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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "Yes, great suggestion. You're the first to go. | |||
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"The amount of men on the site doesn't dictate the type of man I want to meet." Yes, and this. | |||
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"Do we?! I have hardly anyone local to me that I want to meet And nah, no need for a restriction. How would that even be monitored? " With this  .
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "Are you serious?? If they are going to do a male cull. Then married should be at the top of the list. Not the ones left behind  | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought.
Are you serious?? If they are going to do a male cull. Then married should be at the top of the list. Not the ones left behind "Plus, if there were only married men who were unattractive left, I just wouldn't meet on here. I'm far from desperate. | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought.
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"Oh and you don’t need to be hunky,gorgeous etc to get meets on here. I’m proof of that "Yeah, even this guy can get meets  | |||
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"Oh and you don’t need to be hunky,gorgeous etc to get meets on here. I’m proof of that
Yeah, even this guy can get meets "And he's from Birmingham. | |||
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"Oh and you don’t need to be hunky,gorgeous etc to get meets on here. I’m proof of that
Yeah, even this guy can get meets
And he's from Birmingham."There’s hope for all of us | |||
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"Oh and you don’t need to be hunky,gorgeous etc to get meets on here. I’m proof of that
Yeah, even this guy can get meets
And he's from Birmingham.
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"So you think starving the women of the hot guys and ones they are attracted to, would make them more attracted to the ugly, married guys? They’ll just started flirting with each other "Failing that, vibrators | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "We're not really and from the comments, seems I'm not alone.. | |||
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"A lot is made of the imbalance in numbers between men and women on the site - and it's true in terms of physical numbers there are anything between 10 and 15 male profiles to every women's one - however take the idiots, the entitled and those with too high expectations and the wrong approach to the site out of the equation and the balance is a lot more even. Either way, no need to restrict people, they tend to restrict themselves with the way they go about their Fab business "Thatscall well an good but its not a solution is it? There are ways to get meets through many means for men but ratio is an objective issue these sites have and thats just how it is. | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "i think you think too much OP | |||
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"A lot is made of the imbalance in numbers between men and women on the site - and it's true in terms of physical numbers there are anything between 10 and 15 male profiles to every women's one - however take the idiots, the entitled and those with too high expectations and the wrong approach to the site out of the equation and the balance is a lot more even. Either way, no need to restrict people, they tend to restrict themselves with the way they go about their Fab business
Thatscall well an good but its not a solution is it? There are ways to get meets through many means for men but ratio is an objective issue these sites have and thats just how it is. "I prefer to worry about how I conduct myself and interact with the site and other members, rather than worrying about any perceived "competition" - the good ladies, and indeed gents of this site are intelligent and capable enough of being able to see past the crap to find people they want to meet without the site having to address any imbalance in numbers
As has already been pointed out, even if the numbers were equal, it still wouldn't guarantee a meet. If you're not attractive to someone, you're not attractive to them, plain and simple. | |||
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"You think people not fucking married guys is a numbers issue?! " but it is! This man is already MARRIED not meeting him would only be dare i say the other persons loss   | |||
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"A lot is made of the imbalance in numbers between men and women on the site - and it's true in terms of physical numbers there are anything between 10 and 15 male profiles to every women's one - however take the idiots, the entitled and those with too high expectations and the wrong approach to the site out of the equation and the balance is a lot more even. Either way, no need to restrict people, they tend to restrict themselves with the way they go about their Fab business
Thatscall well an good but its not a solution is it? There are ways to get meets through many means for men but ratio is an objective issue these sites have and thats just how it is.
