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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get about 500 profile views per day on average but only a handful of messages. Is there something off-putting about my profile? I do have filters on but the men looking at my profile seem to be mostly within my age range.

I see a lot of posts on here about single women receiving hundreds of messages and I'm aware this makes me sound really vapid but I feel a little self conscious that this is not the case for me. Or am I being dumb and worrying over nothing? I really don't want to come across as shallow but at the same time would like to know if my profile needs improving to make me seem more approachable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not 420/chem friendly And we're all pill heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get about 500 profile views per day on average but only a handful of messages. Is there something off-putting about my profile? I do have filters on but the men looking at my profile seem to be mostly within my age range.

I see a lot of posts on here about single women receiving hundreds of messages and I'm aware this makes me sound really vapid but I feel a little self conscious that this is not the case for me. Or am I being dumb and worrying over nothing? I really don't want to come across as shallow but at the same time would like to know if my profile needs improving to make me seem more approachable? "

I can’t as I’m out of your age range never mind sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you’re getting messages every day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truly baffling. Men confuse me.

You are stunning, your profile reads well – the men of Staines are clearly idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brace yourself for the stampede now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks OK to me. However i wouldn't message you as your looking for something/someone quite specific and that's just not me. Hope they come along soon enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the women who get hundreds of messages every day live in a well populated area and often don’t have their filters on. I don’t get hundreds a day, maybe 10-30 at most (unless I’m on the hot pics). I also get about 500-1000 views a day. It might just be that there isn’t many men near you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good pics and a profile which is straight And rather harsh.

Get yourself to a few social gatherings or a club x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're profile reads to me like you have the barriers up

You also seem down on your weight

You also mention about getting to know guys and looking for fwb

Nothing wrong with any of those, but each of them would put some guys off

I find it odd that you would reject guys that are into bigger girls

Surely you would want someone to genuinely adore you and your body rather than meet a guy who is just out for an occasional fuck and would put up with a 'fat bird' (their words, not mine) if it was just once in a while ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the women who get hundreds of messages every day live in a well populated area and often don’t have their filters on. I don’t get hundreds a day, maybe 10-30 at most (unless I’m on the hot pics). I also get about 500-1000 views a day. It might just be that there isn’t many men near you "

Ha ha and when they do and pay you a compliment you just delete it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're profile reads to me like you have the barriers up

You also seem down on your weight

You also mention about getting to know guys and looking for fwb

Nothing wrong with any of those, but each of them would put some guys off

I find it odd that you would reject guys that are into bigger girls

Surely you would want someone to genuinely adore you and your body rather than meet a guy who is just out for an occasional fuck and would put up with a 'fat bird' (their words, not mine) if it was just once in a while ? "

I read it as if she doesn’t want men who see bigger women as a fetish, rather than just because they’re attracted to them. I feel that way about my age - I’ve had men tell me what an ego boost I would be, and that I’m ‘taboo’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hundreds of messages ??

Some may like to put that out there to appear ... dare I say ... popular

You get messages so change your profile or filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're profile reads to me like you have the barriers up

You also seem down on your weight

You also mention about getting to know guys and looking for fwb

Nothing wrong with any of those, but each of them would put some guys off

I find it odd that you would reject guys that are into bigger girls

Surely you would want someone to genuinely adore you and your body rather than meet a guy who is just out for an occasional fuck and would put up with a 'fat bird' (their words, not mine) if it was just once in a while ? "

I think she meant if anyone who messages claiming how they like big women as like a way into a conversation then she's not interested. I may be wrong I normally am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hundreds of messages ??

Some may like to put that out there to appear ... dare I say ... popular

You get messages so change your profile or filters "

Oooh those eyes again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're profile reads to me like you have the barriers up

You also seem down on your weight

You also mention about getting to know guys and looking for fwb

Nothing wrong with any of those, but each of them would put some guys off

I find it odd that you would reject guys that are into bigger girls

Surely you would want someone to genuinely adore you and your body rather than meet a guy who is just out for an occasional fuck and would put up with a 'fat bird' (their words, not mine) if it was just once in a while ?

I read it as if she doesn’t want men who see bigger women as a fetish, rather than just because they’re attracted to them. I feel that way about my age - I’ve had men tell me what an ego boost I would be, and that I’m ‘taboo’ "

being attracted to bigger people is normal for some and that, in itself, is seen as fetishistic by others

personally, i'd be happier with a partner who had 'previous' with chasing big guys than i would with a late night caller on an 'any hole' mission

that said, if they wanted to start feeding me lard or such like, they'd be off, gone, vamoosh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also."

Do you get it prescribed from your gp mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also."

Oh I doubt she is, there’s a difference between smoking 24/7 and expecting it on meets and smoking for genuine medical reasons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

Do you get it prescribed from your gp mate "

And that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There i just checked in but i cant give you orgasms as im fully booked and london is miiiiiiiles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have lovely photos and a beautiful lower face (that’s all I can see). I think the content of your profile is good but consider softening it SLIGHTLY. Not finger-in-your-mouth ‘ooh what a silly little thing I am’ soft, more ‘explaining to trusted, well meaning friend’ soft.

You have seen above the confused response to your para about approaches that mention your size. I think the mango thing is a waste of time too tbh. You know whether someone has read your profile.

