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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? " I think most of us probably do.  | |||
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"Same as any addiction I guess,hug to you." Thanks. I know I’ll bounce back in a couple of days. I guess it is an addiction. Not one that I’m wanting to give up yet though. | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? " Absolutely feeling this today  | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? " Absolutely. I find planning the next time helps so you’re looking forward to something.  | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? " Definitely, Monday morning was awful x | |||
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"I do get that post cum guilt feeling, where I go from "Yes, I'll do anything" to, just want to get my pants on and go." Am glad I am not the only one. This used to happen to me. Not sure if the feeling is guilt mind. Could be but not sure. Maybe I felt guilty that I was in one mood a moment ago and after I got what I wanted my mood drastically changed through no fault of hers? I always did my best to hide those emotions though but I am sure I must have let slip the mask once or twice. | |||
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"I do get that post cum guilt feeling, where I go from "Yes, I'll do anything" to, just want to get my pants on and go." I think this is something different to what I mean. The low isn’t associated with guilt, and it’s usually a day or so after, not immediately after. Which is usually a lovely warm after glow. | |||
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"Think few of us like to acknowledge that our patterns of behaviour on here mirror classic addictive behaviours, with the craving for highs and the subsequent crashing lows. " Some of us binge on sex in the same way some people binge on drugs or food or alcohol or exercise, and after every binge there's a come down. Vicious circle.... | |||
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"Think few of us like to acknowledge that our patterns of behaviour on here mirror classic addictive behaviours, with the craving for highs and the subsequent crashing lows. Some of us binge on sex in the same way some people binge on drugs or food or alcohol or exercise, and after every binge there's a come down. Vicious circle.... " Based on the frequency we meet, it could hardly be called an addiction. 6 times a year would be a lot. But the come down is massive and I hate it. I immediately look for a distraction. | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? " Yes...its a horrible feeling | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? Yes...its a horrible feeling "describe it I've never had that feeling coz I generally get to go back | |||
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"The worst thing is driving away from the one who makes your heart swell "I think we are talking just lust not loveeeeee here | |||
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"The worst thing is driving away from the one who makes your heart swell
I think we are talking just lust not loveeeeee here "Oh fuck that. I have no feelings when I drive away from a dick.  | |||
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"The worst thing is driving away from the one who makes your heart swell
I think we are talking just lust not loveeeeee here
Oh fuck that. I have no feelings when I drive away from a dick. "Ha clinical | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? Yes...its a horrible feeling describe it I've never had that feeling coz I generally get to go back "Not straight away though eh? No matter how many times you get to go back it generally always happens at some point... especially if you have had a very intense meet | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? Yes...its a horrible feeling describe it I've never had that feeling coz I generally get to go back
Not straight away though eh?
No matter how many times you get to go back it generally always happens at some point... especially if you have had a very intense meet "No it really doesn't affect me adversely at all even after intense meets, like I say I always get to go back at some point and if I don't then ce La vie | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? Yes...its a horrible feeling describe it I've never had that feeling coz I generally get to go back
Not straight away though eh?
No matter how many times you get to go back it generally always happens at some point... especially if you have had a very intense meet "Yes, this. It doesn’t happen every time, sometimes it’s just a good time had by all and move on. It’s good to know it’s not just me. I suspected it wasn’t but there is comfort in solidarity. Thanks people x | |||
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"I hate to sound clinical but I find the drop easier to deal with if I use science to rationalise it in my head. It's the adrenaline and dopamine drop I tell myself
Peach x"I get that. It helps explain it. But it doesn’t stop it. | |||
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"I hate to sound clinical but I find the drop easier to deal with if I use science to rationalise it in my head. It's the adrenaline and dopamine drop I tell myself
Peach x
I get that. It helps explain it. But it doesn’t stop it. "No but it helps my brain make that separation between nsa sex and those buggers called emotions, then I can enjoy the come down like a mild hangover (go to bed, eat sweets and sleep!) Peach x | |||
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"I hate to sound clinical but I find the drop easier to deal with if I use science to rationalise it in my head. It's the adrenaline and dopamine drop I tell myself
Peach x
I get that. It helps explain it. But it doesn’t stop it.
No but it helps my brain make that separation between nsa sex and those buggers called emotions, then I can enjoy the come down like a mild hangover (go to bed, eat sweets and sleep!)