I prefer to worry about how I conduct myself and interact with the site and other members, rather than worrying about any perceived "competition" - the good ladies, and indeed gents of this site are intelligent and capable enough of being able to see past the crap to find people they want to meet without the site having to address any imbalance in numbers
As has already been pointed out, even if the numbers were equal, it still wouldn't guarantee a meet. If you're not attractive to someone, you're not attractive to them, plain and simple." As ever, the voice of reason | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with " I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. | |||
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"Choosing between a turd and a turd I still end up with a turd. "But was it a polished one? | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples." While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it. | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it." There's no fair way of changing the ratio. There's no way around that either. | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it." Trust me, it is not just luck in getting noticed! I read every single profile of the men that message me, due to that I ignore 95% of my messages, because the profiles are so shite lol Until men accept and decide to make an effort, they will continue to be ignored | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "If you think it’s hard going for straight men on here, try being a bisexual woman. Just saying. | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "There is always a market for not so hunky guys, I (Mrs WD40) do not go for pretty/fit guys or gym bunnies so if fab went elite I would have no field of men to choose from. As for the married men, they should put as much time n effort into their wives as they do fab! Mrs _d40 | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "I say it often folk look to blame other factors for their perceived lack of success when more often than not the reason is far closer to home.. And ...if a guy's not attracted to the lady ..he has the same option to say no thanks ..I consider fab a two way street a level playing field .. if you jump through hoops it's you that tips that balance. | |||
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"If there were less of the guys I'm looking for I wouldn't settle for anyone. I'm not desperate for cock. " Attention, on the other hand... | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it. Trust me, it is not just luck in getting noticed! I read every single profile of the men that message me, due to that I ignore 95% of my messages, because the profiles are so shite lol Until men accept and decide to make an effort, they will continue to be ignored "Not saying effort isnt required im just sayin thats its probably the reason why some dont put in the effort. Its easy to be on the recieving end and paint it how you see it. | |||
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"If there were less of the guys I'm looking for I wouldn't settle for anyone. I'm not desperate for cock. Attention, on the other hand..." Are you insinuating I'm desperate for attention? | |||
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...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two! | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it." The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two! "This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones. | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "So you’re saying women should lower their standards so you can get laid? I actually enjoy being picky about who I meet and talk to! | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones. "Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys? | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "Men wouldn't become more attractive because there were less men I find attractive on here. I'd either leave or meet less men. | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it. The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them." Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "Yes YOU should be made to leave immediately x | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?"Exactly but there’s so many ridiculous ones that I can’t be bothered to search the nice ones out, that’s what I’m saying. I probably will eventually. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?"I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice.. . FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun."Is this to me? I have filters and I do block. | |||
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"It wouldn't make a blind bit of difference, if I can't find someone I'm attracted to, then I just go without. I don't lower my preferences just because they'd be fewer numbers. It just means men have to put in more effort, if they can't be bothered then they also go without. Most can't be arsed to make an effort so think whinging on the forum will make some sort of difference, I don't think it has ever worked to be honest." This. | |||
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"A lot is made of the imbalance in numbers between men and women on the site - and it's true in terms of physical numbers there are anything between 10 and 15 male profiles to every women's one - however take the idiots, the entitled and those with too high expectations and the wrong approach to the site out of the equation and the balance is a lot more even. Either way, no need to restrict people, they tend to restrict themselves with the way they go about their Fab business "
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" The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it?" Everything you're saying suggests there's a problem when I don't believe there is one - as an older, past it, somewhat average bloke I'm able to get meets so if I can, almost anyone can with the right approach and attitude. You've also failed to answer my question about how you would go about reducing the number of single men profiles on here whilst ensuring you met the myriad 'attraction criteria' the good ladies of Fab might have. Simple fact of the matter is that reducing the number of single men on the site might mean numbers were balanced physically but it wouldn't mean that more people were attracted to one another. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
Exactly but there’s so many ridiculous ones that I can’t be bothered to search the nice ones out, that’s what I’m saying. I probably will eventually. "Then you have only your laziness to blame. You are the one not making the site work for you. Still no one has spoilt it for anyone. | |||
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" The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? Everything you're saying suggests there's a problem when I don't believe there is one - as an older, past it, somewhat average bloke I'm able to get meets so if I can, almost anyone can with the right approach and attitude. You've also failed to answer my question about how you would go about reducing the number of single men profiles on here whilst ensuring you met the myriad 'attraction criteria' the good ladies of Fab might have. Simple fact of the matter is that reducing the number of single men on the site might mean numbers were balanced physically but it wouldn't mean that more people were attracted to one another." I get meets and befriend many people too but im not blind to the fact that there is an issue here. As i said it would be soely based on the quantity, which esensually is just reducing the numbers nagating any type of characteristics from the equasion which is not subjective. Monetising the userbase wont attract everyone to each other ofcouuserbas, but it reduces the strays, fakes and dreamers lurking about adding nothing but spam to an already unsaturated userbase. A be all end all solution no, but it sure is better than what we have now. Where as using the right aproch and attitude is simply a passive skill and doesnt actually solve anything nor is it adressing what the OPs view and point | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
Exactly but there’s so many ridiculous ones that I can’t be bothered to search the nice ones out, that’s what I’m saying. I probably will eventually.