Maybe get to some kink nights at local clubs and socials. You may not immediately find what you want, but you will have some fun and get yourself known.

Good luck!

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

You're looking for someone who you can submit too; whilst I'm sure there are guys on Fab who you will appeal to, maybe a more BDSM style site might suit your needs better?

You appear to be making your figure an issue when it really shouldn't be.

People will or won't be attracted to you. Accept that they're attracted to you the person, not necessarily your figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get it prescribed from your gp mate "

I have had ssri and beta blockers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would be suprized how many ignorant people dispute medical marijuana and think I should be on ssri...

Try taking beta blockers before jogging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also."

That makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would be suprized how many ignorant people dispute medical marijuana and think I should be on ssri...

Try taking beta blockers before jogging..."

I see the wakey bakey as made you paranoid. Harmless. My arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would be suprized how many ignorant people dispute medical marijuana and think I should be on ssri...

Try taking beta blockers before jogging...

I see the wakey bakey as made you paranoid. Harmless. My arse "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get about 500 profile views per day on average but only a handful of messages. Is there something off-putting about my profile? I do have filters on but the men looking at my profile seem to be mostly within my age range.

I see a lot of posts on here about single women receiving hundreds of messages and I'm aware this makes me sound really vapid but I feel a little self conscious that this is not the case for me. Or am I being dumb and worrying over nothing? I really don't want to come across as shallow but at the same time would like to know if my profile needs improving to make me seem more approachable? "

I don't think you need to alter your profile one little bit. All of us, couples, single ladies and single men are here for our own reasons. In my mind, you lay out your reasons distinctly and logicly. You have only been here for 3 months and have had 2 meets. I'd say that was a good time to meet ratio. Just because you don't get loads of messages isn't a reason to think something is wrong. If you enjoyed the meets you have had and feel you can take them forward in the way you want to, then that's what actually matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're profile reads to me like you have the barriers up

You also seem down on your weight

You also mention about getting to know guys and looking for fwb

Nothing wrong with any of those, but each of them would put some guys off

I find it odd that you would reject guys that are into bigger girls

Surely you would want someone to genuinely adore you and your body rather than meet a guy who is just out for an occasional fuck and would put up with a 'fat bird' (their words, not mine) if it was just once in a while ?

I read it as if she doesn’t want men who see bigger women as a fetish, rather than just because they’re attracted to them. I feel that way about my age - I’ve had men tell me what an ego boost I would be, and that I’m ‘taboo’ "

This.

I'm not "down on my weight" - even though my body is not where I would like it to be, I'm proud of it and am learning to accept and appreciate it at every stage. What I don't like is when someone tries to compliment me by putting down other body types (i.e "skinny women do nothing for me" - is it really necessary for me to know that?) or when I'm made to feel like it's not the norm to be attracted to me and that I should be grateful for the attention because I'm a bigger girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would be suprized how many ignorant people dispute medical marijuana and think I should be on ssri...

Try taking beta blockers before jogging...

I see the wakey bakey as made you paranoid. Harmless. My arse "

Fair enough if it’s prescribed by your doctor. But if you get it from a family wrecker dealer and probably cut with rat shit more fool you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the women who get hundreds of messages every day live in a well populated area and often don’t have their filters on. I don’t get hundreds a day, maybe 10-30 at most (unless I’m on the hot pics). I also get about 500-1000 views a day. It might just be that there isn’t many men near you "

Id go with this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fair enough if it’s prescribed by your doctor. But if you get it from a family wrecker dealer and probably cut with rat shit more fool you "

I don't drink/smoke ciggs/do /or other drugs

More fool everyone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for all the uplifting replies and helpful advice! I will certainly consider making some changes as after a re-read of my profile I realise it does come across a little harsh and doesn't really represent my friendly nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're profile reads to me like you have the barriers up

You also seem down on your weight

You also mention about getting to know guys and looking for fwb

Nothing wrong with any of those, but each of them would put some guys off

I find it odd that you would reject guys that are into bigger girls

Surely you would want someone to genuinely adore you and your body rather than meet a guy who is just out for an occasional fuck and would put up with a 'fat bird' (their words, not mine) if it was just once in a while ?

I read it as if she doesn’t want men who see bigger women as a fetish, rather than just because they’re attracted to them. I feel that way about my age - I’ve had men tell me what an ego boost I would be, and that I’m ‘taboo’

This.

I'm not "down on my weight" - even though my body is not where I would like it to be, I'm proud of it and am learning to accept and appreciate it at every stage. What I don't like is when someone tries to compliment me by putting down other body types (i.e "skinny women do nothing for me" - is it really necessary for me to know that?) or when I'm made to feel like it's not the norm to be attracted to me and that I should be grateful for the attention because I'm a bigger girl. "

I totally get you, and that’s the understanding I got from your profile

And I agree. I don’t understand why men think it’s a compliment to put other women in order to make us feel better about ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get about 500 profile views per day on average but only a handful of messages. Is there something off-putting about my profile? I do have filters on but the men looking at my profile seem to be mostly within my age range.

