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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Nope I never drink on meets.

Wouldn't want to meet someone who had been drinking or was d*unk either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm what.

No go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd run now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

I like a loosener but I'm not a very good d*unk, so no.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?"

She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ew. No.

Sex with someone who can only do it when d*unk is most unattractive. Speaking from personal experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to check and see if the OP is from Sunderland. Sounds like something a mackem lass would say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?

She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."

Their is your answer!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Normal to be wary of people like that ~ Yes!!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Best avoided, that.

I meet sober. I don't judge those who drink more than me, but I prefer everyone to be able to meaningfully consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it’s something I prefer not to do. Although a social ‘loosener’ can work.

I do find though that a lady does need to be absolutely wankered to start even contemplating having sex with me - but then we can’t anyway because the thorny issue of ability to consent arises!

So either way I’m not getting laid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Christ no! Save yourself much aggro and find someone who doesn't feel the need to get pissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your gut feeling and pass!

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Ew. No.

Sex with someone who can only do it when d*unk is most unattractive. Speaking from personal experience! "

For a single bloke, im worried what the consequences would be if she made false allegations under the influence of alcohol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes like to have a drink if I’m meeting someone privately but it would be as part of the social aspect of the meet, not to get tanked up beforehand.

Proceed with caution OP, it would put you in a very vulnerable position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One drink to calm the nerves is great but she wont be in full control of her faculties if shes d*unk. Dont go there. Its too risky for you xx

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have to check and see if the OP is from Sunderland. Sounds like something a mackem lass would say."

Im not from Sunderland lol, but she could be a mackem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't even go there. No one should have to get d*unk on a meet. You're opening a massive can of worms if you play with anyone who is d*unk and can end up with people in prison. Just not worth it.

Anyone who feels they need to be d*unk to meet, should not be meeting. End of.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Don't even go there. No one should have to get d*unk on a meet. You're opening a massive can of worms if you play with anyone who is d*unk and can end up with people in prison. Just not worth it.

Anyone who feels they need to be d*unk to meet, should not be meeting. End of. "

Totally agree.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I’d seriously be questioning why she needs to get d*unk to have sex with me.

Fuck it! I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t be going anywhere near. You’re leaving yourself wide open to some very scary possibilities there.

Lex

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"One drink to calm the nerves is great but she wont be in full control of her faculties if shes d*unk. Dont go there. Its too risky for you xx"

A couple of drinks as a loosener is fine. Having to be d*unk means she has clear issues with sex or alcohol or both.

Try talking to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bad idea to meet up someone who is d*unk.

They can’t consent in that position.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Really? You need to ask??

Steer well clear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d seriously be questioning why she needs to get d*unk to have sex with me.

Fuck it! I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t be going anywhere near. You’re leaving yourself wide open to some very scary possibilities there.

Lex"

Yep, if she decides to claim sexual assault after and the hotel cctv shows her staggering her way to your room, you're on a charge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?

She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."

Man wanking alert.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?

She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."
go with your gut feeling and say no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt meet someone smashed, maybe she means one vodka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd avoid anyone that needs to get d*unk.

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By *illy bob and birdCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

My missus swears on a couple of white wines before,,,she calls them leg openers

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Best thing you could do is block her/him and move on

D*unken sex normally has a consequence

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"My missus swears on a couple of white wines before,,,she calls them leg openers"

You either want to fuck or you don't.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"My missus swears on a couple of white wines before,,,she calls them leg openers"

Naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

1 for dutch courage is acceptable but getting d*unk is not....

Don't go there

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"One drink to calm the nerves is great but she wont be in full control of her faculties if shes d*unk. Dont go there. Its too risky for you xx"

Thank you lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run! Run for the hills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck that !!

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Don't even go there. No one should have to get d*unk on a meet. You're opening a massive can of worms if you play with anyone who is d*unk and can end up with people in prison. Just not worth it.

