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What worries you most about a meet ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Is that your worry OP?

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

Coming on the day of the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether or not they’ll show given recent experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unmet expectations/disappointment (about a range of things), I guess. It’s just a fear factor that builds preemptively, but isn’t really rooted from anything tangible or rational.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Unmet expectations/disappointment (about a range of things), I guess. It’s just a fear factor that builds preemptively, but isn’t really rooted from anything tangible or rational. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is that your worry OP? "

Yes, that and whether my wig will blow off.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Whether or not they’ll show given recent experiences "

This for me too x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Not enjoying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they look as good as their pics and the witty banter shared via messages is the same face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether or not they’ll show given recent experiences

This for me too x"

I definitely know how to pick them

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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If the chemistry will translate to when we meet. Oh and what you said OP. You really know a woman's mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my arms are tyred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making sure I get there. Once I arrive everything else can be dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is that your worry OP?

Yes, that and whether my wig will blow off. "

Hilarious, made me laugh, thanks x

Estella sums it up for me too

‘Unmet expectations/disappointment (about a range of things), I guess. It’s just a fear factor that builds preemptively, but isn’t really rooted from anything tangible or rational.’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my arms are tyred"

What have I told you about fucking about in scrap yards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whether or not they’ll show given recent experiences

This for me too x

I definitely know how to pick them"

Hey, my Ford Focus doesn’t like leaving Devon she gets home sick. I did warn you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether or not they’ll show given recent experiences

This for me too x

I definitely know how to pick them

Hey, my Ford Focus doesn’t like leaving Devon she gets home sick. I did warn you. "

Excuses excuses

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Will I fancy them, pictures can be deceiving.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

That I'll be stuck for hours in something I am not really enjoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my arms are tyred

What have I told you about fucking about in scrap yards"
yes yes yes i see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the guy will not be as he is on here. I met a guy from another site. He seemed genuine and free to chat with. When we met though it was a different story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my arms are tyred

What have I told you about fucking about in scrap yardsyes yes yes i see it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will i want to kiss them strait away or will i get a kick in the balls if i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether the rapport you've built up in the virtual world translates to real life,will that first look be of desire or disappointment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they hammer themself with filters been lucky so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they might turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their scent. I can find someone attractive in conversation and appearance, but if their scent doesn't click with me then I won't be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will I fancy them, pictures can be deceiving. "

That’s certainly true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their scent. I can find someone attractive in conversation and appearance, but if their scent doesn't click with me then I won't be interested."

I’ve not consciously thought about that before, but you’re absolutely right how important scent attraction is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their scent. I can find someone attractive in conversation and appearance, but if their scent doesn't click with me then I won't be interested.

I’ve not consciously thought about that before, but you’re absolutely right how important scent attraction is! "

Would also agree with this. Nothing worse than a bad scent. Can be as simple as I don't like his aftershave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting one...

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Is she an axe murderer?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

A couple of years ago loads. But nothing now. I don't even fear making a tit of my self, I am who I am.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I first joined my fears were mostly about being good enough. Now it's more compatibility, finding common ground sexually (and safety but I vet quite thoroughly).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their scent. I can find someone attractive in conversation and appearance, but if their scent doesn't click with me then I won't be interested.

I’ve not consciously thought about that before, but you’re absolutely right how important scent attraction is!

Would also agree with this. Nothing worse than a bad scent. Can be as simple as I don't like his aftershave "

I think Im 99% garlic at the moment keeping a cold at bay. Must remember not to meet anyone and put them off me for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think Im 99% garlic at the moment keeping a cold at bay. Must remember not to meet anyone and put them off me for life "

Nothing wrong with garlic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is she an axe murderer?"
i had that worry a couple weeks back she wasnt tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think Im 99% garlic at the moment keeping a cold at bay. Must remember not to meet anyone and put them off me for life

Nothing wrong with garlic. "
yes there is

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"That they look as good as their pics and the witty banter shared via messages is the same face to face "

Agree on both points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only worry whether they look like their photos. If they don't, I'm off! Just a waste of my time, effort, travel, money and fuel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The journey, if it's across London.

