FabSwingers.com forum: Have you changed?

By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

Just north of Bristol

If you’ve been on here a while has what you’re looking for changed? If so, in what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it definitely has.

I know myself better than before thanks to the experiences I have encountered on here.

Discovered that I love having sex behind supermarket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I assumed I’d be attracted to men my own age. I never really was out with fab, but I assumed that was because I’ve been in a relationship for so long and didn’t look at anybody like that.

Turns out nope, still not attracted to men my own age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined I assumed I’d be attracted to men my own age. I never really was out with fab, but I assumed that was because I’ve been in a relationship for so long and didn’t look at anybody like that.

Turns out nope, still not attracted to men my own age "

I'm just not attracted to men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns out nope, still not attracted to men my own age

I'm just not attracted to men

Did you think you were before joining?

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

Nope, what I'm looking for remains the same.

Ms GR

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Absolutely. I think, like with most things, my tastes have become more 'refined' the longer I'm here. I should point out that that doesn't mean I'll only shag people with a peerage and a plummy accent

just that I have a much clearer sense of what I do and don't like, and a better appreciation of it when I do find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it has changed for me.

I look at younger people than I did in the beginning. Started around two, three years of my age, now hovering around fifteen.

Interesting to know if that's increasing confidence in me or availability/choice in the age groups - still working that one out.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yep it has. We're now soft swing and want an element of bdsm and role play to our meets. We also want a strong social element to our fab experience.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I thought I was reasonably attractive.

Illusions shattered

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I joined to meet young fit blokes for one offs as my then partner wanted me to. By the time I’d really got my head around fab I was single and decided to stay after I met a really lovely guy who told me about the forums. Both the guy and the forums made me feel like this was a place I’d like to stay. Things change and evolve and I’m absolutely loving the adventure for the most part. Just enjoying the ride while it lasts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still got no idea just go by instinct its served me well

I know some things i cant do now tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns out nope, still not attracted to men my own age

I'm just not attracted to men

Did you think you were before joining?"

No, I have never had that head turning, butterflies in stomach moment as I have with some women. But doesn't mean I don't admire if a male is attractive, in my opinion of male attractiveness'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, massively

When I first joined (circa 2010) I was in full predator mode and met and shagged a lot of people

The buzz on the site and in the forums in particular was contagious. I couldn't get enough of the site or its members

8 years on, my mojo for meets has all but disappeared, the characters I met have all but disappeared and there is no one (yet) that has sparked any interest to take things further than maybe a few messages

All that said, I have changed

I've got that bit older with different priorities in life, 99.9% of which are away from here

I don't have the stamina to stay out til 4am shagging and then go in work at 7 and do a full days work

I used to accom. No way would I now have someone from here in my house.

My confidence levels have waned, my patience levels have dropped, my tolerance for dickheads and chancers certainly has

I come here now daily, but for short bursts and with no intention save for a quick browse round

So yeah, I've changed

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Not really, as I joined as a tv nothing has really changed

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

Just north of Bristol

When I joined I was just wanting one off nsa sex with women. I’m now more interested in finding people I can connect with and develop friendship with, and meet more than once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The journey is still on going and the interests are becoming a bit more defined. We definitely make sure we are all understanding of each other's boundaries more before we physically connect. We don't get upset if things don't turn out the way we thought they would, timewasters and wankers mostly. We have found some great friends in and out of the bedroom that we can have good sexy conversations with. I'm sure the journey will go on and change over the years but fab is fab nothing more or less and enjoying it still. Male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, and I can't tell whether that's a good or a bad thing...

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Not really but then its only swinging/sex I don't see why that should change me its just part of my life not all my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My expectations of meets are much higher now. I was a bit bamboozled by all the "fresh meat" attention when I first joined a few years ago, but am much clearer now about what I want from Fab and the people I want to spend time with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined years and years ago , I've left and came back a few times . Various incarnations of Taff ha ha .

