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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was supposed to be out tonight but I’m not feeling 100%, so I’ve made my excuses and updated my friend that I can’t come. There’ll be others there so it doesn’t mean a cancellation of their entire evening, but I feel flakey and guilty for letting them down.

Why does bailing on someone feel so sucky?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time waster!!

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I was supposed to be out tonight but I’m not feeling 100%, so I’ve made my excuses and updated my friend that I can’t come. There’ll be others there so it doesn’t mean a cancellation of their entire evening, but I feel flakey and guilty for letting them down.

Why does bailing on someone feel so sucky?

"

Because we don't like to think we are letting people down combined with caring/ emotional/hormonal things.. I hope you feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was supposed to be out tonight but I’m not feeling 100%, so I’ve made my excuses and updated my friend that I can’t come. There’ll be others there so it doesn’t mean a cancellation of their entire evening, but I feel flakey and guilty for letting them down.

Why does bailing on someone feel so sucky?

"

Because you don’t want them to think you’re a flake.

And fomo.

And you should’ve gone.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

On a school night? How?!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Because you care and have empathy. Not a bad thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was supposed to be out tonight but I’m not feeling 100%, so I’ve made my excuses and updated my friend that I can’t come. There’ll be others there so it doesn’t mean a cancellation of their entire evening, but I feel flakey and guilty for letting them down.

Why does bailing on someone feel so sucky?

Because we don't like to think we are letting people down combined with caring/ emotional/hormonal things.. I hope you feel better soon. "

Yes. I hate that feeling of having to look after me at the cost of someone else not being happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was supposed to be out tonight but I’m not feeling 100%, so I’ve made my excuses and updated my friend that I can’t come. There’ll be others there so it doesn’t mean a cancellation of their entire evening, but I feel flakey and guilty for letting them down.

Why does bailing on someone feel so sucky?

Because you don’t want them to think you’re a flake.

And fomo.

And you should’ve gone."

True dat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On a school night? How?!"

Worse. I have had today and have tomorrow off. Mostly so I had energy to go to this party. But the “stop” of having time off has meant the strike of the unwells got me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because you care and have empathy. Not a bad thing "

I’m a bit cunty, I did let them down.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Stop beating yourself up.

Your friend is still going out. And a true friend will understand.

If there are other people there, they probably won't be that bothered to be honest.

Unless you're a serial canceller..that can be annoying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stop beating yourself up.

Your friend is still going out. And a true friend will understand.

If there are other people there, they probably won't be that bothered to be honest.

Unless you're a serial canceller..that can be annoying."

Yep, you’re absolutely right!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"On a school night? How?!

Worse. I have had today and have tomorrow off. Mostly so I had energy to go to this party. But the “stop” of having time off has meant the strike of the unwells got me. "

Used to happen to me everytime I took time off. Day one, sore throat. Day two, Hebola. Nice one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On a school night? How?!

Worse. I have had today and have tomorrow off. Mostly so I had energy to go to this party. But the “stop” of having time off has meant the strike of the unwells got me.

Used to happen to me everytime I took time off. Day one, sore throat. Day two, Hebola. Nice one!"

Yikes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling the need to bail on my LTP tonight.

I'm tired and aching, about an hour behind, he lives an hour and a half minimum away from me and I don't drive.

I don't feel bad for him as he might not get back from work in time any way, but I want the sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm feeling the need to bail on my LTP tonight.

I'm tired and aching, about an hour behind, he lives an hour and a half minimum away from me and I don't drive.

I don't feel bad for him as he might not get back from work in time any way, but I want the sex."

Can he come to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put yourself first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm feeling the need to bail on my LTP tonight.

I'm tired and aching, about an hour behind, he lives an hour and a half minimum away from me and I don't drive.

I don't feel bad for him as he might not get back from work in time any way, but I want the sex.

Can he come to you?"

No, my son is home. He does now and then.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

You shouldn't feel guilty OP for bailing out especially if you're not feeling 100 percent and I'm sure your friend will understand and you can make it to them next time you see them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put yourself first."

I did.

Being run down is a yawn fest though. It’s annoying because if I’d stayed working this week, the adrenaline would have probably carried me through and I’d be out partying. I got old, my duvet, an orange ice lolly and the forum is where it’s at.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm feeling the need to bail on my LTP tonight.

I'm tired and aching, about an hour behind, he lives an hour and a half minimum away from me and I don't drive.

I don't feel bad for him as he might not get back from work in time any way, but I want the sex.

Can he come to you?

No, my son is home. He does now and then. "

Nods. Gotcha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You shouldn't feel guilty OP for bailing out especially if you're not feeling 100 percent and I'm sure your friend will understand and you can make it to them next time you see them."

You’re right. And they’ve been lovely (which makes me feel worse, damn my lovely friends!)

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