FabSwingers.com forum: How much can personality transcend looks ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve fallen for some women that could be described as average looking, but they’re personality has had me hook, line and sinker. While at the same time also had very attractive women interested, but I wasn’t interested purely down to there personality, they just had no edge.

Just wondering how far can personality take someone who is not blessed in the looks department.

Could someone who you’re not inniatially attracted to, win you over by force of personality alone, it’s happened to me before ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes! its happened to me too

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By *actilemale4uMan
over a year ago

London

100% personality over looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all."

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences me."

So its all about the cock pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it’s happened to me. Sometimes just everything else about that person makes you like them because of their personality and draws you in x

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

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"I’ve fallen for some women that could be described as average looking, but they’re personality has had me hook, line and sinker. While at the same time also had very attractive women interested, but I wasn’t interested purely down to there personality, they just had no edge.

Just wondering how far can personality take someone who is not blessed in the looks department.

Could someone who you’re not inniatially attracted to, win you over by force of personality alone, it’s happened to me before ?! "

Absolutely. For the most part it’s personality that does it for me, even with NSA I want my mind stimulated before anything else.

(On the few occasions I’ve gone purely for looks it’s been a very mediocre experience)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely. Happened to me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely. Happened to me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?"

Of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d take personality over looks, but I’ve high standards for personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences me.

So its all about the cock pic?

I can't lie, a cock pic in my inbox will rarely influence me. Most turn me off to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

Of course!"

She’s not asking for a friend neither...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

Of course!"

Someone you weren't that impressed with facially at first?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?"

I do. You chat to people in real life and I think if I saw them on tinder, I wouldn’t ‘like’ them. But there personality pulls you in and you end up fancying them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences me.

So its all about the cock pic?

I can't lie, a cock pic in my inbox will rarely influence me. Most turn me off to be honest. "

I pride myself on not putting my cock in an inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d take personality over looks, but I’ve high standards for personality.

I've liked a personality very much, but not felt any lust for them. Body language, mannerisms and facial expressions do a lot for me; especially the gait or stance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

Of course!

Someone you weren't that impressed with facially at first?"

Hmmm... Thinking through my dating history - probably not. There has always been that spark of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends make fun of me because I tend to fancy men that they describe as ‘average’ but they have such amazing personalities that makes them genuinely sexy to me. I could find someone visually very very attractive but if I don’t like their personality or it doesn’t appeal to me or we clash, I doubt I could fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences me.

So its all about the cock pic?

I can't lie, a cock pic in my inbox will rarely influence me. Most turn me off to be honest.

I pride myself on not putting my cock in an inbox. "

Yours is there so I can go looking if I so desire. I like it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely.

On paper my ex was not at all my type but personality wise we clicked and he made me feel all the things a partner should and from that he seemed much more attractive to me physically.

Since joining fab I've found that first impressions based on physical attraction is sometimes a hindrance because I really want them to match my personality but they often don't or they just don't fit what I want or need, it's hard to get to know someone and their personality when your initial reaction is to reject because you don't like their pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

I do. You chat to people in real life and I think if I saw them on tinder, I wouldn’t ‘like’ them. But there personality pulls you in and you end up fancying them."

I’ve even met people and thought nah not for me and carried on chatting as friends and then changed my mind over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

Of course!

Someone you weren't that impressed with facially at first?

Hmmm... Thinking through my dating history - probably not. There has always been that spark of attraction."

It's an instant feeling with me, even on here.

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By *onzacappaMan
over a year ago

Formby

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode "

And what is dickpression? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all.

Do you never find someone more attractive as you talk to them in person?

I do. You chat to people in real life and I think if I saw them on tinder, I wouldn’t ‘like’ them. But there personality pulls you in and you end up fancying them."

I've spoken to someone, whose face I've seen and didn't feel any attraction, and felt some lusting in my loins.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences me.

So its all about the cock pic?

I can't lie, a cock pic in my inbox will rarely influence me. Most turn me off to be honest.

I pride myself on not putting my cock in an inbox.

Yours is there so I can go looking if I so desire. I like it that way. "

That’s my thinking.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yeah definitely. When settling down I always say the person is going to lose their looks in 10 20 years so they better have a shit hot personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it could work the other way round as well? You see someone who is absolutely gorgeous but then realise they have no personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

And what is dickpression? Haha"

Green arrow me, there’s a whole thread on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I suppose it could work the other way round as well? You see someone who is absolutely gorgeous but then realise they have no personality. "

I’ve met some gorgeous people in my time who have less personality than my vibrator

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences people."