I see a lot of posts on here about single women receiving hundreds of messages and I'm aware this makes me sound really vapid but I feel a little self conscious that this is not the case for me. Or am I being dumb and worrying over nothing? I really don't want to come across as shallow but at the same time would like to know if my profile needs improving to make me seem more approachable? "

It just means you are doing well with your filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they don't want to write 'mango' in the message header

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fair enough if it’s prescribed by your doctor. But if you get it from a family wrecker dealer and probably cut with rat shit more fool you

I don't drink/smoke ciggs/do /or other drugs

More fool everyone else"

Fair enough. It’s not for me to judge. I’m not the one with your condition. My apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C'est la vie darling

You'll get over it by flicking your bean while listening to Etienne Daho

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Most of the women who get hundreds of messages every day live in a well populated area and often don’t have their filters on. I don’t get hundreds a day, maybe 10-30 at most (unless I’m on the hot pics). I also get about 500-1000 views a day. It might just be that there isn’t many men near you "

I agree with this but I dont get 10 a day so it's not just you lovely. Don't take it to heart as its not you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also."

How does that make me bigoted? I don't like to do drugs because I don't like the effect they have on me personally (from previous bad experiences) and I wouldn't feel comfortable being around someone who's high when I'm not. I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

How does that make me bigoted? I don't like to do drugs because I don't like the effect they have on me personally (from previous bad experiences) and I wouldn't feel comfortable being around someone who's high when I'm not. I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie. "

Yeh. So you ignore what I tell you. Think I would force you to smoke etc...

I've got a choice. 420 my symptoms or heart tablets

I'm not forcing you to take serotonin pills....I'm not forcing you to smoke

You don't want to acknowledge it helps me. So there's your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alcohol and junk food are clearly worse...

But I'm not so bigoted about what others do.

As you can see I'm quite blunt...

Have fun with the "white knights"

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By *ove3funWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think you could put a more positive spin on things and saying you aren't drug friendly is unnecessary imo. It could be dealt with in the initial getting to know you...as could some of your other points. You aren't my thing so I may be way off but even if you were my thing all the 'don'ts' would put me off but you have some great pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alcohol and junk food are clearly worse...

But I'm not so bigoted about what others do.

As you can see I'm quite blunt...

Have fun with the "white knights""

Well I am white but have a dark side. However, I swear that I am not a knight of any kind these days, just trying to get laid in my red fiat panda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alcohol and junk food are clearly worse...

But I'm not so bigoted about what others do.

As you can see I'm quite blunt...

Have fun with the "white knights""

Why are you so offended? You are both looking to be dominated, so you two wouldn’t suit anyway. So no point in being upset by it, there’s plenty of other profiles and people who wouldn’t mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

How does that make me bigoted? I don't like to do drugs because I don't like the effect they have on me personally (from previous bad experiences) and I wouldn't feel comfortable being around someone who's high when I'm not. I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie.

Yeh. So you ignore what I tell you. Think I would force you to smoke etc...

I've got a choice. 420 my symptoms or heart tablets

I'm not forcing you to take serotonin pills....I'm not forcing you to smoke

You don't want to acknowledge it helps me. So there's your answer"

Well...aren't you a treat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie. "

I feel that neurotypical people are empopathic, genrally lower iq and have more tendency to do cruel horrible crimes of passion.

I feel neurotypical people are dangerous in crowds and they have "swarm mentality".

Forgive einstine for being crazy but when nurotypical people stop uploading species and start solving the theory of relativity I will give them abit more credit.

But don't accuse every person who isn't "normal" of being dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you so offended? You are both looking to be dominated, so you two wouldn’t suit anyway. So no point in being upset by it, there’s plenty of other profiles and people who wouldn’t mind "

She's not my type. But I'm talking about things on a personal level.

Life isn't all a BDSM fantasy...

People go to Tesco or looking at steam engines or whatever.

There's a time and place for bdsm.

"Explore the relationship before you explore your kink"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you so offended? You are both looking to be dominated, so you two wouldn’t suit anyway. So no point in being upset by it, there’s plenty of other profiles and people who wouldn’t mind

She's not my type. But I'm talking about things on a personal level.

Life isn't all a BDSM fantasy...

People go to Tesco or looking at steam engines or whatever.

There's a time and place for bdsm.

"Explore the relationship before you explore your kink"

"

Guilty of fucking behind Tesco

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile comes across to me as hard work, I had that said about me previously and changed my profile text. Remember most guys on here don’t do hard work.

Maybe some more alluring pictures but that’s my personal opinion.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have time for other men who act like yes men and lapdogs..

I do that stuff in the bedroom...

I'm not some goon who's girlfriend has access to his phone etc...

I'm 30.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

How does that make me bigoted? I don't like to do drugs because I don't like the effect they have on me personally (from previous bad experiences) and I wouldn't feel comfortable being around someone who's high when I'm not. I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie.

Yeh. So you ignore what I tell you. Think I would force you to smoke etc...

I've got a choice. 420 my symptoms or heart tablets

I'm not forcing you to take serotonin pills....I'm not forcing you to smoke

You don't want to acknowledge it helps me. So there's your answer"

Omg really?? Anyone can see what she meant. There wasn’t even a need for your comment in the first place! She doesn’t want people who do drugs like a lot of people don’t. Bigotry my arse. How ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you could put a more positive spin on things and saying you aren't drug friendly is unnecessary imo. It could be dealt with in the initial getting to know you...as could some of your other points. You aren't my thing so I may be way off but even if you were my thing all the 'don'ts' would put me off but you have some great pics "

I included the bit about drugs because I spent quite a while talking to someone with a lot of potential who brought up that he liked chemsex but it wasn't a dealbreaker if I didn't. I was fine with that but he then started to push the issue more and more until he finally admitted all he wanted to do was "snort lines off my ass and get me pregnant". Kudos if you're into that sort of thing, but I'm personally not and I thought having an anti-drug disclaimer on my profile might help after that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

How does that make me bigoted? I don't like to do drugs because I don't like the effect they have on me personally (from previous bad experiences) and I wouldn't feel comfortable being around someone who's high when I'm not. I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie.

