FabSwingers.com forum: Talk too much

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like to chat to people (via messages) to see if there's a connection and that I'm really interested and drawn to the person before meeting them.

However, I find that if I chat for too long before I meet them in person that we seem to 'get past' the stage of wanting to meet to have sexy fun.

How about you?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yeah as it becomes more of a friendship

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By *oTouchPleaseAndTeaseMan
over a year ago

Harlow

Not used chat on fab that much, but like going to clubs ........ and then chat

Agree though, think that you can break the ice and go beyond that here

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester

It can become tedious just messaging but it all build up to the meet

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Guilty as charged. I love conversation.

(Ironically this is such a short post)

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Faf tomorrow 3pm usually does the trick for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah some I’ve messaged have been friend zoned however some I have met that I chat with all the time and plan to meet again

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Magherafelt

I like conversation but no one talks to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Faf tomorrow 3pm usually does the trick for me

Surely you mean 5.55pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to chat to people (via messages) to see if there's a connection and that I'm really interested and drawn to the person before meeting them.

However, I find that if I chat for too long before I meet them in person that we seem to 'get past' the stage of wanting to meet to have sexy fun.

How about you? "

Absolutely this!!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Absolutely; After ‘Hi’ has been exchanged, my attention wanders elsewhere

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant

"I like to chat to people (via messages) to see if there's a connection and that I'm really interested and drawn to the person before meeting them.

However, I find that if I chat for too long before I meet them in person that we seem to 'get past' the stage of wanting to meet to have sexy fun.

How about you?

Absolutely this!! "

I 2nd that! Like when you speak to someone in a bar but it's only 7pm, and it happens to be only half an hour after you and you're friends have hit the town and you're like, right I've met you too early! Lol So it's all to do with timing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get that

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

"I like to chat to people (via messages) to see if there's a connection and that I'm really interested and drawn to the person before meeting them.

However, I find that if I chat for too long before I meet them in person that we seem to 'get past' the stage of wanting to meet to have sexy fun.

How about you? "

I think you have a point you can get to the point that you like someone and don't want to spoil the friendship by shagging them. The answer is to jump their bones before the tipping point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the opposite for me. I can be chatting to someone as a friend and the chat has made me want to fuck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have been a couple of people on here who I've chatted to about meeting when the opportunity arises. I've let the conversation go for precisely the reason stated in the op. I think there's a natural pace to meeting someone and I'll get back in touch with them when I feel I can meet and hopefully (fingers crossed) we'll pick things up from where we left off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of. All the ladies I currently chat to on here, I don't stand any chance of actually meeting, but I enjoy chatting with them. One or two I don't even consider sexually any more...I think my cock has died..!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to the initial thrill of the chase but soon lose interest if it becomes one sided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely agree. Even when, or maybe especially when, you try to avoid sexy chat because you know it will be weeks before you meet it can end up feeling like you are mates rather than potential sex partners.

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By *aileyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Definitely agree. Even when, or maybe especially when, you try to avoid sexy chat because you know it will be weeks before you meet it can end up feeling like you are mates rather than potential sex partners."

Yes! This. Totally agree.

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I just talk far too much no matter what.

I was in a club chatting to the girl working there.

A guy came down for condoms and told me there was a girl upstairs after a gangbang... I was so busy talking that the next thing I know the girl after the gangbag was leaving lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I try not to chat too much tbh because I lose interest. I'd rather have a social and see how we get on in rl. Then if all good meet again fairly quickly for a good ol' shag!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm... I hope not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try not to chat too much tbh because I lose interest. I'd rather have a social and see how we get on in rl. Then if all good meet again fairly quickly for a good ol' shag!! "

I'm a big real life fan

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"It's the opposite for me. I can be chatting to someone as a friend and the chat has made me want to fuck them

Really, that's quite interesting. Tell me more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a cave man I just grunt and finger paint...

May explain a lot that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to chat to people (via messages) to see if there's a connection and that I'm really interested and drawn to the person before meeting them.

However, I find that if I chat for too long before I meet them in person that we seem to 'get past' the stage of wanting to meet to have sexy fun.

How about you?

I think you have a point you can get to the point that you like someone and don't want to spoil the friendship by shagging them. The answer is to jump their bones before the tipping point. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the chat I'm gonna be more inclined to want sex too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try not to chat too much tbh because I lose interest. I'd rather have a social and see how we get on in rl. Then if all good meet again fairly quickly for a good ol' shag!! "

I like this approach, but commitments get in the way. Have used filters more to prevent me chatting to lovely people until I’m in a position to meet. This seems to be working better.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

It’s quite boring talking on a computer swap photos meet is far better

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I keep all online chat clean... That way if I meet them I'm not going to be cringing about pics that have been swapped or what we've discussed.

It keeps the dreamers and fantasists at bay too.

Chat generally for a couple of messages, swap face pics, meet for a coffee in lunch break.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

save ur self from freind zone by not talking to much before meet

stop talking about work stop talking about ur kids plans don't open up much before meet

after meet if u like them u stay in touch meet again n chat like freinds

simple this works for me just finnnnnneeee lol

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

"I'm a cave man I just grunt and finger paint...

May explain a lot that...

From what i hear that's more than most of the since men manage on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not! So far though the anticipation is just building for a meet I have planned. We talk enough to keep interest but not so much it becomes overwhelming.

I can see how it would be easy to slip into the friendzone with someone if you had no set plans to focus on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Females message me but I run out of things to talk about

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I like to chat to people (via messages) to see if there's a connection and that I'm really interested and drawn to the person before meeting them.

However, I find that if I chat for too long before I meet them in person that we seem to 'get past' the stage of wanting to meet to have sexy fun.

How about you?

Absolutely this!! "

I better get a wriggle on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love chat, the more the better. Finding shared interests, tastes, values and worldviews is more of an aphrodisiac to me than any amount of sexy talk and photo swapping even though it's only ever going to be a casual thing.

The "friend zone" thing doesn't really happen for me, I seem to lack that type of boundary myself.

What tends to kill it for me is when the exchanges are just "Hi, how are you? ... I'm fine thanks, you?" and there's no conversation or spark.

If my mind and imagination are engaged, then there's no loss of sexual interest on my part however long it takes to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the chat, I love the getting to know someone before the meet. More often than not my meets turn into friends, which is great.

My fwb really is a fwb, 7 months in and it is just as much about the connection and chat as it is about the sex.

Seen each other through thick and thin.

Hell, even helping him with his flat move and tax return lol.

If that aint being a mate as well as lover, not sure what is

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