Anyone who feels they need to be d*unk to meet, should not be meeting. End of. "

I agree with you're comments about prison or anything else. I think i would be opening up a pit full of snakes.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Whoa, as others have said a social drink is fine, but Where's the fun in being d*unk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add a private note and file in the block list.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I wouldnt meet someone smashed, maybe she means one vodka"

I wish she meant one vodka, but she states its her way of getting horny and she is anxious. I never met a woman like that in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normaly have one or 2 wines.... D*unk prob not best.... Id have a good drink and get wasted with people i know only. Regulars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely best not to!

Although I’m guilty of doing exactly that a couple years back when I was less confident.

These days I mostly meet sober, or maximum two glasses of Dutch courage!

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"My missus swears on a couple of white wines before,,,she calls them leg openers

You either want to fuck or you don't.

"

Im not that desperate to fuck a lady who needs vodka to get horny. Im aware some men have no morals or respect, luckily for me i do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Be very careful. I wouldn't meet somebody who had to get d*unk to have a meet.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t mind a social drink or two when meeting but not to get d*unk. I don’t get that nervous

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?

She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."

Trust your gut babes. I've met guys that have ended up being d*unk and it wasn't pleasant. Avoid it I'd say.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I don't mind a pint before together, but not bladdered. I usually drive anyway so wouldn't be getting d*unk on a meet.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I wouldnt meet someone smashed, maybe she means one vodka

I wish she meant one vodka, but she states its her way of getting horny and she is anxious.

I never met a woman like that in my life."

Then don't start now........

I think you already know the answer to your question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my meets are school hours so no. If I have a rare weekend meet will expect the gentleman to bring wine.

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By *ideboy7.5Man
over a year ago

pill

first meets def sober,friends/lovers can get d*unk and fuck not when you dont know each other.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm not going to deny I enjoy a drink.

But getting pissed before meeting someone for the first time? No.

I want to, and need to be in full control of my senses.

Drinking with someone you already know is different.

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I don't mind a pint before together, but not bladdered. I usually drive anyway so wouldn't be getting d*unk on a meet. "

Same for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Just remember to have sex with someone you have to have consent.

If someone is intoxicated then they are not legally fit to give consent.

So ask yourself is it worth the risk? Than ask how much you like porridge.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

Really? You need to ask??

Steer well clear!"

Exactly

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Most of my meets are school hours so no. If I have a rare weekend meet will expect the gentleman to bring wine. "

Bottle of wine, i understand the purpose of that. I have done the same with my private meets. But not vodka.

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

Just remember to have sex with someone you have to have consent.

If someone is intoxicated then they are not legally fit to give consent.

So ask yourself is it worth the risk? Than ask how much you like porridge.

"

This is spot on

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for you're advice and i have decided to opt out and wait. It will feel like im stuck on a small island waiting for a ship to come by lol. On the hand, im not facing 4 walls of prison and i can definitely do without the dramas.

Love and peace to you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't mate!! It'll probably be fun and filthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was meant to say do it

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"That was meant to say do it

"

Hence you missed a capital B for your name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every successful meet we've had has been sober.

I think youve made the right decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely this is a no brainer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely this is a no brainer "

One would think so. I can't fathom how someone would need to ask if this is normal or not.

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By *ickedcplCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

I would avoid how can she remember what happend if she d*unk and you leaving your self wide open

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Surely this is a no brainer

One would think so. I can't fathom how someone would need to ask if this is normal or not."

Because some people have different perceptions as you can see on the forum . But i knew i would because of a gut feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope i never drink on a meet

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

Definitely a no no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consent issues clearly don't matter to some people.

Some ask for 'gifts' so people can fuck them. A bottle of vodka for a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Fk that, sober sex all day every day.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Time for a sharp exit.

Anyone who needs to get pissed for a meet shouldn't be swinging.

FULL STOP.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

Fk that, sober sex all day every day. "

I agree sober sex is the only way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, steer clear.

I met a woman once who told me to bring a bottle of vodka to a meet she ended up a bubbling wasted mess and I had to take her hope. Waste of time!