Yeh. So you ignore what I tell you. Think I would force you to smoke etc...

I've got a choice. 420 my symptoms or heart tablets

I'm not forcing you to take serotonin pills....I'm not forcing you to smoke

You don't want to acknowledge it helps me. So there's your answer

Omg really?? Anyone can see what she meant. There wasn’t even a need for your comment in the first place! She doesn’t want people who do drugs like a lot of people don’t. Bigotry my arse. How ridiculous "

Thank you for having my back but honestly I wouldn't ever bother... I've seen some of the things he's posted on other forums and he's not the sort of person whose opinion I care about tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are you so offended? You are both looking to be dominated, so you two wouldn’t suit anyway. So no point in being upset by it, there’s plenty of other profiles and people who wouldn’t mind

She's not my type. But I'm talking about things on a personal level.

Life isn't all a BDSM fantasy...

People go to Tesco or looking at steam engines or whatever.

There's a time and place for bdsm.

"Explore the relationship before you explore your kink"

Guilty of fucking behind Tesco "

Every little helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you could put a more positive spin on things and saying you aren't drug friendly is unnecessary imo. It could be dealt with in the initial getting to know you...as could some of your other points. You aren't my thing so I may be way off but even if you were my thing all the 'don'ts' would put me off but you have some great pics

I included the bit about drugs because I spent quite a while talking to someone with a lot of potential who brought up that he liked chemsex but it wasn't a dealbreaker if I didn't. I was fine with that but he then started to push the issue more and more until he finally admitted all he wanted to do was "snort lines off my ass and get me pregnant". Kudos if you're into that sort of thing, but I'm personally not and I thought having an anti-drug disclaimer on my profile might help after that. "

Leave it on there if you feel strongly about it. I’m not drug friendly but I didn’t think to put it on there to be honest. Your profile and pics look fine too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also.

How does that make me bigoted? I don't like to do drugs because I don't like the effect they have on me personally (from previous bad experiences) and I wouldn't feel comfortable being around someone who's high when I'm not. I would also be scared that someone who's not of sound mind would have trouble recognising where my boundaries lie.

Yeh. So you ignore what I tell you. Think I would force you to smoke etc...

I've got a choice. 420 my symptoms or heart tablets

I'm not forcing you to take serotonin pills....I'm not forcing you to smoke

You don't want to acknowledge it helps me. So there's your answer

Omg really?? Anyone can see what she meant. There wasn’t even a need for your comment in the first place! She doesn’t want people who do drugs like a lot of people don’t. Bigotry my arse. How ridiculous

Thank you for having my back but honestly I wouldn't ever bother... I've seen some of the things he's posted on other forums and he's not the sort of person whose opinion I care about tbh. "

Yep. I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree I actually think I’m going to include it on mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave the poor girl alone i want to put my face between her legs your gonna spook her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Leave the poor girl alone i want to put my face between her legs your gonna spook her"

Trust me after some of the abuse I've received on here it's gonna take a lot more than someone wrongly thinking I'm bigoted to spook me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having spent a few months of my life living with a drug addict (cocaine, heroine, cannabis and just about anything else he could get his hands on), I have no wish to go back to that.

My ex Mrs was also a nightly cannabis user (it helped to 'chill her out' apparently). The fact she struggled to get her arse out of bed the next morning wasn't of importance to her.

So, I am with the OP in terms of not being a fun of drugs

Similarly, I wouldn't wish to spend lots of time with a drinker (socially or otherwise), a smoker or someone who lived off junk food.

I don't need alcohol to relax or enjoy myself, I don't like the smell of smoke let alone its potential side effects and being round those who enjoy junk food triggers my own poor relationship with food.

As regards medical cannabis, if it prescribed, great, if it isn't, well there's an excuse to indulge if I've ever heard one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust me after some of the abuse I've received on here it's gonna take a lot more than someone wrongly thinking I'm bigoted to spook me haha"

I'm not trying to be abusive.

Your profile is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having spent a few months of my life living with a drug addict (cocaine, heroine, cannabis and just about anything else he could get his hands on), I have no wish to go back to that.

My ex Mrs was also a nightly cannabis user (it helped to 'chill her out' apparently). The fact she struggled to get her arse out of bed the next morning wasn't of importance to her.

So, I am with the OP in terms of not being a fun of drugs

Similarly, I wouldn't wish to spend lots of time with a drinker (socially or otherwise), a smoker or someone who lived off junk food.

I don't need alcohol to relax or enjoy myself, I don't like the smell of smoke let alone its potential side effects and being round those who enjoy junk food triggers my own poor relationship with food.

As regards medical cannabis, if it prescribed, great, if it isn't, well there's an excuse to indulge if I've ever heard one.