Other than that, nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think Im 99% garlic at the moment keeping a cold at bay. Must remember not to meet anyone and put them off me for life

Nothing wrong with garlic. "

Bring a nan bread

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I used to worry that we wouldn’t click and the sex would be bad, more so if I had travelled a long way to meet them, it always turned out well thank goodness

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Unmet expectations/disappointment (about a range of things), I guess. It’s just a fear factor that builds preemptively, but isn’t really rooted from anything tangible or rational. "

This for me too, I was trying to explain this the other day but couldn't quite get the right words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their scent. I can find someone attractive in conversation and appearance, but if their scent doesn't click with me then I won't be interested.

I’ve not consciously thought about that before, but you’re absolutely right how important scent attraction is!

Would also agree with this. Nothing worse than a bad scent. Can be as simple as I don't like his aftershave

I think Im 99% garlic at the moment keeping a cold at bay. Must remember not to meet anyone and put them off me for life "

Oh can you just imagine. Garlic is such a strong smell as well. Does it actually work for a cold?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Whether they will turn up..and like me

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I dont really get worried as such. But I do sort of set myself up for disappointment as Ive found few men can actually deliver what their imagination thinks they can.

That's one reason why I prefer to steer way from sextexting etc. I also have found that the guys that have all the talk are normally the biggest disappointments.

Even though guys may look like there picture's when you see the whole package together that wow factor just isn't there...that can be disappointing its something you just can't put your finger on is missing.

Height..hmmmm that's another one...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

The axe, shovel and bag of lime in the boot of his car.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont really get worried as such. But I do sort of set myself up for disappointment as Ive found few men can actually deliver what their imagination thinks they can.

That's one reason why I prefer to steer way from sextexting etc. I also have found that the guys that have all the talk are normally the biggest disappointments.

Even though guys may look like there picture's when you see the whole package together that wow factor just isn't there...that can be disappointing its something you just can't put your finger on is missing.

Height..hmmmm that's another one..."

I never understood men who big thereselves up, that can only go one way, plus you’re putting yourself under pressure. Agree with the sexting, I think that’s fine after you’ve already met once and you’re talking about what you’re going to do next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont really get worried as such. But I do sort of set myself up for disappointment as Ive found few men can actually deliver what their imagination thinks they can.

That's one reason why I prefer to steer way from sextexting etc. I also have found that the guys that have all the talk are normally the biggest disappointments.

Even though guys may look like there picture's when you see the whole package together that wow factor just isn't there...that can be disappointing its something you just can't put your finger on is missing.

Height..hmmmm that's another one..."

Yes!! Agree with all of those!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I dont really get worried as such. But I do sort of set myself up for disappointment as Ive found few men can actually deliver what their imagination thinks they can.

That's one reason why I prefer to steer way from sextexting etc. I also have found that the guys that have all the talk are normally the biggest disappointments.

Even though guys may look like there picture's when you see the whole package together that wow factor just isn't there...that can be disappointing its something you just can't put your finger on is missing.

Height..hmmmm that's another one...

I never understood men who big thereselves up, that can only go one way, plus you’re putting yourself under pressure. Agree with the sexting, I think that’s fine after you’ve already met once and you’re talking about what you’re going to do next time. "

Absolutely.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Getting out of it alive!! Seriously. I'm paranoid about my safety atm, so much it's putting me off meeting new people.

