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Why do goys write one liners as an introduction first message

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By *arc1one OP   Man
over a year ago

oxford

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Oh. This is a new topic that hasn't come up before.

That's my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t need long first messages, just a quick hello and face pic so I can see if I’d like to chat.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

minimum effort for a quick shag ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do some don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some shouldnt bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they have previously spent time writing full paragraphs with sentences structured with many clauses, only to find them deleted unread.

Or, they are lazy like me.

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By *oy man 2Man
over a year ago

g

Sometimes it’s not worth doing a long message as most don’t get answers anyway, at least if you do a short one and they reply, then answer with a longer one,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you know whether to read it or delete it by the first line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they have previously spent time writing full paragraphs with sentences structured with many clauses, only to find them deleted unread.

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This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will amount to the same thing as a long one no doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To save time lol

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

You really need to ask? Is it not obvious?

Their success rate has been very low if not zero, despite tailored well thought out messages. Not even an acknowledgement from the other parties. So over time they start to message as many people as possible, but this does mean a shorter generic message will have to be used if you are cutting and pasting.

Patience might be a virtue, but its not really in infinite supply. Others just give up entirely. Also you need to ask yourself, what men come on this sight? There are plenty on here solely because they struggle to meet and communicate with women in real life. They are told or have been led to believe, this place is the best way to get laid as its full of women wanting sex. They then presume this means their standards are as low as theirs.

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By *arc1one OP   Man
over a year ago

oxford


"You really need to ask? Is it not obvious?

Their success rate has been very low if not zero, despite tailored well thought out messages. Not even an acknowledgement from the other parties. So over time they start to message as many people as possible, but this does mean a shorter generic message will have to be used if you are cutting and pasting.

Patience might be a virtue, but its not really in infinite supply. Others just give up entirely. Also you need to ask yourself, what men come on this sight? There are plenty on here solely because they struggle to meet and communicate with women in real life. They are told or have been led to believe, this place is the best way to get laid as its full of women wanting sex. They then presume this means their standards are as low as theirs.

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Not asking just a Topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont message first.

When women message a simple hello, a compliment and a pic is sufficient. No need for essays and life storys

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Read the title of this thread.

Its a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what is a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it doesn't take a big long speal to get a conversation going x

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Why do birds suddenly appear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's easier than writing two

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I always write several lines. If The person/people yourewriting to have a reasonable amount of information in their profile, it's easy to write a decent length first message.

If all a profile has is "fill in later" or is blank then it's more challenging to write more than one line; and, if they don't think that writing much is important, they won't be expecting much to be written to them (not accounting for Fab-double standards).

Also, when you write well thought out decent length messages that get deleted time after time the incentive to continue doing so disappears.

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Because it's difficult to type whilst simultaneously wanking over the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t need long first messages, just a quick hello and face pic so I can see if I’d like to chat. "

I normally write a couple of paragraphs. Hmm! Perhaps that’s were I’m going wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done one liners, I've done essays, I've done personalised mesages with a face and most of the time it's still the same outcome but it is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done one liners, I've done essays, I've done personalised mesages with a face and most of the time it's still the same outcome but it is what it is"
do you bake? They love cake

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Doesn't a simple " FAF " work then ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done one liners, I've done essays, I've done personalised mesages with a face and most of the time it's still the same outcome but it is what it isdo you bake? They love cake "

I don't bake but I can buy cake and supply it on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It easy guys use one liners because that how to start off a conversation.

Women don't go out to a bar and some guy comes over for a chat and he just goes on and on and on about him self.

It the same on here it just a short message to say hi like normal people start a conversation.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I don’t need long first messages, just a quick hello and face pic so I can see if I’d like to chat. "

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were in two minds whether to say boys or guys wernt you Op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we are men of few words...

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading


"I dont message first.

When women message a simple hello, a compliment and a pic is sufficient. No need for essays and life storys"

What? Women messaging first? Unheard of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my messages from women are a couple of words.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think a lot of the length of an introduction has to do with the detail (or not as the case may be) on the profile of the person they are messaging. After all how much can you write to a profile with a picture of a bum and a text that simply reads '40yr old women looking fun'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It easy guys use one liners because that how to start off a conversation.