"

Sorry OP

It has little to do with your thread

I just needed to get it off my chest

Take no notice of Walter Mitty either, it'll be his bed time soon x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having spent a few months of my life living with a drug addict (cocaine, heroine, cannabis and just about anything else he could get his hands on), I have no wish to go back to that.

My ex Mrs was also a nightly cannabis user (it helped to 'chill her out' apparently). The fact she struggled to get her arse out of bed the next morning wasn't of importance to her.

So, I am with the OP in terms of not being a fun of drugs

Similarly, I wouldn't wish to spend lots of time with a drinker (socially or otherwise), a smoker or someone who lived off junk food.

I don't need alcohol to relax or enjoy myself, I don't like the smell of smoke let alone its potential side effects and being round those who enjoy junk food triggers my own poor relationship with food.

As regards medical cannabis, if it prescribed, great, if it isn't, well there's an excuse to indulge if I've ever heard one.

Sorry OP

It has little to do with your thread

I just needed to get it off my chest

Take no notice of Walter Mitty either, it'll be his bed time soon x"

It's okay

I'm sorry to hear of your bad experiences with those close to you; it must be horrible being in that position. I can definitely relate to having a bad relationship with food - by no means do I live off junk food but I am a binger (a horrible habit engrained during my childhood years with the help of parents with a shitty approach to body image who projected their own insecurities onto me). Ah well, we all have our crosses to bear, eh?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I certainly do not get hundred of messages, maybe between 5 & 10 a day max, but never from anyone I want to know more about. Too many shit profiles on site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fabswingers there's loads of people doing cocaine parties at night.

Gets abit crazy. Propper horror stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave the poor girl alone i want to put my face between her legs your gonna spook her

Trust me after some of the abuse I've received on here it's gonna take a lot more than someone wrongly thinking I'm bigoted to spook me haha"

Thank fuck for that its on like donkey kong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having spent a few months of my life living with a drug addict (cocaine, heroine, cannabis and just about anything else he could get his hands on), I have no wish to go back to that.

My ex Mrs was also a nightly cannabis user (it helped to 'chill her out' apparently). The fact she struggled to get her arse out of bed the next morning wasn't of importance to her.

So, I am with the OP in terms of not being a fun of drugs

Similarly, I wouldn't wish to spend lots of time with a drinker (socially or otherwise), a smoker or someone who lived off junk food.

I don't need alcohol to relax or enjoy myself, I don't like the smell of smoke let alone its potential side effects and being round those who enjoy junk food triggers my own poor relationship with food.

As regards medical cannabis, if it prescribed, great, if it isn't, well there's an excuse to indulge if I've ever heard one.

"

I'm not your exgirlfriend.

My life isn't the same.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

The women with the small window of age and preference's you are going to het a lot of views but not many on here to your requitements so us guys then dont bother, I cant message many as I seem to ne too old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now you know what's its like hitting the wall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having spent a few months of my life living with a drug addict (cocaine, heroine, cannabis and just about anything else he could get his hands on), I have no wish to go back to that.

My ex Mrs was also a nightly cannabis user (it helped to 'chill her out' apparently). The fact she struggled to get her arse out of bed the next morning wasn't of importance to her.

So, I am with the OP in terms of not being a fun of drugs

Similarly, I wouldn't wish to spend lots of time with a drinker (socially or otherwise), a smoker or someone who lived off junk food.

I don't need alcohol to relax or enjoy myself, I don't like the smell of smoke let alone its potential side effects and being round those who enjoy junk food triggers my own poor relationship with food.

As regards medical cannabis, if it prescribed, great, if it isn't, well there's an excuse to indulge if I've ever heard one.

I'm not your exgirlfriend.

My life isn't the same."

You're quite the narcissist aren't you ?

I was commenting on my own experiences of being around people who use drugs

I was, to a degree, empathising with the OP about her stance on drug users

None of it related to you

I am disinterested in you and what drugs you take, medically prescribed or otherwise

You seem to like the sound of your own rhetoric and have attempted to turn a thread about (a lack of) messages into a conversation about you and your lifestyle / conditions

If you want to talk about it, start a thread, it is an interesting subject after all - medical cannabis that is

Check with admin or a moderator first though as iirc there has previously been some issues with people discussing drugs in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having spent a few months of my life living with a drug addict (cocaine, heroine, cannabis and just about anything else he could get his hands on), I have no wish to go back to that.

My ex Mrs was also a nightly cannabis user (it helped to 'chill her out' apparently). The fact she struggled to get her arse out of bed the next morning wasn't of importance to her.

So, I am with the OP in terms of not being a fun of drugs

Similarly, I wouldn't wish to spend lots of time with a drinker (socially or otherwise), a smoker or someone who lived off junk food.

I don't need alcohol to relax or enjoy myself, I don't like the smell of smoke let alone its potential side effects and being round those who enjoy junk food triggers my own poor relationship with food.

As regards medical cannabis, if it prescribed, great, if it isn't, well there's an excuse to indulge if I've ever heard one.

I'm not your exgirlfriend.

My life isn't the same.

You're quite the narcissist aren't you ?