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

Worries-if they will show not ghost

Are who they say they are

Husband not hiding in the house lol

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Getting out of it alive!! Seriously. I'm paranoid about my safety atm, so much it's putting me off meeting new people. "

I have something to tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting out of it alive!! Seriously. I'm paranoid about my safety atm, so much it's putting me off meeting new people. "

. Hope you’re okay xx

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By *ot as FATnFAB nowWoman
over a year ago

Irvine Toon

I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting out of it alive!! Seriously. I'm paranoid about my safety atm, so much it's putting me off meeting new people. "

Yep I had a bad social recently. Half the reason I left last week.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

If they will be nice, not too weird, as in kind of normal and straight forward, will they be clean and will they even turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't worry."

That’s cause its easier for beautiful women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't worry."

This, I will have met them socially so know I fancy them, I've met a fair bit so I suppose I'm used to it. I still get butterflies with meeting a new person though.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I always hope that "meet day" lines up with "shower day". Oh please god! Let her choose the 15th!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always hope that "meet day" lines up with "shower day". Oh please god! Let her choose the 15th! "

This is also my payday, so we’re all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be "

Couldn't agree with you more

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Farting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't worry.

That’s cause its easier for beautiful women. "

I only hope I will have a laugh and make a possible friend. Anything else is a bonus. Always meet socially first and don't expect anything. So I don't get disappointed.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I always hope that "meet day" lines up with "shower day". Oh please god! Let her choose the 15th!

This is also my payday, so we’re all good "

Some good news at last!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I always hope that "meet day" lines up with "shower day". Oh please god! Let her choose the 15th! "

Could you possibly make it the 23rd as it’s my birthday, that once a year routine soon rolls round

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't worry.

That’s cause its easier for beautiful women.

I only hope I will have a laugh and make a possible friend. Anything else is a bonus. Always meet socially first and don't expect anything. So I don't get disappointed."

If my propeller cap and airhorn routine don’t get her laughing, I start panicking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my lucky pants actually work

Mrs P x

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Farting "

Holding it in, then your eyes start watering and she thinking this guy is a bit over emotional, I was only talking about my Nectar card points.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Farting

Holding it in, then your eyes start watering and she thinking this guy is a bit over emotional, I was only talking about my Nectar card points."

Pelvic floor workout...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I always hope that "meet day" lines up with "shower day". Oh please god! Let her choose the 15th!

Could you possibly make it the 23rd as it’s my birthday, that once a year routine soon rolls round "

The 23rd, or as i like to call it "2 more sleeps until i wipe arse my again day". Sounds good to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their scent. I can find someone attractive in conversation and appearance, but if their scent doesn't click with me then I won't be interested.

I’ve not consciously thought about that before, but you’re absolutely right how important scent attraction is!

Would also agree with this. Nothing worse than a bad scent. Can be as simple as I don't like his aftershave

I think Im 99% garlic at the moment keeping a cold at bay. Must remember not to meet anyone and put them off me for life

Oh can you just imagine. Garlic is such a strong smell as well. Does it actually work for a cold?"

It doesnt seem to have done yet but I live in hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't worry.

That’s cause its easier for beautiful women.

I only hope I will have a laugh and make a possible friend. Anything else is a bonus. Always meet socially first and don't expect anything. So I don't get disappointed.

If my propeller cap and airhorn routine don’t get her laughing, I start panicking. "

If a guy isn't funny or doesn't get my banter, jokes or sarcasm, then I just finish my cider and he goes home alone. Simple as that. No matter how handsome or fit he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth. "

Same as me there OP

But... I'm not shy at all so i still would lol. If it happens it happens... Were only human

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth. "

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted."

Holy shit is it really that bad for you? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll get my meet sooner or later no doubt but all will be well. I'd never ever force myself or be violent. Comfortability is what its all about. I do well with that. Been told numerous of times...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted."

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I worry that if I bring a lady back to mine she may find my stash of dead bodies in the chest freezer.lol.

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

If they are after a chat before, or we will get straight down to what we met for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t say I worry about getting a shaft and cock in my mouth

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If it is somebody new will they turn up.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Hope I don't catch something, I do a bit of prying before hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t say I worry about getting a shaft and cock in my mouth

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Who says I want to put it there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t say I worry about getting a shaft and cock in my mouth

Who says I want to put it there "

Where else would you put it ?

