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The mind boggles that someone would want to date in the throes of nurturing new born life. I was recently talking to someone on here when they mentioned a similar situation had happened to them with a swinger. Is this something you've come across? What are your opinions on this? | |||
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"Do you think it was the same person?  "Not unless they had a gender change very quickly and fucked off leaving someone else to look after the baby whilst they fucked around | |||
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"Do you think it was the same person?
Not unless they had a gender change very quickly and fucked off leaving someone else to look after the baby whilst they fucked around "Phew! | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it."  | |||
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"Earlier in the year I was chatting to a very sexy woman on a dating app when I discovered she had a baby. I asked how old and she said something like 4 weeks
The mind boggles that someone would want to date in the throes of nurturing new born life. I was recently talking to someone on here when they mentioned a similar situation had happened to them with a swinger. Is this something you've come across? What are your opinions on this? "Some people are very lonely and some crave physical affection and having someone round. Personally with a 4 week old baby I thin kit should be the baby someone focuses on but there can be other issues in play including depression so if it helps someone then let them go for it. | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it." How long should you not have sex after a new born? | |||
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"Earlier in the year I was chatting to a very sexy woman on a dating app when I discovered she had a baby. I asked how old and she said something like 4 weeks
The mind boggles that someone would want to date in the throes of nurturing new born life. I was recently talking to someone on here when they mentioned a similar situation had happened to them with a swinger. Is this something you've come across? What are your opinions on this?
Some people are very lonely and some crave physical affection and having someone round. Personally with a 4 week old baby I thin kit should be the baby someone focuses on but there can be other issues in play including depression so if it helps someone then let them go for it. "long as you keep one leg free to rock the cradle in sync with the stoke rate . | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? " Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends" Is there no situation where you want it now and immediately? | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends Is there no situation where you want it now and immediately? " Wouldn’t know, every time I’ve been pregnant I’ve miscarried so the last thing on my mind was sex. And on one occasion I had surgery so couldn’t have sex anyway so even if I wanted sex I wouldn’t have been having it. I’m sure there’s plenty of women who want sex asap | |||
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"long as you keep one leg free to rock the cradle in sync with the stoke rate ."  | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends Is there no situation where you want it now and immediately? Wouldn’t know, every time I’ve been pregnant I’ve miscarried so the last thing on my mind was sex. And on one occasion I had surgery so couldn’t have sex anyway so even if I wanted sex I wouldn’t have been having it. I’m sure there’s plenty of women who want sex asap" Sorry to hear.. I hope you have 20 kids | |||
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"Maybe she feels shit and knackered and unattractive and just wants some interaction, on line only, that makes her feel a bit better? Her hormones must be all over the place right now " How long does it take for the hormones to settle down? | |||
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"Maybe she feels shit and knackered and unattractive and just wants some interaction, on line only, that makes her feel a bit better? Her hormones must be all over the place right now How long does it take for the hormones to settle down? " They settle down ???  | |||
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"Maybe she feels shit and knackered and unattractive and just wants some interaction, on line only, that makes her feel a bit better? Her hormones must be all over the place right now How long does it take for the hormones to settle down? They settle down ??? " | |||
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"Maybe she feels shit and knackered and unattractive and just wants some interaction, on line only, that makes her feel a bit better? Her hormones must be all over the place right now How long does it take for the hormones to settle down? They settle down ??? " | |||
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"Sounds a bit too judgey to me OP" Of course, that judgement of you is me being judgey too I guess... | |||
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"Maybe she feels shit and knackered and unattractive and just wants some interaction, on line only, that makes her feel a bit better? Her hormones must be all over the place right now " Exactly that, it’s just talking online. It’s not lije she’s offering sex that day x | |||
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"Sounds a bit too judgey to me OP Of course, that judgement of you is me being judgey too I guess... "Are you talking to yourself again Peter? | |||
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"Lifes life she has a baby i have a ps4 same difference" Ps4 is a bigger responsibility if you ask me | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? " It used to be six weeks | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends Is there no situation where you want it now and immediately? " In the weeks after you've had a baby the only thing you want now and immediately is sleep and food in that order. | |||