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By *achelross1978Couple
over a year ago

Blackwood

I like 1 or 2 just to make me feel more relaxed xx

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

I can't think of anything worse than meeting someone for a horny session and finding them stoned or pissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm... nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, steer clear.

I met a woman once who told me to bring a bottle of vodka to a meet she ended up a bubbling wasted mess and I had to take her hope. Waste of time!"

You took her hope? Did you take her pride and dignity too? Poor woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone needs to be d*unk to swing I would say its not for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alcohol is the devil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone needs to be d*unk to swing I would say its not for them "

Are you not allowed to type d r u n k on here now then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i never drink pre meet i want to feel everything

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Don't go there.

Have you ascertained her authenticity?

She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."

Gut feelings are there for a reason, it sounds like a bloke winding you up or a worse case scenario of setting you up for some scam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
No I certainly wouldn't meet anyone who needed to be d*unk can't think of anything worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adding to the chorus - I'd avoid putting yourself in that situation,OP.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

If you need to drink to swing, you’ve got issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you need to drink to swing, you’ve got issues. "
If you need to get d*unk whatever you're doing you've got issues in my book

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

That's sets off warning lights for me straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, steer clear.

I met a woman once who told me to bring a bottle of vodka to a meet she ended up a bubbling wasted mess and I had to take her hope. Waste of time!

You took her hope? Did you take her pride and dignity too? Poor woman. "

Home you rascal!!

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By *obbo44Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Do it do it do it lol and don't stop at the vodka get the tequila out to play as well and get proper mortal ,then get her back to your place do shots of vodka in the eyeball ,tie her up and fire paintballs at her until she squeals with delight , then time for the collar and a furry butt plug and ride her around the room like your tonto the Indian do it do it do it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe one sociable drink, a glass of wine maybe, something like that. But never ever to get d*unk in order to have sex.

Still, each to their own we say, but it does sound like an accident waiting to happen.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I don't drink when going on a meet.

I want my senses on their maximum if I am going to have fun.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't think it's necessarily an unreasonable question tbh. There seems to be a norm around intoxication and swinging, to the point where I've seen people say they won't meet people who aren't drinking or somehow high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people party, but it's rather odd to plan it.

Good way to face a sexual assault allegation in my book.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I think I would with the majority of the posts, don't go there.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

They're known in the trade as fully loaded -I would get a disclaimer form ready if you want to take it beyond that 25th drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need at least a couple of bottles of lambrini before I’ll get my tits out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
she doesn't live in Southampton by any chance ???

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I wouldn’t meet under those circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh gord we once had a couple that turned up under the influence and they were a nightmare to get rid of, just weird and very un sexy. Stank of booze and stale tobacco. I should pass unless you are ready for what can Possibly go wrong scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pub crawl then back to yours then

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I like 1 or 2 just to make me feel more relaxed xx"
.

I agree lovely, one or two is fine by me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen a few people d*unk at clubs and it’s not a nice sight and shouldn’t be allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet under those circumstances. "
agreed

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "

Do. Not. Go. There.

One or two social drinks perhaps, but meeting someone whose “d*unk on vodka?”.

Imagine how it would look if she was to call the police and allege something inappropriate had happened?

I won’t (generally) sleep with someone the first time I’ve met them, for exactly the same reason.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking? "

Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I don't think it's necessarily an unreasonable question tbh. There seems to be a norm around intoxication and swinging, to the point where I've seen people say they won't meet people who aren't drinking or somehow high. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This brings up the whole question of consent - can a d*unk person give consent?

I know it is all relative but there has to be a point when you consider your own safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have to get d*unk for a meet, then how can you say you fully enjoy it? Surely it should be something you want to do in full mind and stone cold sober.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Rarely drink on meets unless at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"This brings up the whole question of consent - can a d*unk person give consent?

I know it is all relative but there has to be a point when you consider your own safety. "

It’s a question of fact and degree, but mental capacity is necessary in order to give consent and mental capacity can be lost through intoxication.

The d*unker the person is, the higher the risk that they cannot consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually need to get hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't need to drink to meet no.

