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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you open about your life as a swinger ?

Are you open about the fact you have multiple sexual partners ?

If you have 'come out' has your experience been a positive or negative one in general ?

If you haven't, what keeps you in the closet (so to speak) ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a swinger just a mother fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of our friends know. We don’t exactly chat about it, a few of our female friends are very prudish and don’t discuss anything sexual (I get judged on night outs for discussing blumpkins and alaskan pipelines) but a few know.

And my ex-best friend knows, as I wanted advice before I jumped into doing anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger.. I’m the daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always try and keep our business to ourselves

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm not "out" about it for a couple of reasons - firstly it's never cropped up in conversation, and even if it did I'm not sure it's information friends or family need to know about me - more importantly though if I were "out" it would reflect on others so wouldn't be right to "out" them by implication.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A few of our friends know. We don’t exactly chat about it, a few of our female friends are very prudish and don’t discuss anything sexual (I get judged on night outs for discussing blumpkins and alaskan pipelines) but a few know.

And my ex-best friend knows, as I wanted advice before I jumped into doing anything "

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few of our friends know. We don’t exactly chat about it, a few of our female friends are very prudish and don’t discuss anything sexual (I get judged on night outs for discussing blumpkins and alaskan pipelines) but a few know.

And my ex-best friend knows, as I wanted advice before I jumped into doing anything

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?"

Urban dictornary that bad boy. Someone asked me to do it, and sent me proof that they had someone do it for them before

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"A few of our friends know. We don’t exactly chat about it, a few of our female friends are very prudish and don’t discuss anything sexual (I get judged on night outs for discussing blumpkins and alaskan pipelines) but a few know.

And my ex-best friend knows, as I wanted advice before I jumped into doing anything

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?

Urban dictornary that bad boy. Someone asked me to do it, and sent me proof that they had someone do it for them before "

You know those times when you wish Google didn't exist....

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By *ea77Woman
over a year ago

todmorden

I’m very open about it after being in a bad relationship for many years I hide so know I’m open and honest if people don’t like it then I wouldn’t discuss it with them but all my family (older kids parents etc) plus a lot of close friends know and they are happy I am happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it’s our private lives. I have one friend who knows but not all of it. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not open at all. The closet door is firmly shut but that's fine because we all know it leads to Narnia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few of our friends know. We don’t exactly chat about it, a few of our female friends are very prudish and don’t discuss anything sexual (I get judged on night outs for discussing blumpkins and alaskan pipelines) but a few know.

And my ex-best friend knows, as I wanted advice before I jumped into doing anything

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?

Urban dictornary that bad boy. Someone asked me to do it, and sent me proof that they had someone do it for them before

You know those times when you wish Google didn't exist.... "

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

We have a couple of trusted close friends that know and one family member, the basics at least, if not every minute detail. It's sort of liberating being able to talk to SOMEONE about it, but we definitely wouldn't be shouting about it from the rooftops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of my friends know, I’m a single woman so I need to leave details with someone I trust.

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA


"

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?

You know those times when you wish Google didn't exist.... "

I concur

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?

You know those times when you wish Google didn't exist....

I concur "

Me too

How do people find out they are into this shit ? (no pun intended )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I may regret asking this, but ... 'alaskan pipelines' ?

You know those times when you wish Google didn't exist....

I concur

Me too

How do people find out they are into this shit ? (no pun intended )"

Ahaha

I honestly have no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister found out. I met a girl at a swingers club and she turned out to be a friend of my sisters. . But she’s the only one in my family who knows. She was cool with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t hide it from anybody, however our vanilla friends don’t generally talk about it, so unless something crops up in conversation it doesn’t get talked about.

We are in no way embarrassed or shy about what we do, it’s our hobby and we like it!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'm not a swinger and if I was I wouldn't share it with anyone I know everyone would be motified.

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

I wouldn’t really class myself as a swinger it’s just another way of meeting people . at times it’s somewhat more direct but you don’t always need to get naked to have a fun encounter socials are just as entertaining x

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By *JcouplemidlandsCouple
over a year ago

Peak District

Its our secret life, only friends that know are the people we have met on here and ended up being friends with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not! I really don’t think my children, not even the grown up ones, would even possibly understand.

If I lived on my own it would be different, but I don’t want to live alone, I’d hate it.

I don’t even tell my workmates, never have done. I hear them gossip about each other’s Sex life and even sexuality, and have no intention of becoming their next piss take topic.

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"A few of our friends know. We don’t exactly chat about it, a few of our female friends are very prudish and don’t discuss anything sexual (I get judged on night outs for discussing blumpkins and alaskan pipelines) but a few know.

And my ex-best friend knows, as I wanted advice before I jumped into doing anything "

why is ex best friend an ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never spoke about my sex life in general before so no x

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By *adame1981Woman
over a year ago

Leicester

Most of my friends know

But my family don't

They don't need to know tbh

I'm not shy about it if it comes up in conversation I'll quite happily chat about it

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

It's nobody else's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discretion is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single woman. I don't have sex.

I told one friend some bits of info. I don't trust him anymore but he'd never want anyone to know we were 'friends' so I'm pretty damn sure that any secrets we shared are safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like this life and my 'real' life kept separately. The 2 should never collide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my friends and work colleagues know. They live vicariously through me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All my friends and work colleagues know. They live vicariously through me. "

I wouldn't class myself as a swinger as I have never shared a partner, never attended a club and other than the forums, don't particularly socialise with swingers

I have (and continue to) have several sexual partners though, some as one offs and others for longer periods, some female, some male

My friends know

My family don't

Colleagues don't figure

The way I look at it is, unless asked, I say nothing

If asked, I look them straight in the eye with confidence and say 'yes'

They can do what they want with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger but no it’s private.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Experience in life is what makes a person. There are lots that know we are into this lifestyle who are our friends. We wouldn't shout it from the roof tops as you wouldn't when you and your partner have great sex. Would never say its a seperate part of our life, as what we do in our life is all part of our fantastic journey. If we cant be proud of what we do in our life how can vanilla ever understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sex life is private. Between me and my partner(s)

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"My sex life is private. Between me and my partner(s) "

We don't tell anyone about our sex life either, people just know we are in the lifestyle. We would NEVER discuss that side of it with them. Discretion and all that. We respect the people we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Experience in life is what makes a person. There are lots that know we are into this lifestyle who are our friends. We wouldn't shout it from the roof tops as you wouldn't when you and your partner have great sex. Would never say its a seperate part of our life, as what we do in our life is all part of our fantastic journey. If we cant be proud of what we do in our life how can vanilla ever understand."

This is us.

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