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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apparently straight women have a third fewer orgasms than straight men according to the bbc

https://www.bbc.com/news/av/business-45271234/the-sextech-inventor-closing-the-orgasm-gap

Is this really the case, I have known some women that don’t cum during sex. I’ve known others that don’t cum with a partner no matter what they do.

But then then there are those women that cum bloody loads.

Do we think the results of this survey are correct, admittedly the lady in the article is trying to sell vibrators

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It sounds correct, Mrs Broken can fun anywhere up to 10 times in a good session but she's very much the exception in the sample of women I've violated. I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once. "

I've known lots of guys who do that too

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4


"I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once.

I've known lots of guys who do that too

"

He's not a guy if he's got a clit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once.

I've known lots of guys who do that too

He's not a guy if he's got a clit "

His big penis clit.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once.

I've known lots of guys who do that too

"

It's more that my dick is going to hibernate for at least an hour, you can touch it all you want but it ain't getting hard again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find someone who knows your body soooo well they can edge you and bring you to orgasm without ejaculating helps sort out the balance a bit.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I think the quantity is the wrong metric to look at.

To me it seems that the quality of the female orgasm is far superior to the male's.

Could be why they need fewer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once.

I've known lots of guys who do that too

He's not a guy if he's got a clit "

You know what I mean

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4


"I've known more who just flat out won't lose control and wouldn't cum and then you get the hypersensitive types who set up a police barrier around their clit after they Cum once.

I've known lots of guys who do that too

He's not a guy if he's got a clit

His big penis clit."

Two finger wank style ? That's hot.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I think the quantity is the wrong metric to look at.

To me it seems that the quality of the female orgasm is far superior to the male's.

Could be why they need fewer."

Quantity is a quality of its own

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

[Removed by poster at 24/09/18 09:44:55]

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I think the quantity is the wrong metric to look at.

To me it seems that the quality of the female orgasm is far superior to the male's.

Could be why they need fewer.

Quantity is a quality of its own

"

That is also true, and another area where women tend to trump blokes. At least in the per session count.

I assume the study really reveals blokes have more goes at bat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m surprised at that. I know we all vary but generally men cum once, and then need chill time. I’d assume, as women can cum many times, and in different ways, during sex the laws of average would see we’d slam-dunk this.

Lesson learn: never assume.... or should it be ‘not believe everything you read’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the quantity is the wrong metric to look at.

To me it seems that the quality of the female orgasm is far superior to the male's.

Could be why they need fewer.

Quantity is a quality of its own"

Different orgasms deliver different results, and even a clit one can vary in impact: some days leading to screams for more and others the ‘clit barriers’ go up. Who knows.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I’m surprised at that. I know we all vary but generally men cum once, and then need chill time. I’d assume, as women can cum many times, and in different ways, during sex the laws of average would see we’d slam-dunk this.

Lesson learn: never assume.... or should it be ‘not believe everything you read’ "

You're very rarely going to find a guy who can't cum. Not so rare for females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the quantity is the wrong metric to look at.

To me it seems that the quality of the female orgasm is far superior to the male's.

Could be why they need fewer.

Quantity is a quality of its own

Different orgasms deliver different results, and even a clit one can vary in impact: some days leading to screams for more and others the ‘clit barriers’ go up. Who knows. "

Isn’t that then the skill of knowing where to shift focus to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m surprised at that. I know we all vary but generally men cum once, and then need chill time. I’d assume, as women can cum many times, and in different ways, during sex the laws of average would see we’d slam-dunk this.

Lesson learn: never assume.... or should it be ‘not believe everything you read’

You're very rarely going to find a guy who can't cum. Not so rare for females. "

Of the women I know who are still on this journey (as I call it) they can get there on their own and often, with toys. Does this count to the average?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently straight women have a third fewer orgasms than straight men according to the bbc

https://www.bbc.com/news/av/business-45271234/the-sextech-inventor-closing-the-orgasm-gap

Is this really the case, I have known some women that don’t cum during sex. I’ve known others that don’t cum with a partner no matter what they do.

But then then there are those women that cum bloody loads.

Do we think the results of this survey are correct, admittedly the lady in the article is trying to sell vibrators

"

yes it's spot on and 62% of surveys are inaccurate

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I’m surprised at that. I know we all vary but generally men cum once, and then need chill time. I’d assume, as women can cum many times, and in different ways, during sex the laws of average would see we’d slam-dunk this.

Lesson learn: never assume.... or should it be ‘not believe everything you read’

You're very rarely going to find a guy who can't cum. Not so rare for females.