I was commenting on my own experiences of being around people who use drugs

I was, to a degree, empathising with the OP about her stance on drug users

None of it related to you

I am disinterested in you and what drugs you take, medically prescribed or otherwise

You seem to like the sound of your own rhetoric and have attempted to turn a thread about (a lack of) messages into a conversation about you and your lifestyle / conditions

If you want to talk about it, start a thread, it is an interesting subject after all - medical cannabis that is

Check with admin or a moderator first though as iirc there has previously been some issues with people discussing drugs in the forums"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're just not that into you x

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

If this had been a single guy asking..Why worry about the number of views, they don't know what your profile says until they read it.. clearly they're not interested for whatever reason or they'd have messaged...instead of waiting for hour inbox to fil ..Use your Time to message those that interest you..be proactive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

If this had been a single guy asking..Why worry about the number of views, they don't know what your profile says until they read it.. clearly they're not interested for whatever reason or they'd have messaged...instead of waiting for hour inbox to fil ..Use your Time to message those that interest you..be proactive. "

Trust me I do message those that interest me in fact, the men I talk to/end up meeting are almost exclusively those I've approached. And regarding my views - a lot of them seem to be repeat traffic, which is what got me wondering why they choose to come onto my profile and browse/fab my pics (in some cases multiple times per day) but never actually message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is everyone just going to beat around the bush on this one in fear of hurting the OP,s feelings? If it was a guy posting this thread then it would be straight to the point.

For me I looked at your profile, didn't even bother with the text, saw your pics and didn't find you attractive end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you answer the messages you do get

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

Nothing wrong with your profile as far as I can see . I’m too old to message you but it explains what you want and as they tell us single guys it’s all about having patience x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is everyone just going to beat around the bush on this one in fear of hurting the OP,s feelings? If it was a guy posting this thread then it would be straight to the point.

For me I looked at your profile, didn't even bother with the text, saw your pics and didn't find you attractive end of.

"

Nothing wrong with being honest and yes, if it was the other way around I would have said the same thing if I didn’t like their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 800 men/women who view your profile and don't message are often "expert wankers"

It's the internet. You have other options.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a message once a month if am lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 683 views today. I have 27 messages. That's about average so I wouldn't worry about it.

I think the ladies who get lots of mail are generally those in highly populated areas who draw attention to themselves with new pics or status updates and who don't use the filters to full effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 683 views today. I have 27 messages. That's about average so I wouldn't worry about it.

I think the ladies who get lots of mail are generally those in highly populated areas who draw attention to themselves with new pics or status updates and who don't use the filters to full effect. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha I got a message today, "I mentioned in another post that I was talked into getting kik but after I got it the female decided she only wants to be friends nothing more" so male see's I have kik and sends me a message saying "Wank" nothing more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 683 views today. I have 27 messages. That's about average so I wouldn't worry about it.

I think the ladies who get lots of mail are generally those in highly populated areas who draw attention to themselves with new pics or status updates and who don't use the filters to full effect. "

I’ve had 580 views today and about 15 messages. That was about 12 too many. 3 were from friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid. "

You're missing the point. Obviously I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea; I would never be so arrogant to assume that I am. My post was with regards to those that view my profile repeatedly, sometimes multiple times per day, and don't message. They can't all just be sitting on the fence, hence why I was worried I didn't seem approachable. This was never about me caring whether people are attracted to my looks/body - I'm a grown ass woman and can accept that everyone has their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid.

You're missing the point. Obviously I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea; I would never be so arrogant to assume that I am. My post was with regards to those that view my profile repeatedly, sometimes multiple times per day, and don't message. They can't all just be sitting on the fence, hence why I was worried I didn't seem approachable. This was never about me caring whether people are attracted to my looks/body - I'm a grown ass woman and can accept that everyone has their preferences. "

Some guys are shy

Some are intimidated

Some lack confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 0 views today with 0 messages. I probably get 1 message a week if I'm lucky. I literally don't even bother messaging people half the time anymore because id say I probably get 1 reply in 20 if I'm lucky.

I did have a woman reply to me 2 days ago mind..... after I sent her the message 6 days before, I replied straight away saying thanks for the response followed with another lovely message..... I'm still waiting for a reply.

Welcome to Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you answer the messages you do get"

Yes of course, if they are respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get about 500 profile views per day on average but only a handful of messages. Is there something off-putting about my profile? I do have filters on but the men looking at my profile seem to be mostly within my age range.

I see a lot of posts on here about single women receiving hundreds of messages and I'm aware this makes me sound really vapid but I feel a little self conscious that this is not the case for me. Or am I being dumb and worrying over nothing? I really don't want to come across as shallow but at the same time would like to know if my profile needs improving to make me seem more approachable? "
it may be because you live in staines I know it's hard to believe but sometimes it's the little things

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid.

You're missing the point. Obviously I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea; I would never be so arrogant to assume that I am. My post was with regards to those that view my profile repeatedly, sometimes multiple times per day, and don't message. They can't all just be sitting on the fence, hence why I was worried I didn't seem approachable. This was never about me caring whether people are attracted to my looks/body - I'm a grown ass woman and can accept that everyone has their preferences. "

If you remain a free member, you never have to worry about who's looked at you. This would be my advice to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id message you in a heart beat, your beautiful and seem very freindly, the only reason i haven't or wouldnt is the distance. Im happy to chat and make friends but it seems sadly that others are not on the same wave length. I feel im wasting wasting peoples time in messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid.

