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Why is it so hard for genuine men to get meets ?

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By *enuine Gent 4 fun OP   Man
over a year ago

norwich

I'm wondering if there's a trick to getting meets I don't know about ?

I've seen some ladies comment in the married men with single profiles and the single men who are just time wasters or liars !

I must say Not all men lie !

I'm as honest and as genuine as they come and try to put that across in my msgs (I try to add something from their profile) looking for play times but since I've been on here I've had no play other than clubs !

I add a face pic to msgs and only msg if we match ie: if they don't meet smokers I don't msg.

I've genuine verifications from single ladies and couples !

Do ladies even read them ?

How does a genuine guy get a local playmate on here ??

Seems impossible !

Any ladies like to help with serious advice ?

Thanks in advance

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Supply & demand, male saturation of site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, you seem to be doing alright for yourself, any tips..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have verifications OP..

In fabland that's being successful

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

There is no secret!

Patience, respect and empathy help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no magic trick.

If someone is attracted to you they'll engage with you. If they're not then they won't. It's really that simple.

Just because you match what they're looking for in principle doesn't mean they won't have another 100 guys with the same credentials in their inbox.

Your approach seems reasonable to me and I'd be more inclined to reply to a message like yours if I liked your pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not hard but having genuine in your name doesnt mean you are ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need a verification

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By *enuine Gent 4 fun OP   Man
over a year ago

norwich

Only meets are at clubs I'm looking for 1 on 1 meets and or fuck buddy and someone to go to clubs with to play as a couple.

I would prefer to meet 1 lady for all the above !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Don't be honest and genuine the successful ones play mind games and are c^^t's...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering if there's a trick to getting meets I don't know about ?

I've seen some ladies comment in the married men with single profiles and the single men who are just time wasters or liars !

I must say Not all men lie !

I'm as honest and as genuine as they come and try to put that across in my msgs (I try to add something from their profile) looking for play times but since I've been on here I've had no play other than clubs !

I add a face pic to msgs and only msg if we match ie: if they don't meet smokers I don't msg.

I've genuine verifications from single ladies and couples !

Do ladies even read them ?

How does a genuine guy get a local playmate on here ??

Seems impossible !

Any ladies like to help with serious advice ?

Thanks in advance "

It's not relevant, but I'd love you to put 'The Next Day' on that white rectangle over your face.

Good luck here.

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By *enuine Gent 4 fun OP   Man
over a year ago

norwich

Thank you Dotty

Pity you aren't local lol

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

I read profiles before messages many times I rarely look at verifications as so many are fake its what that person says about themselves that counts more for me. There are a lot more men to women I get that but then only 1 in 20 men make a full effort with messages and profiles so the guys who do i find are the successful ones.

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By *enuine Gent 4 fun OP   Man
over a year ago

norwich

That was the reason I changed my name to hint at what I am !!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Don't be honest and genuine the successful ones play mind games and are c^^t's..."
new terminology for that called fuckboy apparently

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Don't be honest and genuine the successful ones play mind games and are c^^t's... new terminology for that called fuckboy apparently "

Oh really...I've not met him yet but there's still time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply & demand, male saturation of site"

Agree!... blokes in the Chester area are 10 a penny!...

You need to stand out a little!... Women have the pick of the herd on here and it sounds like as soon as you send them a pic of your dish they lose interest?

You need to be more attractive?

@OP btw... am not going off in a tangent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience....

Unless your one of the guys with loads of dubious feedback that basically stick their Willy in a crack in a pavement if given half a chance

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t think there’s a secret. It’s just being persistent and polite. Some weeks/months are better than others.

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By *hyevernotMan
over a year ago

Here and there

It's tricky. The best way is to have verifications and don't get too pushy or needy. Can be a catch 22 when you don't have any meets and therefore no verifications but keep at it. Never think less of yourself if people don't reply or say they don't want to meet. Always take the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune with a shrug and a smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no secret to getting meets.

Women either fancy you and want to meet, or they don’t, and that’s it.

Best thing you can do is be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering if there's a trick to getting meets I don't know about ?

I've seen some ladies comment in the married men with single profiles and the single men who are just time wasters or liars !

I must say Not all men lie !

I'm as honest and as genuine as they come and try to put that across in my msgs (I try to add something from their profile) looking for play times but since I've been on here I've had no play other than clubs !

I add a face pic to msgs and only msg if we match ie: if they don't meet smokers I don't msg.

I've genuine verifications from single ladies and couples !

Do ladies even read them ?

How does a genuine guy get a local playmate on here ??

Seems impossible !

Any ladies like to help with serious advice ?

Thanks in advance "
It's not easy, personality and patience are two attributes you also need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps because literally no women on here have the word "genuine" in their name

But I'm sure there's a Mrs Genuine for you out there somewhere op

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I need a verification "

You get those by meeting other verified members, not by advertising!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Stop trying so hard, seriously. When I stopped looking for sex on here I started to enjoy it a lot more and now I have more sex than ever.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"I'm wondering if there's a trick to getting meets I don't know about ?

I've seen some ladies comment in the married men with single profiles and the single men who are just time wasters or liars !

I must say Not all men lie !

I'm as honest and as genuine as they come and try to put that across in my msgs (I try to add something from their profile) looking for play times but since I've been on here I've had no play other than clubs !

I add a face pic to msgs and only msg if we match ie: if they don't meet smokers I don't msg.

I've genuine verifications from single ladies and couples !

Do ladies even read them ?

How does a genuine guy get a local playmate on here ??

Seems impossible !

Any ladies like to help with serious advice ?

Thanks in advance "

I'm pretty sure there are other threads asking a very similar question.

Often the folk asking look for other reasons for their lack of perceived success when often the reason is far closer to home.

and those folk saying ladies have lots of choice.. **news flash** guys have just the same choices..yes please or no thanks

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