Women don't go out to a bar and some guy comes over for a chat and he just goes on and on and on about him self.

It the same on here it just a short message to say hi like normal people start a conversation. "

Normal people.........

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

could take your time and write a lovely well thought out message and still not get a reply, so a short hello and then if you get a reply you can send better longer messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It easy guys use one liners because that how to start off a conversation.

Women don't go out to a bar and some guy comes over for a chat and he just goes on and on and on about him self.

It the same on here it just a short message to say hi like normal people start a conversation.

Normal people......... "

Good point. A conversation is a two way thing. I think some women want you to show case yourself on the first message.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Why bother what or how others use the site..

I write messages in a manner that others wouldn't each to their own.

If your approach works keep doing it, if it's not change something.

P.S.

I've said it before no amount of words would change a ladies mind if that person didn't find you attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother what or how others use the site..

I write messages in a manner that others wouldn't each to their own.

If your approach works keep doing it, if it's not change something.

P.S.

I've said it before no amount of words would change a ladies mind if that person didn't find you attractive."

Not sure about that. I met someone a while ago and I wasn’t really feeling a spark. We stayed friends and been chatting for ages and I’m starting to change my mind a little bit now so not always true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hello.. look at my profile..get in touch if you're interested .. should be enough

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading


"I think a lot of the length of an introduction has to do with the detail (or not as the case may be) on the profile of the person they are messaging. After all how much can you write to a profile with a picture of a bum and a text that simply reads '40yr old women looking fun'?"

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Why bother what or how others use the site..

I write messages in a manner that others wouldn't each to their own.

If your approach works keep doing it, if it's not change something.

P.S.

I've said it before no amount of words would change a ladies mind if that person didn't find you attractive.

Not sure about that. I met someone a while ago and I wasn’t really feeling a spark. We stayed friends and been chatting for ages and I’m starting to change my mind a little bit now so not always true. "

Why did you meet him though his message or his picture.. Initially you thought ?

I've messaged folk exchanged pictures thought I like the look of them .. met folk and not felt a spark .. I can only say from my perspective words ain't gonna change that.. I might stay friends maybe to chat maybe not.

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

Be cus I can t spel niver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"minimum effort for a quick shag ? "

And yet plenty still fail!

I don’t really like one liners, and I don’t like long “all about me” messages either.

A nice introduction from someone I fancy, does well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why bother what or how others use the site..

I write messages in a manner that others wouldn't each to their own.

If your approach works keep doing it, if it's not change something.

P.S.

I've said it before no amount of words would change a ladies mind if that person didn't find you attractive.

Not sure about that. I met someone a while ago and I wasn’t really feeling a spark. We stayed friends and been chatting for ages and I’m starting to change my mind a little bit now so not always true.

Why did you meet him though his message or his picture.. Initially you thought ?

I've messaged folk exchanged pictures thought I like the look of them .. met folk and not felt a spark .. I can only say from my perspective words ain't gonna change that.. I might stay friends maybe to chat maybe not. "

I’ve met loads for a drink and only ever felt a spark with two. I’m not sure, it’s strange. He’s sort of grown on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel sorry for some. No doubt some have written well thought out messages over time, only for them to be deleted or left unread. I'm not surprised that some get disillusioned and resort to one liners, because the can't be arsed to make an effort anymore.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Why bother what or how others use the site..

I write messages in a manner that others wouldn't each to their own.

If your approach works keep doing it, if it's not change something.

P.S.

I've said it before no amount of words would change a ladies mind if that person didn't find you attractive.

Not sure about that. I met someone a while ago and I wasn’t really feeling a spark. We stayed friends and been chatting for ages and I’m starting to change my mind a little bit now so not always true.

Why did you meet him though his message or his picture.. Initially you thought ?

I've messaged folk exchanged pictures thought I like the look of them .. met folk and not felt a spark .. I can only say from my perspective words ain't gonna change that.. I might stay friends maybe to chat maybe not.

I’ve met loads for a drink and only ever felt a spark with two. I’m not sure, it’s strange. He’s sort of grown on me. "

If attraction wasn't important folk wouldn't ask for face pictures ..I can only think of one poster who says she's no t bothered about exchanging face pictures ..

Attraction captures my attention, their words maintain my interest.

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