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"Maybe she feels shit and knackered and unattractive and just wants some interaction, on line only, that makes her feel a bit better? Her hormones must be all over the place right now How long does it take for the hormones to settle down? " 75 years, possibly longer | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends Is there no situation where you want it now and immediately? In the weeks after you've had a baby the only thing you want now and immediately is sleep and food in that order." I also wanted a glass of red wine... but couldn’t handle it. I wanted sex from around 4 weeks but I had a Caesarian, not sure if this makes a difference. She’s got all the nesting hormones, a society that still kinda judges single mums and time with her phone. A dating app is likely more fun than netmums. | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? Depends on your situation really. Sometimes you cannot because of medical reasons, sometimes you just do not want it, just depends Is there no situation where you want it now and immediately? In the weeks after you've had a baby the only thing you want now and immediately is sleep and food in that order." I always felt ok after having my babies, except that feeling of your insides dropping out. | |||
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"Based on the information provided OP I don't see anything wrong with it if she felt ready to take that step and start interacting with others with a view to dating - just because she was talking on-line doesn't necessarily mean she was looking to meet straight away for example. If she was anything like me on here it could be weeks or months before she was ready to take that step by which time babysitters would be an option." Agree with this. The OP said it was a dating app, not that the woman was looking to bust her stitches with a DP spit roast. And if she wants to meet, so what? Her choice. | |||
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"I felt a bit concerned for her and her vulnerable newborn baby, inviting strange men into her home. In terms of the other story I heard, it seemed highly inappropriate for a man to be seeking to fuck other women in the week after his wife gave birth. But there you go. That's just little ole judgemental me. You guys are clearly fine with it so I'll slate that up to another difference between us. Not into double figures yet. But getting close " Think you are surmising a lot (as per usual)...how do you know she was "inviting people in".. and if she was how do you know the baby would be home? Or that the meet would be at home....Reading between the lines you were disappointed this "very sexy lady" had the cheek to have a baby....how very dare she. | |||
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"I felt a bit concerned for her and her vulnerable newborn baby, inviting strange men into her home. In terms of the other story I heard, it seemed highly inappropriate for a man to be seeking to fuck other women in the week after his wife gave birth. But there you go. That's just little ole judgemental me. You guys are clearly fine with it so I'll slate that up to another difference between us. Not into double figures yet. But getting close Think you are surmising a lot (as per usual)...how do you know she was "inviting people in".. and if she was how do you know the baby would be home? Or that the meet would be at home....Reading between the lines you were disappointed this "very sexy lady" had the cheek to have a baby....how very dare she. " She told me. I was concerned for her. Thankfully she decided to quit the dating apps and travel back to her home country to get the support of her mum. She was in a very vulnerable situation. As for your last comment, I'm a single dad. So that kind of thinking is utterly foreign to me. But I'm getting used to people on the forums imagining I'm an awful person  | |||
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"But I'm getting used to people on the forums imagining I'm an awful person "Top tip: if you don't want people to think you're awful, don't say things like 'The mind boggles that someone would want to date in the throes of nurturing new born life' | |||
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"I felt a bit concerned for her and her vulnerable newborn baby, inviting strange men into her home. In terms of the other story I heard, it seemed highly inappropriate for a man to be seeking to fuck other women in the week after his wife gave birth. But there you go. That's just little ole judgemental me. You guys are clearly fine with it so I'll slate that up to another difference between us. Not into double figures yet. But getting close Think you are surmising a lot (as per usual)...how do you know she was "inviting people in".. and if she was how do you know the baby would be home? Or that the meet would be at home....Reading between the lines you were disappointed this "very sexy lady" had the cheek to have a baby....how very dare she. She told me. I was concerned for her. Thankfully she decided to quit the dating apps and travel back to her home country to get the support of her mum. She was in a very vulnerable situation. As for your last comment, I'm a single dad. So that kind of thinking is utterly foreign to me. But I'm getting used to people on the forums imagining I'm an awful person "I don't think you are an awful person,you're entitled to your opinions. I do think you have some very odd ideas about life in general and women in particular. That's my opinion. | |||
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"OP, weren’t you the same person who posted a thread about some women on dating apps judging you for being a single dad and not wanting to get involved with a man with kids? This isn’t any different really is it? She may have been on the dating apps before she gave birth and even before she was pregnant. She may be lonely, she may just be browsing, she is entitled to at the end of the day. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, she may go into a supermarket or a restaurant and meet a guy that way too. Don’t think there’s is much wrong with it TBH. " Fair enough. I just felt it was inappropriate for her to be bringing strange men back to her home at such a vulnerable stage. But I guess I can see that maybe that's me being over protective. I suspect that if I'd led this thread with the story of the swinging guy who was looking to fuck other women in the first week of his child's birth the response may have been different. But perhaps not. Perhaps the whole thing is ok. Perhaps it's just me | |||
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"OP, weren’t you the same person who posted a thread about some women on dating apps judging you for being a single dad and not wanting to get involved with a man with kids? This isn’t any different really is it? She may have been on the dating apps before she gave birth and even before she was pregnant. She may be lonely, she may just be browsing, she is entitled to at the end of the day. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, she may go into a supermarket or a restaurant and meet a guy that way too. Don’t think there’s is much wrong with it TBH. Fair enough. I just felt it was inappropriate for her to be bringing strange men back to her home at such a vulnerable stage. But I guess I can see that maybe that's me being over protective. I suspect that if I'd led this thread with the story of the swinging guy who was looking to fuck other women in the first week of his child's birth the response may have been different. But perhaps not. Perhaps the whole thing is ok. Perhaps it's just me " You have assumed she meets with the baby in the house. Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she cams, or just chats. | |||
