FabSwingers.com forum: Just wanted to say. Things get better!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

5 years and 5 days ago today I very nearly lost my life to my own doing, feeling like life couldn't get any worse and wanting finished with it all I jumped Infront of a ford transit van, and very nearly lost my life. fractured skull, ruptured ear drum, broken cheek bone, and bleeding on the brain. I was hospitalised for weeks, one year later I was living in my own place on my own and have always had a stable job That set's me up for life.

It just goes to show when you think things can't get any worse And the days will never better them selves, things will ALWAYS! Move on and steady them it's self out.

If any one out there is feeling down or shitty rember there's always a better future ahead of the day you can't seem to see past hold it down and keep your chin up!

One love! Peace of the mind love of others around you and prosperity of your self!

I use this moment to Handle my greif even more so now then ever!

IV posted this as a reply to another thread, as IV noticed alot of people carrying alot of pain. but if I can give adleast one person today, a sense of some hope then it's worth it!

Soo there you go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done mate

Hope the future is just as bright as the present

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I wanna give you a massive high 5 for this thread.

The sun does shine again.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Pleased to hear you are feeling so much better now. Thanks for sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have dark times fell its good to see you came through it and there is light at the end of the tunnel I hole your story gives comfort to others going through bad times.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Thank you, for sharing your very personal story, sharing your pain and sharing your words of encouragement.

And for anyone who complains that this is a sex site, not a social site...you are so wrong.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

And for anyone who complains that this is a sex site, not a social site...you are so wrong."

Couldn't have said that better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said that man. When were in a dark place we just can't see any light at the end of the tunnel. But it's there patiently waiting for us to move towards it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very glad you got yourself out of your dark place, as so many don't.

Seeing that it can be done can inspire people and give them hope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As the skies rain red and the blue turn to pink can't quite quench my thirst feel cursed with what I drink Reality no fine wine the hen blink As my world falls apart in the end I don't sink and you shouldn't either!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you, for sharing your very personal story, sharing your pain and sharing your words of encouragement.

And for anyone who complains that this is a sex site, not a social site...you are so wrong."

Well they must call it the lounge for a reason! I'm just lounging around

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And for anyone who complains that this is a sex site, not a social site...you are so wrong.

Couldn't have said that better

More times then not social time leads to sex, or so the woman keep telling me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad you managed to find your light and follow it to a happier you, hopefully your words will inspire someone else to do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So glad you found your way out and are in a better place now. There is light at the end of the tunnel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on mastering the demons pal.

You’ve described our attitude perfectly there, peace love and bananas to you.

Everybody needs somebody sometimes, be that somebody for someone people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done on mastering the demons pal.

You’ve described our attitude perfectly there, peace love and bananas to you.

Everybody needs somebody sometimes, be that somebody for someone people

I like that you sound like Gandhi a bit, be the change in the world you'd like to see in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done bro we need more people like you in this world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done on mastering the demons pal.

You’ve described our attitude perfectly there, peace love and bananas to you.

Everybody needs somebody sometimes, be that somebody for someone people

I like that you sound like Gandhi a bit, be the change in the world you'd like to see in it! "

Exactly, although....

You wouldn’t catch me in open toe footwear!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done on mastering the demons pal.

You’ve described our attitude perfectly there, peace love and bananas to you.

Everybody needs somebody sometimes, be that somebody for someone people

I like that you sound like Gandhi a bit, be the change in the world you'd like to see in it!

Exactly, although....

You wouldn’t catch me in open toe footwear!"

And I bet Lacey is never drier then Gandhis flip flop!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You sound very switched on for your age,I hope you and the transit van driver have a bright future ahead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You sound very switched on for your age,I hope you and the transit van driver have a bright future ahead."

Indeed, and the driver is someone that played out heavy on my thoughts Patten, I'n the days after the incident. I did post on Facebook pages etc to try and get in contact with him. To speak in person with no luck, to let him know it was not his fault and make sure he was okay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life will throw shit at you. Sometimes even the most successful person who has made all the right choices can have everything unravel before their eyes. I was chatting with someone on here about this the other day. As people get older, and get more crap thrown at them, friends and family dying etc, they can become withdrawn or beaten down. And this is a point someone just made on another thread.

But the measure of who we are is in how much we bounce back from adversity, how much we refuse to lose hope, and how willing we are to energise ourselves, no matter what our age or situation, to make that change and start heading back towards the light. I am very much in that position right now and know several others out there are too. I'm proud to be swimming with the rest of you guys as we head up for fresh air

Well done op and thanks for starting such a brave and lovely thread

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

"Life will throw shit at you. Sometimes even the most successful person who has made all the right choices can have everything unravel before their eyes. I was chatting with someone on here about this the other day. As people get older, and get more crap thrown at them, friends and family dying etc, they can become withdrawn or beaten down. And this is a point someone just made on another thread.