You're missing the point. Obviously I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea; I would never be so arrogant to assume that I am. My post was with regards to those that view my profile repeatedly, sometimes multiple times per day, and don't message. They can't all just be sitting on the fence, hence why I was worried I didn't seem approachable. This was never about me caring whether people are attracted to my looks/body - I'm a grown ass woman and can accept that everyone has their preferences. "

I don't see anything on your profile that would put anyone who likes your pics off.

Maybe you could try searching for the men you're interested in, and see if you have more luck that way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also."

It's her fucking preference. Live with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid.

You're missing the point. Obviously I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea; I would never be so arrogant to assume that I am. My post was with regards to those that view my profile repeatedly, sometimes multiple times per day, and don't message. They can't all just be sitting on the fence, hence why I was worried I didn't seem approachable. This was never about me caring whether people are attracted to my looks/body - I'm a grown ass woman and can accept that everyone has their preferences. "

Lots more look at mine, every day sometimes, than ever message.

I also look at loads and never message.

Sometimes people just like to look at the pictures and dream, and thats fair enough, as I do it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

"

Don't you mean way out of her age range?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

Don't you mean way out of her age range? "
you trying to say he's old?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Says *I'm not 420 friendly*

So I'm guessing your bigoted about my medical condition also."

What a crock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id message you in a heart beat, your beautiful and seem very freindly, the only reason i haven't or wouldnt is the distance. Im happy to chat and make friends but it seems sadly that others are not on the same wave length. I feel im wasting wasting peoples time in messaging "

How do you know she’s beautiful there’s no face pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's part of life I'm afraid.

You're missing the point. Obviously I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea; I would never be so arrogant to assume that I am. My post was with regards to those that view my profile repeatedly, sometimes multiple times per day, and don't message. They can't all just be sitting on the fence, hence why I was worried I didn't seem approachable. This was never about me caring whether people are attracted to my looks/body - I'm a grown ass woman and can accept that everyone has their preferences. "

Probably just using your pictures for wank fodder.

Is the problem the views or are you struggling to find meets?

If so, be proactive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need for face pics cupcake, look at her figure what more do you need

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

"

I looked at your profile

a) you're way out of my age range

b) you're way too big for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

Don't you mean way out of her age range? you trying to say he's old?"

I don't mind if she says I'm old it's a fact of life she will get there one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

I looked at your profile

a) you're way out of my age range

b) you're way too big for me"

Shame you never actually looked!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwwww cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

I looked at your profile

a) you're way out of my age range

b) you're way too big for me

Shame you never actually looked!!"

Stealth mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

Don't you mean way out of her age range? you trying to say he's old?"

Or I'm trying to say she's young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

Don't you mean way out of her age range? you trying to say he's old?

Or I'm trying to say she's young "
which is it though cmon stop beating about her bush

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Id message you in a heart beat, your beautiful and seem very freindly, the only reason i haven't or wouldnt is the distance. Im happy to chat and make friends but it seems sadly that others are not on the same wave length. I feel im wasting wasting peoples time in messaging

How do you know she’s beautiful there’s no face pictures "

I'll happily send face pics to those who ask nicely; they can decide for themselves whether they find me beautiful or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of women play up to how much mail they get, or play up to get so much mail.

Don't worry about others - just do your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id message you in a heart beat, your beautiful and seem very freindly, the only reason i haven't or wouldnt is the distance. Im happy to chat and make friends but it seems sadly that others are not on the same wave length. I feel im wasting wasting peoples time in messaging

How do you know she’s beautiful there’s no face pictures

I'll happily send face pics to those who ask nicely; they can decide for themselves whether they find me beautiful or not. "
send me one I'm on the fence here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the fact I am outside of your age range and I'm miles away and not what you are looking for and you can't accommodate, I'd have messaged you.

The length of your profile indicated you can communicate. Everything else can build over time.

Some blokes just want a quick fix. You don't offer that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

I looked at your profile

a) you're way out of my age range

b) you're way too big for me

Shame you never actually looked!!

Stealth mode "

Cool stealth mode on I can go perving now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id message you in a heart beat, your beautiful and seem very freindly, the only reason i haven't or wouldnt is the distance. Im happy to chat and make friends but it seems sadly that others are not on the same wave length. I feel im wasting wasting peoples time in messaging

How do you know she’s beautiful there’s no face pictures

I'll happily send face pics to those who ask nicely; they can decide for themselves whether they find me beautiful or not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile

a) I'm out of your age range.

b) your way to big for me

so I never tried to send a message.

I looked at your profile

a) you're way out of my age range

b) you're way too big for me

Shame you never actually looked!!

