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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fab seems to be a bit of a limbo for wayward souls who don't feel they're ready to get into a relationship again. Is that you?

If so, what does "not ready for a relationship" mean to you? Does it mean you don't have time to make a new friend? Or are you thinking further down the tracks; not ready to move in with anyone and share your life with them? Or is it that you don't feel that you're wholly over your previous relationship, emotionally speaking? Or is it more practical than that; not enough hours in the day kind of stuff?

When do you think you would be ready? What will it take to get there? Just interested in exploring some of your thoughts and experiences around this

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm ready... question is, is a relationship ready for me?!

I think the thing is, most of us have been through a shit storm in one way or another, are used to being on our own, so now it takes someone ridiculously special to us to step things up.

Well, that's me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm ready... question is, is a relationship ready for me?!

I think the thing is, most of us have been through a shit storm in one way or another, are used to being on our own, so now it takes someone ridiculously special to us to step things up.

Well, that's me anyway."

Thats similar to me too..

I would to just like to try before i buy so a fwb is the way forward for now

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would love a relationship but it is highly unlikely to happen given my circumstances. I'm a full time live in carer for my mum and can't give another person enough of my time to make it work. Any kind of commitment is out of the question too because of my responsibilities.

Being on fab and going to swinging clubs fulfils a need for sex but sadly not for emotional intimacy. In my current situation that's one desire that has to remain unfulfilled. I always hold back to keep from getting attached in any way (difficult sometimes when you meet someone regularly). I won't allow feelings to develop because it's bound to end in tears when you know there is no future in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally would say I'm not ready for a relationship because of where I am in life right now.. last year of my masters which is taking over most of my life.. I work weekends to keep myself out of my overdraft so I don't have the time to make that person feel appreciated and special right now.. so it's not fair on them to get into a relationship and then make them feel second best

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I'm slightly different in that I'm not ready for a relationship because I genuinely don't want another one.

I'm too used to being single and being able to do what I want when I want. I genuinely don't want to try and "fit" someone into my life.

Plus, if you ever heard the full story of my ex, you'd completely understand why I'm against another relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm ready... question is, is a relationship ready for me?!

I think the thing is, most of us have been through a shit storm in one way or another, are used to being on our own, so now it takes someone ridiculously special to us to step things up.

Well, that's me anyway."

Me too.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Whenever I've said im "not ready for a relationship" to women in the past it meant "You have some major flaw that makes you undatable, but I'm going through a dry spell so I will fuck you until someone better comes along".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whenever I've said im "not ready for a relationship" to women in the past it meant "You have some major flaw that makes you undatable, but I'm going through a dry spell so I will fuck you until someone better comes along". "

You've been watching too much YouTube.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I wasn't ready to commit to someone or put in the effort needed for a relationship.

When i was it was just waiting to meet the right person.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I can totally relate to this

I told Jack this when i met him ,that i wasnt a relationship type of person.

However sometimes you meet someone who you can trust and be yourself with.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Whenever I've said im "not ready for a relationship" to women in the past it meant "You have some major flaw that makes you undatable, but I'm going through a dry spell so I will fuck you until someone better comes along".

You've been watching too much YouTube."

Not sure what makes you say that. I mean it's true, but unrelated to my testimony.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Relationships mean making yourself vulnerable and that gives them the means to hurt you. So I won’t be putting myself in that position again. I have my own house, a decent job and good family and friends.

Are there times I miss coming to someone or chilling together? Sure. But I make poor choices in relationships then worry far too much about allowing previous baggage to impact on the new one that I allow things to slide that should be dealt with... so the risks far outweighs the benefits!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is selfish extra curricular acrivity for some. Relationships play no part in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A relationship was furthest from my mind when I joined.

I'm not in limbo, I'm making the most of being not in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I generally would say I'm not ready for a relationship because of where I am in life right now.. last year of my masters which is taking over most of my life.. I work weekends to keep myself out of my overdraft so I don't have the time to make that person feel appreciated and special right now.. so it's not fair on them to get into a relationship and then make them feel second best "

I hope you don't mind me prying but I'd love to know what you're mastering in. Maybe pm me if you'd like. Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single right now and happy being that way... But who's to say down the road what might happen... Not saying I'm not open to a relationship but right now it's a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely not ready. After the way I was treated by my ex, father of my 2 boys, I honestly feel I don't ever want to be part of a "relationship" again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm slightly different in that I'm not ready for a relationship because I genuinely don't want another one.