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow


"Will I fancy them, pictures can be deceiving.

That’s certainly true!"

And pictures don’t show you if they’ve got a sparkle in their eye. Is there a little naughtiness bursting to get out? Can there be “flanter” as well as the initial lustful feelings cos that’s the start of repeat meets thatbget better with familiarity.

And if the chemistry isn’t stunning, should I just walk or give it a chance - because I hate to be just plain rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming on the day of the meet "

I second this, its always worrying especially as I dont have a set date when ok im due anymore.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

Holy shit is it really that bad for you? Lol "

It's always a risk meeting random men off a swingers site.

I'd like to point out nothing has ever happened to me, but it's always there in the background.

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted."

Perhaps you should ask for a reference!! I’d be happy to ask one of my “friends” to do that. I’m sure other fellas would do that too!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior."

Some take this for granted. I've actually seen the female halves of couples gang up on a single female in a chatroom and say she was overreacting for admitting to having a safety-buddy. As couples who only meet as couples, they were simply oblivious to some of the perils a lone woman may encounter.

Back when I was meeting new people, even just for coffee, I'd always tell a trusted friend where I was going, the username of who I was meeting, what time we were meeting at, and agree a time at which I would check back in to say I was OK. I've had several female friends who also use me as their safety-buddy. We never discuss details of meets afterwards, just let each other know everything went well and to call off the search party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will I fancy them, pictures can be deceiving.

That’s certainly true!

And pictures don’t show you if they’ve got a sparkle in their eye. Is there a little naughtiness bursting to get out? Can there be “flanter” as well as the initial lustful feelings cos that’s the start of repeat meets thatbget better with familiarity.

And if the chemistry isn’t stunning, should I just walk or give it a chance - because I hate to be just plain rude!"

This is why I’d never meet anyone without a social meet first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting physically hurt , its happened and now Im very nervous attending meets in their own homes . I actually feel safer in hotels now x

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior.

Some take this for granted. I've actually seen the female halves of couples gang up on a single female in a chatroom and say she was overreacting for admitting to having a safety-buddy. As couples who only meet as couples, they were simply oblivious to some of the perils a lone woman may encounter.

Back when I was meeting new people, even just for coffee, I'd always tell a trusted friend where I was going, the username of who I was meeting, what time we were meeting at, and agree a time at which I would check back in to say I was OK. I've had several female friends who also use me as their safety-buddy. We never discuss details of meets afterwards, just let each other know everything went well and to call off the search party "

Yes, I do this too.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve been a meet buddy. This lady was going on a meet and was getting a lift so she sent me a photo of the car reg plate and agreed a code word to text me she was ok. She was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's a guy coming round again uninvited while my husband isn't there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior.

Some take this for granted. I've actually seen the female halves of couples gang up on a single female in a chatroom and say she was overreacting for admitting to having a safety-buddy. As couples who only meet as couples, they were simply oblivious to some of the perils a lone woman may encounter.

Back when I was meeting new people, even just for coffee, I'd always tell a trusted friend where I was going, the username of who I was meeting, what time we were meeting at, and agree a time at which I would check back in to say I was OK. I've had several female friends who also use me as their safety-buddy. We never discuss details of meets afterwards, just let each other know everything went well and to call off the search party

Yes, I do this too."

Me too. And we have each other on find a friend. Pin points your exact location. If you have your phone obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Over thinking things. We (generally not us specifically) can have a tendency to rehearse things and when things change it throws things out of kilter.

Am not saying don't give it thought, but leave plenty of room to be somewhere unplanned but aware of what and where you are going.

Plenty of paths have great destinations, so be flexible but true to what you are comfortable with.