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"OP, weren’t you the same person who posted a thread about some women on dating apps judging you for being a single dad and not wanting to get involved with a man with kids? This isn’t any different really is it? She may have been on the dating apps before she gave birth and even before she was pregnant. She may be lonely, she may just be browsing, she is entitled to at the end of the day. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, she may go into a supermarket or a restaurant and meet a guy that way too. Don’t think there’s is much wrong with it TBH. Fair enough. I just felt it was inappropriate for her to be bringing strange men back to her home at such a vulnerable stage. But I guess I can see that maybe that's me being over protective. I suspect that if I'd led this thread with the story of the swinging guy who was looking to fuck other women in the first week of his child's birth the response may have been different. But perhaps not. Perhaps the whole thing is ok. Perhaps it's just me You have assumed she meets with the baby in the house. Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she cams, or just chats." As I said earlier, she told me she did. | |||
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"OP, weren’t you the same person who posted a thread about some women on dating apps judging you for being a single dad and not wanting to get involved with a man with kids? This isn’t any different really is it? She may have been on the dating apps before she gave birth and even before she was pregnant. She may be lonely, she may just be browsing, she is entitled to at the end of the day. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, she may go into a supermarket or a restaurant and meet a guy that way too. Don’t think there’s is much wrong with it TBH. Fair enough. I just felt it was inappropriate for her to be bringing strange men back to her home at such a vulnerable stage. But I guess I can see that maybe that's me being over protective. I suspect that if I'd led this thread with the story of the swinging guy who was looking to fuck other women in the first week of his child's birth the response may have been different. But perhaps not. Perhaps the whole thing is ok. Perhaps it's just me You have assumed she meets with the baby in the house. Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she cams, or just chats. As I said earlier, she told me she did. " But you didn't mention that in your original thread. You said "dating" which to me isn't the same thing as inviting men back with your newborn in the house. You can't get defensive about things when people are commenting in the context of your original post. You also used emotive language in your first post which rightly or wrongly implied that you thought she should have been nurturing her newborn rather than chatting to a guy about dating. From your later posts, which give quite a different impression of the situation I would say the woman was vulnerable. Why didn't you give the whole story originally? | |||
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"OP, weren’t you the same person who posted a thread about some women on dating apps judging you for being a single dad and not wanting to get involved with a man with kids? This isn’t any different really is it? She may have been on the dating apps before she gave birth and even before she was pregnant. She may be lonely, she may just be browsing, she is entitled to at the end of the day. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, she may go into a supermarket or a restaurant and meet a guy that way too. Don’t think there’s is much wrong with it TBH. Fair enough. I just felt it was inappropriate for her to be bringing strange men back to her home at such a vulnerable stage. But I guess I can see that maybe that's me being over protective. I suspect that if I'd led this thread with the story of the swinging guy who was looking to fuck other women in the first week of his child's birth the response may have been different. But perhaps not. Perhaps the whole thing is ok. Perhaps it's just me " That’s probably because the guy would be doing it behind his wife’s back. If she gave him permission to do so, he is also equally entitled. We are all adults here and I doubt she needs looking after or being “protected” by a stranger in the net. | |||
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"OP, weren’t you the same person who posted a thread about some women on dating apps judging you for being a single dad and not wanting to get involved with a man with kids? This isn’t any different really is it? She may have been on the dating apps before she gave birth and even before she was pregnant. She may be lonely, she may just be browsing, she is entitled to at the end of the day. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, she may go into a supermarket or a restaurant and meet a guy that way too. Don’t think there’s is much wrong with it TBH. Fair enough. I just felt it was inappropriate for her to be bringing strange men back to her home at such a vulnerable stage. But I guess I can see that maybe that's me being over protective. I suspect that if I'd led this thread with the story of the swinging guy who was looking to fuck other women in the first week of his child's birth the response may have been different. But perhaps not. Perhaps the whole thing is ok. Perhaps it's just me " Because it's a different situation. I say again you said dating not fucking. The two aren't the same. You did later qualify your remarks but we can only comment on what you write. | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn" Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it "The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks. | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
"Ha ha ha. It's a messy business to be sure. Mr N went to buy me some and the woman in the chemist was hugely embarrassed because a man was asking. Time to be more open about these things. | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
"Oh my god hahaha! No children planned for me for a while! | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
Oh my god hahaha!