I'm too used to being single and being able to do what I want when I want. I genuinely don't want to try and "fit" someone into my life.

Plus, if you ever heard the full story of my ex, you'd completely understand why I'm against another relationship "

I hear u

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Fab seems to be a bit of a limbo for wayward souls who don't feel they're ready to get into a relationship again. Is that you?

If so, what does "not ready for a relationship" mean to you? Does it mean you don't have time to make a new friend? Or are you thinking further down the tracks; not ready to move in with anyone and share your life with them? Or is it that you don't feel that you're wholly over your previous relationship, emotionally speaking? Or is it more practical than that; not enough hours in the day kind of stuff?

When do you think you would be ready? What will it take to get there? Just interested in exploring some of your thoughts and experiences around this "

All of the above applies sadly. I'd love to be in a good relationship but I just don't function well in one. Maybe I am too selfish or I have unrealistic expectations or I have never met the right person. All of my past relationships were complicated in one way or another beyond my control. Probably why I never gave myself up fully to those relationships as I didn't want to relinquish control of my own life to the extent I was living more for the other person rather than my own.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London


"I wasn't ready to commit to someone or put in the effort needed for a relationship.

When i was it was just waiting to meet the right person."

Glad to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single mum, I live with family so I don't really see a relationship happening for me, plus the fact I'm not looking for a vanilla relationship I like kink, I like the idea of having more than one partner at once.

Exactly how do you explain that to a potential future partner on a 'normal' dating site.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"I wasn't ready to commit to someone or put in the effort needed for a relationship.

When i was it was just waiting to meet the right person.

Glad to hear that

"

Thanks, hope you find your special someone one day.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm overweight, night owl, work as a drag queen and dominatrix, no interest in kids, open about everything and rather opinionated.

I'm up for a relationship again but finding someone who is willing to deal with all that is near on impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A relationship was furthest from my mind when I joined.

I'm not in limbo, I'm making the most of being not in a relationship. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm overweight, night owl, work as a drag queen and dominatrix, no interest in kids, open about everything and rather opinionated.

I'm up for a relationship again but finding someone who is willing to deal with all that is near on impossible

"

I hear you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single mum, I live with family so I don't really see a relationship happening for me, plus the fact I'm not looking for a vanilla relationship I like kink, I like the idea of having more than one partner at once.

Exactly how do you explain that to a potential future partner on a 'normal' dating site.

"

I’m similar to you with my situation, I’m not ready for a relationship and not looking for one either but finding the right fwb who’s happy to chill and have the soft time too, not just the sex, is difficult, add in how particular I can be and it’s almost impossible, oh well, I guess we just have to keep plodding on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to be in a cuckolding relationship with a domme woman.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Fab seems to be a bit of a limbo for wayward souls who don't feel they're ready to get into a relationship again. Is that you?

If so, what does "not ready for a relationship" mean to you? Does it mean you don't have time to make a new friend? Or are you thinking further down the tracks; not ready to move in with anyone and share your life with them? Or is it that you don't feel that you're wholly over your previous relationship, emotionally speaking? Or is it more practical than that; not enough hours in the day kind of stuff?

When do you think you would be ready? What will it take to get there? Just interested in exploring some of your thoughts and experiences around this "

To me it means not going out of my schedule or make allowances for someone else on a regular basis. I an have friends but I don't have to commit to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single mum, I live with family so I don't really see a relationship happening for me, plus the fact I'm not looking for a vanilla relationship I like kink, I like the idea of having more than one partner at once.

Exactly how do you explain that to a potential future partner on a 'normal' dating site.

I’m similar to you with my situation, I’m not ready for a relationship and not looking for one either but finding the right fwb who’s happy to chill and have the soft time too, not just the sex, is difficult, add in how particular I can be and it’s almost impossible, oh well, I guess we just have to keep plodding on "

Definately hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ready!

Work, single parenthood, high standards all conspire to make it hard to find someone compatible.

In the meantime, I'm having fun looking.

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I'm ready... question is, is a relationship ready for me?!

I think the thing is, most of us have been through a shit storm in one way or another, are used to being on our own, so now it takes someone ridiculously special to us to step things up.

Well, that's me anyway."

Hit the nail on the head there with me too!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm ready and not ready for a relationship. I'm not looking for or feeling that I need one as I'm really happy with my life as it is.