Peach x"I agree. It’s like a tax for having a really good experience. Pure NSA sex is fun but for really good sex I need that emotional connection and that leads to the following low. | |||
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"The worst thing is driving away from the one who makes your heart swell "That’s why you get them to come to you, plus you save on petrol money. | |||
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"The worst thing is driving away from the one who makes your heart swell
That’s why you get them to come to you, plus you save on petrol money."Winner, winner chicken dinner  | |||
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"I hate to sound clinical but I find the drop easier to deal with if I use science to rationalise it in my head. It's the adrenaline and dopamine drop I tell myself
Peach x"Serotonin as well, I find this definitely helps. | |||
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"Well yes but it would highly depend on the person, if that person will keep contact with me as much as she used to prior meeting or not. " Funny how ppl put effort before meeting but once it is done... You hear from them now and again...if ever. Youknowwhatimtalkingabout
It's a bit like getting onto an eascalator the ride up is smooth but the jump off the top isnt pleasant.
I do the low before meeting now just makes the whole experience not so much of a car crash | |||
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"Well yes but it would highly depend on the person, if that person will keep contact with me as much as she used to prior meeting or not. Funny how ppl put effort before meeting but once it is done... You hear from them now and again...if ever. Youknowwhatimtalkingabout
It's a bit like getting onto an eascalator the ride up is smooth but the jump off the top isnt pleasant.
I do the low before meeting now just makes the whole experience not so much of a car crash "Sexual commodities  | |||
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"Well yes but it would highly depend on the person, if that person will keep contact with me as much as she used to prior meeting or not. Funny how ppl put effort before meeting but once it is done... You hear from them now and again...if ever. Youknowwhatimtalkingabout
It's a bit like getting onto an eascalator the ride up is smooth but the jump off the top isnt pleasant.
I do the low before meeting now just makes the whole experience not so much of a car crash
Sexual commodities "Look Fb Ive left a verification now please get out of the way....the person above looks far more interesting | |||
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 I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing | |||
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"Does anyone else get this? Feeling low after a high? The higher the high the bigger the drop? " It’s the anticipation, the enjoyment, the butterflies, the excitement and the melting of minds and bodies .... Then the parting and the drive home.... and the down from the high.... very much like a drug. I’m sure the lady in question will feel the same. The anticipation of planning the next one between you begins ... | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing "It happens after good meets - not bad ones though. It's quite logical to me - I want to be in a full-time relationship. | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing "I'm thinking that you're maybe overthinking it. I don't mean that offensively but just because people get a low after a high doesn't meant it isn't working. It's a totally natural reaction that once your body has had an adrenaline rush that the body adjusts back, and part of that is the low once the adrenaline rush is over. Your body does level itself out again. | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing
It happens after good meets - not bad ones though. It's quite logical to me - I want to be in a full-time relationship."Ahhh so it's more of a "damn I wish I could have that for real" rather than "hmm that's left me feeling deflated" | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing
It happens after good meets - not bad ones though. It's quite logical to me - I want to be in a full-time relationship.
Ahhh so it's more of a "damn I wish I could have that for real" rather than "hmm that's left me feeling deflated" "No, it's not verbalised or rationalised, it's a visceral gut reaction to withdrawl of that which I need lol, I am built for connection! | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing
It happens after good meets - not bad ones though. It's quite logical to me - I want to be in a full-time relationship.
Ahhh so it's more of a "damn I wish I could have that for real" rather than "hmm that's left me feeling deflated"
No, it's not verbalised or rationalised, it's a visceral gut reaction to withdrawl of that which I need lol, I am built for connection!"And in fact post-festival blues can be the same for me. | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing "Why be sceptical? I totally get where the op is coming from ( see my responses above). just because you havent experienced it yourself please dont try to rationalise that it comes from a bad place because it doesn't.. its the complete opposite | |||
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"Hmm don't know what to make of this thread I've not had this high followed by a crash experience people are talking about. I've felt empty and somewhat demeaned after meets and that's caused me to progressively refine the way I want to be on here to the way I do it today. I guess I'm a bit sceptical about this thread. I wonder if people are trying to rationalise something that isn't working for them in a positive light rather than reflect on what needs changing
It happens after good meets - not bad ones though. It's quite logical to me - I want to be in a full-time relationship.
