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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW

I see it on here all the time. And cringe massively. But anyway. I have a warped self perception of myself. I lost a lot of weight in a very short amount of time but my brain hasn’t caught up with what’s happened physically. I know I’m reasonably attractive (my face isn’t offensive anyway) but I still see myself as large. I had a social last week and he was genuinely questioning why I had described myself as large on my profile. Is this just me? Am I abnormal?

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over a year ago


"I see it on here all the time. And cringe massively. But anyway. I have a warped self perception of myself. I lost a lot of weight in a very short amount of time but my brain hasn’t caught up with what’s happened physically. I know I’m reasonably attractive (my face isn’t offensive anyway) but I still see myself as large. I had a social last week and he was genuinely questioning why I had described myself as large on my profile. Is this just me? Am I abnormal? "

Nope. I think it’s how we’re comditioned to be. I read a lot of women’s profiles and (like me) don’t want to oversell themselves. Your profile pic is hot though xx

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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW


"I see it on here all the time. And cringe massively. But anyway. I have a warped self perception of myself. I lost a lot of weight in a very short amount of time but my brain hasn’t caught up with what’s happened physically. I know I’m reasonably attractive (my face isn’t offensive anyway) but I still see myself as large. I had a social last week and he was genuinely questioning why I had described myself as large on my profile. Is this just me? Am I abnormal?

Nope. I think it’s how we’re comditioned to be. I read a lot of women’s profiles and (like me) don’t want to oversell themselves. Your profile pic is hot though xx"

That pic is old! I’ve lost weight since then (I put a post on a few months ago about losing 10 stone in 12 months and about how I look now with the skin etc blah blah blah) but I can’t bring myself to describe myself as anything other than large because I’d be worried that if I described myself as ‘average’ I’d be put down and told I was large! If that makes sense. Just wondered if it was a common issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to correct a few women I've talked to but listed themselves as ample when they're really average or curvy. It seems to be a common thing. I was only just looking earlier at the profile of a slender woman who has listed herself as curvy, presumably because she feels she's got an hourglass figure.

The body naming system in here is a minefield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it on here all the time. And cringe massively. But anyway. I have a warped self perception of myself. I lost a lot of weight in a very short amount of time but my brain hasn’t caught up with what’s happened physically. I know I’m reasonably attractive (my face isn’t offensive anyway) but I still see myself as large. I had a social last week and he was genuinely questioning why I had described myself as large on my profile. Is this just me? Am I abnormal?

Nope. I think it’s how we’re comditioned to be. I read a lot of women’s profiles and (like me) don’t want to oversell themselves. Your profile pic is hot though xx

That pic is old! I’ve lost weight since then (I put a post on a few months ago about losing 10 stone in 12 months and about how I look now with the skin etc blah blah blah) but I can’t bring myself to describe myself as anything other than large because I’d be worried that if I described myself as ‘average’ I’d be put down and told I was large! If that makes sense. Just wondered if it was a common issue "

I forget I’ve put on weight sometimes ?? I fluctuate between size 12 and 16, for various reasons. I don’t ever feel “slim” though, always paranoid about my weight. I also have a large frame (swimmers shoulders) so I never look like a string bean, always curvy.

Beauty isn’t objective though, and confidence exudes sexiness. If you’ve been working hard at something, whatever it is, you should enjoy it xx

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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW


"I've had to correct a few women I've talked to but listed themselves as ample when they're really average or curvy. It seems to be a common thing. I was only just looking earlier at the profile of a slender woman who has listed herself as curvy, presumably because she feels she's got an hourglass figure.

The body naming system in here is a minefield "

Exactly. There’s so many ways to describe a body ... where do you stop? Had a little laugh at a post on here a few weeks ago about how they needed to add ‘gym fit’ because it is different to ‘athletic’ but seriously, where does it stop?!?

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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW


"I see it on here all the time. And cringe massively. But anyway. I have a warped self perception of myself. I lost a lot of weight in a very short amount of time but my brain hasn’t caught up with what’s happened physically. I know I’m reasonably attractive (my face isn’t offensive anyway) but I still see myself as large. I had a social last week and he was genuinely questioning why I had described myself as large on my profile. Is this just me? Am I abnormal?

Nope. I think it’s how we’re comditioned to be. I read a lot of women’s profiles and (like me) don’t want to oversell themselves. Your profile pic is hot though xx

That pic is old! I’ve lost weight since then (I put a post on a few months ago about losing 10 stone in 12 months and about how I look now with the skin etc blah blah blah) but I can’t bring myself to describe myself as anything other than large because I’d be worried that if I described myself as ‘average’ I’d be put down and told I was large! If that makes sense. Just wondered if it was a common issue

I forget I’ve put on weight sometimes ?? I fluctuate between size 12 and 16, for various reasons. I don’t ever feel “slim” though, always paranoid about my weight. I also have a large frame (swimmers shoulders) so I never look like a string bean, always curvy.

Beauty isn’t objective though, and confidence exudes sexiness. If you’ve been working hard at something, whatever it is, you should enjoy it xx"

Oh I ooze confidence. I will stand naked in front of anybody and if you don’t like it, that’s your problem. And your loss haha. Nothing embarrasses me. But the mind takes so long to catch up! Glad it’s not just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re fabulous, but thanks for the thread. It is nice to know it’s more common than you think xx

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By *orldSeller0Man
over a year ago

Craigavon

Well thats pretty understandable, i mean you were used to being a certain weight/body type for long time so now thats changed i guess it takes some time for your own self perception to catch up.

Self perception is a strange thing though i mean we all have a base opinion about ourselves.. I think of it kind of like a scale with our own personal base thoughts on ourselves in the middle and the positive and negative thoughts of others on you, on either side..

But like with anything in life its all about finding and maintaing that blanace. Too much positive reinforcement and you start to believe that you are untouchable god/godess and then on the other hand too many negative opinons and you could be on the verge of suicide.

I think overall we are who we believe ourselves to be. Wether that be right or wrong, justified or unjustified. The mind is the bodys greatest projector, you could have the body of adonis and still be weak and frail on the inside and then you could have a figure remincisent of humpty dumpty and be the happiest most secure person on the planet.

Sorry ive rattled on too long here but my advice to you is to just let go of that anchor in your mind.. Let your mind project what you see with your own eyes in the mirror everyday. x

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