Then you have only your laziness to blame. You are the one not making the site work for you. Still no one has spoilt it for anyone. "I’ll consider myself told and make more of an effort in future
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block. "It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk.. 346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block.
It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk..
346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages.
"Ok yes I get what you’re saying but it’s more not reading the profile or ignoring it. These messages have been sent since I put in capital letters at the top of my profile that I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment and that I’m just here for the forums and the friends I already have. I’ve now hidden it which I shouldn’t have to do. It’s no big deal and I’m really not that bothered I was just giving my opinion. | |||
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" The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? Everything you're saying suggests there's a problem when I don't believe there is one - as an older, past it, somewhat average bloke I'm able to get meets so if I can, almost anyone can with the right approach and attitude. You've also failed to answer my question about how you would go about reducing the number of single men profiles on here whilst ensuring you met the myriad 'attraction criteria' the good ladies of Fab might have. Simple fact of the matter is that reducing the number of single men on the site might mean numbers were balanced physically but it wouldn't mean that more people were attracted to one another. I get meets and befriend many people too but im not blind to the fact that there is an issue here. As i said it would be soely based on the quantity, which esensually is just reducing the numbers nagating any type of characteristics from the equasion which is not subjective. Monetising the userbase wont attract everyone to each other ofcouuserbas, but it reduces the strays, fakes and dreamers lurking about adding nothing but spam to an already unsaturated userbase. A be all end all solution no, but it sure is better than what we have now. Where as using the right aproch and attitude is simply a passive skill and doesnt actually solve anything nor is it adressing what the OPs view and point" OK putting aside that I disagree with you completely for the reasons stated - how do you propose to reduce the imbalance? All you've actually offered so far is a theory, not a solution - what's your actual solution to reduce the number of single men AND ensure those that are left meet the various attraction criteria of the good ladies of Fab? How are you proposing Fab decides who can join and who can't? | |||
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" The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? Everything you're saying suggests there's a problem when I don't believe there is one - as an older, past it, somewhat average bloke I'm able to get meets so if I can, almost anyone can with the right approach and attitude. You've also failed to answer my question about how you would go about reducing the number of single men profiles on here whilst ensuring you met the myriad 'attraction criteria' the good ladies of Fab might have. Simple fact of the matter is that reducing the number of single men on the site might mean numbers were balanced physically but it wouldn't mean that more people were attracted to one another. I get meets and befriend many people too but im not blind to the fact that there is an issue here. As i said it would be soely based on the quantity, which esensually is just reducing the numbers nagating any type of characteristics from the equasion which is not subjective. Monetising the userbase wont attract everyone to each other ofcouuserbas, but it reduces the strays, fakes and dreamers lurking about adding nothing but spam to an already unsaturated userbase. A be all end all solution no, but it sure is better than what we have now. Where as using the right aproch and attitude is simply a passive skill and doesnt actually solve anything nor is it adressing what the OPs view and point OK putting aside that I disagree with you completely for the reasons stated - how do you propose to reduce the imbalance? All you've actually offered so far is a theory, not a solution - what's your actual solution to reduce the number of single men AND ensure those that are left meet the various attraction criteria of the good ladies of Fab? How are you proposing Fab decides who can join and who can't?" I think the op only wants less physically fit/muscular and married/attached to be able to join fab.......... so men that physically make more of an effort and honest singletons aren’t welcome!! | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block.
It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk..
346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages.