If I was in one, I'd probably live differently - so in that respect, I'm not ready. However if would be a choice to make, on how I'd like things to be different, which I'd then effect.

Some lifestyle options can be less pertinent to one person than to a couple or more.

Some changes are easier to get underway when you've someone who's captivating, however much you may perceive yourself as almost like from another planet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm ready!

Work, single parenthood, high standards all conspire to make it hard to find someone compatible.

In the meantime, I'm having fun looking. "

This is me

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I started Fabbing when I was married and definitely not looking for a relationship. Now a few years down the line I’m separated and still not looking for a relationship. Not even a try before I buy. Just the perks of the bedroom please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm slightly different in that I'm not ready for a relationship because I genuinely don't want another one.

I'm too used to being single and being able to do what I want when I want. I genuinely don't want to try and "fit" someone into my life.

Plus, if you ever heard the full story of my ex, you'd completely understand why I'm against another relationship "

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't ready to commit to someone or put in the effort needed for a relationship.

When i was it was just waiting to meet the right person."

x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"I wasn't ready to commit to someone or put in the effort needed for a relationship.

When i was it was just waiting to meet the right person.

x"

You cottoned on yet?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Aren’t we all seeking love, with incredible sex as well?

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Aren’t we all seeking love, with incredible sex as well?"

Not particularly

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"I generally would say I'm not ready for a relationship because of where I am in life right now.. last year of my masters which is taking over most of my life.. I work weekends to keep myself out of my overdraft so I don't have the time to make that person feel appreciated and special right now.. so it's not fair on them to get into a relationship and then make them feel second best "

Similar here, as a single father I have my daughter as often as possible. I work full time and when I don't have my daughter I try to work overtime to pay for us to enjoy our time together. In addition I'm studying to try and progress at work so I just don't have the time or the amount of effort required to I best in a full on relationship.

Sometimes I do genuinely want someone to hug, cuddle to sleep, treat to dinner however, that's selfish as it would only be a part time thing.

So for this I see a friend with benefits as the best solution. Problem is finding one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a swinger with my late husband when he died few years ago, I have no interest in another relationship the one I jad was my everything and I know I woukd just compare lol..also whole kids meet me no intention of introducing them to anyone else.

So returning to swing scene is satisfying enough for me, life is busy and I live my fab freinds and its helped me through some emotional times..

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm more than ready for a part-time one.

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"I'm more than ready for a part-time one."

Part time one, yes that is manageable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aspergers means I cannot function in a full time relationship- I tried - never again.

I like tactile touch and sensual fun, light fet play too. Lots of good (actual) friends as not on fb fully anymore but do miss certain aspects of intimacy.

I’m wired to be essentially alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aspergers means I cannot function in a full time relationship- I tried - never again.

I like tactile touch and sensual fun, light fet play too. Lots of good (actual) friends as not on fb fully anymore but do miss certain aspects of intimacy.

I’m wired to be essentially alone "

I've got asperger also

There are people with asperger in relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have bpd so certain aspects of relationships are hard for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn’t ready for a relationship, M wasn’t either. Now we’ve been together for over a year . I think it just depends on who you get along with etc. We weren’t looking for love in anyway, shape or form, but love seemed to find us and we’re perfect together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn’t ready for a relationship, M wasn’t either. Now we’ve been together for over a year . I think it just depends on who you get along with etc. We weren’t looking for love in anyway, shape or form, but love seemed to find us and we’re perfect together

x"

Thats so nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm ready... question is, is a relationship ready for me?!

I think the thing is, most of us have been through a shit storm in one way or another, are used to being on our own, so now it takes someone ridiculously special to us to step things up.

Well, that's me anyway.

Me too. "

Me 3

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell."

I think your ideal sounds just prefect. I'm afraid to give up my home, especially after feeling so trapped with the abusive prick for so long. I don't think all guys are this way, not by a long shot, but I do know how comforting it is to have your own place and it's one less pressure.

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By *nobMan
over a year ago

newport

It might not, you never know they might just stick around?

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By *nobMan
over a year ago

newport


"I'm slightly different in that I'm not ready for a relationship because I genuinely don't want another one.

I'm too used to being single and being able to do what I want when I want. I genuinely don't want to try and "fit" someone into my lif

Plus, if you ever heard the full story of my ex, you'd completely understand why I'm against another relationship "

Relationships work out for some people.