Ahhh so it's more of a "damn I wish I could have that for real" rather than "hmm that's left me feeling deflated" "It's more about releasing such a high dose of serotonin and dopamine when you have such an intense high, that your body struggles to replace it afterwards. So you get a sense of melancholy. Sometimes it can feel like you are depressed. Sometimes it can last a short time, sometimes it can take longer. It depends on the person really and how their chemistry works. | |||
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"Same as any addiction I guess,hug to you. Thanks. I know I’ll bounce back in a couple of days. I guess it is an addiction. Not one that I’m wanting to give up yet though. " I get this too, but it's in no way an addiction for me. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again "My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again "I think you have completely missed the point of the thread..which is fair enough as you have not experienced it..so no point trying to analyse why | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
I think you have completely missed the point of the thread..which is fair enough as you have not experienced it..so no point trying to analyse why"I'll quit while I'm behind then  | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
I think you have completely missed the point of the thread..which is fair enough as you have not experienced it..so no point trying to analyse why
I'll quit while I'm behind then "Try experimenting with drugs and notice how you feel as they wear off | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet. "Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it? | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
I think you have completely missed the point of the thread..which is fair enough as you have not experienced it..so no point trying to analyse why
I'll quit while I'm behind then
Try experimenting with drugs and notice how you feel as they wear off "If you're talking about a degree of addiction, I'm simply not an addictive personality. I've tried loads of stuff and had lots of wild experiences. But I can't think of a time where I felt deflated afterwards and in need of the next fix. I've had stunning sexual moments with amazing women too. But never followed by an addictive need to revisit it. I've had come downs and felt physically knackered. But I've always been hyped after and looking forward to the next adventure. I'm a total optimist in that way. Annoyingly chipper | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?"I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing. Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league. "Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league.
Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP."Nope, I totally experience it, especially after going to a swinging club for a night which is ~4 hours of total sensory overload. I'm just saying that the fact I experience it with my wife, gives it an edge that couldn't be achieved as a single. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league.
Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP.
Nope, I totally experience it, especially after going to a swinging club for a night which is ~4 hours of total sensory overload. I'm just saying that the fact I experience it with my wife, gives it an edge that couldn't be achieved as a single. "What’s your wife upto when you’re on here ? | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league.
Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP.
Nope, I totally experience it, especially after going to a swinging club for a night which is ~4 hours of total sensory overload. I'm just saying that the fact I experience it with my wife, gives it an edge that couldn't be achieved as a single.
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league.
Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP.
Nope, I totally experience it, especially after going to a swinging club for a night which is ~4 hours of total sensory overload. I'm just saying that the fact I experience it with my wife, gives it an edge that couldn't be achieved as a single. "It may be a different high, it doesn't mean it's a better one. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing."You misunderstood me. I am not saying its about love or the person, I am saying it is about the desire to be intimately (and hopefully primally) connected, and the withdrawl of such a connection. | |||
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Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
You misunderstood me. I am not saying its about love or the person, I am saying it is about the desire to be intimately (and hopefully primally) connected, and the withdrawl of such a connection.
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"Just to add to the above, I’ve definitely felt a low after a particularly intense meet or full on club night. The most noticeable was after a fantastic club night in Manchester with good friends, lots of play, a fair amount of rum and wine and a long after party. It’s definitely a chemical low after the endorphin rush, totally different from second thoughts, guilt, ambiguous feelings or anything else. More akin to the feeling after a great hike, kayaking in fast water or, I guess, adrenaline sports." Yup, I used to do high risk sports and miss that buzz since i stopped competing. Used to get sooooo high... | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league.
Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP.
Nope, I totally experience it, especially after going to a swinging club for a night which is ~4 hours of total sensory overload. I'm just saying that the fact I experience it with my wife, gives it an edge that couldn't be achieved as a single.
It may be a different high, it doesn't mean it's a better one."Have you tried both? I have. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
You misunderstood me. I am not saying its about love or the person, I am saying it is about the desire to be intimately (and hopefully primally) connected, and the withdrawl of such a connection.
Well that's just a totally different feeling to what I'm talking about. As tigerli!y said, it's more like the feeling from high adrenalin sports. "I don't get a comedown from those. | |||
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"I think my scepticism says more about me than you lot. Although I've had some lovely meets off here over the years, I don't think I've found "it" yet. I can imagine, if it's amazing, feeling a bit sad when it's over. As I wrote in another thread recently, I'd be especially down if we really clicked and she was single too... but didn't want to meet me again
My scepticism is that a single person would experience it via a one-on-one meet.
Why would you be sceptical when you have posters here saying that they have experienced it?
I skipped a whole load of posts because they started talking about love / it being the person / wanting a relationship. Yeah that's not the same thing.
Essentially my sceptism is like someone saying they got high off a beautiful sunset the way someone gets high off DMT. Not in the same league.
Ok. I thought your scepticism was in relation to what was in the OP.
Nope, I totally experience it, especially after going to a swinging club for a night which is ~4 hours of total sensory overload. I'm just saying that the fact I experience it with my wife, gives it an edge that couldn't be achieved as a single.
It may be a different high, it doesn't mean it's a better one.