Stealth mode

Cool stealth mode on I can go perving now "

I couldn't live without stealth mode. Don't want people to know about my stalking tendencies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you could put a more positive spin on things and saying you aren't drug friendly is unnecessary imo. It could be dealt with in the initial getting to know you...as could some of your other points. You aren't my thing so I may be way off but even if you were my thing all the 'don'ts' would put me off but you have some great pics

I included the bit about drugs because I spent quite a while talking to someone with a lot of potential who brought up that he liked chemsex but it wasn't a dealbreaker if I didn't. I was fine with that but he then started to push the issue more and more until he finally admitted all he wanted to do was "snort lines off my ass and get me pregnant". Kudos if you're into that sort of thing, but I'm personally not and I thought having an anti-drug disclaimer on my profileu might help after that. "

You do not have to explain yourself to the ignorant comments if you want nothing to do with drugs well done you for saying so, it seems your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't two fingers to them all, your beautiful, sexy and nothing needs to change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you could put a more positive spin on things and saying you aren't drug friendly is unnecessary imo. It could be dealt with in the initial getting to know you...as could some of your other points. You aren't my thing so I may be way off but even if you were my thing all the 'don'ts' would put me off but you have some great pics

I included the bit about drugs because I spent quite a while talking to someone with a lot of potential who brought up that he liked chemsex but it wasn't a dealbreaker if I didn't. I was fine with that but he then started to push the issue more and more until he finally admitted all he wanted to do was "snort lines off my ass and get me pregnant". Kudos if you're into that sort of thing, but I'm personally not and I thought having an anti-drug disclaimer on my profileu might help after that.

You do not have to explain yourself to the ignorant comments if you want nothing to do with drugs well done you for saying so, it seems your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't two fingers to them all, your beautiful, sexy and nothing needs to change "

Thank you very much! You're beautiful too and judging by your profile a class act indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only look at profiles to give context to forum posts, so wouldn't message anyone anyway. Quite apart from being to old, not into BDSM, wrong part of country etc, most of which I wouldn't know without looking.

But your profile OP is fairly well written to narrow down and focus in on what you are looking for, so it's not surprising that you get more views than messages.

Hopefully if it does work you will only get quality messages from men after the same as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only look at profiles to give context to forum posts, so wouldn't message anyone anyway. Quite apart from being to old, not into BDSM, wrong part of country etc, most of which I wouldn't know without looking.

But your profile OP is fairly well written to narrow down and focus in on what you are looking for, so it's not surprising that you get more views than messages.

Hopefully if it does work you will only get quality messages from men after the same as you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're complaining that you "only" get a handful of messages a day? Jesus, most men here get zero messages a day, count your lucky stars. Also, there's nothing stopping you from going out and messaging men first. You're highly unlikely to get rejected.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Fab profile and specific details to aid those seeking kinky times. Just remember us men rarely read the text. Good luck finding lust.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Fab profile and specific details to aid those seeking kinky times. Just remember us men rarely read the text. Good luck finding lust.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I currently get about 150 views a day and about 10 messages a day.

I also get people looking at my profile multiple times without messaging. I think sometimes it's a bad memory - all they do is look at the "who is online" section and look at all the profiles.

It means your profile is working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to the Op she is very pretty so anyone who didn’t message her omg

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By *ove3funWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I think you could put a more positive spin on things and saying you aren't drug friendly is unnecessary imo. It could be dealt with in the initial getting to know you...as could some of your other points. You aren't my thing so I may be way off but even if you were my thing all the 'don'ts' would put me off but you have some great pics

I included the bit about drugs because I spent quite a while talking to someone with a lot of potential who brought up that he liked chemsex but it wasn't a dealbreaker if I didn't. I was fine with that but he then started to push the issue more and more until he finally admitted all he wanted to do was "snort lines off my ass and get me pregnant". Kudos if you're into that sort of thing, but I'm personally not and I thought having an anti-drug disclaimer on my profile might help after that. "

Wow...extreme...you'd hope he is in the minority!? I just think you could work on the wording. I get that there needs to be filtration process for idiots!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

"

Are you Still going on?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I get about 500 profile views per day on average but only a handful of messages. Is there something off-putting about my profile? I do have filters on but the men looking at my profile seem to be mostly within my age range.

I see a lot of posts on here about single women receiving hundreds of messages and I'm aware this makes me sound really vapid but I feel a little self conscious that this is not the case for me. Or am I being dumb and worrying over nothing? I really don't want to come across as shallow but at the same time would like to know if my profile needs improving to make me seem more approachable? "

Maybe they are intimidated by your veri - he has about the most ripped body you can imagine, poor guy must be living on raw fish or something lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

Are you Still going on? "

Yep!!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"And to the Op she is very pretty so anyone who didn’t message her omg "

I'm more a "personality" kinda guy. It's not all about looks, it's about the connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

"

You won't get a penis wielding profile getting 500 views per day, let alone 10 messages as a result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

"

Hit the nail on the fucking head!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All these women who say they get hundreds of messages a day and can't keep up are either newbies who haven't set their filters or they are lying...

The op should be careful what she wishes for as mostly they are FaF messages or they go into extreme detail about exactly what they want to do to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

"

Because all the ladies lurrrve a White Knight

#fabfact

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why is nobody being objectively critical?

It's annoying me now that if a guy wrote the same message he would just receive abuse.

It does annoy me when this happens. Makes me see a vast inequality where men must be mentally stronger than women.

And where women live in some kind of safety bubble.

Because all the ladies lurrrve a White Knight

#fabfact"

Trooof!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All these women who say they get hundreds of messages a day and can't keep up are either newbies who haven't set their filters or they are lying...

The op should be careful what she wishes for as mostly they are FaF messages or they go into extreme detail about exactly what they want to do to you "

Exactly, it’s not something to wish for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. You don’t message me...I’m not crying about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op. You don’t message me...I’m not crying about it. "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op. You don’t message me...I’m not crying about it. "

Offer her a drink to wet her throat she may message then

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