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Depression, Low mood...

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By *aughty1919 OP   Man
over a year ago

Lancaster

Was wondering if people would be willing to share when they have had it. How it effected them day to day the severity etc. I myself have had many really bad times with this demon that decides to try and control my life and my feelings.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Is this a good place to be if you feel that bad. Obviously none of my business but unless vin diesel is in your blood line this place doesn't aspire much self worth for your average single bloke. As I said not a dig just my thoughts. Hope you get sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my worst, I’d sleep like 20 hours a day. I’d get up and take my kids to school, then go back to sleep until it was time to pick them up. Stay up until they went to bed and then I’d go to bed myself. Now I’m on the right medication, so I’m able to function. I had to go back and forth the doctors to finally get the right help I needed. If you feel that you’re not happy with the doctor’s advice. Go back and get a second opinion. I wish I did, because now it’s manifested itself into something much more serious.

L x

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By *aughty1919 OP   Man
over a year ago

Lancaster


"At my worst, I’d sleep like 20 hours a day. I’d get up and take my kids to school, then go back to sleep until it was time to pick them up. Stay up until they went to bed and then I’d go to bed myself. Now I’m on the right medication, so I’m able to function. I had to go back and forth the doctors to finally get the right help I needed. If you feel that you’re not happy with the doctor’s advice. Go back and get a second opinion. I wish I did, because now it’s manifested itself into something much more serious.

L x"

Im starting to recover some what now. Took me a while to find the right medication that worked for me. Alot of doctora arent very much help tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had depression since I was about 16, never felt like I fit in, never felt wanted anywhere, and I had really low self esteem. I've been through counselling a few times and it doesn't seem to help me all that much. Even at my worst points I can usually just about function enough to pretend I'm ok at work, but it leaves me completely drained and unable to do anything else.

Most of the time though (and fairly consistently for the last few months - long may it continue!) I'm able to manage it with diet, exercise, and routine. I do also have an eating disorder that fuels the depression though, so as I recover more from that the depression gets easier to manage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup.

The winter of '09-'10. I was still not dealing with the events that lead to me leaving my family home the year before, then my mum's best friend (pretty much a second mum to me) killed herself in Sept 2009 then I was sacked from the job I' d had for three years in October 2009. Leading to me having no money and no motivation to sort out benefits. So I was left skint, pretty much living on a loaf of bread each week and becoming too skinny and unhealthy, apparently my limbs were almost blue when I was met my then girlfriend in May 2010. I hardly left the room in the shared house were I lived and it was in an absolute state, wasn't paying my rent, didn't sleep at all during the night and slept for twelve hours every day, and I certainly didn't wash or take care of myself.

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By *aughty1919 OP   Man
over a year ago

Lancaster


"I've had depression since I was about 16, never felt like I fit in, never felt wanted anywhere, and I had really low self esteem. I've been through counselling a few times and it doesn't seem to help me all that much. Even at my worst points I can usually just about function enough to pretend I'm ok at work, but it leaves me completely drained and unable to do anything else.

Most of the time though (and fairly consistently for the last few months - long may it continue!) I'm able to manage it with diet, exercise, and routine. I do also have an eating disorder that fuels the depression though, so as I recover more from that the depression gets easier to manage."

Sorry to hear that it is tough to become fully better. People dont understand how hard it is until they become depressed them selves.

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By *aughty1919 OP   Man
over a year ago

Lancaster


"Yup.

The winter of '09-'10. I was still not dealing with the events that lead to me leaving my family home the year before, then my mum's best friend (pretty much a second mum to me) killed herself in Sept 2009 then I was sacked from the job I' d had for three years in October 2009. Leading to me having no money and no motivation to sort out benefits. So I was left skint, pretty much living on a loaf of bread each week and becoming too skinny and unhealthy, apparently my limbs were almost blue when I was met my then girlfriend in May 2010. I hardly left the room in the shared house were I lived and it was in an absolute state, wasn't paying my rent, didn't sleep at all during the night and slept for twelve hours every day, and I certainly didn't wash or take care of myself. "

Thanks for sharing its a sinking hole it gobbles you up when you least expect it. I hope your feeling better now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not have depression but for ten years have had anxiety which when it rears it ugly head causes low mood. I take 150 mg of Sertraline each morning and it keeps it at bay and i feel normal 99% of the time. Before medication and cbt i was in a very dark place. Panic attacks which made me shake from head to toe. My mind was constantly racing so fast that i could not keep up with my thoughts. Jaw clenching so hard i once broke two teeth. Muscle tension in my neck and shoulders. Constant dread. A feeling of doom. Tension headaches. The list goes on and on. I hated getting out of bed. I was a mess. Luckily i went to my gp with tinitus..another sympton and she realised something was wrong. I just burst into tears. Here was me just a year out the army at 41 years old crying like a baby. She put me on medication and through the british legion i had cbt very quickly. I couple of times i have tried to come off meds but after a while anxiety creeps back in. It seems to find cracks in my mind and then crawls into my thoughts. I have not had anxiety now for around five years. Well not severe anxiety. I do sometimes get mild symptoms but i can see the signs now and it passes. Anybody who thinks they have a mental health problem please please go and get help. It is out there. Do not suffer in silence. Find the right key to the right door and open it. The view is amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup.