No children planned for me for a while! "Its fine. The first 25 years are the worst... | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
"These are never discussed when cuddling someone's new born baby. It's uuuurgh. | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
I had to have a D&C and had to wear those towels. Awful "Aren't they | |||
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"You can't get defensive about things when people are commenting in the context of your original post. You also used emotive language in your first post which rightly or wrongly implied that you thought she should have been nurturing her newborn rather than chatting to a guy about dating. From your later posts, which give quite a different impression of the situation I would say the woman was vulnerable. Why didn't you give the whole story originally?" You're right Nice. I did balls this thread up. I didn't convey the situation fully. I apologise if I snapped at people who merely responded to the op. I've been on the opposite side of that before. So I understand that you can only react to what you've been told. My op was a little too guarded because I didn't want to give too much info out. I can see how, if a woman has support of family friends child minders etc she could be perfectly capable of carry on her life in whatever way she wanted despite having a newborn. This situation wasn't like that and I was concerned for her. | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
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"You can't get defensive about things when people are commenting in the context of your original post. You also used emotive language in your first post which rightly or wrongly implied that you thought she should have been nurturing her newborn rather than chatting to a guy about dating. From your later posts, which give quite a different impression of the situation I would say the woman was vulnerable. Why didn't you give the whole story originally? You're right Nice. I did balls this thread up. I didn't convey the situation fully. I apologise if I snapped at people who merely responded to the op. I've been on the opposite side of that before. So I understand that you can only react to what you've been told. My op was a little too guarded because I didn't want to give too much info out. I can see how, if a woman has support of family friends child minders etc she could be perfectly capable of carry on her life in whatever way she wanted despite having a newborn. This situation wasn't like that and I was concerned for her. " And that reflects well on you.  | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
And the stitches! "And having to dry yourself with a hairdryer everytime you showered | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
These are never discussed when cuddling someone's new born baby. It's uuuurgh. ""Awww he/she is so cute, by the way how's the chopped liver?" | |||
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"I admire any woman who has the time and the energy to even consider any sort of dating, flirting, sexual activity when they have a new born baby. It was the furthest thing away from my mind when mine were newborn Me too. Apart from leaking from every known orifice and a few hitherto unknown, not fitting into anything remotely attractive, hair a lank mess and wearing giant maternity sanitary towels I just didn't feel like it
The towels are the thing they never tell you about! That and the chopped liver dropping out of you for weeks.
And the stitches!
And having to dry yourself with a hairdryer everytime you showered "Or the getting up at 5am for a salt-water bath before the baby wakes! | |||
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"Anyway op, sorry to hijack. Back on topic, I think that many of us have a sneaking admiration for anyone able to consider dating four weeks after giving birth but I think you were right to be concerned." It's ok. I'm quite happy for the thread to wander wherever it wants to go or alternatively slip quietly off into Fab valhalla. But thanks for what you've said | |||
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"I felt a bit concerned for her and her vulnerable newborn baby, inviting strange men into her home. In terms of the other story I heard, it seemed highly inappropriate for a man to be seeking to fuck other women in the week after his wife gave birth. But there you go. That's just little ole judgemental me. You guys are clearly fine with it so I'll slate that up to another difference between us. Not into double figures yet. But getting close " You never said she was inviting strange men into her home - unless I missed that bit? I thought she was just chatting to people on a dating app? | |||
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"I felt a bit concerned for her and her vulnerable newborn baby, inviting strange men into her home. In terms of the other story I heard, it seemed highly inappropriate for a man to be seeking to fuck other women in the week after his wife gave birth. But there you go. That's just little ole judgemental me. You guys are clearly fine with it so I'll slate that up to another difference between us. Not into double figures yet. But getting close You never said she was inviting strange men into her home - unless I missed that bit? I thought she was just chatting to people on a dating app? " He clarified later. | |||
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"I felt a bit concerned for her and her vulnerable newborn baby, inviting strange men into her home. In terms of the other story I heard, it seemed highly inappropriate for a man to be seeking to fuck other women in the week after his wife gave birth. But there you go. That's just little ole judgemental me. You guys are clearly fine with it so I'll slate that up to another difference between us. Not into double figures yet. But getting close You never said she was inviting strange men into her home - unless I missed that bit? I thought she was just chatting to people on a dating app? He clarified later." Ah I see! Must admit I don’t invite strange men into my home even now! Guys are only invited after I’ve known them a while - and then only when the kids are away! It’s easy for me to moralise though - generally speaking I’m child free every other weekend! X | |||
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"Men pester their wives for sex the week after she gives birth. God help any woman that wants it. How long should you not have sex after a new born? " 20 years. | |||
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