Of the women I know who are still on this journey (as I call it) they can get there on their own and often, with toys. Does this count to the average? "

Believe me, if we're counting masturbation orgasms then that isn't going to favour the female average relative to the mens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random"

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above "

Or 5. They all faked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random"

I don’t cum very easily. I do find I have to be really into the person to let myself go. If it was just a one night thing, it’s probably not going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above "

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science.."

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding "

Very true. Not even a sex therapist I met from here could do it despite numerous veris stating how great he was with his techniques. I blame it on lack of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding

Very true. Not even a sex therapist I met from here could do it despite numerous veris stating how great he was with his techniques. I blame it on lack of attraction. "

It’s about being able to get into a state of mind with some one that is relaxed enough to allow an orgasm to happen.

It’s obviously a very personal thing and requires a great deal of trust in another person and that’s not always possible with a randomer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding

Very true. Not even a sex therapist I met from here could do it despite numerous veris stating how great he was with his techniques. I blame it on lack of attraction. "

I agree that on a casual basis I also find climaxing a challenge. Funny enough, Ive squirted from the opposite! Mental and physical connection do drive a lot of mine, but I think having mental barriers stops so much. Having crashed through mine I’m finding it’s now a transferable skill. Mind over matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding

Very true. Not even a sex therapist I met from here could do it despite numerous veris stating how great he was with his techniques. I blame it on lack of attraction.

It’s about being able to get into a state of mind with some one that is relaxed enough to allow an orgasm to happen.

It’s obviously a very personal thing and requires a great deal of trust in another person and that’s not always possible with a randomer "

Most definitely in the head. I have to be in the zone and my mind needs to be stimulated quite a bit to get there. When it happens it’s very much worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding

Very true. Not even a sex therapist I met from here could do it despite numerous veris stating how great he was with his techniques. I blame it on lack of attraction.

It’s about being able to get into a state of mind with some one that is relaxed enough to allow an orgasm to happen.

It’s obviously a very personal thing and requires a great deal of trust in another person and that’s not always possible with a randomer

Most definitely in the head. I have to be in the zone and my mind needs to be stimulated quite a bit to get there. When it happens it’s very much worth it. "

I think with women an orgasm is much more a mental thing than it is with men, with most men it’s a build up of something physical that will eventually find its way out one way or another.

With women that need to feel warm and safe, aroused and stimulated there are a lot more mental variables to get just right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding "

I don't tick her boxes, if you'll pardon the pun....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

Or 5. They all faked "

Who knows? If they did they were incredibly kind enough to come back for more and keep up the pretence. I don't do one offs and I spend a while making that mental connection before we even meet. I find that builds up the sexual tension even for a no obligation meet and first socials have, bar one, always ended up with at least a breathless snogging session and always led on to a fwb arrangement. For me it's all about pleasuring the woman. I'm very sensual and tactile. I don't mind taking my time and learning a woman's likes, dislikes and fantasies. there is nothing like seeing a woman sexually fulfilled, or possibly being deluded into thinking she is!..

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Whilst I have only had sex with a miniscule percentage of the female population I have never known a woman not come at least once. Multiples seem more common. One fwb told me she only ever came through fingering, and it turns out she was wrong. Some women come just through nipple play or other non pussy/clit stimulation. It's quite random

Four possibilities:

1. You're a sex God

2. You haven't fucked a representative sample of women

3. I'm shit at sex

4. All of the above

It's going to be 2....that's the miniscule percentage bit..Although I might be persuaded to increase the sample size in the interests of science..

See if you can make poochiepoo cum, my bet would be no and it would be as awkward as a first cousin wedding

Very true. Not even a sex therapist I met from here could do it despite numerous veris stating how great he was with his techniques. I blame it on lack of attraction.

It’s about being able to get into a state of mind with some one that is relaxed enough to allow an orgasm to happen.

It’s obviously a very personal thing and requires a great deal of trust in another person and that’s not always possible with a randomer

Most definitely in the head. I have to be in the zone and my mind needs to be stimulated quite a bit to get there. When it happens it’s very much worth it.

I think with women an orgasm is much more a mental thing than it is with men, with most men it’s a build up of something physical that will eventually find its way out one way or another.

With women that need to feel warm and safe, aroused and stimulated there are a lot more mental variables to get just right.

"

That's why I'm bi, women are so much hassle. Women for procreation, men for pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mental thing works on me too. The most powerful and prolonged orgasms I have are after a slow build up that doesn't have to be anything more than flirty conversation over a couple of hours. Just the potential for more and anticipation can have a considerable effect on me that needs a release with or without a woman. It has on occasion actually been painful until that happens..

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