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By *rMrsWestMidsCouple
over a year ago

Dudley


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth. "

They turn out to be a couple of pitbull terriers chewing a wasp!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I chose my meets carefully, those with verifications who portray the person I’m meeting. I have a text buddy who knows where I am, who I’m with and I check in regularly

I go with the expectation of meeting what hopefully turns into at least another friend and possible fab fb with repeat meets other than that I am what I am.... I don’t portray anything other than the genuine me - take it or leave it!

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By *uilders mateMan
over a year ago

Builders mate, Northampton or traveling

That first moment when the door opens and you hope they turn you on as much as the banter and pics online. Then a passionate snog to break the ice regardless......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!"

Victim blaming at its finest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest"

Hardly. But meeting strangers is dangerous. Why wouldn't you do all you can to ensure your own safety?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not particularly worried about anything really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is taking too long to cum. Always get stressed that I'm lasting too long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest"

Not at all, just an awareness that there are many predatory people out there, and some simple personal rules can go a long way to keeping you safe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine is taking too long to cum. Always get stressed that I'm lasting too long"

Sting is that you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Hardly. But meeting strangers is dangerous. Why wouldn't you do all you can to ensure your own safety?"

Don’t meet complete strangers is what I say unless in a public place.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Funnily enough I tend not to worry about meeting someone I fancy for sex.

Generally it puts me in a good mood.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest"

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Hardly. But meeting strangers is dangerous. Why wouldn't you do all you can to ensure your own safety?

Don’t meet complete strangers is what I say unless in a public place. "

Everyone is a stranger until you've met them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turning up to find that the woman I've arranged to meet is either my wife or my mom.

That would be pretty f**kin' scary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Hardly. But meeting strangers is dangerous. Why wouldn't you do all you can to ensure your own safety?

Don’t meet complete strangers is what I say unless in a public place.

Everyone is a stranger until you've met them. "

I mean don’t meet alone at your place or theirs etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat "

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is taking too long to cum. Always get stressed that I'm lasting too long

Sting is that you ?"

The wrestler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Hardly. But meeting strangers is dangerous. Why wouldn't you do all you can to ensure your own safety?

Don’t meet complete strangers is what I say unless in a public place.

Everyone is a stranger until you've met them.

I mean don’t meet alone at your place or theirs etc."

Yep.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say. "

Not saying she shouldn’t do it but she shouldn’t have to do it. Kinda phrased badly by me I guess but it’s sad that women (and men too really) have to take these steps to protect themselves from freaks. The vast majority are good people

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say.

Not saying she shouldn’t do it but she shouldn’t have to do it. Kinda phrased badly by me I guess but it’s sad that women (and men too really) have to take these steps to protect themselves from freaks. The vast majority are good people "

I mean that the emphasis shouldn’t be on the victim to do more but on the perpetrator to not do it in the first place. I know it will never happen but that’s the works we live in I guess

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say.

Not saying she shouldn’t do it but she shouldn’t have to do it. Kinda phrased badly by me I guess but it’s sad that women (and men too really) have to take these steps to protect themselves from freaks. The vast majority are good people

I mean that the emphasis shouldn’t be on the victim to do more but on the perpetrator to not do it in the first place. I know it will never happen but that’s the works we live in I guess"
world not works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will I fancy them ?

Will they fancy me ?

Will we click ?

Does my breath stink ?

Will their breath stink ?

Will I make a tit of myself ?

Will they like what I'm wearing ?

Do I look good in what I'm wearing ?

They are just a few of the things that go through my head pre-meet

and that's for a social

I can't even start on what I'm like for a sex meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how much exaggeration and testosterone is going on in this thread?

Okay, so I've only had three meets, so little experience, but none of them had any sexual expectations involved for anybody concerned, maybe I'm missing something?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine is taking too long to cum. Always get stressed that I'm lasting too long

Sting is that you ?

The wrestler "

No, the other more famous one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worry that we'll have no connection and conversation will be hard. Zero sexual chemistry xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be "

That is why I spend a long time getting to know somebody before meeting them. You can out the creeps, weirdos, fantasists, timewasters, etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder how much exaggeration and testosterone is going on in this thread?