Would I have a drink? Probably yes if it was part of the social aspect of it or I could stay over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pub crawl then back to yours then "

I think I’ve done that with quite a few of the guys I’ve met on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't but last time I was at a club I wished I was, along with slipping myself a rohipnol..... some things are just best never seen!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy"

It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy

It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. "
Yeah you see it often, it's terrible. Just trying to please their husband/Bf etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy

It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. "

Jeez! Really?

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We wouldn’t get d*unk, but do like a glass of wine or two on a meet. The social side is all part of the fun for us so a couple of drinks would be part of that.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I often have to drive to meets so obviously never drink then.

I do enjoy going to clubs, having a couple of drinks and some fun but stay in a hotel.

Drinks helps relax but I never get really d*unk.

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By *astings SocialWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I don't drink and I would never be d*unk on a meet.

I would go with your gut instincts and don't meet her xx

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can"

I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy

It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. "

Shagging anyone who is pissed is a truly terrible idea.

On every possible front!

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By *orningtonCroissantMan
over a year ago

notts and humberside

Don’t do it!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?

Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better. "

If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no

No n no NO!

No no

There’s a limit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have we finally ascertained that it’s a bad thing yet? Asking for a mate!

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
a drink needed before meeting someone ....no way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs "

I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP "

Yeah I think people might be getting the wrong end of the stick and thinking this woman wants to get wasted before they meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs "

You'd be ok with meeting a woman who needs to get d*unk on vodka for a meet?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can

I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything."

How horrible for you... I hope you left him to it.

A friend of mine from my single swinging days met a lady at her house, he arrive at the arranged time to find the door on the latch, as they had discussed. He let himself in to find her sprawled naked on the sofa, with an empty wine glass in her hand. She was pissed as a fart. When he turned to leave she said she would "report him" for wasting her time... Quite what she would report him for he didn't know, but he made a hasty exit.

There is no place for too much alcohol or drugs where sex is concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP

Yeah I think people might be getting the wrong end of the stick and thinking this woman wants to get wasted before they meet "

I don't think people are getting the wrong end of the stick when that's exactly what the OP says.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs "

I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP

Yeah I think people might be getting the wrong end of the stick and thinking this woman wants to get wasted before they meet "

To be fair, the OP states: “she needs to get d*unk on vodka”.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

Ps why is d*unk asterisked on here? It isn’t a swear word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

You'd be ok with meeting a woman who needs to get d*unk on vodka for a meet?"

I’ve only ever been totally sober once and that was because I was driving to and from the club. We always like to have a drink and a “get to know each other” first, so I suppose it just seems fairly normal. We don’t generally have random meets etc so I cant really speak for it

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can

I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything.

How horrible for you... I hope you left him to it.

A friend of mine from my single swinging days met a lady at her house, he arrive at the arranged time to find the door on the latch, as they had discussed. He let himself in to find her sprawled naked on the sofa, with an empty wine glass in her hand. She was pissed as a fart. When he turned to leave she said she would "report him" for wasting her time... Quite what she would report him for he didn't know, but he made a hasty exit.

There is no place for too much alcohol or drugs where sex is concerned."

I made sure he got back to hotel safely and then called a taxi. Never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there."

Believe me, she is totally up for it, we both are. We both feel more comfortable around new people when we are having a drink with them though, that’s always been the case even before we started swinging. I did realise this was such a big deal for people

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can

I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything.

How horrible for you... I hope you left him to it.

A friend of mine from my single swinging days met a lady at her house, he arrive at the arranged time to find the door on the latch, as they had discussed. He let himself in to find her sprawled naked on the sofa, with an empty wine glass in her hand. She was pissed as a fart. When he turned to leave she said she would "report him" for wasting her time... Quite what she would report him for he didn't know, but he made a hasty exit.

There is no place for too much alcohol or drugs where sex is concerned.

I made sure he got back to hotel safely and then called a taxi. Never again."

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there.

Believe me, she is totally up for it, we both are. We both feel more comfortable around new people when we are having a drink with them though, that’s always been the case even before we started swinging. I did realise this was such a big deal for people "

Fair enough, whatever works for you.