And that's why I don't get/ expect anything from this site. Im doing pretty well away from here anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences people.

And that's why I don't get/ expect anything from this site. Im doing pretty well away from here anyway."

I've seen a photo of a man and felt nothing , then seen a different one and thought, oh yes!

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By *onzacappaMan
over a year ago

Formby

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

And what is dickpression? Haha

Green arrow me, there’s a whole thread on it "

Green arrow me and dickpression are 2 new things I’ve learned tonight so thanks for that! I’m guessing you’re not short of offers but it’s defo an uphill struggle on here.. I’ve had one offer tonight and that’s to let a guy suck my feet 3 times a week for a set monthly wage. Which he had already worked out.. does it get anymore weird?

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences people.

And that's why I don't get/ expect anything from this site. Im doing pretty well away from here anyway.

I've seen a photo of a man and felt nothing , then seen a different one and thought, oh yes!

Like I said, I expect nothing from this site and if someone dosnt like my photos on here, no problem as those people aren't important as they would never come into my world anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences people.

And that's why I don't get/ expect anything from this site. Im doing pretty well away from here anyway.

I've seen a photo of a man and felt nothing , then seen a different one and thought, oh yes!

Like I said, I expect nothing from this site and if someone dosnt like my photos on here, no problem as those people aren't important as they would never come into my world anyway. "

And that's the best way to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

And what is dickpression? Haha

Green arrow me, there’s a whole thread on it

Oh yes believe me it gets a lot weirder than that

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Yes. Unfortunately, on here, it's first impressions that influences people.

And that's why I don't get/ expect anything from this site. Im doing pretty well away from here anyway.

I've seen a photo of a man and felt nothing , then seen a different one and thought, oh yes!

Like I said, I expect nothing from this site and if someone dosnt like my photos on here, no problem as those people aren't important as they would never come into my world anyway.

And that's the best way to be."

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By *onzacappaMan
over a year ago

Formby

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

And what is dickpression? Haha

Green arrow me, there’s a whole thread on it

Oh yes believe me it gets a lot weirder than that

I can imagine.. I’d imagine females get it a lot worse! Point me in the direction of the normal people because I’m out of ideas right now hahah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

And what is dickpression? Haha

Green arrow me, there’s a whole thread on it

Oh yes believe me it gets a lot weirder than that

I can imagine.. I’d imagine females get it a lot worse! Point me in the direction of the normal people because I’m out of ideas right now hahah x"

If I find any I’ll let you know

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Date within 2 points of your own score out of 10.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world possibly, on fab, looks first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rely on my winging smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a lady through another site. We talked for ages all I saw was a face pic. We swapped numbers and talked for hours. She never once told me she was wheelchair bound. Our song was savage garden I knew I loved you before we met. Five months in I travelled to Oxford to meet. She was in her chair, I loved the person. Still do but no longer together.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I'm a visual creature. But... I want it all."
Ditto

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Absolutely

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Only for relationships, and even then i've got to find them attractive physically in some way.

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By *onguentasticMan
over a year ago

Ballymoney

I personally think that personality is far more attractive than looks

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes, it's possible but I think that there are still limits for me, based on my assumptions, rather than actual experience

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

Personality every time ...sexiness is a mind

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Totally, happened to me several times despite a history of relationships with amazing looking men. That's why I always bang on about people's worth NOT being in their physical appeal at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wondering how far can personality take someone who is not blessed in the looks department.

Could someone who you’re not inniatially attracted to, win you over by force of personality alone, it’s happened to me before ?! "

Me too, I wouldn't do it again though, I genuinely think I'm too shallow.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's never happened to me. I think for me it would be possible but unlikely for a long term relationship but not for casual sex.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I was watching Celebrity First Date earlier and thought that the Gogglebox woman had managed to find a guy who found her attractive because of her personality - sadly he didn't have enough of a connection, though they discussed her 17 stone weight. She came across really well, I thought it would go on to another date but they parted.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I was being bitchy about my partners ex fuck buddy, he thinks i'm jealous of her so i said she isn't good looking anyway so not a threat and he said he liked her for her personality, lol. So basically admitted he thought she was ugly.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"It’s happened to me more than once and probably will again in the future when I finish my dickpression episode

And what is dickpression? Haha

Green arrow me, there’s a whole thread on it

Depends if you've had the "Do you shit with your pants round your knees or your ankles?" guy yet...

