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By *ral Extraordinaire OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

I wont stay with a woman now im out my past long term vanilla relationship unless she is very naughty and participates in sucking my cock (its a must...oh n must swallow) let me rim her (as its my absolute fav) and occasional anal ( 10yrs with ex and no anal ...never again)

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really? Each to their own.

I wouldn't start a relationship unless we'd had dates and sex for quite a while anyway.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

So that’s your criteria for a relationship? And if you get those three then all’s good?

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?"
I don't judge women on fucks but it doesn't take long to assess if they are long term or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?I don't judge women on fucks but it doesn't take long to assess if they are long term or not "

What this gentleman said ^^

Sex isn’t the make or break, especially after 2 sessions. But you can usually get a feel of general compatibility early on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term."

Yep. Sex is very important to me when looking for a relationship. We have to satisfy each other sexually other wise one of us will become frustrated very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term."
of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks "

Of course not, no, but if we weren't sexually compatible it simply wouldn't work. Sex is an important part of a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

Of course not, no, but if we weren't sexually compatible it simply wouldn't work. Sex is an important part of a relationship."
I agree but if you're good at the sex thing you're good at the sex thing it's hardly rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah you gotta be on the same sex wavelength, if a guy would never go down on you or wouldnt fuck you in certain ways and refused to do things you know you enjoy then its eventually going to frustrate you in a big bad way. Dont think you can tell only after a couple of times though, as long as their open to trying things with you then it could work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

Of course not, no, but if we weren't sexually compatible it simply wouldn't work. Sex is an important part of a relationship.I agree but if you're good at the sex thing you're good at the sex thing it's hardly rocket science "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

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By *i winkersCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Oh you would be surprised everyone has their buttons that are individual to them which have to be pushed.

Like for me if someone’s kiss doesn’t work for me that would be the relationship over before it started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

No but not everyone enjoys the same kind of thing. Some are vanilla and some are extremely kinky, if you met someone who was at the opposite end of the scale to you and weren't interested in changing, it wouldn't work."
vanilla is a non existent label sex is good or great if both people enjoy sex then it can go to very adventurous extremes and having left a relationship that had no sex I understand that sex is important but not to all, some value other attributes of life more and nothing wrong with that at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term."

Totally agree. I resented weeks spent dating guys I'd met on vanilla dating sites, only to find out they were lousy in bed. For me, there's no point pursuing a relationship with someone who's libido or sexual preferences don't match mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is all I can say to that. I wouldn’t have a relationship with someone who talked about me in terms of fucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

No but not everyone enjoys the same kind of thing. Some are vanilla and some are extremely kinky, if you met someone who was at the opposite end of the scale to you and weren't interested in changing, it wouldn't work.vanilla is a non existent label sex is good or great if both people enjoy sex then it can go to very adventurous extremes and having left a relationship that had no sex I understand that sex is important but not to all, some value other attributes of life more and nothing wrong with that at all "

I was speaking for me personally and from my own experiences. Other people may obviously have a different opinion and that's absolutely fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term."

Proven by the people in relationships that come on here looking for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

Of course not, no, but if we weren't sexually compatible it simply wouldn't work. Sex is an important part of a relationship."

It's important, yes but you can't base a relationship purely on sex. Been there, it doesn't work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is all I can say to that. I wouldn’t have a relationship with someone who talked about me in terms of fucks. "

This!

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I’m not sure I’d be quite that specific, but there would be a requirement for not necessarily willing to swing, but at least an openness to accept the idea and the ability to be able to at least look and comment on other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.

Proven by the people in relationships that come on here looking for sex. "

Amen.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If I was looking for a relationship, a connection with a woman would be the most important thing. I’ve found that sex is better with someone that I connect with mentally and emotionally. Especially if they have a similar sense of humour. After that sexual compatibility comes in.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Just one and I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.of course but surely you don't judge a person by how good he fucks

Of course not, no, but if we weren't sexually compatible it simply wouldn't work. Sex is an important part of a relationship.

It's important, yes but you can't base a relationship purely on sex. Been there, it doesn't work! "

No, you can't, but if the sex isn't right then it's doomed to fail. One person isn't going to be truly happy

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst being sexually compatible is obviously desirable - the flip side of the OP is just because the sex is good doesn't necessarily mean the relationship will be good.

For a relationship to be truly strong there needs to be compatability across a broad spectrum of things - someone might be amazing in bed but not be on the same wavelength intellectually or in terms of sense of humour, or any number of other things that if they are not there could ultimately lead to the relationship not being right.

Some of them you can of course compromise on, and I certainly wouldn't go as far as to say if someone doesn't swallow or enjoy rimming that they'd not be for me as the OP has - but then once a year, in the missionary position with the lights off might make me think twice.

Ultimately though a relationship is not just about the sex, although it's an important part of it

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term."

Yep. Amen to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was looking for a relationship, a connection with a woman would be the most important thing. I’ve found that sex is better with someone that I connect with mentally and emotionally. Especially if they have a similar sense of humour. After that sexual compatibility comes in. "

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

What's the obsession some blokes have with women swallowing their jizz? If she does then fair enough that's her preference but I'm really not bothered if she spits it out!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP how do you know after just 2 sessions that you are compatible sexually?

Many people enjoy anal sex, oral sex and more adventurous stuff but have to build a level of trust and connection with their partner before indulging in it. That kind of trust doesn't come overnight, it takes time.

There are lots of more adventurous sexual acts I enjoy but wouldn't do with someone new, however I do indulge in with my FB who I've been seeing for nearly 2 years.

Also, just because a person enjoys a sexual act with others doesn't mean they will enjoy it with you!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Really? Each to their own.