Have you tried both? I have. "No I haven't, and I can only take your word that you've experienced swingers clubs as a single man. I don't experience the high from a meet as a single, just the low, so it's probable I wouldn't experience that high as a couple either. | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe "I think we're similar in this way. I'm just happy for what I got. I think I'm probably pretty high on the panglossian scale though | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I think we're similar in this way. I'm just happy for what I got. I think I'm probably pretty high on the panglossian scale though "Same as me | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe "I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day. | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day."Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol! | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol! "
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over."I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people. | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
"I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL  I sulked for months So maybe I do understand | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL I sulked for months So maybe I do understand "There you go - that's more what I mean. I'd rarely get it after 'just a meet' even if it was rip- roaring sex. | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL I sulked for months So maybe I do understand "By desert, he means Torquay | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL I sulked for months So maybe I do understand
By desert, he means Torquay" | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL I sulked for months So maybe I do understand
There you go - that's more what I mean. I'd rarely get it after 'just a meet' even if it was rip- roaring sex. "But you get it after long meets and festivals? | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL I sulked for months So maybe I do understand
There you go - that's more what I mean. I'd rarely get it after 'just a meet' even if it was rip- roaring sex.
But you get it after long meets and festivals?"Often yes - it's like a withdrawal lol! | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life "You mean the high doesn't warrant the low? | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?"No...the low doesnt warrant the high. | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this works for me to be honest. I must get back to real life "Why not integrate it with real life? | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high."I don't follow - can you unpack that please? | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high."Wait.... what??? Can you two quit using the word warrant it's sending my brain into a tail spin. But then again... perhaps this reply didn't warrant the message?  | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol!
For me it's just like any low you get after an event you were looking forward to is over.
I guess it depends how you relate to whatever it is - some things you would not want as an abiding thing, they were momentary pleasures and designed as such. I can have fabulous night out dancing but don't get a comedown. Other things like long meets and festivals are more about a different lifestyle and profound connections with people.
I once took a three week break from an office job and went camping in the desert. Bad idea. By the end of my holiday I was tuned into a completely different reality, sleeping under the canopy of the cosmos every night, silently observing the slow subtle breath of nature. It was a profound and beautiful experience. But crash landing back at my desk at my office job was BRUTAL I sulked for months So maybe I do understand
There you go - that's more what I mean. I'd rarely get it after 'just a meet' even if it was rip- roaring sex.
But you get it after long meets and festivals?
Often yes - it's like a withdrawal lol!"Definitely like that. I had an 8 day date once and had a little cry when I went home. We are now really good friends but it was like a holiday romance I didn’t want to end. | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?"
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean "Oh OK, if it's that.... | |||
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I've also found that the drop is worse if you have a meet then get "radio silence" after. I'm not needy but a few "that was awesome" messages after makes the drop more gradual and easier to handle. | |||
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"Always- cuddles, chocolate and a big mug of tea always helps
I've also found that the drop is worse if you have a meet then get "radio silence" after. I'm not needy but a few "that was awesome" messages after makes the drop more gradual and easier to handle. " | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean "I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying? | |||
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"Jeez, I think I just must be weird because I don't get this feeling at all
Now I feel slightly concerned that I'm odd compared to the rest of you
Maybe it's because I am a happy person naturally and I go from one happy moment to the next, and it doesn't have to be "meet" related, so I don't get the "crushing lows" some describe
I don't get crushing lows. I just feel a bit low for a few hours the following day.
Yup, in need of carbs and chocolate and communication lol! "Definitely all of those in abundance | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean
I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying? "I believe she is saying she has had a real loss of hope of ever finding what she seeks on here, so her pre-meet expectations are low. I empathise - I find the process of meeting new people really tedious, I'd make a totally shit swinger! | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean
I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying?
I believe she is saying she has had a real loss of hope of ever finding what she seeks on here, so her pre-meet expectations are low.
I empathise - I find the process of meeting new people really tedious, I'd make a totally shit swinger!"Personally, I think what most people want from this site is dumb. An intelligent person looks at what they've been doing wrong and changes it. For me this process of refinement led me to how I approach Fab today. If I felt I was just meeting people for meaningless sex I'd stop. How boring and tiresome. But I'm not. I'm quite happy to meet people off here for an entirely social purpose... because I like them. No other agenda. If friendship and/or intimacy come from that so be it. But random sex is no longer why I'm here. That's what I meant when I suggested to spider earlier that she try integrating Fab with real life rather than leave... just start being vanilla on it. I'd far rather have genuine romantic adventures than contrived sexual adventures... and that for me is why I was initially sceptical of this thread. I just think sexual adventures are inherently unfulfilling. They puff us up like a big Belgian cream bun, only to deflate into a squelchy puddle the next day. Romantic adventures are so much more enchanting and life affirming. And when they finally end they leave us in a wonderful state of rich desolation. Messy. But everything worth doing always is
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean
I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying?
I believe she is saying she has had a real loss of hope of ever finding what she seeks on here, so her pre-meet expectations are low.