I started by wanting and looking for NSA fun and sex . Then I had an experience which changed me compleatly. With a not to happy ending

Now I am just happy to chat in the forums , make some splendid friends and enjoy an occasional social with friends old and new

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

I'm having more fun on here now I have started using the forums and will hopefully start going to a few socials soon and who knows maybe make a new friend or two.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I used to go for purely looks when i first started on my journey. I now still won't sleep with Anything,but personality is a lot higher on the list,if not top. No wait...looks are still top but that alone won't ensure a meet. I like to talk more and socialise more. Think that's more down to the "honeymoon period " has totally worn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Ive learnt i do have a ideal type of woman.

Im much more choosy now

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have definitely changed.

When I joined, I had things I was curious about, stuff I'd thought about alot but never had the opportunity to try. I've been lucky that I've ticked quite a lot off my list.

I knew I didn't want meaningless sex, one offs with random strangers, if I wanted that I could walk into any pub & pull a fella.

I wasn't looking for a relationship but I wanted to meet people, actually build friendships with, develop trust & be able to explore with.

I've learnt that even on here people will lie to get what they want, put on a fake image for the public.

I was probably naive when I first joined, assumed that on a site like this there would be no need for lies, people would be open & honest about their intentions rather than string someone along with bullshit & false promises.

As a result my attitude is has changed, I definitely become more cynical, tougher & hardened up, but I've also realised my own worth & value, my confidence has grown.

I don't have an ego, I'm far from vain, even though I've been accused of that several times this week.

I now know what I like, and what I don't, people that may have intrested me 18mths ago, no longer do.

That's not an ego, that's growing, evolving & changing.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I'm pretty sure I've changed, not from Fab particularly, but just from swinging

When I first started to swing, I was shaky and uncertain and obviously inexperienced. Since then (after nearly 10 years of swinging) I've learnt a few things ..... specifically,

- wanting and enjoying LOTS of sex is nothing to be ashamed of

- sex with women is great fun just as it is with men

- a lot of taboos aren't really "taboo" they're just not everyone's cuppa

- the lines between sex and love are grey not black n white

- one can have great friends, yet have sex with them and remain gr8 friends

- one can have great sex partners yet not be great friends with them

- society puts too much emphasis on monogamy, it's totally unnatural

- I love bisexual men, especially in pairs

And a few others LOL

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

Nope

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yep, I've changed massively. Before Fab and at the start of it I wasn't really interested in a long term relationship - especially not with a man. Now I'm embracing the whole thing. I also wasn't particularly interested in getting to know people beforehand or forming friendships but now I'd say I actively seek and enjoy that side of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes when I first come on (9 yes ago) I was here as a couple meeting couples. Then meeting singles while part of a couple. Then we split up then I got with someone from fab and we were a couple who just met woman then we split. Then I was a single meeting just woman, then met some men. Now I am just a bit of a social butterfly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always here for the sex..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely.. we originally started off a pure “watching only couple” now we’re soft swap and basically do everything other than oral and full swap... but how long that lasts for is another question...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence has improved. I feel sexier and happier in myself. Before being on here, I thought I wasn't much to look at but talking to several highly attractive people, I'm realising that I'm quite a good looking lad. And confidence helps loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a bit. And I doubt I ever will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm still looking for and being largely unsuccessful in getting sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you’ve been on here a while has what you’re looking for changed? If so, in what way? "

I've given up. What I'm looking for doesn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely. I think, like with most things, my tastes have become more 'refined' the longer I'm here. I should point out that that doesn't mean I'll only shag people with a peerage and a plummy accent

just that I have a much clearer sense of what I do and don't like, and a better appreciation of it when I do find it

Exactly how I feel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns out nope, still not attracted to men my own age "
theres hope for me yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has turned me into a bitter shadow of my former self.

I get far less fucks but better banter in the forums.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Definitely changed, I've become more confident and I'm loving the social side

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