I wouldn't start a relationship unless we'd had dates and sex for quite a while anyway. "

Exactly what I wanted to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh you would be surprised everyone has their buttons that are individual to them which have to be pushed.

Like for me if someone’s kiss doesn’t work for me that would be the relationship over before it started. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?"

Who said romance was dead...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?"

I guess it's considered impolite to write that on match.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? Each to their own.

I wouldn't start a relationship unless we'd had dates and sex for quite a while anyway. "

this is my stance too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?"

wow what a delightful person you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex wouldn't be the be all and end all with me. Someone can appear to want what you want sexually but later down the line when real life get in the way it isn't like that.

I had one guy who I started a relationship with, he made me think he wanted the same as me sexually.... Until I moved in with him then he basically stopped having sex with me and apparently it was a turn off that I was asking for sex all the time. The only time he would come near me was if we went to swing clubs.

So although sex is majorly important to me it wouldn't be the reason for a relationship for me as it can change

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

You can always work on your sex life. Obviously if someone is completely not compatible then it's unlikely to work out if sex is something you prioritise in a relationship but otherwise so long as there's some compatibility and openness to new ideas then you can work on it.

Doing it right now. And when i was looking for a relationship i actively avoided men who prioritise sex coz they'll basically hook up with anyone with the same sexual needs as them so i consider them low quality as partner material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can always work on your sex life. Obviously if someone is completely not compatible then it's unlikely to work out if sex is something you prioritise in a relationship but otherwise so long as there's some compatibility and openness to new ideas then you can work on it.

That sounds like a good plan, avoiding sex mad men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?"

Yes, you can.

I think it's wise to assess if you're sexually compatible early on. Things can change of course but if the basics like good communication are there you can cope with that. From the purely unscientific research I've done from reading fab forums there are a lot of sexually unhappy relationships.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

That sounds like a good plan, avoiding sex mad men. "

Having a high sex drive can equal compatibility. I had along relationship with someone whose sex drive matched mine and it worked alright.

That was 15 years ago when i found him and i've noticed things have changed since then. That a lot of men are looking for specific things and aren't fussy about who they get them from. They don't care who the person is, just that they get those needs fulfilled and this tends to make for a casual relationship because theydidn't seek someone compatible as a life partner but more for sexual needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think that you have to be sexually compatible. If it isn't satisfying for you then the relationship won't work long term.

That's why I use Fab to find f/b's - gave up on normal dating sites, I don't want a serious day to day relationship but want to spend time with a man who suits me sexually and to have fun with (mind you there are some guys on Fab who have sexual difficulties and think Fab women will be the ones to cure them).

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

When me and my wife got together , we were sexually compatible from day one . We were together for over a year before we even entertained swinging and everything was great . Eight years later and it’s still as good as it was from day one . We were swinging for seven years , and sex with each other was and still is off the scale .

She’s highly sexed , and I am too . She satisfies my needs and I hers . Just as well,we didn’t adopt the same line of thinking as you really ! We would have missed out in so much if we saw each other as low quality partner material .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then realise after 1 or 2 sex sessions it wont last ?

Can you tell after a few fucks that this person is not the one ?"
i had similar as we were both young inexperience fucked like rabbits but as we grew up had kids things changed i wanted one thing she wanted another so you could fuck 2 or 3 times and still have no clue as sexual appitites change you get in a rut get frustrated then boom your done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some to some don't some may never do so. Just like the outside world.

Sex may be important to all of us but relationships are far more than just sex if they are real relationships.

Whilst we can all, probably, find the sex part finding another who you can spend time with share life with care enough about to put their needs before our own seems to become less easy as we commoditise people and put them in boxes based on a narrow view of one or two fucks!!

Even sex itself becomes something more if two find the mental emotional and physical connections with another that turns the whole experience into a journey where each explores the other in every way...

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

That's years ago, 8 you said. Things have changed since then and a lot of people are mostly looking for casual and only their sexual needs being fulfilled. It doesn't really work to hook up based on sexual needs at this time i figured out.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

is all I can say to that. I wouldn’t have a relationship with someone who talked about me in terms of fucks. "

Me either

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By *ral Extraordinaire OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock."

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown "

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

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By *ral Extraordinaire OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

Dont need good luck as there is a big pond out there with many different fishes .....anyway good luck with your searching aswel

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By *ral Extraordinaire OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

(No anal on your list so your not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

(No anal on your list so your not for me

An anal tear, four surgeries later and the end of my marriage after losing sex drive means no anal. I wouldn’t want to go through the trauma again. It’s not even that nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

Dont need good luck as there is a big pond out there with many different fishes .....anyway good luck with your searching aswel

It’s why I want a swinging relationship, things either of us won’t do can be done with others. Not a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

Dont need good luck as there is a big pond out there with many different fishes .....anyway good luck with your searching aswel

It’s why I want a swinging relationship, things either of us won’t do can be done with others. Not a problem. "

As you haven’t had much luck on here.. try Craig’s list

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By *ral Extraordinaire OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"I'll know a man is not the one when he keeps shoving his cock in my mouth.

There's nothing worse than a selfish man who thinks I'm a convenient mouth for his cock.

You are aware that there are women out there that love nothing more than what your saying you dont !!

#eachtothereown

I’m with sybarite I’m afraid. Good luck OP with your list of requirements.

Dont need good luck as there is a big pond out there with many different fishes .....anyway good luck with your searching aswel

It’s why I want a swinging relationship, things either of us won’t do can be done with others. Not a problem.

As you haven’t had much luck on here.. try Craig’s list

Who hasnt had much on here ??

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