Ok yes I get what you’re saying but it’s more not reading the profile or ignoring it. These messages have been sent since I put in capital letters at the top of my profile that I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment and that I’m just here for the forums and the friends I already have. I’ve now hidden it which I shouldn’t have to do. It’s no big deal and I’m really not that bothered I was just giving my opinion. "But if you aren't looking then why not hide your profile? Why shouldn't you have to do that? It's like people that leave ads open on AutoTrader when they've sold their car! | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
Exactly but there’s so many ridiculous ones that I can’t be bothered to search the nice ones out, that’s what I’m saying. I probably will eventually.
Then you have only your laziness to blame. You are the one not making the site work for you. Still no one has spoilt it for anyone.
I’ll consider myself told and make more of an effort in future
Although I stand with the fact that the majority with their vile messages and lack of reading skills do spoil it for the genuine ones. The reason I constantly hide my profile and have left this site numerous times. So we’ll agree to disagree on that one. "They don’t spoil it for us, they make it easier. We stand out like a beacon in amongst the filth. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block.
It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk..
346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages.
Ok yes I get what you’re saying but it’s more not reading the profile or ignoring it. These messages have been sent since I put in capital letters at the top of my profile that I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment and that I’m just here for the forums and the friends I already have. I’ve now hidden it which I shouldn’t have to do. It’s no big deal and I’m really not that bothered I was just giving my opinion.
But if you aren't looking then why not hide your profile? Why shouldn't you have to do that? It's like people that leave ads open on AutoTrader when they've sold their car! "Because sometimes people message me from the forums and I don’t mind that. The fact that I have that I’m not currently looking to meet anyone new so please don’t message me should be enough! Maybe a few will but not over 300! Proves my point that people either don’t look or just choose to ignore profiles. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
Exactly but there’s so many ridiculous ones that I can’t be bothered to search the nice ones out, that’s what I’m saying. I probably will eventually.
Then you have only your laziness to blame. You are the one not making the site work for you. Still no one has spoilt it for anyone.
I’ll consider myself told and make more of an effort in future
Although I stand with the fact that the majority with their vile messages and lack of reading skills do spoil it for the genuine ones. The reason I constantly hide my profile and have left this site numerous times. So we’ll agree to disagree on that one.
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" The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? Everything you're saying suggests there's a problem when I don't believe there is one - as an older, past it, somewhat average bloke I'm able to get meets so if I can, almost anyone can with the right approach and attitude. You've also failed to answer my question about how you would go about reducing the number of single men profiles on here whilst ensuring you met the myriad 'attraction criteria' the good ladies of Fab might have. Simple fact of the matter is that reducing the number of single men on the site might mean numbers were balanced physically but it wouldn't mean that more people were attracted to one another. I get meets and befriend many people too but im not blind to the fact that there is an issue here. As i said it would be soely based on the quantity, which esensually is just reducing the numbers nagating any type of characteristics from the equasion which is not subjective. Monetising the userbase wont attract everyone to each other ofcouuserbas, but it reduces the strays, fakes and dreamers lurking about adding nothing but spam to an already unsaturated userbase. A be all end all solution no, but it sure is better than what we have now. Where as using the right aproch and attitude is simply a passive skill and doesnt actually solve anything nor is it adressing what the OPs view and point OK putting aside that I disagree with you completely for the reasons stated - how do you propose to reduce the imbalance? All you've actually offered so far is a theory, not a solution - what's your actual solution to reduce the number of single men AND ensure those that are left meet the various attraction criteria of the good ladies of Fab? How are you proposing Fab decides who can join and who can't?" The Good Ladies of Fab. I like that. We need wafting with ostrich feathers | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it. The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it?" You seem to be implying that women on Fab are unable to use their intellect, taste and experience to choose who they are interested in and that they are unable to go through the men's profiles and sort the wheat from the chaff. You will be telling me next that I don't know how to invest my own money or run my own business! | |||
