it was her.

It wasn't that her pic was old or not of her, it was just the most flattering photo of her that it was possible to bring into existence.

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over a year ago

"I met a couple and the man did all the talking and the woman just sat there like a timid little mouse looking miserable as sin and saying nothing.

Why on earth do women agree to do this swinging when it's not what they really want, it's pathetic.

Because these husbands pester them non stop until they finally agree to swing... just to shut him up...

There are a few warning signs I have learned over the years to spot these couples....

They usually make unrealistic demands on single guys for a meet....

Like must be a great masseuse....

Why would I need to massage your wife before sex?

Must look like this celebrity....

If I looked like Tom Hardy , why would I be jumping through hoops to fuck your wife....

When I read things like this on a profile, I know the wife has made it so difficult for the husband to find the right guy. That she is hoping he gives up...

I hope that helps...

There are many more obvious signs too. I can spot them a mile off these days."

Please share.... I like to learn new things

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Alas was a group social from here. I turned up a bit late, said my hellos but the women wouldn't talk to me. Tried to be nice and join in but got stared down by one who'd appropriated matriarch status within the group.

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

"Alas was a group social from here. I turned up a bit late, said my hellos but the women wouldn't talk to me. Tried to be nice and join in but got stared down by one who'd appropriated matriarch status within the group.

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

I for one would love to meet you. I’m sorry you had that experience though.

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over a year ago

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

I for one would love to meet you. I’m sorry you had that experience though. "

Wtf?! I would also love to meet you! MrsMac can I tag along lol x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

I for one would love to meet you. I’m sorry you had that experience though.

Wtf?! I would also love to meet you! MrsMac can I tag along lol x"

Now it’s a party!

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over a year ago

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

I for one would love to meet you. I’m sorry you had that experience though.

Wtf?! I would also love to meet you! MrsMac can I tag along lol x

Now it’s a party! "

I'll come armed with my collection of emoji keyrings and snap bands, let's party like it's 1999

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

I for one would love to meet you. I’m sorry you had that experience though.

Wtf?! I would also love to meet you! MrsMac can I tag along lol x

Now it’s a party!

I'll come armed with my collection of emoji keyrings and snap bands, let's party like it's 1999

Haha

Alimark will be proud!

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over a year ago

Blocked the daft bitch soon as I was out of there, never to return

I for one would love to meet you. I’m sorry you had that experience though.

Wtf?! I would also love to meet you! MrsMac can I tag along lol x

Now it’s a party!

I'll come armed with my collection of emoji keyrings and snap bands, let's party like it's 1999

Haha

Alimark will be proud!"

Alimark can come too! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He was very pushy from the start & seemed surprised that I didn't want to down my drink & go back to his. I was getting a bad vibe from him so made my excuses to leave, he followed me to my bus stop even though we had to walk past his car (I declined a lift), bus came & I said goodbye but he got onto the bus with me, sat next to me saying he wanted to make sure I got home ok & maybe he could pop in for a nightcap.

How terrifying. If I can add one serious note here, many pubs embrace the 'Ask Angela' campaign. Go to the bar, ask 'Is Angela working tonight' - the staff know you are saying you are in trouble and will help you.

Worth knowing the 'safe' places in your area.

Saves having to leave the place with a loony in tow.

Mrs

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