Okay, so I've only had three meets, so little experience, but none of them had any sexual expectations involved for anybody concerned, maybe I'm missing something? "

No, I think you’re probably doing it right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior."

When using a hotel always get the guy to pay for the room. Even when going halves on the cost. Hotels nowadays make you pay with a debit or credit card. They don't accept cash. That obviously means the hotel has the guys details. The guy would be stupid to do anything against your wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder how much exaggeration and testosterone is going on in this thread?

Okay, so I've only had three meets, so little experience, but none of them had any sexual expectations involved for anybody concerned, maybe I'm missing something?

No, I think you’re probably doing it right."

I genuinely believe so, certainly takes away most of the above anxieties I think!

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say. "

Seems to me like they already *are* doing a fair bit to try and make it as safe as possible.

Short of carrying mace or not meeting at all, what is it you suggest they are neglecting to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will I be safe in their company.

A few scary experiences leaves your wary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

Holy shit is it really that bad for you? Lol

It's always a risk meeting random men off a swingers site.

I'd like to point out nothing has ever happened to me, but it's always there in the background."

It's a risk for men meeting women. I know somebody who met a woman who was cheating. He didn't know she was cheating until her husband came home early from work due to being ill. He was lucky the guy never got violent and just told him to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be

That is why I spend a long time getting to know somebody before meeting them. You can out the creeps, weirdos, fantasists, timewasters, etc. "

Not always. People can easily make out they are genuinely nice people then change when you meet in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior.

Some take this for granted. I've actually seen the female halves of couples gang up on a single female in a chatroom and say she was overreacting for admitting to having a safety-buddy. As couples who only meet as couples, they were simply oblivious to some of the perils a lone woman may encounter.

Back when I was meeting new people, even just for coffee, I'd always tell a trusted friend where I was going, the username of who I was meeting, what time we were meeting at, and agree a time at which I would check back in to say I was OK. I've had several female friends who also use me as their safety-buddy. We never discuss details of meets afterwards, just let each other know everything went well and to call off the search party "

Men, women and couples should have a safety buddy. We should always tell somebody where we are going and when we are expected back home.

If you go to a strangers house take a photo outside and send it to your safety buddy. That photo will contain something called EXIF data. EXIF data will tell the police or anybody who wants to read the EXIF data exactly where the photo was taken and the date and time it was taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting physically hurt , its happened and now Im very nervous attending meets in their own homes . I actually feel safer in hotels now x"

If I was a single female it would take a lot of meets with somebody before I went to their home. Hotel meets are much safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be

That is why I spend a long time getting to know somebody before meeting them. You can out the creeps, weirdos, fantasists, timewasters, etc.

Not always. People can easily make out they are genuinely nice people then change when you meet in person. "

Of course they can but if you spend a few weeks or even months getting to know somebody before meeting you get rid of the disrespctful guys, the guys who are not prepared to spend time getting to know you who are looking for a quick one off fuck, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say.

Seems to me like they already *are* doing a fair bit to try and make it as safe as possible.

Short of carrying mace or not meeting at all, what is it you suggest they are neglecting to do?"

Nothing. Just that we all are responsible for our own safety. The guy I was quoting said it wasn't down to the woman to be more careful. I completely disagree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be

That is why I spend a long time getting to know somebody before meeting them. You can out the creeps, weirdos, fantasists, timewasters, etc.

Not always. People can easily make out they are genuinely nice people then change when you meet in person.

Of course they can but if you spend a few weeks or even months getting to know somebody before meeting you get rid of the disrespctful guys, the guys who are not prepared to spend time getting to know you who are looking for a quick one off fuck, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, etc. "

I agree and what I do.

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By *veready69Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Surely there nust be some nice people on here to meet? I'm nice. Not murdery at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely there nust be some nice people on here to meet? I'm nice. Not murdery at all."