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" The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? Everything you're saying suggests there's a problem when I don't believe there is one - as an older, past it, somewhat average bloke I'm able to get meets so if I can, almost anyone can with the right approach and attitude. You've also failed to answer my question about how you would go about reducing the number of single men profiles on here whilst ensuring you met the myriad 'attraction criteria' the good ladies of Fab might have. Simple fact of the matter is that reducing the number of single men on the site might mean numbers were balanced physically but it wouldn't mean that more people were attracted to one another. I get meets and befriend many people too but im not blind to the fact that there is an issue here. As i said it would be soely based on the quantity, which esensually is just reducing the numbers nagating any type of characteristics from the equasion which is not subjective. Monetising the userbase wont attract everyone to each other ofcouuserbas, but it reduces the strays, fakes and dreamers lurking about adding nothing but spam to an already unsaturated userbase. A be all end all solution no, but it sure is better than what we have now. Where as using the right aproch and attitude is simply a passive skill and doesnt actually solve anything nor is it adressing what the OPs view and point OK putting aside that I disagree with you completely for the reasons stated - how do you propose to reduce the imbalance? All you've actually offered so far is a theory, not a solution - what's your actual solution to reduce the number of single men AND ensure those that are left meet the various attraction criteria of the good ladies of Fab? How are you proposing Fab decides who can join and who can't?" And for reasons i have stated, good comes from a 1 to 1 ratio where did i state or sugest fab chooses who stays, that input would be through the users much like it is now. the fact of the matter is that there will always be profiles that do not meet womens "attraction criteria" regardless if you take the right approch or reduce the userbase but reducing the userbase atleast makes everything more managable for the'good women' without as many or few good men being overlooked. And yeah its a just theory as opposed to your.. horse  git gud montra | |||
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"While women would say otherwise, that would be a good idea. More of a work around to make it less of a sausage fest. Ladies, limiting the amount of men doesnt nessesarily mean you have fewer types to choose from. It just means ballance necause lets be honest its not great for me especially with all the fakes on here There just simply arent enough women compared to males on these sort of sites. Nothing subjective about it. Its an objective issue we just deal with I rarely message a man on Fab but from the many messages I receive I read them, read the profiles and veris and then decide if they may be of interest before I reply. Only the ones that send a generic message with a cock pic or are outside my area get deleted with no message. So how would smaller numbers change anything? If there is no one I am attracted to I don't talk to them and I don't meet - simples. While im sure your effort is admirable. I know how flustered it can get for any single women with a revealing pic. You wont be looking through them all and will probably bulk delete missing a few interests. With less men its simply fewer of everything including generic messeges and interests. This isnt a win win sistuation its just a lesser of two evils so to speak. Also more men might actually put some effort into their messeges if they didnt think getting noticed was like winning the lottery. I dont fall into this catergory nor do i have this problem but the problem exists and just gettingvon with it or changing your aprich doesnt solve it. No anount of effort will magically solidate you a meet, its just luck most of the time due to the imballanced ratio which again is and objective issue. No ways around it. The imbalanced ratio has absolutely nothing to do with it at all - and I actually think it's somewhat insulting to suggest that women aren't capable of seeing past the entitled and those with false expectations etc. or need some kind of site enforced criteria to help them do that. Even if the site were to introduce criteria to filter out some men - what would it be based on? Body size? Cock length? Would there be an entrance exam? Whilst it's an objective fact that there are more men than women here - attraction is completely subjective thing that is not the same for everyone, so there is no way of coming up with a set of criteria that would cater to all tastes. As I said earlier I tend to focus on the way I act and approach the site rather than worrying about others and if that leads to meets then all well and good - if it doesn't I either look at what I could do differently or decide the site is not the right place for me and leave. As someone else rightly said, the problem with a lot of men on here that aren't getting meets is they blame it on factors other than themselves when a lot of the time they should look at how they are approaching the site and their expectations of it and make changes accordingly NOT expect the site to change to fit them. Its not about the site suiting the user its maintanance. And there is nothing insulting about monotising the user base for fluidity as it obvioisly be based of the quantity. As i said before effort is required but threw the sheer quantity its easy to be missed. Weither the factors of the user is hindering their chances or not is completely besides the point of what the OP was trying to mmake and is more of a cop out response than anything as it doesnt actually solve the problem now does it? You seem to be implying that women on Fab are unable to use their intellect, taste and experience to choose who they are interested in and that they are unable to go through the men's profiles and sort the wheat from the chaff. You will be telling me next that I don't know how to invest my own money or run my own business! "Aha..well If thats what you got from what u have said then i dont know what to tell ya | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block.