All I have to do is find out how.

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By *nobMan
over a year ago

newport


"Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell."

Part time relationships are the way forward?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some Aspergers can function in a relationship but like Foxy Minx’s description above I can only cope with limited bursts and need alone time

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell.

Part time relationships are the way forward?"

Maybe, providing they still have full time commitment, honesty and trust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For me it's all about baby steps. Of course I'd like to find love at first sight. But I'm all for bubbling up friendships with relationship potential.

I think it's difficult when you find yourself single in a particular location or position in life that isn't really you and so you are surrounded by people who perhaps aren't really suitable candidates. I can relate to that, having crash landed somewhat in sleepy Dorset after a relatively high flying career in LA. All I can suggest is to just try and enjoy the ride and put your main focus on getting yourself back to a place that's more you

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell.

I think your ideal sounds just prefect. I'm afraid to give up my home, especially after feeling so trapped with the abusive prick for so long. I don't think all guys are this way, not by a long shot, but I do know how comforting it is to have your own place and it's one less pressure."

I also find you get used to having your own space. It's something i'd struggle to give up

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I think when you've been single for a number of years and it's just been you and your child/children it does become harder to find someone who will accept you for being you.

I rarely get time to myself at the moment and when I do I enjoy the space and sometimes I think I would like having another adult around to talk to and spend time with etc but I have also found that a lot of guys I've chatted to on dating sites have very active lives and are always on the go, they don't necessarily have the time to actually get to know someone unless you fit in with them. It's like it has to be high speed all the time.

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over a year ago

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Aren’t we all seeking love, with incredible sex as well?"

I'm not!

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Fab seems to be a bit of a limbo for wayward souls who don't feel they're ready to get into a relationship again. Is that you?

If so, what does "not ready for a relationship" mean to you? Does it mean you don't have time to make a new friend? Or are you thinking further down the tracks; not ready to move in with anyone and share your life with them? Or is it that you don't feel that you're wholly over your previous relationship, emotionally speaking? Or is it more practical than that; not enough hours in the day kind of stuff?

When do you think you would be ready? What will it take to get there? Just interested in exploring some of your thoughts and experiences around this "

I honestly think this environment is not your best agar plate. You function on a spiritual level that this realm doesn't supply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab seems to be a bit of a limbo for wayward souls who don't feel they're ready to get into a relationship again. Is that you?

If so, what does "not ready for a relationship" mean to you? Does it mean you don't have time to make a new friend? Or are you thinking further down the tracks; not ready to move in with anyone and share your life with them? Or is it that you don't feel that you're wholly over your previous relationship, emotionally speaking? Or is it more practical than that; not enough hours in the day kind of stuff?

When do you think you would be ready? What will it take to get there? Just interested in exploring some of your thoughts and experiences around this

I honestly think this environment is not your best agar plate. You function on a spiritual level that this realm doesn't supply."

Thanks. That's very sweet of you. It's interesting hearing other's views though. I often come off as soulful on the forums, with a focus more on the dating side of things. But you have to remember I'm kinky too

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell."

I hear this and seek this too

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby


"Well I am 44, I have had 3 relationships in my life 16-19, 20-24, then 26-32 though it did actually end when I was 30 just continued to live together until things were right to move out.

I told myself to leave it at least a year before I started to look for another one, but unfortunately that time end up being 10+ years. And during that time I ended up on here.

It started great, met some really great guys, but the last 7 have been dire! Why have I stayed? Simple answer is hope.

I joined POF a few months ago and again unfortunately just dipping my toe in the men in my area and myself are just not suited as I am not from here and they can't or don't understand a strong female so it seems I am a bit of a niche market area.

I would love a part time partner, meaning fully committed but just living in our own homes, yet offering the emotional support as and when needed, someone to talk to, someone you can expect and give support when needed, also spend weekends together (in my case) to visit places, shop etc if required to kit out each others homes, to me it sounds simple but in real life I think it will be impossible to find, but I do hope, you never know what is round the corner, or is that just something I keep telling myself, time will only tell."

My mum and her other half have been together nearly 20 years and live in their own homes. They have time together, time apart, holidays together, do the family thing too. It works really well and I know quite a few other couples who have a similar style of relationship and all are happy.

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By *odestyB007Woman
over a year ago

Winchester

Would love that describe part-time relationship at least to start with. After being single for years it's hard to do anything else.

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