I empathise - I find the process of meeting new people really tedious, I'd make a totally shit swinger!
Personally, I think what most people want from this site is dumb. An intelligent person looks at what they've been doing wrong and changes it. For me this process of refinement led me to how I approach Fab today.
If I felt I was just meeting people for meaningless sex I'd stop. How boring and tiresome. But I'm not. I'm quite happy to meet people off here for an entirely social purpose... because I like them. No other agenda. If friendship and/or intimacy come from that so be it. But random sex is no longer why I'm here. That's what I meant when I suggested to spider earlier that she try integrating Fab with real life rather than leave... just start being vanilla on it.
I'd far rather have genuine romantic adventures than contrived sexual adventures... and that for me is why I was initially sceptical of this thread. I just think sexual adventures are inherently unfulfilling. They puff us up like a big Belgian cream bun, only to deflate into a squelchy puddle the next day. Romantic adventures are so much more enchanting and life affirming. And when they finally end they leave us in a wonderful state of rich desolation. Messy. But everything worth doing always is
Much better than a life of myeh "You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean
I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying?
I believe she is saying she has had a real loss of hope of ever finding what she seeks on here, so her pre-meet expectations are low.
I empathise - I find the process of meeting new people really tedious, I'd make a totally shit swinger!
Personally, I think what most people want from this site is dumb. An intelligent person looks at what they've been doing wrong and changes it. For me this process of refinement led me to how I approach Fab today.
If I felt I was just meeting people for meaningless sex I'd stop. How boring and tiresome. But I'm not. I'm quite happy to meet people off here for an entirely social purpose... because I like them. No other agenda. If friendship and/or intimacy come from that so be it. But random sex is no longer why I'm here. That's what I meant when I suggested to spider earlier that she try integrating Fab with real life rather than leave... just start being vanilla on it.
I'd far rather have genuine romantic adventures than contrived sexual adventures... and that for me is why I was initially sceptical of this thread. I just think sexual adventures are inherently unfulfilling. They puff us up like a big Belgian cream bun, only to deflate into a squelchy puddle the next day. Romantic adventures are so much more enchanting and life affirming. And when they finally end they leave us in a wonderful state of rich desolation. Messy. But everything worth doing always is
Much better than a life of myeh
You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy.
For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is!"What makes it impossible? I guess the dating market for people over 40 favours men over women. But that's just pay back for reverse being true for under 30's. | |||
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean
I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying?
I believe she is saying she has had a real loss of hope of ever finding what she seeks on here, so her pre-meet expectations are low.
I empathise - I find the process of meeting new people really tedious, I'd make a totally shit swinger!
Personally, I think what most people want from this site is dumb. An intelligent person looks at what they've been doing wrong and changes it. For me this process of refinement led me to how I approach Fab today.
If I felt I was just meeting people for meaningless sex I'd stop. How boring and tiresome. But I'm not. I'm quite happy to meet people off here for an entirely social purpose... because I like them. No other agenda. If friendship and/or intimacy come from that so be it. But random sex is no longer why I'm here. That's what I meant when I suggested to spider earlier that she try integrating Fab with real life rather than leave... just start being vanilla on it.
I'd far rather have genuine romantic adventures than contrived sexual adventures... and that for me is why I was initially sceptical of this thread. I just think sexual adventures are inherently unfulfilling. They puff us up like a big Belgian cream bun, only to deflate into a squelchy puddle the next day. Romantic adventures are so much more enchanting and life affirming. And when they finally end they leave us in a wonderful state of rich desolation. Messy. But everything worth doing always is
Much better than a life of myeh
You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy.
For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is!
What makes it impossible? I guess the dating market for people over 40 favours men over women.
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"The low doesnt warrant the high so Im not joking when I say I now hit the low before meeting...weird but true. Don't think this words for me to be honest. I must get back to real life
You mean the high doesn't warrant the low?
No...the low doesnt warrant the high.
I don't follow - can you unpack that please?
You know what I mean
I really don’t know what you mean. How do you hit the low before the meeting? You make it sound like a choice, to get it out of the way early. Or have I misunderstood what you’re saying?
I believe she is saying she has had a real loss of hope of ever finding what she seeks on here, so her pre-meet expectations are low.
I empathise - I find the process of meeting new people really tedious, I'd make a totally shit swinger!
Personally, I think what most people want from this site is dumb. An intelligent person looks at what they've been doing wrong and changes it. For me this process of refinement led me to how I approach Fab today.
If I felt I was just meeting people for meaningless sex I'd stop. How boring and tiresome. But I'm not. I'm quite happy to meet people off here for an entirely social purpose... because I like them. No other agenda. If friendship and/or intimacy come from that so be it. But random sex is no longer why I'm here. That's what I meant when I suggested to spider earlier that she try integrating Fab with real life rather than leave... just start being vanilla on it.