It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk..
346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages.
Ok yes I get what you’re saying but it’s more not reading the profile or ignoring it. These messages have been sent since I put in capital letters at the top of my profile that I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment and that I’m just here for the forums and the friends I already have. I’ve now hidden it which I shouldn’t have to do. It’s no big deal and I’m really not that bothered I was just giving my opinion.
But if you aren't looking then why not hide your profile? Why shouldn't you have to do that? It's like people that leave ads open on AutoTrader when they've sold their car!
Because sometimes people message me from the forums and I don’t mind that. The fact that I have that I’m not currently looking to meet anyone new so please don’t message me should be enough! Maybe a few will but not over 300! Proves my point that people either don’t look or just choose to ignore profiles. "People can still message you if your hidden # justsaying | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block.
It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk..
346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages.
Ok yes I get what you’re saying but it’s more not reading the profile or ignoring it. These messages have been sent since I put in capital letters at the top of my profile that I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment and that I’m just here for the forums and the friends I already have. I’ve now hidden it which I shouldn’t have to do. It’s no big deal and I’m really not that bothered I was just giving my opinion.
But if you aren't looking then why not hide your profile? Why shouldn't you have to do that? It's like people that leave ads open on AutoTrader when they've sold their car!
Because sometimes people message me from the forums and I don’t mind that. The fact that I have that I’m not currently looking to meet anyone new so please don’t message me should be enough! Maybe a few will but not over 300! Proves my point that people either don’t look or just choose to ignore profiles.
People can still message you if your hidden # justsaying"Can they? Oh ok I didn’t realise that. Didn’t think they could if it was hidden, thought only friends could. | |||
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"I think the op is onto something. I can see it now. I've simply been too selfish before. My stunning good looks and charm, combined with my official rating as 38th funniest person on the forum, is simply too overwhelming for any normal man to beat. It was unfair of me. In the name of positive discrimination I'll leave and make way for a weak sapling to grow, free from my mighty oak's shadow (it's big) "Did you manage to keep your 38th placing then. | |||
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"I think the op is onto something. I can see it now. I've simply been too selfish before. My stunning good looks and charm, combined with my official rating as 38th funniest person on the forum, is simply too overwhelming for any normal man to beat. It was unfair of me. In the name of positive discrimination I'll leave and make way for a weak sapling to grow, free from my mighty oak's shadow (it's big)
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"And for reasons i have stated, good comes from a 1 to 1 ratio where did i state or sugest fab chooses who stays, that input would be through the users much like it is now. the fact of the matter is that there will always be profiles that do not meet womens "attraction criteria" regardless if you take the right approch or reduce the userbase but reducing the userbase atleast makes everything more managable for the'good women' without as many or few good men being overlooked. And yeah its a just theory as opposed to your.. horse git gud montra"Doesn't matter if it's a one to one ratio or a one to ten ratio it still all boils down to attraction at the end of the day - reducing that ratio wouldn't make the blindest bit of difference to either side of the equation. And if there isn't a restriction in place as to who can join that ratio will never reduce anyway, so your points are moot. Either way the OPs suggestion is invalid and not really worthy of further scrutiny to be honest. As for my "horse git gud montra" the mind boggles as to what you mean - but I stand by all I've said and don't see any reason to change either the way I approach the site, or the way the site is run. | |||
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"I think so many ladies probably miss out, its like being in a sweet shop they've so much choice they probably miss out on some decent guys! ...I have to make more effort as a man and being older even more so,but it doesn't bother me at all because I get responses,and have chatted to some lovely lady's and met one or two!
This is true to be honest, I’ve currently got 346 unread messages and I honestly can’t be bothered to go through them because 95% of them and I mean 95% will be either vile or they haven’t even bothered to read the profile. The idiot majority on here spoil it for the genuine nice ones.