We prefer not to use alcohol and not to meet others that "need it" to socialise.

Horses for courses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs

I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there.

Believe me, she is totally up for it, we both are. We both feel more comfortable around new people when we are having a drink with them though, that’s always been the case even before we started swinging. I did realise this was such a big deal for people

Fair enough, whatever works for you.

We prefer not to use alcohol and not to meet others that "need it" to socialise.

Horses for courses. "

Agree to disagree

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"This brings up the whole question of consent - can a d*unk person give consent?

I know it is all relative but there has to be a point when you consider your own safety. "

That was my point of the consequences and it was interesting to see what other people felt. For me, no chance its not worth the risk.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy"

Thank you, it just proves people do get d*unk even when they are in clubs. I wonder how people who stated they wouldn't go there, have had sex d*unk in the clubs.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I don't drink and I would never be d*unk on a meet.

I would go with your gut instincts and don't meet her xx"

Thank you lovely and im wise enough not to there. If my gut says something, then its for a reason.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?

Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.

If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!

"

Experience may cost you wisdom, but thank god i got some left. There was nothing to learn, because i wasn't going there and i never have been with any lady like that. Dont assume please,you don't know me.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

What i have found interesting from this debate, how many people would consider to get d*unk before a meet. Or get d*unk in certain clubs and play with others.

How many people have been d*unk on one night stands? I bet the same people who state they wouldn't meet or have sex with an individual d*unk. Im not mocking people, just maybe we need to reflect and think about our answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a bit fake, but her version of d*unk may be yours of tipsy or paralytic, have you checked. Anything past memory loss or blacking out would bother me, merry, tipsy, giggly not in the slightest.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"What i have found interesting from this debate, how many people would consider to get d*unk before a meet. Or get d*unk in certain clubs and play with others.

How many people have been d*unk on one night stands? I bet the same people who state they wouldn't meet or have sex with an individual d*unk. Im not mocking people, just maybe we need to reflect and think about our answers "

Guilty as charged with most of the above. I’ve been in situations in the past I wouldn’t consider nowadays...

In the #metoo era we don’t just need to consider our past actions, we also need to think about our approach going forward!

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Sounds a bit fake, but her version of d*unk may be yours of tipsy or paralytic, have you checked. Anything past memory loss or blacking out would bother me, merry, tipsy, giggly not in the slightest. "

I did check, she sent me her photos that was consistent and i asked how many vodkas she need to drink. Her reply i need to get d*unk to get horny . Simple as that really.

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"What i have found interesting from this debate, how many people would consider to get d*unk before a meet. Or get d*unk in certain clubs and play with others.

How many people have been d*unk on one night stands? I bet the same people who state they wouldn't meet or have sex with an individual d*unk. Im not mocking people, just maybe we need to reflect and think about our answers

Guilty as charged with most of the above. I’ve been in situations in the past I wouldn’t consider nowadays...

In the #metoo era we don’t just need to consider our past actions, we also need to think about our approach going forward! "

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?

Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.

If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!

Experience may cost you wisdom, but thank god i got some left. There was nothing to learn, because i wasn't going there and i never have been with any lady like that. Dont assume please,you don't know me.

"

Then what was the point of your question? You were obviously considering it and wanted to find out if it were common. You’re not in your teens anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't meet anyone that said they need to be d*unk first

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By *mooth Operator 07 OP   Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.

I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.

Am i overthinking or is it normal?

You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?

Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.

If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!

Experience may cost you wisdom, but thank god i got some left. There was nothing to learn, because i wasn't going there and i never have been with any lady like that. Dont assume please,you don't know me.

Then what was the point of your question? You were obviously considering it and wanted to find out if it were common. You’re not in your teens anymore. "

I think you missed the point, my gut feeling said no and i always go with my gut feeling. But i did wanted to find out if it was common. Teens, really? Ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pub crawl then back to yours then

I think I’ve done that with quite a few of the guys I’ve met on here. "

and all is well.

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