Yep. I've never been scared of anyone I've met in 6 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely there nust be some nice people on here to meet? I'm nice. Not murdery at all.

Yep. I've never been scared of anyone I've met in 6 years. "

To be fair, in comparison to Clem...

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say.

Seems to me like they already *are* doing a fair bit to try and make it as safe as possible.

Short of carrying mace or not meeting at all, what is it you suggest they are neglecting to do?

Nothing. Just that we all are responsible for our own safety. The guy I was quoting said it wasn't down to the woman to be more careful. I completely disagree with that. "

Okay, but earlier on you'd also said:

"Hardly. But meeting strangers is dangerous. Why wouldn't you do all you can to ensure your own safety?"

In response to the victim blaming comment, which was in response to "Be more careful ffs!"

Seems like you're also agreeing with the guy that the onus is on the woman to be more careful, even though there were already several at that point who'd described in detail the lengths they were going to.

You disagree that this is victim blaming? Really

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

Holy shit is it really that bad for you? Lol

It's always a risk meeting random men off a swingers site.

I'd like to point out nothing has ever happened to me, but it's always there in the background.

It's a risk for men meeting women. I know somebody who met a woman who was cheating. He didn't know she was cheating until her husband came home early from work due to being ill. He was lucky the guy never got violent and just told him to leave. "

I never suggested it was just one way!

The original post asked what we were worried about on a meet and I answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My anxiety about meeting has got out of control so stopped meeting for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My anxiety about meeting has got out of control so stopped meeting for now."

That's a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unmet expectations/disappointment (about a range of things), I guess. It’s just a fear factor that builds preemptively, but isn’t really rooted from anything tangible or rational. "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! So many creeps out there this place isn’t what it used to be

That is why I spend a long time getting to know somebody before meeting them. You can out the creeps, weirdos, fantasists, timewasters, etc.

Not always. People can easily make out they are genuinely nice people then change when you meet in person.

Of course they can but if you spend a few weeks or even months getting to know somebody before meeting you get rid of the disrespctful guys, the guys who are not prepared to spend time getting to know you who are looking for a quick one off fuck, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, etc. "

Sorry but you're wrong, and I'm talking from personal experience in the swinging scene of over 5.5 years.

How many abusive men have you actually met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My anxiety about meeting has got out of control so stopped meeting for now."

Me too. I am so down on stuff, I can't bear the thought of being seen naked. So I just go without.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My anxiety about meeting has got out of control so stopped meeting for now.

Me too. I am so down on stuff, I can't bear the thought of being seen naked. So I just go without. "

From what I've seen of you ladies, you are both incredibly lovely people, on both the inside and outside. I hope you both find some confidence and start meeting again.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"My anxiety about meeting has got out of control so stopped meeting for now.

Me too. I am so down on stuff, I can't bear the thought of being seen naked. So I just go without.

From what I've seen of you ladies, you are both incredibly lovely people, on both the inside and outside. I hope you both find some confidence and start meeting again."

Agreed

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over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth.

Honestly? I'm more concerned that he isn't going to do certain things that are so bad the words are blocked.

A successful meet is one where I'm alive and not assaulted.

I'm so, so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Its a massive risk meeting someone you don't know for sex be it at theirs, in a hotel, wherever! And, yes, I always have a social prior.

When using a hotel always get the guy to pay for the room. Even when going halves on the cost. Hotels nowadays make you pay with a debit or credit card. They don't accept cash. That obviously means the hotel has the guys details. The guy would be stupid to do anything against your wishes. "

Good plan.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Can honestly say I seldomed worried about a sex meet as met socially prior and spoke on the phone.

The only time I was uncharacteristically nervous, and I mean nervous, was my last new meet. We were both looking for different things, we just got chatting from a comment he made about my profile and he asked me for coffee.

First time in my life I cared if someone liked me, if I was too fat. That was five years ago...he's snoring beside me!

