FabSwingers.com forum: How do you like your men?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

1. Overly Generous - pays or offers to pay for everything

2. Not Too Generous - makes you pay your way. Treats you as an equal. Obviously gets you gifts and treats now and then, but bills, holidays etc split 50/50....

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Suppose I better say number 2 eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offers to pay but accepts graciously when I insist on paying my share.

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

Midium rare

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I include meals out in the treats section. Standard a man pays for that. Unless it's his birthday.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Overly Generous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like mine tall dark and handsome with a muscular frame

That’s what I’m here for....but I will accept him buying me a drink if we have a social

MrsK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Served up with fava beans and a nice chianti.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Option two, but he buys the first round.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Option two, but he buys the first round. "

See if disagree. I think the woman should buy the first round. Equal Opportunities and all that. Also it's a fun twist to start the evening. Not the norm. An ice breaker.

Go up to a lady at the bar and ask her if she believes in equal opportunities between men and women. She will say yes and you say mines a pint, thanks

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number 2. Though number 1 can be nice sometimes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like mine tall dark and handsome with a muscular frame

That’s what I’m here for....but I will accept him buying me a drink if we have a social

MrsK "

I'll buy you a drink and some pork scratchings

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Politically correct to say number 2 but I can’t say i would hate to be treated like a princess lol

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

#2. I feel horribly awkward if someone insists on paying for everything. It would actually put me off doing things with someone if they wouldn't let me pay my way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offers to pay but accepts graciously when I insist on paying my share. "

Exactly what I was going to say!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Offers to pay but accepts graciously when I insist on paying my share.

Exactly what I was going to say! "

Only fair x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite

If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer

If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that

I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite

If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer

If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that

I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted "

Is this just meet based? If I was having a social, i would take it in turns. I wouldn't want to feel like I owed anyone something, if it was a fab meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"#2. I feel horribly awkward if someone insists on paying for everything. It would actually put me off doing things with someone if they wouldn't let me pay my way."

That's my point exactly. Why should a man have to pay for it all? That's excepting that there's a difference between men and women. Apart from the obvious there shouldn't a difference. Of course it's tradition for the man to pay, that's all in the past. With all this talk about equal pay they can afford it as much as the men now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out when I get there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like mine tall dark and handsome with a muscular frame

That’s what I’m here for....but I will accept him buying me a drink if we have a social

MrsK

I'll buy you a drink and some pork scratchings

How did you know that I love a good porking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite

If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer

If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that

I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted "

Best to pick a place with free refills and stay for 12 hours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite

If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer

If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that

I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted

Best to pick a place with free refills and stay for 12 hours.

I don't drink so that'd be perfect. I'd definitely buy the first round in that case... that means the meals on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite

If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer

If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that

I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted

Is this just meet based? If I was having a social, i would take it in turns. I wouldn't want to feel like I owed anyone something, if it was a fab meet. "

Yeah, if it was non-Fab friends based I'd usually offer to pay and then a friend would pay next time

Even with a Fab friends meet though, I do like paying, but I wouldn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable with me doing so, so if they asked to pay something then I'd accept

That said, most of my socials have been daytime coffee shop meets

If I was goibg to meet someone who expected a meal out, wining, dining etc. then I'd probably approach the subject of payment before we even met

Certainly in the first instance

Does that make sense ?

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

50/50 why on earth would I want a man to pay more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite

If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer

If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that

I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted

Best to pick a place with free refills and stay for 12 hours.

I did think that when I saw you'd posted above me

We will bankrupt the place next time

They owe us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the term makes you pay your way.

I like to buy drinks as much as the next man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he buys the tea, I buy the cake.

If he pays entrance to the cinema I buy the munch.

If he buys the condoms I bring the lube.