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"Why, what am i doing wrong lol" Try focusing on your positives? | |||
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"Why, what am i doing wrong lol Try focusing on your positives? " Those are positives in some people's eyes. | |||
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"There are women here who won't have an issue chatting to (or even meeting with) 'shy fat guys' The way you are portraying yourself, however, is not going to help you in getting their attention." This completely 
For starters OP do you really think an avatar showing you have a long tongue is going to impress? 
Describing yourself in a negative way isn't likely to either
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"I dont have many haha, apart from having a long tongue thats where my list of positives starts and ends lol" Yeah that's not a great thing to focus on, it made me cringe a bit. Most people on here are looking for connection and personality so what positive things can you offer? Are you friendly? Funny? Relaxed? | |||
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"There are women here who won't have an issue chatting to (or even meeting with) 'shy fat guys' The way you are portraying yourself, however, is not going to help you in getting their attention. This completely
For starters OP do you really think an avatar showing you have a long tongue is going to impress?
Describing yourself in a negative way isn't likely to either
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"So what your saying is to try and sell myself, im not great at doing that tbh lol" That's exactly what you have to do and do so in a positive way - everyone has good things about themselves - you just need to build something around them. I'll be honest, as a 20 year old you will get a lot of people who won't meet you as you're the same age or younger than their kids (which tends to be a gauge that people set their age preferences round) but that doesn't mean no-one will - you just have to find a formula that works for you and I'd start by removing the tongue pics which just come across as a little immature to be frank | |||
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"So what your saying is to try and sell myself, im not great at doing that tbh lol" Not many of us are but you're basically competing with all the other single guys on here. People are here for their own gratification, they're much more likely to be swayed by a well written, well presented profile because they know that person understands how to interact and tempt them. | |||
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"Dont want to really have my face on my profile, would it be better to have no pic at all then the tongue pic? it is a bit immature tbf " You don't have to show your face - take imaginative and teasing pics that show off your body - it's always better to have some kind of avatar pic than the silhouette though | |||
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"Dont want to really have my face on my profile, would it be better to have no pic at all then the tongue pic? it is a bit immature tbf " No picture is the worst thing you can do. An flattering, alluring body shot is probably a good thing to have. | |||
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"Dont want to really have my face on my profile, would it be better to have no pic at all then the tongue pic? it is a bit immature tbf " Do you have a suit OP. Lots of body shots fully clothed can still look good. Use your phone filters and use some black and white. You don't have to show your face if you don't want to. The negative points seem like you can't be arsed and are just hoping for the best. Be positive and confident. | |||
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"My body isn't the best to look at tbf, but i guess im not for everyone and i know that, its probably going to be better for people who like guys like me, tbh the tongue pic has only ever got one person chatting to me" Be positive and make the best of what you have. | |||
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"My body isn't the best to look at tbf, but i guess im not for everyone and i know that, its probably going to be better for people who like guys like me, tbh the tongue pic has only ever got one person chatting to me" My body isn't great either to be honest and I think most people will have things they don't like about themselves but it's about finding what does work and focussing on that - if I can achieve it then so can you. With a simple phone camera and the timer function you can achieve some great results regardless of body shape | |||
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"My body isn't the best to look at tbf, but i guess im not for everyone and i know that, its probably going to be better for people who like guys like me, tbh the tongue pic has only ever got one person chatting to me" Have some self worth I am 48, I'm short, I'm chubbily chunky, I'm hairy, I'm balding, I wear specs, I'm not gonna win any beauty competitions What I do have is self worth and confidence What I do have is a realisation that whilst I might not find 'me' attractive and whilst hundreds of others won't either, there are hundreds that will I've already met some of them, I am yet to meet more Trust me, your tongue won't be your main selling point | |||
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"My body isn't the best to look at tbf, but i guess im not for everyone and i know that, its probably going to be better for people who like guys like me, tbh the tongue pic has only ever got one person chatting to me Have some self worth I am 48, I'm short, I'm chubbily chunky, I'm hairy, I'm balding, I wear specs, I'm not gonna win any beauty competitions What I do have is self worth and confidence What I do have is a realisation that whilst I might not find 'me' attractive and whilst hundreds of others won't either, there are hundreds that will I've already met some of them, I am yet to meet more Trust me, your tongue won't be your main selling point "Bussy knocked the nail on the head! Listen to him OP! | |||
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"Should i basically change my whole account?, bio, pics, etc. All the people are right, i need to start being more positive towards myself" I'd certainly consider revamping your profile to put a more positive spin on it - enhance it with better pics (the two you have are honestly woeful) - take out the "am I a virgin or not" stuff and try selling yourself in a positive way - it might not guarantee any meets but will stand you in better stead than what you have now | |||
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