Well done op and thanks for starting such a brave and lovely thread

It's not a measure of anybody. To suggest that someone who struggles to or fails to fight back against adversity or mental health is somehow less of a person is wrong. Mental health is a complicated issue and the treatment of it is still somewhat of a lottery, what works for one may not work for someone else.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"You sound very switched on for your age,I hope you and the transit van driver have a bright future ahead.

I've never been in a dark 'enough' place to want to take my own life,yes I've wanted to drive into a wall at high speed to stop feeling the way I do,but never thankfully that final step. I suppose when you are at that final step you can be oblivious to others.

I feel for the person who may be involved in your decision as well,but that's the past. Are you physically fit now?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well said that man!!

"Remember if you're going through hell right now, KEEP GOING!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you, for sharing your very personal story, sharing your pain and sharing your words of encouragement.

And for anyone who complains that this is a sex site, not a social site...you are so wrong."

True that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to read this dude

It’s hard for people to face their demons and sometimes people hit rock bottom,

I sometimes come across people in this position and I see the suffering it’s amazing to see when people return after facing danger and using the past to make stronger.

Well done again keep moving forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 years and 5 days ago today I very nearly lost my life to my own doing, feeling like life couldn't get any worse and wanting finished with it all I jumped Infront of a ford transit van, and very nearly lost my life. fractured skull, ruptured ear drum, broken cheek bone, and bleeding on the brain. I was hospitalised for weeks, one year later I was living in my own place on my own and have always had a stable job That set's me up for life.

It just goes to show when you think things can't get any worse And the days will never better them selves, things will ALWAYS! Move on and steady them it's self out.

If any one out there is feeling down or shitty rember there's always a better future ahead of the day you can't seem to see past hold it down and keep your chin up!

One love! Peace of the mind love of others around you and prosperity of your self!

I use this moment to Handle my greif even more so now then ever!

IV posted this as a reply to another thread, as IV noticed alot of people carrying alot of pain. but if I can give adleast one person today, a sense of some hope then it's worth it!

Soo there you go!"

This has made me cry, I can really relate to.this having been in some truly dark places in my life and wishing it was all over also.

You are an inspiration and to share your own journey so eloquently and with such strength is amazing to see.

Thank you so much for posting this.

Love, light and awesomeness to you and to all xxxx

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

"Well said that man!!

"Remember if you're going through hell right now, KEEP GOING!!""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for getting yourself out of that situation it takes strength and courage to talk about your feelings I hope that someone can take comfort from your words today OP

Ms B

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Thank you for sharing, OP.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

Well said OP and thanks for trying to give out some positive vibes on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well done op and thanks for starting such a brave and lovely thread

Indeed get knocked down 7 times stand up 8!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You sound very switched on for your age,I hope you and the transit van driver have a bright future ahead.

I feel for the person who may be involved in your decision as well,but that's the past. Are you physically fit now?"

I am fit as a fiddle can run 10k and everything

haha

Only thing I'd say is mentally, I'm missing an integral part all humans have. Fear of death. Fear in general. When you don't tell any one and your not looking for attention toying with and putting the idea of suicide in other people's head and you just do it. You lose something that I'm aware of.

Someone/something was smiling gracefully down upon me that day and weeks through recovery for what ever reason it was not my time to go.

I'll continue to try and follow the path set out for me as long as it goes, till it ends and I reach my dead end.

I find my self in reckless situations and I face everything head on. especially down to my believes death to me is something to be excited about but I'll hang on and not end it myself for my daughter's sake she's the only thing holding me here right now.

Death is the easy route I'm going to ride it out and find my self this is the most challenging thing for me and I like a challange!

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By *ill DoeMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

A good message to put out there on World mental health day. Good man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A good message to put out there on World mental health day. Good man

It's mental health day

thought that was few days ago?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Thanks for posting this op and well done you

Miss

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

It just goes to show when you think things can't get any worse And the days will never better them selves, things will ALWAYS! Move on and steady them it's self out.

If any one out there is feeling down or shitty rember there's always a better future ahead of the day you can't seem to see past hold it down and keep your chin up!

One love! Peace of the mind love of others around you and prosperity of your self!

I use this moment to Handle my greif even more so now then ever!

IV posted this as a reply to another thread, as IV noticed alot of people carrying alot of pain. but if I can give adleast one person today, a sense of some hope then it's worth it!

Soo there you go!"
well done and best off luck xx

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