I'd far rather have genuine romantic adventures than contrived sexual adventures... and that for me is why I was initially sceptical of this thread. I just think sexual adventures are inherently unfulfilling. They puff us up like a big Belgian cream bun, only to deflate into a squelchy puddle the next day. Romantic adventures are so much more enchanting and life affirming. And when they finally end they leave us in a wonderful state of rich desolation. Messy. But everything worth doing always is
Much better than a life of myeh
You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy.
For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is!
What makes it impossible? I guess the dating market for people over 40 favours men over women.
That's enough. The pool of attractive, engaging over 50's single men who actually want a relationship is very, very small and they all want attractive, engaging under 50's women anyway!
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"I know some women will read into my previous post that I'm only looking for love and thus, as they're not for whatever reason, we're not a good match. Not so. I'm just more continental in how I see sexual involvement with other women. I want intoxicating affairs. I want the whole James Bond thing. A seductive adventure with a beautiful female soul that leads to genuine passionate sex. I just think Fab is back to front. You should lead with the personality, not the body pics. You should arrange to meet as people, not sex addicts. And see where the adventure leads... somewhere authentic. Maybe with strings. Maybe more hippy and free flowing. Maybe with giggles. Maybe more intense and passionate. But it just wells out of somewhere naturally and soulfully... a memorable and life affirming connection at a moment in time between two sexy souls. And if this never happens via Fab then so be it. There's no point lowering the bar because anything less ain't worth doing "I imagine most women/men who are looking for what you describe are on other sites where their chances of finding it are higher. | |||
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I imagine most women/men who are looking for what you describe are on other sites where their chances of finding it are higher."I’ve had more romantic dates from here than any dating site. It’s bizarre and great at the same time. | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining. | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?"Yup. I have a friend I met on a dating site - we got on like a house on fire, our coffee date turned into lunch, then dinner, and we stayed yakking til closing time. But I just didn't fancy him no matter how much he tried to persuade me, so we became friends instead. It never took him more than a few weeks to find someone really nice to have a relationship with over the following few years, and he just cannot believe I have found no-one who fits the bill in that time, he gets really cross with me for 'wasting my time' on here!! I recently had a conversation with a dating site professional at a social gathering. Her only advise to ladies of a certain age was to lower their expectations. How sad is that. Settle. Well fuck that!! | |||
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"I know some women will read into my previous post that I'm only looking for love and thus, as they're not for whatever reason, we're not a good match. Not so. I'm just more continental in how I see sexual involvement with other women. I want intoxicating affairs. I want the whole James Bond thing. A seductive adventure with a beautiful female soul that leads to genuine passionate sex. I just think Fab is back to front. You should lead with the personality, not the body pics. You should arrange to meet as people, not sex addicts. And see where the adventure leads... somewhere authentic. Maybe with strings. Maybe more hippy and free flowing. Maybe with giggles. Maybe more intense and passionate. But it just wells out of somewhere naturally and soulfully... a memorable and life affirming connection at a moment in time between two sexy souls. And if this never happens via Fab then so be it. There's no point lowering the bar because anything less ain't worth doing
I imagine most women/men who are looking for what you describe are on other sites where their chances of finding it are higher.
I’ve had more romantic dates from here than any dating site. It’s bizarre and great at the same time. "Oh absolutely, I'm sure it can happen with the right pics, profile blurb and a few other factors. | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining. "Give it 10 years lol! | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
Yup. I have a friend I met on a dating site - we got on like a house on fire, our coffee date turned into lunch, then dinner, and we stayed yakking til closing time. But I just didn't fancy him no matter how much he tried to persuade me, so we became friends instead. It never took him more than a few weeks to find someone really nice to have a relationship with over the following few years, and he just cannot believe I have found no-one who fits the bill in that time, he gets really cross with me for 'wasting my time' on here!!
I recently had a conversation with a dating site professional at a social gathering. Her only advise to ladies of a certain age was to lower their expectations. How sad is that. Settle. Well fuck that!!" | |||
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I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining. "Oh and you want to swing - I'm sure that makes a huge difference, I want monogamy. | |||
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I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it. | |||
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"I know some women will read into my previous post that I'm only looking for love and thus, as they're not for whatever reason, we're not a good match. Not so. I'm just more continental in how I see sexual involvement with other women. I want intoxicating affairs. I want the whole James Bond thing. A seductive adventure with a beautiful female soul that leads to genuine passionate sex. I just think Fab is back to front. You should lead with the personality, not the body pics. You should arrange to meet as people, not sex addicts. And see where the adventure leads... somewhere authentic. Maybe with strings. Maybe more hippy and free flowing. Maybe with giggles. Maybe more intense and passionate. But it just wells out of somewhere naturally and soulfully... a memorable and life affirming connection at a moment in time between two sexy souls. And if this never happens via Fab then so be it. There's no point lowering the bar because anything less ain't worth doing
I imagine most women/men who are looking for what you describe are on other sites where their chances of finding it are higher.
