FabSwingers.com forum: Shyness....

By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Shyness...is it a blessing or a curse?

I used to blush like a bastard when I was younger...and be terrified to open my mouth.

And if I fancied someone, blimey I was a total nobbish wreck!

Now I just hit them on the head with my club and drag them off to my woman cave...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shyness...is it a blessing or a curse?

I used to blush like a bastard when I was younger...and be terrified to open my mouth.

And if I fancied someone, blimey I was a total nobbish wreck!

Now I just hit them on the head with my club and drag them off to my woman cave...

I think a level of shyness is quite endearing. But spontaneity and boldness has its virtues too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was and am the same

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

Depends on the situation I would say for a guy on here its a curse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was like that when I was younger, the older I get the more forward I am.

I can still be shy around certain people though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People don't believe me when I say I'm shy.

I can be shy in certain situations. Mostly when approaching women, I have got much better though.

It has been both a blessing and a curse. I've perhaps missed out on some things but at the same time, I get called sweet and endearing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cured my shyness years ago

Now im just an introvert

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I was like that when I was younger, the older I get the more forward I am.

I can still be shy around certain people though."

Yes me too. If I really want to impress someone I get a flashback and regress to being a nob.

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By *ockatwoCouple
over a year ago

leeds

It is a bit of a disadvantage as we mainly meet couples we get to have plenty of socials, but think my shyness puts a lot of the ladies in the couples off either that or my quasimodo features

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be really shy and stil have my moments now but I think because I had to force myself to be more confident I'm more aware of my actions and I can control it so I don't verge into arrogance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shyness for a woman is cute and endearing,but for a man who is supposed to be macho is a curse especially when trying to meet people.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Shyness for a woman is cute and endearing,but for a man who is supposed to be macho is a curse especially when trying to meet people."

Macho is very overrated you know.

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

"Shyness...is it a blessing or a curse?

I used to blush like a bastard when I was younger...and be terrified to open my mouth.

And if I fancied someone, blimey I was a total nobbish wreck!

Now I just hit them on the head with my club and drag them off to my woman cave...

I love your way if thinking....but my shyness always gets the better if me....xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shyness...is it a blessing or a curse?

I used to blush like a bastard when I was younger...and be terrified to open my mouth.

And if I fancied someone, blimey I was a total nobbish wreck!

Now I just hit them on the head with my club and drag them off to my woman cave...

Never wanted to be hit round the head with a club before..........

Strangely I do now ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy here ...holds me back ,hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really shy. I wish I wasn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really shy but over the years you get better at hiding it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be very shy, but I’ve had to learn to be more outgoing through work so I hide it well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my moments of shyness but for those who know me its rare.

They would have to make my heart sing to see me blush lol.

Has it ever got any one any were to sit the corner cute and silent?

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By *r_BlueEyesMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Whether it's shyness, nerves, apprehension I try and overcompensate with trying to be funny. Goes one of two ways. Either it goes really well or I die on my arse and feel as welcome as a fart in a packed lift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never chatted a girl up in a bar/club as I would come out with random crap and it would take me out of my comfort zone!

On here I’m comfortable as I can be myself. Plus on here you can get more time for your personality to come through.

During a meet, I’m comfortable as I’ve developed a connection already, so I don’t get nervous

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I think I've said this in another thread.... I can rabbit on for England and even stand up and give speeches, take to the stage etc etc but when talking to someone I fancy I become a babbling wreck and come across as 'kin stupid. ....(I'm shy and demure ...honestly I really am)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im only kidding im not really shy

But i do get nervous when i speak to certain girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shyness...is it a blessing or a curse?

I used to blush like a bastard when I was younger...and be terrified to open my mouth.

And if I fancied someone, blimey I was a total nobbish wreck!

Now I just hit them on the head with my club and drag them off to my woman cave...

No need for awkwardness then I guess

I was painfully shy up until about 15 years ago.

I still have bouts of blushing profusely though. Can't help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanders in...

Reads thread...

Slips back into man cave...

Don't think anyone noticed me...

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I get really anxious and shy in new situations with new people. If I'm with someone I know, shy or quiet is not a word used to describe me. It all depends on where I am and who I'm with x

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Whether it's shyness, nerves, apprehension I try and overcompensate with trying to be funny. Goes one of two ways. Either it goes really well or I die on my arse and feel as welcome as a fart in a packed lift "

Yeah, hear you on this one.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Yeah, hear you on this one."

