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Cheating people being honest on profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If people say they're married/ cheating on their profile surely they're just opening themselves to dodgy people using that information against them. Same with people saying they have kids.

Is honesty always a good thing on the internet?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then be honest in the first message. I’ve had too many lie and for me to find out later. Not what I want I’m afraid.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Certain types of honesty aren't. Don't say you've got young kids, where you work, where you shop, where you live etc and don't give this information about anyone else.

For every 1000 honest people who won't use this information in a bad way there is at least one who will.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Honesty regarding your marital status is always a good thing on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what others do in their free time, but I'm not gonna meet anyone who is married or in a relationship - happily or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about the right level of openness at the right times, I think.

I can’t believe the amount of personal info people readily give up in public forums, particularly on sites like Facebook moreso than here.

I will give people the relevant info they need to make informed decisions about whether or not to meet me, for example I have always stated in my profile I’m not single.

But I won’t give up all of my private life in public forums for any Tom, Dick or Harry’s consumption, like some do. Their choice, of course, and if they’re happy to do so that’s their prerogative!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to laugh at people who say "He's lying to his wife, what else is he lying about?", when they have heavily filtered photos taken at carefully selected angles.

Lying to yourself is the no better.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Then be honest in the first message. I’ve had too many lie and for me to find out later. Not what I want I’m afraid. "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the right level of openness at the right times, I think.

I can’t believe the amount of personal info people readily give up in public forums, particularly on sites like Facebook moreso than here.

I will give people the relevant info they need to make informed decisions about whether or not to meet me, for example I have always stated in my profile I’m not single.

But I won’t give up all of my private life in public forums for any Tom, Dick or Harry’s consumption, like some do. Their choice, of course, and if they’re happy to do so that’s their prerogative!

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And you don't have to.

I can understand people becoming annoyed at being misled though, but it's done on here in more ways than one.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Have had the conversation about how much we reveal about ourselves on our profiles or on the forums in chatrooms quite a few times recently, after it emerged earlier this year that a particularly insidious predator had used a similar site here in Ireland to find women who had lost friends/family members to suicide. He befriended and met them, and then used their vulnerability and fear of being somehow at fault for someone taking their own life against them, by claiming to be depressed and threatening to self-harm if they didn't do whatever he wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is always the best policy for me. I detest liars and they always get found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t judge people but I want to know so I can make an informed choice as to whether I want to go any further.

On a site like this, where being open is encouraged, I don’t see why people need to lie...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to laugh at people who say "He's lying to his wife, what else is he lying about?", when they have heavily filtered photos taken at carefully selected angles.

Lying to yourself is the no better."

Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have had the conversation about how much we reveal about ourselves on our profiles or on the forums in chatrooms quite a few times recently, after it emerged earlier this year that a particularly insidious predator had used a similar site here in Ireland to find women who had lost friends/family members to suicide. He befriended and met them, and then used their vulnerability and fear of being somehow at fault for someone taking their own life against them, by claiming to be depressed and threatening to self-harm if they didn't do whatever he wanted."

This is exactly the kind of thing I was thinking of. I'm not surprised that someone's done this. I'm shocked that I'm not surprised though. Bit shit when this is a reality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t judge people but I want to know so I can make an informed choice as to whether I want to go any further.

On a site like this, where being open is encouraged, I don’t see why people need to lie..."

For the reasons in PlayD8's post.

Also some people don't care who knows they are swingers. Some do. Some people get sacked when outed.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don’t judge people but I want to know so I can make an informed choice as to whether I want to go any further.

On a site like this, where being open is encouraged, I don’t see why people need to lie..."

They lie because telling the truth would deny them meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it that people that are married are cheating on there partners. Fab could be a way of keeping there marriage alive and well. People who have afairs and slope away for holidays etc are the ones to keep clear off. This life style is not tinder. Im sure many will disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve put on our profile we are in an open marriage and meet separately, but we also meet as a couple.

If somebody isn’t happy with that then we are not offended, we understand some people find the concept difficult to understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im partnered, She knows im here she is on here too but doent really use it. She has a girlfriend and has done for 18 months.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it that people that are married are cheating on there partners. Fab could be a way of keeping there marriage alive and well. People who have afairs and slope away for holidays etc are the ones to keep clear off. This life style is not tinder. Im sure many will disagree."

It's still cheating if the partner hasn't agreed to it.

I agree that 'cheating' can (sometimes) keep marriages from ending in divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that sort of info doesn't particulary need to be in a profile either, as long as it is offered in messages fairly early on if the intention is to meet.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Same thing with people you meet though, people tell each other all sorts of things thinking they can be trusted.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"If people say they're married/ cheating on their profile surely they're just opening themselves to dodgy people using that information against them. Same with people saying they have kids.

Is honesty always a good thing on the internet?! "

Probably not though it helps people avoid those who are cheating. As for saying you have kids well it could open up some very unplesent circumstances but then where do people stop I think people should just be cautious and no need put too much personal information on a profile and avoid anything that could Identify you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If people say they're married/ cheating on their profile surely they're just opening themselves to dodgy people using that information against them. Same with people saying they have kids.

Is honesty always a good thing on the internet?!

Probably not though it helps people avoid those who are cheating. As for saying you have kids well it could open up some very unplesent circumstances but then where do people stop I think people should just be cautious and no need put too much personal information on a profile and avoid anything that could Identify you. "

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

playa del ingles

mine's fully honest - if a tad tongue in cheek....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think most women would prefer someone to be honest.

sadly not everyone is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly the internet is full of keyboard pyjama warriors

I think being honest with the people you intend to meet is important.

But what truths do we really know about randoms from the internet?

The "single straight man " you met last weekend might be participating in bareback Bi gangbangs every weekend behind his wife's back.

Who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying is an art on here so many would get a first class hons in it if it was a Uni Degree I take it all with a pinch of salt. If people do say on their profile its just a good first filter I really don't want to use information in any way why on earth would someone want to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one thing that gets me is people asking to speak to partners pre-meet to confirm consent

I play away, so does my other half

We also play together

I'd be less than impressed if a stranger contacted me to ask if it was OK that my other half played with them

It's bonkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hungry woman,no complaints from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sadly the internet is full of keyboard pyjama warriors

I think being honest with the people you intend to meet is important.

But what truths do we really know about randoms from the internet?

The "single straight man " you met last weekend might be participating in bareback Bi gangbangs every weekend behind his wife's back.

Who knows?"

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Certain types of honesty aren't. Don't say you've got young kids, where you work, where you shop, where you live etc and don't give this information about anyone else.

For every 1000 honest people who won't use this information in a bad way there is at least one who will."

I shop in Debenhams... there ... I put it out there ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's up to the individual what they display on their public profile that everyone can see.

What they choose to tell people in private message is up to the individual. I am honest with people about certain aspects of my life if I'm intending to meet them, and I expect the same in return.

I would never give information away such as my home address or my place of work until I have met someone a few times and built some trust.

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By *inchfitMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

I think what people say on the own profile is by the own omission, but they should be aware of the risks associated with disclosing such details. Each to the own I say, but I think some people need to be more honest, when they proclaim to be straight but in fact they are bisexual and/or gay, or trans.. or when they proclaim to have a big one and evidently they don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think some people need to be more honest, when they proclaim to be straight but in fact they are bisexual and/or gay "

He who casts the first stone & all that ...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

This is a casual sex site. Everyone will lie to a greater or lesser degree in order to get their end away.

It's frankly bizarre to expect honesty on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never know what someone will do on a site like this with any information you give out. You just gotta play it by ear.

Some things you can’t control.

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