I’ve had more romantic dates from here than any dating site. It’s bizarre and great at the same time.
Oh absolutely, I'm sure it can happen with the right pics, profile blurb and a few other factors."My date on Sunday is starting with a big cream pie at a good market...then possibly a boat trip. Will see where the rest of the day goes. I keep getting a guy on here wanting to take me to an art gallery or museum. I love art so could be a good ice breaker. I always have great sex after doing fun stuff. | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
Oh and you want to swing - I'm sure that makes a huge difference, I want monogamy."It’s so hard to find a single guy that would want to do it with someone they care about. That’s what I’m struggling with. | |||
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"I know some women will read into my previous post that I'm only looking for love and thus, as they're not for whatever reason, we're not a good match. Not so. I'm just more continental in how I see sexual involvement with other women. I want intoxicating affairs. I want the whole James Bond thing. A seductive adventure with a beautiful female soul that leads to genuine passionate sex. I just think Fab is back to front. You should lead with the personality, not the body pics. You should arrange to meet as people, not sex addicts. And see where the adventure leads... somewhere authentic. Maybe with strings. Maybe more hippy and free flowing. Maybe with giggles. Maybe more intense and passionate. But it just wells out of somewhere naturally and soulfully... a memorable and life affirming connection at a moment in time between two sexy souls. And if this never happens via Fab then so be it. There's no point lowering the bar because anything less ain't worth doing
I imagine most women/men who are looking for what you describe are on other sites where their chances of finding it are higher.
I’ve had more romantic dates from here than any dating site. It’s bizarre and great at the same time.
Oh absolutely, I'm sure it can happen with the right pics, profile blurb and a few other factors.
My date on Sunday is starting with a big cream pie at a good market...then possibly a boat trip. Will see where the rest of the day goes. I keep getting a guy on here wanting to take me to an art gallery or museum. I love art so could be a good ice breaker. I always have great sex after doing fun stuff. "Yes, I've certainly had more social invitations from here than any dating site - had lots of fabulous weekends and gigs, meals, festivals, outings.....just not monogamous relationships lol! | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
Yup. I have a friend I met on a dating site - we got on like a house on fire, our coffee date turned into lunch, then dinner, and we stayed yakking til closing time. But I just didn't fancy him no matter how much he tried to persuade me, so we became friends instead. It never took him more than a few weeks to find someone really nice to have a relationship with over the following few years, and he just cannot believe I have found no-one who fits the bill in that time, he gets really cross with me for 'wasting my time' on here!!
I recently had a conversation with a dating site professional at a social gathering. Her only advise to ladies of a certain age was to lower their expectations. How sad is that. Settle. Well fuck that!!"Double fuck that! Never settle | |||
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"I know some women will read into my previous post that I'm only looking for love and thus, as they're not for whatever reason, we're not a good match. Not so. I'm just more continental in how I see sexual involvement with other women. I want intoxicating affairs. I want the whole James Bond thing. A seductive adventure with a beautiful female soul that leads to genuine passionate sex. I just think Fab is back to front. You should lead with the personality, not the body pics. You should arrange to meet as people, not sex addicts. And see where the adventure leads... somewhere authentic. Maybe with strings. Maybe more hippy and free flowing. Maybe with giggles. Maybe more intense and passionate. But it just wells out of somewhere naturally and soulfully... a memorable and life affirming connection at a moment in time between two sexy souls. And if this never happens via Fab then so be it. There's no point lowering the bar because anything less ain't worth doing
I imagine most women/men who are looking for what you describe are on other sites where their chances of finding it are higher.
I’ve had more romantic dates from here than any dating site. It’s bizarre and great at the same time.
Oh absolutely, I'm sure it can happen with the right pics, profile blurb and a few other factors.
My date on Sunday is starting with a big cream pie at a good market...then possibly a boat trip. Will see where the rest of the day goes. I keep getting a guy on here wanting to take me to an art gallery or museum. I love art so could be a good ice breaker. I always have great sex after doing fun stuff.
Yes, I've certainly had more social invitations from here than any dating site - had lots of fabulous weekends and gigs, meals, festivals, outings.....just not monogamous relationships lol!"Sounds like me but I meet the monogamous ones or ones that want children. | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
Oh and you want to swing - I'm sure that makes a huge difference, I want monogamy.