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth. "

I get disgusted with myself sometimes, am really quite nervous too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being found out !

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Very sad and disturbing, the number of women on here who have had not just bad but genuinely frightening experiences. Be more careful ffs!

Victim blaming at its finest

Exactly what I was going to say. It shouldn’t be down to the woman to be more careful but to the man to not be a total twat

Bollocks! Why shouldn't a woman take care of her own safety? Ridiculous thing to say.

Seems to me like they already *are* doing a fair bit to try and make it as safe as possible.

Short of carrying mace or not meeting at all, what is it you suggest they are neglecting to do?

Nothing. Just that we all are responsible for our own safety. The guy I was quoting said it wasn't down to the woman to be more careful. I completely disagree with that. "

I didn’t say it WASN’T down to the woman, I said it SHOULDN’T be down to the woman - meaning it’s disgusting that there are bad people out there and we all have to worry about things like this. I actually went on to explain in that in another post which you seem to have chosen to ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do hotels. Sorry but anyone can hire a room. Doesn't mean that's their bank card / details used to pay for it. I suspect most hotels don't care who stays in their rooms!

After a daytime social, if we like each other well meet up again at his house. I'm only looking for guys who accommodate and live alone. Much safer.

I give my best friend his address, car reg and photo of him. I also call her once I'm at his house and once again when I'm home.

If the guy is dodgy with wrong intentions, he wouldn't give me his address and other personal info/face pic. He probably wouldn't of met me for that daytime public social.

In all the time I've been on fab, they way I meet, has never caused me any harm nor have I felt unsafe.

Had a few iffy social meets. That was were he simply didn't look like his photos. I soon left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taking my clothes off

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No worries but I'm deterred by guys who cum too quickly. A meet is no big deal - if you are respectful and offer yourself, it's pot luck that someone eventually may have different tastes. It's an hour or two of life, it's no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether or not they’ll get cum in my hair. It’ll ruin the colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feeling awkward and needing to do one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont tend to worry at all, i enjoy relaxed consensual fun, im open minded and will try anything. At the end of the day i think we are all secretly the same. That said i respect everyone, respect your limits, your boundaries, your privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Falling head over heels for that person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!"

What saying things like ‘You at the back, in the blue shirt, with the t trousers. No, not you, the gentlemen next to you, yes you !’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!"

Cant agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!

What saying things like ‘You at the back, in the blue shirt, with the t trousers. No, not you, the gentlemen next to you, yes you !’"

That made me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!

What saying things like ‘You at the back, in the blue shirt, with the t trousers. No, not you, the gentlemen next to you, yes you !’"

Haha - pretty much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!"

Had this once. It was such hard work. I never shut up anyway and even I struggled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!

Had this once. It was such hard work. I never shut up anyway and even I struggled! "

I’m also pretty shit at not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings so would end up suffering until the bitter end rather than making an excuse to leave early

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Whether conversation will be flat and I’ll have to do my David Dimbleby impression and keep asking questions without any reciprocation. Nothing worse than meeting someone with fuck all to say!!

What saying things like ‘You at the back, in the blue shirt, with the t trousers. No, not you, the gentlemen next to you, yes you !’"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is she an axe murderer?i had that worry a couple weeks back she wasnt tho"

That was good. What did she think of your chopper?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he’ll really like my big fuller figure in person... if the chemistry will be there...

it’s all in the kissing for me, that’s when I know if it will work or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unmet expectations/disappointment (about a range of things), I guess. It’s just a fear factor that builds preemptively, but isn’t really rooted from anything tangible or rational. "

This. Always this. And not just about meets but anything out of the ordinary routine... anxiety kills me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For men I’m guessing it’s the pressure of not getting it up and blowing your beans early doors. For women it’s probably whether you can fit his shaft and balls in your mouth. "

Whether it will be worth not fucking my fwb that day... Hence why I rarely bother with anyone else these days

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