Must admit I envy the guys who can pull it off, so to speak. The annoying thing is that they so often get away with banal chat-ups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be painfully shy and introverted, most people can't believe I do the job I do as so much of it is up front speaking and meeting new people. I have to get up an hour and a half before everyone else when away with work to prepare myself to be able to do my job properly and then have an hour or so at the end of the day. I hate this aspect of my personality but it's part of who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a curse....... wish I wasn’t lol

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

For me a curse it’s tough I wish I didn’t have it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Not shy at all, just difficult to get a word in when L is in flirt mode.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been shy ....it's a curse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As some say it's a curse but I find if I have chatted online for a few days before meeting I feel far more confident and less shy.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's a soddin curse I hate it.

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

Both im shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very shy, I am just really good at hiding it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's usually an aspect of behaviour, which can be learned - just as other behaviours can be learned instead.

Our behaviours are purposeful, so develop those that are more likely to be rewarding, based on your needs today rather than, perhaps, how you were whilst younger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shyness for a woman is cute and endearing,but for a man who is supposed to be macho is a curse especially when trying to meet people.

Macho is very overrated you know."
yes,but hard to initiate a conversation with someone you like when shy ,my brain turns to mush and generally make some inane comments,then immediately think what a twat I am.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I’ve never chatted a girl up in a bar/club as I would come out with random crap and it would take me out of my comfort zone!

On here I’m comfortable as I can be myself. Plus on here you can get more time for your personality to come through.

During a meet, I’m comfortable as I’ve developed a connection already, so I don’t get nervous

This is me in a nutshell!! Although I can be a little backwards in coming forwards even on here

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I can be painfully shy and introverted, most people can't believe I do the job I do as so much of it is up front speaking and meeting new people. I have to get up an hour and a half before everyone else when away with work to prepare myself to be able to do my job properly and then have an hour or so at the end of the day. I hate this aspect of my personality but it's part of who I am. "

Well that takes some effort and some doing, so well done to you for pulling it off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People don't believe me when I say I'm shy.

I can be shy in certain situations. Mostly when approaching women, I have got much better though.

It has been both a blessing and a curse. I've perhaps missed out on some things but at the same time, I get called sweet and endearing. "

Sweet and endearing until they get to know you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that takes some effort and some doing, so well done to you for pulling it off! "

Thanks. I love my job and have found a way of coping that works for me. It's one aspect of me and everyone has bits of their own personality that can limit them if they let it.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

I wish i hadn't been so shy and

nervous when i was younger as i missed

out on lot of good fun and regret it now.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I wish i hadn't been so shy and

nervous when i was younger as i missed

out on lot of good fun and regret it now."

Same here.And the daft thing is that a lot of the people who you think are super confident are probably as nervous as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m shy but I really really hate awkward/long silences so people that chat a lot definitely put me at ease

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'm only shy if I really really fancy someone the person I can't even look at as I feel hot and flushed. Can't remember the last time I felt like this.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Shyness...is it a blessing or a curse?

I used to blush like a bastard when I was younger...and be terrified to open my mouth.

And if I fancied someone, blimey I was a total nobbish wreck!

Now I just hit them on the head with my club and drag them off to my woman cave...

I'll get my helmet then

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m shy and it’s a curse.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

So if you get nobbish around me, then I know why. I'm shy too. I can do the naturist beach thing, walk round a singer's club starkers. What I can't do is, chat to new people in a pub and make friends. Karaoke is a big no no for me. Shyness is really, really destructive. Just as Morrisey sang.(How soon is now).

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I can be extrovert, but in New meeting situations shyness can hit me like a freight train unexpectedly, which does hold me back. I hate it

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Too shy and nervous at times. Usually find me hiding away somewhere at a social event worried i will say something stupid lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an unmitigated curse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a bit of a curse to me.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Timidly holds hand up and whispers I'm shy too.

Don't like sending messages in case I say something wrong.

Hate it when (luckily very rarely) I'm paid a compliment.

Yet confident at work.

Slips back quietly into the watching from a distance corner

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere

Shy, and naive too.

I remember being invited back for coffee by a girl when I was 18.

Then after 10-15 minutes chat, I asked if we were having coffee.

I got coffee, it wasn't a bad cup either

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