It’s so hard to find a single guy that would want to do it with someone they care about. That’s what I’m struggling with. "Shame - I found that and didn't want it lol! | |||
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I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
Oh and you want to swing - I'm sure that makes a huge difference, I want monogamy.
It’s so hard to find a single guy that would want to do it with someone they care about. That’s what I’m struggling with.
Shame - I found that and didn't want it lol! "We live near each other, we need to swap partners  | |||
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
Oh and you want to swing - I'm sure that makes a huge difference, I want monogamy.
It’s so hard to find a single guy that would want to do it with someone they care about. That’s what I’m struggling with.
Shame - I found that and didn't want it lol!
We live near each other, we need to swap partners "We do, I might have to change my postcode lol, trouble is I am so sick of driving into London to dance I'm hoping to find someone out in the sticks, but they're thinner on the ground. | |||
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I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it. "I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know | |||
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"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it.
I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know "The main issue is the pics. Women should create profiles on Fab that look no different from a dating app. No sexy pics. No interests. Hidden veris. And a totally vanilla write up about them and their hobbies. They'll still be messaged by guys wanting sex *because the context is a sex site*. But they'll have a far higher ratio of guys who assume they need to be friendly first before getting in their knickers | |||
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"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it.
I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know
The main issue is the pics. Women should create profiles on Fab that look no different from a dating app. No sexy pics. No interests. Hidden veris. And a totally vanilla write up about them and their hobbies. They'll still be messaged by guys wanting sex *because the context is a sex site*. But they'll have a far higher ratio of guys who assume they need to be friendly first before getting in their knickers "I get what you're saying, but poochie has some sexy pics up and it still works for her. I'd say the profile blurb is more important and maybe having a mix of vanilla and sexy pics. | |||
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"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it.
I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know
The main issue is the pics. Women should create profiles on Fab that look no different from a dating app. No sexy pics. No interests. Hidden veris. And a totally vanilla write up about them and their hobbies. They'll still be messaged by guys wanting sex *because the context is a sex site*. But they'll have a far higher ratio of guys who assume they need to be friendly first before getting in their knickers "Golden vagina. | |||
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"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it.
I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know
The main issue is the pics. Women should create profiles on Fab that look no different from a dating app. No sexy pics. No interests. Hidden veris. And a totally vanilla write up about them and their hobbies. They'll still be messaged by guys wanting sex *because the context is a sex site*. But they'll have a far higher ratio of guys who assume they need to be friendly first before getting in their knickers
I get what you're saying, but poochie has some sexy pics up and it still works for her.
I'd say the profile blurb is more important and maybe having a mix of vanilla and sexy pics."I know women on here that have no pics on their profile very little text and still get messages from guys wanting sex. | |||
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"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it.
I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know
The main issue is the pics. Women should create profiles on Fab that look no different from a dating app. No sexy pics. No interests. Hidden veris. And a totally vanilla write up about them and their hobbies. They'll still be messaged by guys wanting sex *because the context is a sex site*. But they'll have a far higher ratio of guys who assume they need to be friendly first before getting in their knickers "Aww but we come here to get our bums out | |||
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"I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
I'd say most women severely undermine their chances of meeting the kind of guys they're looking for by the way they present themselves on their profiles. We all laugh at how crap some men's profiles are. But women have the opposite problem and there appears to be very little awareness of it nor advice to rectify it.
I'll change my profile text when I'm looking for something more meaningful. I'll test out your theory and let you know
The main issue is the pics. Women should create profiles on Fab that look no different from a dating app. No sexy pics. No interests. Hidden veris. And a totally vanilla write up about them and their hobbies. They'll still be messaged by guys wanting sex *because the context is a sex site*. But they'll have a far higher ratio of guys who assume they need to be friendly first before getting in their knickers
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"You forget, you are male. Finding women you like enough for romantic adventures and who want the same thing is easy. For discerning women over a certain age it is almost impossible. That is the depressing thing, even when you are fit as fuck like Spidey is! I don't really get this Frisky I get it that most women think my way and most men don't. So, in that, I've got a much wider selection of potential romantic adventurers. Is that what you meant?
I have no problem finding the romantic adventurers, they seem to seek me out on here. Maybe because of my profile. Not complaining.
Oh and you want to swing - I'm sure that makes a huge difference, I want monogamy.
It’s so hard to find a single guy that would want to do it with someone they care about. That’s what I’m struggling with. "Some great advise on this thread thankyou. It's diffinantly made me think twice about my profile and what it is I really what from this site. I need to stay true to myself and dont let other people convince me that a situation will work. I know what I want and what I dont however for some reason I go off the scale. Then wonder why I feel like I do. So after my cycling event next week Im going to be the Black widow spider hah.
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