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I once fell deeply in love with someone (not on here) that when I first met them I didn’t lust after. It was through getting to know her that she then became beautiful. I got turned on every time I was with her. I have never wanted someone so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have often been told that I am the most beautiful person because of my personality, caring nature and empathy, so this thread has made me smile

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Yes it definitely works that way for me. Someone who physically doesn't instantly attract me can get past that with personality, but it never works the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I find someone average in attractiveness their personality can elevate it a great deal, but if I find someone unattractive no amount of personality will swing it over.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

Like books you can never be sure until you open it and read it, some have great covers, and absolutely no content, others have average covers but what's inside keeps your interest and draws you in deeper and deeper, and even diamonds that are flawed are seen as more valuable than those that are not, and as so often stated in profile's, the biggest sex organ is the brain, stimulate that and the body follows suit.

I have never been judgemental not on here or in the real world, it's all too easy to miss something that could be very special and fundamentally rewarding mutually.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

They may look nice but they arent nice as a person or you havnt got anything in common, or you may meet someone only you just notice the bits of them you find attractive not the bits you dont find so attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have a great personality I may think you are a wonderful person but if I don't find you physically attractive, we won't be getting jiggy. I would expect the same..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you have a great personality I may think you are a wonderful person but if I don't find you physically attractive, we won't be getting jiggy. I would expect the same.."

I think that about sums it up for me too.

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By *incsmannow4uMan
over a year ago

wrangle

A pic may catch your eye but sexy is a state of mind not a measurement

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By *uckoldDesiresMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think this happens a lot.

More so with people you are exposed to for prolonged periods such as work colleagues etc.

Obviously on fab the window of opportunity is much shorter and unlikely to reverse an initial opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'd like to think so especially since I'm not blessed in the looks department.... But I'm sometimes witty, barely intelligent... Sharp for sure... So somewhere .. someone must want to talk to me... It I'll carry in talking to my vegetables.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Just wondering how far can personality take someone who is not blessed in the looks department.

Could someone who you’re not inniatially attracted to, win you over by force of personality alone, it’s happened to me before ?! "

Absolutely! I’m the perfect case in point! I do ridiculously well on here for a pretty average old fart! X

When it comes to meeting people guys tend to be either enthralled or turned off as I have a very confident, straightforward, gregarious personality - hence those liking a the quiet mysterious type would find nothing to like in me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have a great personality I may think you are a wonderful person but if I don't find you physically attractive, we won't be getting jiggy. I would expect the same.."

pretty much this really, there’s a lot of people I really like as friends and we get on really well, but I don’t want to get nekkid with them (and I’m sure the feeling is mutual!)

But spare a thought for us that have neither looks nor personality! We’re fucked aren’t we!? (Metaphorically obviously!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have a great personality I may think you are a wonderful person but if I don't find you physically attractive, we won't be getting jiggy. I would expect the same.."

But the point is that someone you might not have found physically attractive at first can grow on you if you like their personality and spend a lot of time with them. I’ve ended up with pretty big crushes on people I wouldn’t normally go for this way

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Looks attract me.. their words keep my interest.

In the digital realm chances are if I'm not attracted to you I'll not really find out about your personality.

In the real world .. chances are I'd be friend zoning that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eventually looks fade

That inner person can be timeless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to click and get on with some one. So personality for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you have a great personality I may think you are a wonderful person but if I don't find you physically attractive, we won't be getting jiggy. I would expect the same..

Personality has never changed my mind about physical attraction. I suppose we're all different in that respect.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

we are all unique that is why we are individuals, it's that uniqueness that is attractive to most of us, as stated like photos fade so do people, yet we still find them attractive, they grow on us, I have a lady friend who when we first met I thought oh wow, she'll never go for me, but to my surprise she did and when asked why, her answer was simple, "you underestimate the power of your personality" " you might not be picture perfect but what you lack in looks you make up for in other respects and for me that's far more important than the shallowness of looks" we have been mutual partners for a good few years now, and yes we are both on here as singles as we both like to enjoy others on our own

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