Not strictly true. Smart ladies ignore most of what comes into their mailbox and search out those that attract them. I don't see how That spoils anything for the genuine nice guys?
I really do dislike ladies in a sweet shop.they've so much choice... FFS if a lady or couple message a guy or you get a response from a lady or couple that aren't what you're seeking ..grow a pair ...guys can say no thanks ..guys are in the same sweet shop .. know your worth..it's the desperate folk that tip the balance.
If the messages you're receive aren't what you like filter and or block those that are sending the dross.. search for those you seek .. the decent genuine folk are likely already out having fun.
Is this to me? I have filters and I do block.
It's a suggestion I make to lots of folk..
346 messages and 95% are either vile or not suitable. ..if the filters aren't stopping the 95%...Block the entire gender(s) that are sending the vile inappropriate messages .. that way you can find the 5% easily..be proactive.. I always suggest this is a sensible way as you know better than any profile description would provide to the reader whom you seek..or continue receiving the inappropriate and vile messages.
Ok yes I get what you’re saying but it’s more not reading the profile or ignoring it. These messages have been sent since I put in capital letters at the top of my profile that I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment and that I’m just here for the forums and the friends I already have. I’ve now hidden it which I shouldn’t have to do. It’s no big deal and I’m really not that bothered I was just giving my opinion.
But if you aren't looking then why not hide your profile? Why shouldn't you have to do that? It's like people that leave ads open on AutoTrader when they've sold their car!
Because sometimes people message me from the forums and I don’t mind that. The fact that I have that I’m not currently looking to meet anyone new so please don’t message me should be enough! Maybe a few will but not over 300! Proves my point that people either don’t look or just choose to ignore profiles. "It should be enough.. however on here and in the real world there are folk whose don't respect your boundaries.. you chose to close and lock your house door ..why.. because there are folk who if it wasn't would walk in and likely take stuff if you didn't .. | |||
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"Being a man ( last time I looked) lol it feels that the straight ladies not just on here but other sites have to many to choose from. Should there be a restriction on male numbers which would give, dare I say the not so hunky and georgous and married guys more of a chance? Just a thought. "Ok I'll get me coat. | |||
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"Fella where's the fun in that? If it was easy then it would just be boring. The girls make their choices based on their preferences and how much effort you put in. If youre not getting what you want from the site then maybe you need to look closer to home. Stop bitching and start working! Nothing in this life comes free " Married too.... really wants it all. | |||
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"Fella where's the fun in that? If it was easy then it would just be boring. The girls make their choices based on their preferences and how much effort you put in. If youre not getting what you want from the site then maybe you need to look closer to home. Stop bitching and start working! Nothing in this life comes free Married too.... really wants it all. " And clearly getting nothing..surely being married is getting it all...a real alpha male this one | |||
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"Fella where's the fun in that? If it was easy then it would just be boring. The girls make their choices based on their preferences and how much effort you put in. If youre not getting what you want from the site then maybe you need to look closer to home. Stop bitching and start working! Nothing in this life comes free Married too.... really wants it all. And clearly getting nothing..surely being married is getting it all...a real alpha male this one "Op wants to restricted my access to hot men (in his eyes) so ‘not so hot and married’ men have a chance. It sounds super creepy !!! Sense of entitlement comes to my mind. | |||
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"Fella where's the fun in that? If it was easy then it would just be boring. The girls make their choices based on their preferences and how much effort you put in. If youre not getting what you want from the site then maybe you need to look closer to home. Stop bitching and start working! Nothing in this life comes free Married too.... really wants it all. And clearly getting nothing..surely being married is getting it all...a real alpha male this one
Op wants to restricted my access to hot men (in his eyes) so ‘not so hot and married’ men have a chance. It sounds super creepy !!! Sense of entitlement comes to my mind.
It does have a rather creepy/stalker feel to it doesnt it. not quite sure that there are any real benefits for any one from that kind of situation. Im guessing he could do with an ego boost but is looking at the wrong place for it, and has probably just blown his chances even more. Still i wouldnt be too worried about it, the world has a way of sorting itself out, i believe its put into the hands of a bitch named karma.
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