The winter of '09-'10. I was still not dealing with the events that lead to me leaving my family home the year before, then my mum's best friend (pretty much a second mum to me) killed herself in Sept 2009 then I was sacked from the job I' d had for three years in October 2009. Leading to me having no money and no motivation to sort out benefits. So I was left skint, pretty much living on a loaf of bread each week and becoming too skinny and unhealthy, apparently my limbs were almost blue when I was met my then girlfriend in May 2010. I hardly left the room in the shared house were I lived and it was in an absolute state, wasn't paying my rent, didn't sleep at all during the night and slept for twelve hours every day, and I certainly didn't wash or take care of myself.

Thanks for sharing its a sinking hole it gobbles you up when you least expect it. I hope your feeling better now. "

Oh yes

Nowadays I have a nice steady job and a nicer home with a great landlord and my rent all up to date. I have my coping mechanisms - like adult colouring which has had the best effects on my anxiety levels.

This summer, however, has lead to me being pretty high functioning where I've just about managed to drag myself out of bed to get into work some mornings which I stupidly kept to myself, it was stress bringing in the old anxiety and depression symptoms. Thankfully one of my managers (who has the added bonus of my having a big old crush on ) gets what I'm going through and mentioned that he was having similar feelings in a work meeting a couple weeks ago and that encouraged me to tell him that I feel the same. He's the best support I have at times and sometimes you need just one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just recently been diagnosed myself with anxiety and depression. I saw my gp because having previously been through this I recognised that me purging was becoming a problem again. I was basically told to grow a pair stop being silly by the gp things happen in life etc.

I have just been made redundant from a job I loved, problems with a bloke, stress of moveing my mother not being well it’s all got too much.

I left the gp feeling worse than when I went in after support from s couple of people on here I made another gp appointment saw a different dr who diagnosed me with bulimia caused by anxiety and stress. I’m in touch with the crisis team and on medication now and I haven’t purged for a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just recently been diagnosed myself with anxiety and depression. I saw my gp because having previously been through this I recognised that me purging was becoming a problem again. I was basically told to grow a pair stop being silly by the gp things happen in life etc.

I have just been made redundant from a job I loved, problems with a bloke, stress of moveing my mother not being well it’s all got too much.

I left the gp feeling worse than when I went in after support from s couple of people on here I made another gp appointment saw a different dr who diagnosed me with bulimia caused by anxiety and stress. I’m in touch with the crisis team and on medication now and I haven’t purged for a week. "

Keep on the meds. The side effects may be dreadful but keep on them. So glad you saw another gp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just recently been diagnosed myself with anxiety and depression. I saw my gp because having previously been through this I recognised that me purging was becoming a problem again. I was basically told to grow a pair stop being silly by the gp things happen in life etc.

I have just been made redundant from a job I loved, problems with a bloke, stress of moveing my mother not being well it’s all got too much.

I left the gp feeling worse than when I went in after support from s couple of people on here I made another gp appointment saw a different dr who diagnosed me with bulimia caused by anxiety and stress. I’m in touch with the crisis team and on medication now and I haven’t purged for a week. "

I remember your thread about the first doctor. Really glad that you're getting somewhere xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going through it at the moment, after having another MS relapse which has affected my walking and confidence in myself, I’m now feeling horribly low and not feeling like meeting. I cry a lot lately and it’s so not me. I’m trying to stay away from antidepressants because they make me feel like a zombie so I’m trying self help. That’s not to say I won’t consider them if I drop any lower.

Glad to read you’re feeling a bit better OP

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Harlow

Since I was 16. Caused all sorts of self destructive behaviour leading me into prison failed businesssss (not sure how many ss). But with great counselling a brilliant gp and some love from family I now live a completely normal, ish life,work, meet people. Take any help your offered. Ask for it and if your gp or whoever isn’t good enough go elsewhere we all deserve a decent life.

Medication too isn’t weeknes some meds are brill it’s getting the right dosages etc.

Don’t hold it in ever.

Good post op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was wondering if people would be willing to share when they have had it. How it effected them day to day the severity etc. I myself have had many really bad times with this demon that decides to try and control my life and my feelings. "

I've got a neurological condition.

I have to manage depression and anxiety.

I can't cure my nurology but I can manage symptoms of depression and anxiety by getting up early and exercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just recently been diagnosed myself with anxiety and depression. I saw my gp because having previously been through this I recognised that me purging was becoming a problem again. I was basically told to grow a pair stop being silly by the gp things happen in life etc.

I have just been made redundant from a job I loved, problems with a bloke, stress of moveing my mother not being well it’s all got too much.

I left the gp feeling worse than when I went in after support from s couple of people on here I made another gp appointment saw a different dr who diagnosed me with bulimia caused by anxiety and stress. I’m in touch with the crisis team and on medication now and I haven’t purged for a week. "

Keep bothering the crisis team.

You need to emphasize you are suicidal.

The more of a cry baby you are the more socialist healthcare gives a shit...

You really need to spell it out for them.

It helps if you cause lots of hysterical drama in the waiting room.

They will see you quicker...

Always take every service they offer and cooperate with everything.

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By *ove3funCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"It seems to find cracks in my mind and then crawls into my thoughts...

Find the right key to the right door and open it. The view is amazing"

Rumrunner, not really sure how to articulate how much these words struck a chord! I'm glad you have found your key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered hypertension and PTSD from past history and work. I went low, upset, harmed myself, slept a lot and would nt do anything. I went I tablets but the best was to force myself to do things and go out. Also the gym helped lots. I'm not a ripped guy but it always makes me feel better.

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